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  1. Comment on I once worked for a battered women's organization - I today discovered Suzanne Vega's song Luka in ~music

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    Luka / Suzanne Vega: My name is Luka I live on the second floor I live upstairs from you Yes I think you've seen me before If you hear something late at night Some kind of trouble, some kind of...

    Luka / Suzanne Vega:

    My name is Luka
    I live on the second floor
    I live upstairs from you
    Yes I think you've seen me before

    If you hear something late at night
    Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
    Just don't ask me what it was
    Just don't ask me what it was
    Just don't ask me what it was

    I think it's because I'm clumsy
    I try not to talk too loud
    Maybe it's because I'm crazy
    I try not to act too proud

    They only hit until you cry
    And after that you don't ask why
    You just don't argue anymore
    You just don't argue anymore
    You just don't argue anymore

    Yes I think I'm okay
    I walked into the door again
    If you ask that's what I'll say
    And it's not your business anyway

    I guess I'd like to be alone
    With nothing broken, nothing thrown
    Just don't ask me how I am
    Just don't ask me how I am
    Just don't ask me how I am

    My name is Luka
    I live on the second floor
    I live upstairs from you
    Yes I think you've seen me before

    If you hear something late at night
    Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
    Just don't ask me what it was
    Just don't ask me what it was
    Just don't ask me what it was

    They only hit until you cry
    And after that you don't ask why
    You just don't argue anymore
    You just don't argue anymore
    You just don't argue anymore

    Source: Musixmatch

    Songwriters: Suzanne Vega
    Luka lyrics © Wb Music Corp., Waifersongs Ltd.

    5 votes

  2. Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk

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    Honestly, the medications aren't even the biggest impact in my opinion. Being able to start decompressing from decades of what I thought were personal, moral, failings of character.. It's been a...

    Honestly, the medications aren't even the biggest impact in my opinion. Being able to start decompressing from decades of what I thought were personal, moral, failings of character.. It's been a complicated realization that having a dopamine regulation disorder / executive function neuro-divergence / ADHD / (put whatever label you care for on it) is something the doctor could actually measure, and that it wasn't just a made-up diagnosis for fidgety kids who weren't disciplines properly.

    I recommend it. I realized, when my son was being evaluated, that I recognized every single thing the doc was describing with acute memories from my childhood. There is so much more available now than when I was a kid. Not just the interventions, and medications (stimulants are one of a variety of pharmaceutical treatments out there), there is an entire body of literature and research that is now accessible. When I was a kid, Dr. Spock and whatever the latest reader's digest said was about as far as ADHD literacy went, unless you personally knew a researcher. I don't blame my parents either, their parents told them it was made-up and just a way to get kids on ritalin to zone them out and that those drugs change kid's personalities.

    • A.) That's entirely incorrect (thanks Kimmy Schmidt and the very subtle "Dyziplen" Rx for perpetuating the characterization btw). For those who haven't used them, ADHD use of time-release stimulants aren't at all like the Silicon Valley depiction of: study all night, super focus machine, can't sleep! must work! that adderall is portrayed as. Rather, its a moderate increase in the ability summon the will to actually sit down, and begin a task (that otherwise seem absolutely impossible to start, whether that's sitting down and doing math homework, or cleaning up all the clean clothes that accumulated without being folded out of the dryer). That's it. Just a slightly less intimidating mountain of aversion to beginning tasks that others seem supernaturally gifted to do without deliberate, concerted, often-heroic, levels of will power. Things like, putting their keys on the key holder when they walk in the door. Or other equally impossible tasks, like taking the car in for an oil change on schedule, or filing taxes every single year.

    • B.) They absolutely do not change kid's personalities. In fact, what many people are seeing is my kid's actual personality. They're just not used to him being able to stop bouncing from the constant overflow of new impulses that sound like a turbocharged chipmunk saying in one breath: "hey did you know that my shirt is r..; wait, I saw on the way home a red lea..; Apples! apples are red too! Can I have apple sauce right now! I'm so hungry! I didn't eat at recess" (because he's too busy playing)

    Without the satiation of a typical dopamine response to stimuli, his brain never calms down from the hyper-activated state of searching for the next thing. He can't concentrate on math homework right now, he's found a new bey blade dad! (never mind that its the bey blade he forgot he left under the table last week). Concerta (and stimulants in general) don't give him more neuro-pathways to increase the dopamine release to normal levels, but they do assist in the existing ones working enough to compensate. When he's taken concerta though, he's able to actually get out his thoughts without spinning into high gear on a residential road.

    My biggest take away is how much more ADHD kids hear the word "no" than others. We work so hard to compensate by constantly repeating and reinforcing he's a good kid. With so much less impulse control, there's no avoiding all the corrections he'll hear in a day. Knowing why now, my wife and I have a lot more tools to help avoid the baggage I picked up thinking I was just a trouble maker, or stupid, or just weird because why couldn't I just be normal?

    Sorry this is so long. I am only a year in, and still unpacking a lot. If you're on the fence though, please give it a shot. Getting evaluated myself was one of the most pivotal moments I've had in beginning to address what I thought was just chronic depression.

    11 votes

  3. Comment on People with visible abs, when did you reach it? in ~health

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    100 percent correct! Your comment should be pinned for anyone frustrated about why they workout so much and can't seem to trim down! It isn't easy to package as a new program, or supplement, or...

    100 percent correct! Your comment should be pinned for anyone frustrated about why they workout so much and can't seem to trim down!

    It isn't easy to package as a new program, or supplement, or revolutionary new whatever... At the end of the day calories are much much easier to abstain from consuming, than metabolize into fuel (with notable exceptions for small population of endocrine system regulation disorders, who typically benefit, even more, from strict calorie awareness and monitoring).

    OP is probably already aware, but unlike the very common misconception on the subject, there is no feasible way to do enough flutter kicks, v-ups, or mason twists to develop visible abs. Iggy-pop (aging myself here) is in his 70s, and has had an eight-pack since the '70s, despite never hitting the gym (mainly because cigarettes appear to have been his primary source of sustenance). He'd be about 6-12% body fat on the chart here (depending on the year of the picture) https://athleanx.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Images-Photos-of-Different-Body-Fat-Percentages.jpg

    One hour of running burns roughly 500-600 calories at a moderate pace, the elliptical—about half that. It takes about a 500-700 calorie deficit everyday for a week to burn the amount of calories represented by a pound of body fat. To get to Iggy-pop levels of shreddedness, you either need to do a bunch of stimulants, to replicate a constant state of exercise, or (if you care about having teeth that is) simply consume fewer calories. It's that simple. There's no getting around the laws of conservation of mass and thermodynamics.

    To see abs on the guy with 25-30% body fat in the previous chart, he would need to maintain a caloric deficit of 500-700 calories every day for about six months. (Very broad strokes here, assuming he's a 6' male in his 30s, weighs ~220lbs to start, exercises moderately, trying to lose a pound a week (realistic goal), and end up around 190 lbs).

    Some other notes:

    • On balance, sugar from soda probably plays a controlling role in fat gain—among other negative health outcomes. (controversy still exists about whether that's due to fructose intrinsically inducing liver fat accumulation as an endocrinology phenomenon, or whether it's just a very tasty source of dense carbohydrate energy) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32644139/ doi: 10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2020.9993 (meta-analysis from 2020, highly cited)

    • Although this was all about getting visible abs, nobody should think looking like Iggy-pop is something I would advocate for. Holistic strength training, while maintaining a healthy weight, is way more important than an arbitrary body fat percentage. 15-17% is fantastic if you're functioning training and mobile. Sub 10% is a fine goal, but it's a personal appearance one, not a health one. It's fine to want to look good naked, but most people suffer from mobility, strength, and balance troubles as they age. Not lack of photoshoot ready abs.

    • If you want to make a plan, there are so many calories calculators out there. This one is fine: www.omnicalculator.com/health/calorie-deficit

    3 votes

  4. Comment on US President Joe Biden signs historic order moving prosecution of US military sexual assault outside chain of command in ~news

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    This is a thoughtful and well supported post and I appreciate the receipts you brought to the discussion as well. That said, this depiction of military handling of sexual harassment/assault, or...
    • Exemplary

    This is a thoughtful and well supported post and I appreciate the receipts you brought to the discussion as well. That said, this depiction of military handling of sexual harassment/assault, or the UCMJ in general, does not match with my (admittedly) individual—read anecdotal—experience with the matter. Without divulging too much private information, I have been on both sides of this issue over the last decade plus in a very very personal way. While I 100 percent acknowledge the existence—and abhorrent nature—of sexual harassment/assault (SHARP/etc), I have yet to witness a command team that hasn't given full seriousness and attention to any reported misconduct across a broad range of theaters and unit types. That is absolutely not to be interpreted as a statement denying the existence of miscarried justice and abuse within chains of command being suppressed. This absolutely does, and has throughout military history, occurred in disgusting frequencies. What I would like to highlight, is that this is not an accurate characterization of military culture and those who feel that the military has such a permissive attitude towards the issue is mistaken or (for the more cynical) possibly pushing a narrative.

    For those who haven't been exposed to military culture, or haven't spent time around military command structures higher than the Company level, every commander (literally every one) gets a very detailed and serious orientation on career altering events. To a command team, each (non-interim) commander receives a dedicated training regimen on proper management SHARP issues and continuing education every year (although no one will argue these refreshers are more than a CYA exercise). The gravity of mishandling a SHARP complaint is 100% clear as a cultural norm within the military. The top fears of the average commander in the military are death of a service member under their command, SHARP incidents, and loss of accountability over property (at the company level, ask anyone what losing a set of night vision optics feels like). These issues derail careers and are maters of serious concern across the vast majority of the force.

    The issue is our military is made up of an enormously diverse cross section of the U.S. population (more than any other organization I have encountered) and you CAN NOT re-socialize individuals who have already ingrained their values and beliefs (past high-school) in a meaningful way through 18 weeks of basic training and yearly SHARP briefs. Like any large organization, SHARP issues are a fact life because the body the military is composed of, is made up of people. Anyone who has worked in hospitality, retail, construction, or healthcare will vouch for similarly depressing rates of harassment/abuse (at statistically higher rates that reported military SHARP as well - See RAND's numbers for comparison).

    What makes this a fantastic policy development isn't that it is finally addressing a culture of systemic abuse, but rather that it formalizes treating the issue with the seriousness it deserves.

    The military has a problem with SHARP, but every large organization does. What this should be looked at as, is a model for every organization that employs large numbers of personnel. I can say that as a commander, there is a huge sigh of relief (across the board) that now there's a dedicated team to manage the issue that doesn't rely on a bunch of well-meaning, but inexperienced, professionals to carry the matter through. Even the best commander has bad apples in the force, and now they can offload some of the most difficult UCMJ concerns to a dedicated team. This is an absolute win for victims and command teams alike, but don't mistake it as a cure all.

    The military already prosecutes more SHARP violations than the civilian world because they don't have the same aversion to bringing cases that aren't winnable—like civilian DAs. These aren't easy cases for a multitude of reasons, but no one should think that this will fundamentally change how many perpetrators are brought to justice. It's certainly a positive step, but we have a long way to go as a society before rates come down. The policy does set the conditions for a more uniform general expectation for the results of misconduct within the force. Like I stated up earlier, you can't typically re-socialize people, but you can set expectations for behavior and that will help police misconduct even in poor commands that aren't representative of the norm. SHARP issues need much more than UCMJ authority tweaks to fundamentally change conduct though. If we want to get serious about reducing the number of assaults in the military, we have to do something about alcohol use. There aren't a bunch of rapists running around the military (there are a statistically average #), but there are an awful lot of functioning alcoholics who make unwanted advances at a barracks party or say something awful to an S1 OIC at a O-call when inhibitions are down.

    6 votes

  5. Comment on What we know about the Washington State man arrested near Barack Obama’s home with hundreds of rounds of ammo in ~misc

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    Interesting intersection, it's demonstrably evident that society is in fact very persuadable by political signalling. There's pretty compelling evidence that court rulings that strengthen minority...

    Interesting intersection, it's demonstrably evident that society is in fact very persuadable by political signalling. There's pretty compelling evidence that court rulings that strengthen minority protections produce measurable enfranchisement, and conversely that rulings that strip discrimination protections, do in fact produce increased discrimination shocking I know.

    These signals do create the permission umbrella needed for radicalized actors to move forward with crazy behavior they otherwise wouldn't. Trump knows that. I don't know how you charge it, but some DA has got to go after twitter like the school shooting victims have gone after Remington. Trump's a known quantity. Twitter, and it's advertiser base, need to act on public nuisance doxing like 18th century piracy. Immediately account freeze, and de-platforming after due diligence review. It's terrorism.

    2 votes

  6. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~games

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    My kids would be devastated. I get there's an incentive for Nintendo, on the margins, to not assist in reuniting owners so they but a new one. I can't think that's a significant revenue source...

    My kids would be devastated. I get there's an incentive for Nintendo, on the margins, to not assist in reuniting owners so they but a new one. I can't think that's a significant revenue source though compared with the loyalty being good guys about lost property would cultivate. People (especially kids) form sentimental attachments to the objects they invest hours upon hours in. There should be an easy solution from corporate on these. Literally 5min from a support rep to match emails and S/Ns...

    Good luck OP! Maybe call Nintendo back and try to get ahold of a more indulgent service rep? Not sure how much time you've got to run down the case of the missing switch though.

    3 votes

  7. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~games

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    Shamelessly copying from the switch subreddit for those not interested in sending traffic that way: Try to find the owner Check under the kickstand and inside the carrying case (if applicable) for...

    Shamelessly copying from the switch subreddit for those not interested in sending traffic that way:

    Try to find the owner
    Check under the kickstand and inside the carrying case (if applicable) for contact information.
    Contact Nintendo. If you provide them with the serial number, they can most likely look up the owner based on his Nintendo Account and either contact or email them on your behalf.
    Check to see if they have linked Facebook or Twitter to their account. You can make a post on their feed saying you found it.
    Look at /r/FindYourSwitch and /r/FindMySwitch to see if the owner has made a post. If not, make a post and provide as much information as possible such as when you found it, where you found it, what color the Joy-Cons are, if it was in a carrying case what did it look like, did it have any accessories with it, etc.

    If you think you've found the owner, verify them
    What are the names of the profile(s) on the Switch?
    What is their email address? (A partial email address is shown in the eShop if they are logged in.)
    What city and state do they live in? (This can be found in the eShop if they are logged in.)
    What is their current eShop balance (if applicable)?
    What games do they have?
    What cartridge is currently in the system?

    If it's been months and you haven't had any luck
    Consider donating it to a Children's Hospital

    What to do if you've lost your Switch
    Notify Nintendo and let them know the situation.
    1-800-255-3700 (US)
    +44 (0)345 60 50 247 (Europe)
    +61 3 9730 9900 (Australia)
    +81-75-662-9600 (Japan)
    +30-210-685-4220 - CD Media S.E. (Official distributor for Greece, Cyprus, and the Balkans)
    Be ready to provide your email address, Nintendo Account information, and serial number (if you have it).

    Remove your eShop payment information

    You can do this by visiting https://accounts.nintendo.com, then selecting the "Shop menu" on the left.

    Contact the police
    Contact any relevant police departments via their non-emergency number and report the lost property.
    Be prepared to provide the police with information such as when you lost it, where you lost it, the serial number (if you know it), what color the Joy-Cons are, if it was in a carrying case what did it look like, did it have any accessories with it, etc.

    Start looking
    Check the lost and found at any of the places you may have visited recently. Go in person to check if you can instead of just calling. Airlines and airports usually both run separate lost and founds; check both if applicable!
    Visit /r/FindYourSwitch and /r/FindMySwitch to see if someone has found it and made a post. If not, make a post and provide as much information as possible such as when you lost it, where you lost it, what color the Joy-Cons are, if it was in a carrying case what did it look like, did it have any accessories with it, etc.
    Check local trade-in stores such as GameStop and even pawn shops.

    If unsuccessful
    Change the password on your Nintendo Account and any social media accounts such as Facebook or Twitter if you linked them.
    Specifically for Twitter, you have to go into your account settings and revoke access from the Switch.
    If you replace your Switch, any eShop purchases can be re-downloaded for free. Your game saves, however, will be gone. Be sure to take advantage of Nintendo Switch Online's Save Data Backup feature for games that support it.

    Common Questions -- including that there is no "find my Switch" feature
    The Switch sadly does not have a "find my Switch" feature. It wouldn't be very useful since the Switch does not have GPS built-in. But you can't make your Switch ring or make noise remotely.
    You also can't remove your account from the Switch remotely. You can change the password, which keeps someone from being able to use the eShop. When you get a new Switch, you can make the new Switch the primary without having access to the old Switch.

    8 votes

  8. Comment on Which newspapers/magazines do you read and why? in ~news

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    It's a staple, but if you're new to the publication it's with noting that they aren't unbiased per say. More that they publish the most qualified leaders making their arguments across the spectrum...

    It's a staple, but if you're new to the publication it's with noting that they aren't unbiased per say. More that they publish the most qualified leaders making their arguments across the spectrum of serious thinkers. Kissinger, Fukuyama, and Wendt are all featured alongside the famous "X Memo" when George Kennan wanted to publish his long telegram without going public himself.

    In other words, you see the full discussion (largely) but from highly biased view points advocating their arguments across the range of debate. It's table stakes for staying current in where the boundaries of policy discussions are.

    1 vote

  9. Comment on Which newspapers/magazines do you read and why? in ~news

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    Foreign Affairs is my go to for important news in international relations if I'm looking for expert analysis in a non-academic journal. As a newspaper it fills a niche that the economist/foreign...

    Foreign Affairs is my go to for important news in international relations if I'm looking for expert analysis in a non-academic journal. As a newspaper it fills a niche that the economist/foreign policy magazines do not—in that they provide curated (often deep-dive type) pieces exclusively.

    It's released every other month but I find that I get enough from it to justify paying the subscription vs nearly every other news service (where the online offerings are usually sufficient for my available time).

    If you like the economist, or FT, you'll likely enjoy FA too.

    2 votes

  10. Comment on Lemmy v0.18 release in ~tech

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    I had not, but that's great news. I've been a relay for reddit user for quite a while now but loved both Sync and RIF. Really excited to hear RIF is developing a tildes app!

    I had not, but that's great news. I've been a relay for reddit user for quite a while now but loved both Sync and RIF. Really excited to hear RIF is developing a tildes app!

    2 votes

  11. Comment on New report from US National Transportation Safety Board says engineer at Norfolk Southern objected to the train weight distribution before catastrophic derailment in ~transport

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    That's what they refer to (in the legal world) as a "bad document". Has to be like pointing out the o-ring issue on the Challenger space shuttle..

    That's what they refer to (in the legal world) as a "bad document". Has to be like pointing out the o-ring issue on the Challenger space shuttle..

    1 vote

  12. Comment on President Vladimir Putin calls armed rebellion by mercenary chief a betrayal, and promises to defend Russia in ~news

  13. Comment on Lemmy v0.18 release in ~tech

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    One thing that caught my attention is the emergence of a decent android mobile app (Jerboa) developed by a former Reddit 3rd party developer. Test drove it today and was pleasantly surprised at...

    One thing that caught my attention is the emergence of a decent android mobile app (Jerboa) developed by a former Reddit 3rd party developer. Test drove it today and was pleasantly surprised at the usability. First time I've thought there might be a viable alternative to rif/sync.

    Actually my biggest sentiment after trying it was how much I wish tildes had an equivalent in the app store. I really don't think there would be anything really drawing me to check in on reddit if we had an equivalent mobile interface here. Fingers crossed!

    7 votes

  14. Comment on Hoping to avert nuclear crisis, US seeks informal agreement with Iran in ~news

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    If they can stop the flow of Shahed drones to Russia, that would have an appreciable effect on the burn rate for Ukrainian AA munitions. I just wonder about the practicality of any negotiated...

    If they can stop the flow of Shahed drones to Russia, that would have an appreciable effect on the burn rate for Ukrainian AA munitions. I just wonder about the practicality of any negotiated settlement holding with Iran for more than six months. The JCPOA was something (not ideal, but what is?) but after tearing that up and the protests over he last year, it's hard to imagine either the West or Iran playing nice.

    Seems like something that should remain a backchannel agreement, rather than a public one. Much better to have the reporting like "no new drone deliveries observed for __ months", "__ prisoners released", "Is Iran signalling a thaw towards the West?" -type headlines out there for a while, then the door would be open for a public facing policy/position change.

  15. Comment on Former US President Donald Trump pleads not guilty to classified documents charges in ~news

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    For those not previously familiar with reading legal documents, or with the ins and outs of information security classification standards, lawfare did an exceptional breakdown of the indictment...

    For those not previously familiar with reading legal documents, or with the ins and outs of information security classification standards, lawfare did an exceptional breakdown of the indictment with experts on both matters.

    Available on itunes, Google, or other fine podcast purveyors near you:
    https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5hY2FzdC5jb20vcHVibGljL3Nob3dzLzYwNTE4YTUyZjY5YWE4MTVkMmRiYTQxYw/episode/NjQ4ODAyZWZjZDNkM2IwMDExNjM5MDYz?ep=14

    4 votes

  16. Comment on Pat Robertson, broadcaster who helped make religion central to GOP politics, dies at 93 in ~news

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    One of my favorite Chris Hitchens quotes was about Jerry Falwell's death, “If you gave Falwell an enema, he could be buried in a matchbox.” Good riddance. May this breed of television grifter go...

    One of my favorite Chris Hitchens quotes was about Jerry Falwell's death, “If you gave Falwell an enema, he could be buried in a matchbox.”

    Good riddance. May this breed of television grifter go extinct with the rest of the rotten lot.

  17. Comment on Former US President Donald Trump indicted for second time, sources say in ~news

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    I have to hope after the legal embarrassment of what happened to her rulings last time, that she wouldn't be eager to jump right back into the 11th circuit's smack-down target sights.. You never...

    I have to hope after the legal embarrassment of what happened to her rulings last time, that she wouldn't be eager to jump right back into the 11th circuit's smack-down target sights.. You never know I guess. After getting the lifetime appointment, you'd think these judges would feel less beholden, but wow what a spectacularly bad job that was last time.

    Not Ideal.. I feel like the 11th circuit is just waiting for her to pull another stunt, but honestly I'm more concerned about a Florida-man juror hanging a verdict (not that it's likely to be a factor for some time yet). Not great Dan.. Not great.

    1 vote