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The new breed of sex addicts - who don't have sex
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- Authors
- By Andy Jones, By Jack Rear, By Rosa Silverman, By Madeleine Howell, David Thomas, By Katie Russell
- Published
- Feb 9 2020
- Word count
- 1488 words
This study is interesting, as it breaks down three common profiles of porn viewers.
If you drill down to the actual study you see that the compulsive porn watchers are mostly men, who watch porn for an average of 15 minutes.
In general, those that compulsively watched porn for only a short time had the most sexual disfunction.
They didn't study those that compulsively watched porn for hours. Perhaps because they are very hard to find.
Oh, this also reminds me of a factoid from about ten years ago.
The average amount of time a person spends watching any single porn video is about three minutes.
I used to feel bad for those that produced hour long porn VCR's.
I guess it's nice to know that someone, somewhere, actually watches the entire damn porn video?
! TMI warning !
Tangential... but, in hindsight, I realized I was very depressed during one period of my life (~22 yrs old) when I couldn't even muster up the care to look at porn. I don't think I masturbated for, like, a few months. In fact, I experienced my first (and only) wet-dream during this time! Guess holding off on things leaves your body to take matters into its own hands...
Anyhow, I've occasionally struggled with the concept of looking at porn (though I mostly relent) because I feel like I ought to work on not objectifying women (and men? after all, they make their way into porn I may view) and striving toward some sense of "purity." Maybe that's just my Catholic upbringing shining through, tho.
Perhaps porn studios that don't produce typical porn might be up your alley, stuff directed by Erika Lust, passion-hd, stuff like that.
I look at plenty of porn but I don't really get aroused by the standard stuff big studios like Brazzers or RealityKings produce. It's too artificial.
I don't know what you understand as purity, but whatever the Catholic Church says in that regard is at the very least a big double standard considering how protective of abusers it has been and continues to be.
Purity – in its general Christian understanding – is a bullshit concept. Its aim is to repress the believers by making them believe their natural, evolutionarily-honed desire to procreate and to find an intimate partner is wrong, somehow. It's a teaching of denial. I have no respect for any prescription that seeks to shackle its follower, restrict their nature.
Objectification is another extreme. I don't entirely understand the phenomenon, but I know how it feels. It's as destructive as complete suppression, although in a different direction: where sexual repression harms you, objectification harms everyone else around.
Somewhere outside of the spectrum of this narcissistic self-loathing lies understanding that the opposite sex is just... people. Neither loneliness nor desire changes that. They're just people, with their own lives to worry about, things to take care of, and goals to reach. Anxious all the same, furious all the same, shy all the same, curious all the same. It often finds a different expression in women, granted – which confuses so many men to no end – but in the end we're all... human.