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20 votes
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New US lawsuit claims dating apps designed to turn love seekers into addicts
44 votes -
Nine hard-earned lessons from 365 days of sobriety
3 votes -
The Deep South’s dames of dildos
7 votes -
Shopping addiction and COVID: The Amazon addicts of quarantine
11 votes -
Reduction of screentime leading to positive changes in daily life
Hi, I think I have mentioned it here a few times, but I (used to) spend A LOT of time on my phone. I’ve tried to reduce it in the past with more or less success, and recently without any...
Hi,
I think I have mentioned it here a few times, but I (used to) spend A LOT of time on my phone. I’ve tried to reduce it in the past with more or less success, and recently without any university work (I finished all exams half a year ago) and varying amounts of work as a freelancer, it crept up to 6+ hours of screen time per day. (this is excluding watching stuff to fall asleep, which I want to reduce but I am taking one step at a time) - So it’s a lot.I tried a lot of stuff, reducing the hours, by setting limits for apps, turning off notifications, but that just leads to me extending the time by entering the password myself, or checking my phone more often because I am curious about whether someone texted.
So last week Wednesday some stuff changed. I took my first long bike ride in a long time, and that day I felt really good, I still had 5 h screen on time that day though. The next day I turned off notifications for Whatsapp, but I left the indicator next to the app on, so I could see that I have messages quickly, I also decided to just force myself to wait a bit until replying to people. Also my girlfriend is the only one that knows my screentime passcode now, so I can't sneakily extend my app timeThat Thursday my screentime was 3h 16 minutes. I was hooked, I wanted to keep my time as low as possible. Since that Thursday, I have not hit the 4h screen on time once. Yesterday I was at 3h 59 min... it was an exhausting day though (Spending 1.5h at the waiting room at the doc) and I wouldn’t have blamed myself, but I still didn’t want to hit the 4h mark. Last Thursday my daily rhythm has changed quite a bit. I got Ring Fit Adventure this week, and I have done sports 4 times this week, I started to pick up playing guitar (literally got one yesterday) and ukulele again, and I just try to find stuff to do that does not involve my phone. I also played Persona 5 Royal on my ps5, I know it’s screen time but I feel less bad about it because I don’t take my PS everywhere with me, and these were the first days I have taken off in a long time… Next, I am trying to maybe work through my books that are on my backlog, finally finishing some more again. (my girlfriend gave me the book "South Sea Vagabonde, and I am meaning to read it, and I am also listening to the Audiobook "The Shallows")
One change just caused so many good changes. I am stoked and looking forward to how low I can bring my average, I know 4h per day is still a lot for most people. I am aiming at sub 3h next ( I had that once this week).This scene from Bojack has been my mantra since then: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2_Mn-qRKjA
It really does get easier, too. Today I went biking and I managed to go much longer without breaks and I feel way less exhausted.
I just wanted to share my experience somewhere, maybe someone else is on the same path and this helps.
22 votes -
Men quitting masturbation: "Porn addiction" support groups reinforce damaging gender stereotypes
25 votes -
The new breed of sex addicts - who don't have sex
10 votes -
Ex-smokers, what did you do to help you stop?
Edit: meant ex-smokers. Proof reading is not something I tend to do... Some people quit cold turkey, some use something to replace it (thinking sunflower seeds), some make goals like only have 6 a...
Edit: meant ex-smokers. Proof reading is not something I tend to do...
Some people quit cold turkey, some use something to replace it (thinking sunflower seeds), some make goals like only have 6 a day and work their way down.
I personally have been using nicotine products since I was about 16. Cigarettes at first, but switched to vaping at about 18. Been using them for about 6 years now and finally decided it's time to stop. I've been lowering the amount of nicotine in my vape for about 3 months, this last one being 0 nicotine in my vape. Now it's time to break the muscle memory of just mindlessly grabbing it at home and always making sure I know where it is. This last month with no nicotine was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be because I always told myself it was mostly a habit of the action and not the substance... Boy was I fucking wrong.
So what did you do, or are you doing, to help yourself quit? Need a little inspiration.
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Blow up: How half a tonne of cocaine transformed the life of an island
10 votes -
Are/were you addicted to anything?
Are you or were you ever addicted to alcohol, drugs, food, etc? If you are, how do you manage? Do you want to quit? If you quit, how? What/who helped you? What were your realisations?
29 votes -
Is it constitutional to send someone back to prison for relapsing?
10 votes