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Hi, I just lost my virginity. Here are my thoughts

Posted by ShilohMizook (edited )
Tags: self post, personal, lgbt, sex, virginity

(By the way, I'm a dude.) So I just moved into my college dorm yesterday, and my roommate moves in later. I figured that since I had a night and a morning to myself, I might as well make it worth it. This morning, I was texting a fella on grindr, and eventually he ubered over. I made us some coffee, and we just talked for ten or twenty minutes. No pressure whatsoever. I really appreciated that. After a while, I said, in the most awkward way possible, "uhhhhh, you wanna sit in the bed?" He said sure, we did, and he said "You wanna cuddle?" We did, and eventually it moved on from there. But every step of the way, he asked permission, and asked if I was comfortable. He also taught me how to do some... things, patiently.

When we started, I was incredibly nervous, but by the time he left, I felt very comfortable. Overall, excellent experience.

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      ShilohMizook
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      Thank you. Originally, I planned to write it as a review, and a little less seriously. Like, some things that surprised me: Kissing is way wetter than I thought, and sounds funny. There are a lot...

      Thank you. Originally, I planned to write it as a review, and a little less seriously. Like, some things that surprised me:

      • Kissing is way wetter than I thought, and sounds funny.
      • There are a lot of funny noises in general
      • There's a lot more talking than I thought, even, like, small talk in between kisses, that was fun.
      11 votes
      1. patience_limited
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        Congratulations! Sex should be fun, two (or more) people playing and exploring together. Goofy sounds, figuring out how to snarl body parts in exciting new ways (where do the noses and elbows...

        Congratulations! Sex should be fun, two (or more) people playing and exploring together.

        Goofy sounds, figuring out how to snarl body parts in exciting new ways (where do the noses and elbows go?), lengthy conversation, giggling, and other shenanigans are among the best aspects of the human condition.

        Actual scene between me and spouse-to-be:

        Me: "Shut up. You're supposed to lie back and make funny noises."

        "Sneert?" <spoken quizzically, with a perfectly straight face>

        [Me falling off the bed because I'm laughing so hard.]

        8 votes
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        ducc
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        But, how many stars would you rate your experience?

        But, how many stars would you rate your experience?

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        1. ShilohMizook
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          I have nothing to compare it to, but 5 stars. I felt reassured and cared for, yet also able to explore. Excellent sexual partner.

          I have nothing to compare it to, but 5 stars. I felt reassured and cared for, yet also able to explore. Excellent sexual partner.

          5 votes
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    teaearlgraycold
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    Very glad you had a positive experience. It's important to get treated right so that you can quickly spot and avoid bad behavior in the future.

    Very glad you had a positive experience. It's important to get treated right so that you can quickly spot and avoid bad behavior in the future.

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    1. ShilohMizook
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      Thank you! And thanks for the good information.

      Thank you! And thanks for the good information.

      8 votes
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    Kuromantis
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    Just for the sake of context and clarification You were 2 dudes, right? In your post history it says you're male-leaning bi and the only indication of that in this post is the "lgbt" tag.
    Just for the sake of context and clarification

    You were 2 dudes, right? In your post history it says you're male-leaning bi and the only indication of that in this post is the "lgbt" tag.

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    1. ShilohMizook
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      Yes, sorry. I just made it clear in the post.

      Yes, sorry. I just made it clear in the post.

      2 votes