Choosing hosting and DNS outside US and EU jurisdictions, hedging against repression

Out of all of these, I would say the "US-backed proxy war in Ukraine" (thorny as it is when stated like that) is probably not at all a bad thing. Being able to say no to naked imperialism is the reason I'm not a pacifist, beyond a vague hope I can one day say I am that is. I don't know your stance on this war in general, though from my perspective there is little doubt who the aggressor is in this case and as such it's easy to "pick sides", as it were. Much easier than most conflicts at least. As such, calling it a proxy war by the US is doing a massive disservice* to the fallen civilians and defenders of a sovereign country. Which is why I again implore you to reconsider investing in Russia.

As for the rest of your points.. I don't necessarily have a straight answer that will satisfy within the confines of a text post on a forum but I'll try to at least somewhat succinctly formulate how I think it shouldn't be too much of a toss up between the listed countries despite their wrongdoings. Before I get into that perhaps consider Canada, Switzerland, Norway, South America or another stable country in Asia instead. None** of the baggage and plenty of good reasons to support middle countries.

For the sake of simplicity, when I say "countries" in the context of your list I will consider the EU part of that too. Though an argument, a strong one too, is that it's not and therefore you shouldn't broadly dismiss some countries within the EU as an option. Taking that logic further, Europe isn't the EU either. I listed two European countries already that can be considered that do not carry the baggage of waging imperalist wars or politically dominate their citizenry.

Enfin, taking a look at the large countries in your consideration you only need to take a step back and look beyond these years to see which ones are the lesser evils amongst the bunch. A culture is not the past few years, it's the shaping of a people done over generations. In the short term, the repudiation of the orange man we've seen during these midterm elections should tell you that the people of the United States do not unilaterally stand behind the current US policy. In the longer term, freedom of speech and freedom of the press has been in a much better state than China or Russia, where the people in the US consider as part of their culture. While that's being encroached upon in the short term you can probably see how in the long term it's on much less shakier ground. The people are unlikely to accept a complete shutdown of the freedom of press. If y'all can endlessly blather about the second amendment as if it's a holy text I'm sure the first is similarly beyond reproach.

As for the EU, we see a fairly strong right wing push into politics which comes with its own problematic repression and panicky reactionary nonsense to stifle dissent. This is also generally not what the people value. The reactionary response is a method, not a goal. It's also a short term view of what the EU values. Most of these countries are able to point to their collective history of the past century and confidently say that freedom of speech and press has been held up.

Russia and China can't. Russia, and by extension the Soviet Union have a clear historical precedence and preference to politics being shaped by the ruling class to the point the citizens have no say in the matter. Dissent is not just shunned, it's punished. While the EU is backsliding, there is clear precedent the people value being able to speak freely. There is no such movement large enough in Russia or China that will make that progress possible. The fact that EU is able to backslide should say that the current situation is a damn sight better than it is in places where you can't.
China has long meddled in affairs internally and abroad that go against the party line. I don't think I have to explain how any movement towards progress and freedom is very unlikely for the time being.

Now for the part where I'm trying to bring nuance into the topic of genocide. This needs to be preempted by me saying that I do not want to try and rate which of the suffering is worse. They are all terrible. That out of the way, here we go.
China is actively perpetrating a genocide against the Uyghurs.
Russia is actively perpetrating a genocide against the Ukrainians.
The US and the EU are bystanders to one perpetrated by a country currently losing all international favour, mostly because of existing alliance structures they intend to honour***.
If you look purely at who is more responsible for the wholesale slaughter and displacement of a peoples you need to look no further than Russia and China. I don't think it's controversial to say that the lesser of evils rests in the Western world.

Here's also where "The EU" needs to be disseminated into multiple countries. The backing is not unilateral. Safe to say that Germany has uhh.. a history with the Jewish people, and their response to Israel has always been disproportionately in favour of defending their own honour. Spain, Ireland, Luxembourg, and a few others have loudly voiced their dissent and have called for amendments or the dissolution of existing agreements with Israel. The EU is not a monolith. Member states within the EU are actively working against current policies and change is not impossible.

Long story short, if your considerations go no further than the US, EU, China, Russia, then maybe taking the lesser evils is the best step forward. If you're not bound to any of those, you have a plethora of countries to choose from that do not have this problem.

Edit to add: You asked me a direct question that I failed to answer. I do try to restrict spending in the US markets as much as I can and reduce the touchpoints within that market. I have limited my spending in the US following their actions. I'm unfortunately not in the position to fully step out of the US market. But neither am I able to step out of the Chinese manufacturing bubble. As much as I would like to, our world is too linked to freely choose any market for any product. For some products that I need, I cannot buy anything but Chinese manufactured goods. I can, however, choose where I do my hosting.

*I'm putting this lightly because I want to speak to you without admonishing. My opinions around this are much stronger than the word "disservice" implies.
**No country is without baggage. To your question where I draw the line? I accept that some evils happen, I also know that in some places I have a far larger influence on these evil policies by being able to vote and speak out. But yes, you're right in the strictest sense that there is no place that hasn't done something awful.
***This sounds like apologism, it's not. Existing alliance structures do not have to be held when one side is party to crimes against humanity, but I can understand from a geopolitical standpoint how there is difficulty extricating yourself from these obligations. Call it ameliorating circumstances, not an endorsement.

P.S. As I went on I lost a bit of structure and my train of thought as work has forced me to interrupt a couple of times. Apologies. I hope I can at least get the point across that I think precedence can indicate that current states are not end states, and that you're more likely to find stability in the ones that have shown that they can rise to that occasion more than once.