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  1. Comment on What are some of your personal misheard lyrics? in ~music

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    I'm glad someone mentioned this song, because when they say I don't know what the hell I thought they were saying, but it definitely wasn't that...

    I'm glad someone mentioned this song, because when they say

    Of hip three minute ditties

    I don't know what the hell I thought they were saying, but it definitely wasn't that...

    2 votes

  2. Comment on How to stop seeking validation? in ~life

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    I heard something akin to this too. The first little voice you hear in your head is your parents. The second little voice is you. Listen to the second little voice! I learned another trick to...
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    I heard something akin to this too. The first little voice you hear in your head is your parents. The second little voice is you. Listen to the second little voice!

    I learned another trick to combat negative self talk. It's a really simple exercise:

    1. Right now, think any thought in your head. It doesn't have to mean anything, it's just for the purposes of the exercise. I'm going to use "Shit on a shingle." Okay, pick something to think, close your eyes, and then think it!

    2. Now, in a second, close your eyes again and make the thought sound really loud. SHIT ON A SHINGLE!!!!! Then make it sound really quiet shit on a shingle...

    3. You can control all kinds of properties of your little voice. Try making it sound really close, and then try making it sound like it's across a football field! Make it a really deep voice. A squeaky voice. Make it a whisper. Speed it up. Slow it down. Whatever you want. Seriously, try it.

    Once I learned this technique, I started using it on my inner critic. I decided that whenever I caught myself thinking something negative or unproductive, I would imagine launching it from a catapult. "SHIIIIT oooonn aaa shiiiinglllleeeee...!

    It has made such a big change in my everyday life. Seriously.

    What's that you say? You don't think in words or voice? That's okay, what about imagery? Okay, try visualizing something right now.

    Can you make the image SUPER bright? Or try desaturating it and make it black and white. Can you make it full of static and hard to see? Can you change the perspective, like you're looking from behind a corner, or from up above? Can you zoom way out, like you're flying away? Or zoom way in, like you're looking through a microscope?

    What's that? What's that you say? You don't think "verbally" or "visually"? Maybe you're alexithymic (or similar), and you rely on physical sensations to understand your thoughts and emotions. Okay, close your eyes and focus on a body part.

    Do you feel your focus giving that body part a little tickle? Okay, now move that sensation somewhere else, like your shoulder or your ear. Can you make the sensation more intense, like it's building in pressure? Can you release it like a pressure valve? Heat it up. Make it freeze. Can you make it feel like there's a heavy weight on it? Can you make feel light as a feather?

    When I started thinking of my thoughts and emotions as physiological responses that I could control, it changed my whole world. I hope this can help someone passing along as much as it helped me.

    I wasn't planning on this comment being so long! Weeeeeee rock on world!! Shit on a shingle!!

    17 votes

  3. Comment on Give us your hot takes on the latest Nintendo Direct in ~games

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    It's for 3DS, but Awakening was a great game. Three Houses is good too, but I haven't been able to finish the story and I've tried twice. POR and RD are some of my favorite games of all time and...

    It's for 3DS, but Awakening was a great game. Three Houses is good too, but I haven't been able to finish the story and I've tried twice. POR and RD are some of my favorite games of all time and I'm sorry to say I haven't found a FE game since that has lived up to either of them.

    My dark horse suggestion is Thracia 776 if you don't mind using an emulator, but you'll need to find an English patch ROM if you don't speak Japanese.

  4. Comment on 2025 NFL Season 🏈 Weekly Discussion Thread – Week 2 in ~sports.american_football

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    As comforting as it is to see, the Vikings did not, in fact, beat the Falcons. So the table has at least one error.

    As comforting as it is to see, the Vikings did not, in fact, beat the Falcons. So the table has at least one error.

    6 votes

  5. Comment on Don’t like joining in? Why it could be your superpower. in ~life

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    This comment is going to meander a bit. I reject the idea of introversion/extroversion (but I'll admit they are handy labels when you need to generalize). Still, I found the article interesting,...

    This comment is going to meander a bit.

    I reject the idea of introversion/extroversion (but I'll admit they are handy labels when you need to generalize). Still, I found the article interesting, and I strongly relate to the phenomenon it describes. Though I always attributed it to ADHD/whatever the hell else is going on in my noggin.

    I remember when I first learned about masking and how my "extroversion" could be a coping mechanism that I use. Being outgoing as a means to deflect attention away from my flaws, which makes people like me more, which makes me mask more, which, in the end, results in relationships where everyone liked me, but the nature of masking meant that I wasn't really being vulnerable, and so the relationships just end up feeling superficial.

    The idea of "otroversion" kind of brings that to mind. I do really enjoy deep conversations, and I enjoy hanging out with the groups of people. On the other hand, I despise the family gatherings at my in-laws, where conversation could be considered surface-level at best. Everyone seems bored, but it's like they want it to be boring. Like, the gathering is "just what you do" rather than trying to make it anything more.

    I love solitude but I hate feeling lonely. Sometimes I feel loneliest when I'm with others. It's something that I can try to explain to those closest to me, but it's also something they never really understand. Trying to explain it usually makes me feel worse.

    I like the idea of accepting this about myself. I've been trending that direction for a few years now, but it's tough. It makes me feel like an asshole sometimes. But maybe that's just my old masking habit kicking in, making me feel anxious because I'm worried the group won't like me if I don't act like the life of the party.

    13 votes

  6. Comment on Dallas Cowboys are trading three-time All-Pro LB Micah Parsons to the Green Bay Packers in ~sports.american_football

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    NFCN was already a bloodbath last year. As long as we don't all cannibalize each other, I think it's going to be another great season. I just hope everyone stays healthy and competitive.

    NFCN was already a bloodbath last year. As long as we don't all cannibalize each other, I think it's going to be another great season. I just hope everyone stays healthy and competitive.

    1 vote

  7. Comment on Dallas Cowboys are trading three-time All-Pro LB Micah Parsons to the Green Bay Packers in ~sports.american_football

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    AFAIK Green Bay offered up two first round picks and immediately gave Parsons the extension he wanted from the Cowboys.

    AFAIK Green Bay offered up two first round picks and immediately gave Parsons the extension he wanted from the Cowboys.

    3 votes

  8. Comment on A mysterious LLC is using antique law to go after sports betting in Washington DC in ~sports

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    Are you against gambling as a concept, or just the shady business tactics surrounding it? I'm asking in good faith as a human who enjoys occasionally gambling. I will say, as a casual fan of...

    Are you against gambling as a concept, or just the shady business tactics surrounding it? I'm asking in good faith as a human who enjoys occasionally gambling. I will say, as a casual fan of sports, sportsbetting has definitely gotten a little too pervasive for my liking.

    3 votes

  9. Comment on What is your silly or (kinda) useless talent? in ~talk

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    This thread of odd flexes really perplexes

    This thread of odd flexes really perplexes

    5 votes

  10. Comment on What’s a notable misunderstanding from your life? in ~life

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    Tell you what, I'll still do the latter half of those four things :)

    Tell you what, I'll still do the latter half of those four things :)

    6 votes

  11. Comment on What’s a notable misunderstanding from your life? in ~life

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    My friend, this is a rabbit hole you should not have sent me down.

    My friend, this is a rabbit hole you should not have sent me down.

    5 votes

  12. Comment on What’s a notable misunderstanding from your life? in ~life

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    Damn it, you got me there 😅 Though I'll be honest, I don't think she would have went for that. She's a pretty traditional gal.

    Damn it, you got me there 😅 Though I'll be honest, I don't think she would have went for that. She's a pretty traditional gal.

    5 votes

  13. Comment on What’s a notable misunderstanding from your life? in ~life

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    I told my wife I'd take hers, or that we should just both pick a completely new last name. She ended up just taking mine. Boooooriiiiing...

    I told my wife I'd take hers, or that we should just both pick a completely new last name. She ended up just taking mine. Boooooriiiiing...

    8 votes

  14. Comment on How do you celebrate your birthday? in ~talk

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    I write my resolutions on my birthday. It makes them feel a lot more personal and basically removes everything shitty about New Years resolutions.

    I write my resolutions on my birthday. It makes them feel a lot more personal and basically removes everything shitty about New Years resolutions.

    4 votes

  15. Comment on McDonald's is bringing back its discontinued Snack Wrap in the US in ~food

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    Nice, now I can go back to making McCrap jokes.

    Nice, now I can go back to making McCrap jokes.

    9 votes

  16. Comment on Frankenstein | Official teaser in ~movies

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    That was an incredible scene. Thank you for sharing it.

    That was an incredible scene. Thank you for sharing it.

    1 vote

  17. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #1 in ~health.mental

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    You've given me a term to research further, thank you!

    You've given me a term to research further, thank you!

    3 votes

  18. Comment on Alaska man survives after being trapped face-down in creek by 700lb boulder in ~hobbies

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    That's why I typically try to avoid going there at all costs.

    Earth is scary....

    That's why I typically try to avoid going there at all costs.

    16 votes

  19. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #1 in ~health.mental

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    I was diagnosed at the same age as you a handful of years ago. If you dive in as deep as I did, you're in for a hell of a ride. I'm happy for you. We'll all be here if you ever need help or want...

    I was diagnosed at the same age as you a handful of years ago. If you dive in as deep as I did, you're in for a hell of a ride. I'm happy for you.

    We'll all be here if you ever need help or want to share any updates. Don't let the Social Acceptance Mammoth keep you at bay.

    Congrats on a big milestone far too few ever reach.

    8 votes

  20. Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #1 in ~health.mental

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    So I have this thing that happens to me that I've never really told anyone about, and I'm curious if anyone can relate. This doesn't really happen anymore now that I'm regularly medicated, but it...

    So I have this thing that happens to me that I've never really told anyone about, and I'm curious if anyone can relate. This doesn't really happen anymore now that I'm regularly medicated, but it will come back if I go awhile without refilling my meds.

    Basically, when I'm laying in bed, I'll have the typical racing thoughts that you would expect with ADHD, but when it's really bad, something weird happens. My "thoughts" extend beyond my normal internal monologue, and I'll "hear" all kinds of weird shit, all in my head.

    • Random noises, like a chainsaw or car horns. All kinds of shit.
    • Voices, but not like you'd expect. They're not talking to me, it's just voices I recognize, like my mom or coworkers or friends or random people I've met. It's like my brain plays little recorded snippets of things they've said to me IRL, or maybe not, IDK.

    It's a healthy mix of both those things, rapid fire and constant. They come and go so fast that I can't even really acknowledge what they are unless I really concentrate. If I just "let it go" it becomes this loud noisy mess.

    It only ever happens at night when I'm in bed. During the day, and off medication, my mind races and wanders exactly like you'd expect, but it's only things that I would consider to be my internal monologue, even when my thoughts go by so fast I can't even remember what they were.

    My theory is that during the day, there's enough external stimulation around me that my brain doesn't need to do all that bullshit to entertain itself. And that's why it manifests at night, because I'm just laying there with my eyes closed.

    Has anyone ever experienced anything like that? I tried explaining it to my wife and she looked at me like a crazy person.

    7 votes