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  1. Comment on Men in tech #YesAllMen in ~life.women

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    Hi, to folks who watched this and want to help but feel awkward because "oh but she's smiling/laughing along" or "well she hasn't said anything" and you're not sure and don't want to be a...

    Hi, to folks who watched this and want to help but feel awkward because "oh but she's smiling/laughing along" or "well she hasn't said anything" and you're not sure and don't want to be a spoilsport stick in the mud:

    Go talk to her about it afterwards. Tell her that made YOU uncomfortable. You're not offering to be her saviour, you're not putting words in her mouth, you're not making assumptions about how she feels. YOU feel uncomfortable. Watch her response. If she trusts you: eg, if she hasn't previously seen you laughing along with the guys and if she isn't afraid you are secretly recording her reaction to share later, she might confide in you. If you had laughed, apologize. Even if she says nonono it's fine it was funny. You tell her you don't think it's funny after you thought about it some more. If she wants, the both of you can go to HR together. Or, at least she knows she has merely been sexually harassed again, not harassed with everyone's silent / laughing approval again.

    Okay let's pretend she doesn't care. Let's pretend she's a guy's girl and she jokes with the worst and swears like a sailor. What that does do is make the environment much more unsafe for the rest of the women. Or any future women any of these men go on to work with. In that case, take out your phone and record the hilarious moment. Ask them all to explain the funny to you. Just make a record of it. You don't have to go to HR, you don't have to make anyone stop. Just publicly anounce you are making a recording of the very funny joke. You can stash it somewhere and forget about it. And then, if a woman approaches you and asks you to share the recording, please do so. Tell her that made YOU feel uncomfortable. Now she has proof and can stand up for herself if she deems the risks justifiable. Or at least she has a video record of her not feeling insane: one other person felt it wasn't funny.

    Or just see it and don't laugh and make eye contact with her and leave the room.

    I'm begging you. If you can't Say It, if you can't Sort It Out, please See It. Please feel uncomfortable about it.

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  2. Comment on I survived the certificate expiration of October 19th 2026 and all I got was to make a silly shitpost in ~tildes

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    We could do one of those old timey secret revolutionary cell things where each of us have email addresses to three others? Then we only have to have three things on a notepad and not an excel...

    We could do one of those old timey secret revolutionary cell things where each of us have email addresses to three others? Then we only have to have three things on a notepad and not an excel spreadsheet

    I replied to the wrong message but it is too late now, the pigeon has been flown, I shall live with the shame.

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  3. Comment on I survived the certificate expiration of October 19th 2026 and all I got was to make a silly shitpost in ~tildes

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    I would like to subscribe to more E (new tech) LI5 using old timey technology please

    I would like to subscribe to more E (new tech) LI5 using old timey technology please

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  4. Comment on I survived the certificate expiration of October 19th 2026 and all I got was to make a silly shitpost in ~tildes

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    Discuit.org is a good short browse harm reduction alternative

    Discuit.org is a good short browse harm reduction alternative

  5. Comment on I survived the certificate expiration of October 19th 2026 and all I got was to make a silly shitpost in ~tildes

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    The hostages are inside the series of tubes O..O

    The hostages are inside the series of tubes O..O

    1 vote

  6. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    A few different items came up when I searched (generic name) is it still playable/online or is this like, older educational software?

    A few different items came up when I searched (generic name) is it still playable/online or is this like, older educational software?

  7. Comment on Maybe there was an egg cartel after all in ~food

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    We had a bread fix in Canada for decades. Everyone got a $20 gift card to compensate for staples food being $1.5 more for decades. At this point I assume every single product is cartelled unless...

    We had a bread fix in Canada for decades. Everyone got a $20 gift card to compensate for staples food being $1.5 more for decades.

    At this point I assume every single product is cartelled unless proven otherwise, including still bread here and still cardboard in Australia as an ongoing problem.

    7 votes

  8. Comment on Maybe there was an egg cartel after all in ~food

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    Hmmm we were told to mainly focus on biosecurity but also to never assume bird/eggs are Salmonella safe: wash everything, change shoes, pasteurize and cook all eggs etc. There are currently no...

    Hmmm we were told to mainly focus on biosecurity but also to never assume bird/eggs are Salmonella safe: wash everything, change shoes, pasteurize and cook all eggs etc. There are currently no small scale options available as far as I know, in Atlantic provinces.

    2 votes

  9. Comment on Maybe there was an egg cartel after all in ~food

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    Thanks for the added edit about supermarket eggs. It's hard to make that connection to care because so much of our lives are horrible in some ways to humans, animals, and the planet, I don't blame...

    Thanks for the added edit about supermarket eggs. It's hard to make that connection to care because so much of our lives are horrible in some ways to humans, animals, and the planet, I don't blame people for doing what they can just to make it through. The horrific factory farms do still enable many to feed their children with good nutritious and affordable food.

    --- but, for folks who can afford to, farmers markets or your local rural neighbours might have options.

    We got 6 new hens this summer to add to our flock of aging hens who only lay "recreationally" now. First day home, 5/6 of the new birds looked confused by grass : one of them looked downright terrified at the fluffy green mystery flooring and clung to my partner for dear life, refusing to touch it like the grassy floor was hot lava. They'd probably never been outside before. :'( one of them had a cross beak and another one had a straight cut like the tip was trimmed. They're both better now.

    The original group were indeed lovingly hand raised in our neighbour's living room from the time they hatched: our roosters are friendly and handsome and take good care of the hens. They do this cute "brrrooop!" alert when they find tasty treats, the hens come over, and the boys will pick up a treat and lay it down so the girls can see the treat better.

    If or when we no longer raise our own and we can't find other local bird keepers, I will simply cease to buy factory eggs. (Having said that, I eat egg products when I'm out and I'm still carnivorous 5/7 days of the week. But meat and dairy are optional parts of dinner now, and most breakfast lunches can be vegan. Baby steps.)

    7 votes

  10. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    Haha Chinese military lady in US feels extra fun. I think this game interprets any focus other than "friends and family" as neglect that even annual trips with them don't fix. Kinda harsh but that...

    Haha Chinese military lady in US feels extra fun. I think this game interprets any focus other than "friends and family" as neglect that even annual trips with them don't fix. Kinda harsh but that is actually strangely true in real life too.

    I know people use AI chat bots for stories, and this is kind of like that I guess :)

    ... I should stop contributing to climate change and play dwarf fortress instead. Get more monsters and pudgey Fluffy Wamblers along with my vicarious tea.

    1 vote

  11. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    Yeah, I'm sad the exes are not mentioned or given an opportunity to become friends or stay close. In one of my runs, my person's spouse abruptly died from a workplace accident at age 36, only 1...

    Yeah, I'm sad the exes are not mentioned or given an opportunity to become friends or stay close. In one of my runs, my person's spouse abruptly died from a workplace accident at age 36, only 1 year into their marriagen right before they had a chance to have kids. Not mentioned.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Tildes “orphans”, what do you do for Christmas? in ~life

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    Suggestion only: go visit a historic christian building amid holiday season. Some of the bigger ones do tours, or have holiday concerts and events, whether or not they're actively being used for...

    Suggestion only: go visit a historic christian building amid holiday season. Some of the bigger ones do tours, or have holiday concerts and events, whether or not they're actively being used for Christian services.

    Click to expand personal anecdote

    I came to Orthodox Christianity later in life. Growing up Protestant, I never even knew what advant was: it specifically means the candy chocolate calendar with tiny boxes, I thought. I didn't know what the twelve days of Christmas was other than that repetitive song. I played with little doll sets with a baby Jesus in the manger, with cows and sheeps without ever being told:

    The ox knows its owner
    And the donkey its master’s crib/manger;
    But Israel does not know,
    My people do not consider/understand.”

    From Isaiah was written long before Jesus's birth.

    Anyway, for me, if I were at a completely new place, I would go crash the biggest Christmas celebration with the biggest family I belong to. The Church has an entire full year calendar of celebrations pointing towards the Christmas season.

    3 votes

  13. Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news

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    Dying man's wish to see highland cow fulfilled The gentleman is still okay, and he seems super happy. Article has two photos of happy man and soft adorable "heylan coo" . The lady who owns the...

    Dying man's wish to see highland cow fulfilled

    The gentleman is still okay, and he seems super happy. Article has two photos of happy man and soft adorable "heylan coo" . The lady who owns the cows is a nurse, and was inspired by Jeremy Clarkson's Farm, apparently, and farming pulled her out of a dark spot after COVID.

    3 votes

  14. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    Could the Korean dev have done it smartly, such that the AI portion used was "make me an engine that uses these stats databases and procedurally generate lives", so that each life isn't run on...

    Could the Korean dev have done it smartly, such that the AI portion used was "make me an engine that uses these stats databases and procedurally generate lives", so that each life isn't run on live tokens but on a finished game engine? Sort of like how Dwarf Fortress generated procedural worlds, characters and events based on rules and a vast database. There are a lot of repeated lines in this game, feels more like "this ring menaces with spikes of ruby and silver" RNG rather than each item GEN AI generated.

    2 votes

  15. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    You're most welcome, sundaybest. I was pretty shooken up unexpectedly by how much a random phone call from a pixelated imagery child I'd only "raised" for 2 hours meant to me. Hopefully the game...

    You're most welcome, sundaybest. I was pretty shooken up unexpectedly by how much a random phone call from a pixelated imagery child I'd only "raised" for 2 hours meant to me. Hopefully the game let us be more aware of our blessings, our good health, and our loved ones.

    3 votes

  16. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    Awww, rest in peace, Ana's mum, you worked hard and influenced many others. I was surprised by now connected I felt to my guy, and how sad I was to see him go, even though he lived to a very old...

    Awww, rest in peace, Ana's mum, you worked hard and influenced many others.

    I was surprised by now connected I felt to my guy, and how sad I was to see him go, even though he lived to a very old age surrounded by loved ones.

    3 votes

  17. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    The game has an option to be born in historical time periods too, probably get a lot more of those endings unfortunately. But it also means players can challenge their memories and try to bet on...

    The game has an option to be born in historical time periods too, probably get a lot more of those endings unfortunately.

    But it also means players can challenge their memories and try to bet on Mortgage Securities or Apple or Bitcoin before each crash.

    2 votes

  18. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    Pretty much like that, yeah, including the little pixel art style, but more interactive, and more linked to country specific statistics. The blogpost briefly mentioned that for example it's much...

    Pretty much like that, yeah, including the little pixel art style, but more interactive, and more linked to country specific statistics. The blogpost briefly mentioned that for example it's much harder for women in some places to get in game achievements; in8b lets you play through those scenarios.

    1 vote

  19. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    I saw Emma's while randomly flipping through :D

    I saw Emma's while randomly flipping through :D

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  20. Comment on 1 in 8 Billion - Browser game, free, life sim with real statistics from 172 countries in ~games

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    What a rich, full life! In my two runs I noticed that they each start with different levels of knowledge, and that if the parents read to the toddler it produces a huge gap on knowledge that just...

    What a rich, full life! In my two runs I noticed that they each start with different levels of knowledge, and that if the parents read to the toddler it produces a huge gap on knowledge that just working super hard in isolation can't overcome. I suspect a lot of the stats have a predisposition behind them.

    1 vote