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Comment on The user is visibly frustrated in ~tech
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Comment on This restaurant stopped charging for food. And profits are up. (gifted link) in ~food
chocobean LinkWonderful. We need more reminders of this truth to get through these times of lies from capitalists. The article doesn't explain it but how did profits go up and who's paying and does he still...“It’s kind of this unspoken agreement in America that there’s a group of people that are not worth anything, and they’re treated as such,” he said. “I disagree with that.”
Wonderful. We need more reminders of this truth to get through these times of lies from capitalists.
One customer, Juvie Harper, said he visited Post Modern Times for the first time in April, expecting the premade, packaged food he has found at food banks. He was amazed, he said, “to see that it’s actually freshly made, and you got the options of different drinks, and then pastries.” [...]
The article doesn't explain it but how did profits go up and who's paying and does he still have to pay taxes and what about employee wages? Any info about the math of it all?
“This is a blessed place,” [a patron said. ] [...] For his part, Mr. Alverson said one of his big goals last winter was simply “not coming out of it with any shame.”
Amen. May we all finish the race and come out of it without shame.
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Comment on Summer blanket recommendations? in ~life.style
chocobean Link Parent+1 for year round duvet or light / heavy duvet combo Then again I live up north now. When I was in HK, yes down for most seasons, and then AC on all night in summers. Without AC, a cotton sheet is...+1 for year round duvet or light / heavy duvet combo
Then again I live up north now. When I was in HK, yes down for most seasons, and then AC on all night in summers. Without AC, a cotton sheet is usually enough.
If a duvet cover is too heavy or is made of plastic, it would be too hot and sweaty immediately. So maybe you don't need a different blanket just go without and wash / sun the duvet occasionally ? :P
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Comment on Bricks & Minifigs corporate stole a man's $200,000 Lego collection and told him to get bent in ~hobbies
chocobean Link ParentI've only heard about this on a very surface level and thankful for summaries from others who've taken the deep dive instead. what a saga.... I hope this gets made into a Phil Lord + Chris Miller...I've only heard about this on a very surface level and thankful for summaries from others who've taken the deep dive instead.
what a saga.... I hope this gets made into a Phil Lord + Chris Miller Lego 3 crossover 23 Jump Street movie , with a satisfying bad people (all the way to the tippy top) go to prison ending, (safe) car chases, (safe) explosions, and everything turn out awesome for Ben, Devin, and the original owner.
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Comment on Has anyone else seen a LOT of dead birds on the side of the road this year? in ~enviro
chocobean Link ParentThis thread is turning into Where In The World is Updawg San Diego and it's kinda fun It's good to hear not a world wide dead bird event ..... In the manga/anime Dr Stone, their apocalypse events...This thread is turning into Where In The World is Updawg San Diego and it's kinda fun
It's good to hear not a world wide dead bird event ..... In the manga/anime Dr Stone, their apocalypse events was preceded by finding (dead) stone swallows all over the planet. That's what I was thinking of when I first clicked the post
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Comment on Has anyone else seen a LOT of dead birds on the side of the road this year? in ~enviro
chocobean Link ParentRural Oceanside: no unusual number of dead birds here. More deer (live sightings) than last five years combined though. Do they look like roadkill birds or drop dead from bird flu?Rural Oceanside: no unusual number of dead birds here. More deer (live sightings) than last five years combined though.
Do they look like roadkill birds or drop dead from bird flu?
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Comment on Has anyone else seen a LOT of dead birds on the side of the road this year? in ~enviro
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Comment on Tildes Survey #8: What is your favorite video game? in ~talk
chocobean LinkI feel like this is one where we can't easily aggregate answers for, and so maybe the discussion will be more interesting than the survey results. Maybe we could glean some info on why something...I feel like this is one where we can't easily aggregate answers for, and so maybe the discussion will be more interesting than the survey results. Maybe we could glean some info on why something is a favourite according to comments, even if two people are talking about two completely different games from different eras. Eg, "because it was my favourite JRPG" or "because it got me through a significant period of my life" or "best music" or "best challenging mechanics" etc
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Comment on Tildes Survey #8: What is your favorite video game? in ~talk
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Comment on What are your personal crackpot conspiracy theories about the world right now? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentWelcome to the brotherhood, here's your tinfoil hat ~Welcome to the brotherhood, here's your tinfoil hat ~
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Comment on What are your personal crackpot conspiracy theories about the world right now? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentThat folks are less suitable partners than before is perhaps accepted, maybe, but the crackpot lies in my guess that it's poor upbringing, especially among families that look fine on the surface....That folks are less suitable partners than before is perhaps accepted, maybe, but the crackpot lies in my guess that it's poor upbringing, especially among families that look fine on the surface. Not just kids with obvious childhood adversity like poverty or war or abuse, but solidly "middle class" homes with "loving" parents and post secondary education. The standard American dream dual income happy homes.
Seems already very unpopular to suggest to people that (1) many of them are not quality partner candidates who need to work on themselves first, and more of a challenge to say (2) they had poor upbringing in which not enough nurturing and development when into them. They had shelter and food and clothes, what more could any Gen X Millenial Gen Z possibly want?
A lot of people have been asked to raise themselves with extremely little unconditional love, care and attention, and they're already quite burned out of having to provide for themselves. So asking them to self improve before they'll be properly loved hits a particular sore spot where once again, it's conditional and require work on their part. That's not a role any partner can fill.
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Comment on What are your personal crackpot conspiracy theories about the world right now? in ~talk
chocobean LinkMy crackpot: many people today have a higher need for physical intimacy because they were neglected or touch starved as children. That many today look for too much from one single person in a...My crackpot: many people today have a higher need for physical intimacy because they were neglected or touch starved as children. That many today look for too much from one single person in a partner because they haven't sorted out their own personal problems stemming from being a latched key kid or having grown up "conveyor belt" style (pre-K-12-uni school > work > ???). That society isn't offering the old social networks and community as before, and so, now floundering as an adult, they're looking for perfect nurturing and mature acceptance from their stable pixie dream girl, or their stable professional careered dream boy.
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Comment on Forgot password and email suffix... am I bucked? in ~tildes
chocobean LinkFerret, did you lose your other Tildes account? If it's a Tildes account, send Deimos a private message and they can look it up for you or send an email to that account's now forgotten + email. or...Ferret, did you lose your other Tildes account? If it's a Tildes account, send Deimos a private message and they can look it up for you or send an email to that account's now forgotten + email.
or if not, can you tell me again what kind of account you lost?
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
chocobean LinkIt sounds like you've put thoughts into different options, and that the situation has been painful for the both of you for a while. Thanks for giving us the heads-up about LLM use. Side caution:...It sounds like you've put thoughts into different options, and that the situation has been painful for the both of you for a while.
Thanks for giving us the heads-up about LLM use. Side caution: Recently I asked one to translate something for me, from English to Cantonese which is my native language, because I was on a device that doesn't let me input characters easily. It did a great job with tone and content, but it also interjected entire phrases I did not come up with, that its processes predicted fitting to add. So my gentle caution is that when thoughts are disjointed or in a shamble or comes out all at once, an LLM can do some heavy lifting for us, but it also deprives our persons the experience of wading through our own weeds, of forcing us to rephrase things with objectivity, and finally the chance for our brains to organize our own narrative to tell ourselves.
Back to your relationship.
How did you end up moving in with her? Was she enthusiastic and made all kinds of prep for you and set up a lot of plans and signed you up for health care, insurance, gym membership, drivers license, tax stuff etc for you? Or did you do almost all of the leg work and sorted everything out and she just gave you a key when you showed up?
Has she always defaulted to "I don't know" during serious discussions or is that new since after you moved in?
From what you said, it sounds like the relationship has two phases: long distance romance that worked great, and your physically being there which in her mind has "always" been suffocating. That is a heavy rejection, and I would suggest you find yourself licensed, human help to deal with the implication of having someone sob and tell you this. My advise would be to move out and assume the relationship is over: if she doesn't miss you at all, doesn't call to make plans to get together, doesn't share what she's learned in therapy to help your relationship, then she does know, and has already given you an answer. Sometimes people can be cowards who don't want to end a bad-good thing, so they just hope it goes away on its own.
She seems excited to dive into chat apps that gives her both the intensity and distance. Please realise that she's doing what she did when she met you: engaging with others carefully from a distance. Maybe your instincts about her emotional and relationship readiness is correct, that she doesn't want a full time actual human relationship, much less a common law life partner, only sporadic and virtual and distant one.
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Comment on The user is visibly frustrated in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentConversely, for employees being told to use up tokens and rewarded for AI usage, use as many please and thank yous as possible.Conversely, for employees being told to use up tokens and rewarded for AI usage, use as many please and thank yous as possible.
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Comment on The user is visibly frustrated in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentI spoke to a young lady giving us a university campus tour yesterday, and she mentioned that there's a chat on the site if we have additional questions. She also carefully mentioned that some...I spoke to a young lady giving us a university campus tour yesterday, and she mentioned that there's a chat on the site if we have additional questions. She also carefully mentioned that some people think it's a chat bot, but it's actually real people like herself answering questions. I shudder to think what verbal abuse they might have come across.
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Comment on The user is visibly frustrated in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentCame here with that exact quote. Please, I want to go back to beeps and boops and an LED and error codes. I am so frustrated that they've done away with error codes. Because they scare users,...Came here with that exact quote. Please, I want to go back to beeps and boops and an LED and error codes.
I am so frustrated that they've done away with error codes. Because they scare users, supposedly. You know what scares users even more? Being on the phone with tech support and they have no idea what's wrong because their system looks different and they have no trace of where you fell off the scripted path. Even extremely minor mishaps are now potentially session ending unrecoverable events, and the most we can do is try restarting the whole interaction again.
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Comment on You can now use your Gmail account in Proton Mail in ~tech
chocobean LinkAs a subscriber, one of the most exciting thing about this feature is not having to continue to use the now extremely broken Gmail search. I deleted my Gmail app immediately off my phone. Well,...As a subscriber, one of the most exciting thing about this feature is not having to continue to use the now extremely broken Gmail search.
I deleted my Gmail app immediately off my phone. Well, disabled anyway, it's a pixel.
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Comment on What change would make you quit Tildes? in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentLike this with bold, italics, quotes, spoiler box, strike though, links and quotes formatting buttons The saves draft is especially helpful for longer comments There are also a lot of other...Like this with bold, italics, quotes, spoiler box, strike though, links and quotes formatting buttons
The saves draft is especially helpful for longer comments
There are also a lot of other settings to customise the look and experience. It's quite nice and I'm very thankful for it
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Comment on How has inflation changed your quality of life? in ~finance
chocobean Link ParentCuriosity: if you spend + earned the way you currently do, but suddenly have added expenses for two kids (such as child care, saving for university, and extracurricular activities, school...Curiosity: if you spend + earned the way you currently do, but suddenly have added expenses for two kids (such as child care, saving for university, and extracurricular activities, school supplies, second car, two extra bedrooms) would that put your finances into struggle territory? Sometimes, responsible frugal people have high rent, aging parents, or are saddled by health bills in America, or have student loans.
Other artificial scripted lies I hate:
"we are experiencing a higher than usual volume of calls.
"Please listen carefully as our menu options have changed"
"I understand your frustration "