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Comment on Violence erupts in Mexico after drug lord El Mencho killed in ~news
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Comment on Opinion piece: I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day. in ~life.women
chocobean Link ParentI do feel like that while this is not new, it has absolutely been dialed up to 11. When I was a teenager online, things weren't as interconnected, and there wasn't billion dollar algorithms...I do feel like that while this is not new, it has absolutely been dialed up to 11.
When I was a teenager online, things weren't as interconnected, and there wasn't billion dollar algorithms monetizing hate as engagement. I could post a picture of myself being a girl, and maybe a dozen people might see it. Maybe let's say even a million people see it. But they wouldn't have the ability to publicly and directly post insults back at me. At worst, it could go viral, like Ermahghed girl, and in separate, small corners of the Internet people might talk about it or make fun of it or make it a meme whatever. But they would have extremely limited ways to find me, hurl insults at me, or send me PMs to suggest I hurt myself.
Now we have billionaires directing entire tech teams to benefit from this situation to not just spread, but to promote, and to redirect it back to the user for "more reaction".
The interconnectedness is an anonymiser and multiplier: in ye olden days, if I posted something mean on my local fish forum or high school blog, there are consequences to outsting myself as a jerk, and there was a good likelihood that whoever first posted that image actually knew this young person and would be rightfully offended. Now we have images being spread far and wide to audiences that did not ask for it, and have no connection to the person as a human being, to a bigger audience that cheers for crude and cruel comments.
I agree that a ban isn't going to solve anything, but I think having 1 lever is better than none. If we say, hey we have evidence that [company] is monetizing self harm and pushing for rage, it's okay to say, this isn't something that is appropriate for young people.
Yes, determined kids can and will get around it, but there is also value in having kids being able to say, yea my parents are totally crazy and they won't let me be on [platform] or else there'd be consequences. Some of us had parents who encouraged us to use them as an excuse to get out of socially dicey situations, and maybe it's good to have one. And if legally kids aren't allowed on these platforms anymore, it also opens up the landscape for more curated, better protected products suitable for teens to flourish and outcompete the rage machines.
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Comment on Opinion piece: I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day. in ~life.women
chocobean Link ParentI was completely unaware of the word being associated with fascism and race, thank you for pointing that out. I do want to emphasize again that I wish to protect and help educate our teens of all...I was completely unaware of the word being associated with fascism and race, thank you for pointing that out.
I do want to emphasize again that I wish to protect and help educate our teens of all gender identities. But it is also a sad fact that images / online presence of those perceived to be feminine get a lot more creepy and hate than online prescences of those with no identifiable gender. This is a a violence that is happening to everyone, yes.
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Comment on Opinion piece: I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day. in ~life.women
chocobean (edited )LinkWhat follows contains a lot of examples of verbal violence and misogyny; if you are trying to avoid being exposed to things like that, here is her conclusion : I'm conflicted on whether to post a...Objectification, hate, rape threats: the politicians debating online abuse mean well, but to truly understand, they need to see what I see
If you’re anything like my parents, you probably wouldn’t even understand most of the content that floods my social media, no matter how hard I try to avoid it.
What follows contains a lot of examples of verbal violence and misogyny; if you are trying to avoid being exposed to things like that, here is her conclusion :
Using social media has ruined my self-esteem and my relation to being a girl in this world, and nearly every day I feel hatred towards my gender, my appearance, or even teenage boys as a category. The misogyny I see from boys my age online, which is echoed in real life too, has made me grow resentful and bitter towards them, as much as I try to avoid it. As wrong as it is, I persistently find myself considering if there are truly any boys out there who are not misogynistic to some extent, and have even questioned whether I can find love in the future because of this. I understand that boys are victims of harmful content, as well as perpetrators of online misogyny – they’re growing up learning how to do this from the adults who post misogynistic videos first. But even so, I feel such a strong divide now between girls and boys in my generation, especially when the way they talk about us in real life mirrors the way they do on the internet.
I'm conflicted on whether to post a spoiler box of terminology that appears in the article for education purposes only: they are vile and has no place in polite society, but I do feel like we as adults have the responsibility (if we are able) to know of them as signs of [edit: incivility]. Like learning alt right symbols and such.
Thoughts on how to keep girls and women safe? How to protect and educate our teens (of all gender identities) without making them live in a naive wall garden pretending it's all okay?
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Opinion piece: I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day.
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Comment on Violence erupts in Mexico after drug lord El Mencho killed in ~news
chocobean LinkFrom link within link I'm wondering what the next move is here, to escalate in captures and killings and tolerate the violence until the gang dissolves? Is it a giant game of chicken to see if the...The scenes that unfolded on Sunday reminded many of the violence that erupted in the state of Sinaloa after the capture of another notorious drug lord - Ovidio Guzmán López - in 2019.
The street battles between members of his Sinaloa cartel and the security forces were so fierce that the Mexican authorities decided to free Guzmán López, who is the son of jailed drug kingpin Joaquín "El Chapo" Guzmán, to prevent further bloodshed.
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His killing has been heralded as a victory in both Mexico and the United States.
The Mexican authorities and the US reported that US intelligence was involved in bringing down the kingpin, lending the operation a sense of cross-border co-operation that could benefit both governments.
I'm wondering what the next move is here, to escalate in captures and killings and tolerate the violence until the gang dissolves? Is it a giant game of chicken to see if the gangsters will back down to stay safe themselves? There's no possibility of releasing El Mencho in this case
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Comment on What are your architectural hot takes? in ~design
chocobean LinkHot Take: it doesn't matter how something looks if it's not designed for human beings to enjoy using the room. Swimming Pool for Berkeley Women’s City Club Swimming pool Hearst Castle, California....Hot Take: it doesn't matter how something looks if it's not designed for human beings to enjoy using the room.
Swimming Pool for Berkeley Women’s City Club
Swimming pool Hearst Castle, California.
Morgan designed hundreds of houses, many in the Berkeley and Oakland hills, ranging in style from shingled redwood to Venetian Gothic, Tudor to Arts and Crafts, and Mission Revival to Neoclassical. In her residential work, Morgan emphasized comfort, with rooms shaped for specific activities and family life. “She could do any style, castles for Hearst up at Mount Shasta, Italianate, stucco, little cottages and Craftsman buildings,” Lynn Forney McMurray, the daughter of Morgan’s longtime secretary, Lillian Forney, and her goddaughter, told the New York Times. “Her houses were built from the inside out; she thought about how the people were to live. That was what was important to her.”
Resulting Hot Take: if there's a derelict heritage building that's giving people health problems, like 24 Sussex, then make a cute model and re-create it for VR, but it has to go. I'll make exceptions for well maintained historic castles and buildings that have seen continuous occupation where folks have "made it work".
Resulting Hot Take, I absolutely hate buildings that "look" "cool" and have interior spaces that are difficult to make use of, live in, maintain, or heat. My least favourites include ROM Crystal, and Seattle's EMP / museum of pop building. Actually, I dislike almost all Gehry's. Aside from them looking like that, they're dated the minute it s put on paper.
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Comment on What are your architectural hot takes? in ~design
chocobean Link ParentBig Bend reminded me of Universal Paper Clip, where the entire universe is destroyed in order to make paper clips because numbers to Brrr.Big Bend reminded me of Universal Paper Clip, where the entire universe is destroyed in order to make paper clips because numbers to Brrr.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
chocobean LinkFor folks who have been wondering how ordinary people would do in the Olympics, may I present, two Canadian friends try to try every Winter Olympic sport: CBC video, 3:36 Their message: I don't...For folks who have been wondering how ordinary people would do in the Olympics, may I present, two Canadian friends try to try every Winter Olympic sport:
Anne Lefebvre and Jenn Wroe are attempting to try every Winter Olympic sport they can before the games finish, hoping to inspire other women in their 50s.
Their message:
You belong there. You are good enough. It is never too late. It doesn't matter how you look. And it is always worth a try as long as you're having fun.
I don't have/want tiktok but please let me know if there's a clone out there that lets me watch their shorts -- @anneandjenn
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Comment on Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor arrested and in custody on suspicion of misconduct in public office in UK in ~news
chocobean Link ParentI think the terrifying thing about humanity is our capacity to be both good and bad, which mislead us to think we're surely not a bad person. Some of these people might do a lot of charity, and...If I were that rich I’d be supporting a ton of charitable organizations and trying to do good.
I think the terrifying thing about humanity is our capacity to be both good and bad, which mislead us to think we're surely not a bad person. Some of these people might do a lot of charity, and some might even have the capacity to care for those in their true inner circles. For their crimes, maybe they rationalize it: I know I do when I behave poorly so perhaps them too. Example, if someone were "purchasing" a person, they might rationalize it as, well it's only X amount of their time, and then I'm paying for them to have a "better" quality of life than they had already anyway. That's how abusive employers think, right, that at least I'm paying these shoe making children 5 cents a day, otherwise they would be starving instead.
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Comment on Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor arrested and in custody on suspicion of misconduct in public office in UK in ~news
chocobean Link Parentin Cantonese, our birthday song contains the lyrics "may every year have this day again, and may every age have this morn once more; congratulations, congratulations" -- seems fitting. I hope to...in Cantonese, our birthday song contains the lyrics "may every year have this day again, and may every age have this morn once more; congratulations, congratulations" -- seems fitting. I hope to see his sentencing this time again next year.
"Charles R."
that R is Rex isn't it, because Charles doesn't use the hyphenated last name.
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Comment on I hacked ChatGPT and Google's AI – and it only took twenty minutes in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentJust last week I met someone who doesn't trust any "big media" but trusts AI answers. So yes absolutely preaching to the choir here but ... there are people out where who still needs to hear it.Just last week I met someone who doesn't trust any "big media" but trusts AI answers. So yes absolutely preaching to the choir here but ... there are people out where who still needs to hear it.
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Comment on Sandwich bill of materials in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentI want to inspect these 6% of sandwiches with a lockfile This was my favourite bit:Post-incident analysis revealed that 94% of affected sandwiches had no lockfile and were resolving eggs to latest at assembly time.
I want to
eatinspect these 6% of sandwiches with a lockfileThis was my favourite bit:
CVE-2019-SPROUT: Alfalfa sprouts were found to be executing arbitrary bacteria in an unsandboxed environment. Severity: High. The vendor disputes this classification.
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Comment on The mega-rich are turning their mansions into impenetrable fortresses in ~finance
chocobean Link ParentThanks for chiming in! I'm somehow brand new to the idea that locks are rated by time -- which, one you have said it, makes total sense and is probably exactly what these buyers don't know either....Thanks for chiming in!
I'm somehow brand new to the idea that locks are rated by time -- which, one you have said it, makes total sense and is probably exactly what these buyers don't know either. We're all imagining some kind of magical undefeatable Enigma Box when in reality, like any castle, a sustained siege will win.
How come the government ones have less defeat resistance time compared to home, is it different metric measured by 1hr home invaders vs 20-30min state actors?
That makes me remember the one with the truck Kool-Aid Man -ing the bank wall over a long weekend: if there's no detection / alert / police for a whole day, even the best lock won't do anything
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Comment on Tesla 'Robotaxi' status check eight months in: a complete joke in ~transport
chocobean Link ParentYup, to your second point, there isn't enough information they're given out on what exactly happened and how serious or minor these incidents are. People in their cars, sharing the road, or just...Yup, to your second point, there isn't enough information they're given out on what exactly happened and how serious or minor these incidents are. People in their cars, sharing the road, or just outside a concrete building should not be subject to their human testing with results hidden
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Comment on Hot take: movies suck because there is no rental market in ~movies
chocobean Link ParentI miss those little hole in the wall places with niche anime titles.I miss those little hole in the wall places with niche anime titles.
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Comment on Tesla 'Robotaxi' status check eight months in: a complete joke in ~transport
chocobean LinkI'm glad it's a joke, otherwise it's a death trap. A safety monitor here is a human whose sole job is to monitor the vehicle and take over when the robot fails, not an electric sensor kind of...I'm glad it's a joke, otherwise it's a death trap.
Tesla’s own data reported to NHTSA confirms a crash rate roughly 9 times worse than human drivers, and that was with a trained safety monitor in the car.
A safety monitor here is a human whose sole job is to monitor the vehicle and take over when the robot fails, not an electric sensor kind of monitor. (Source link from inside link)
Nine crashes in approximately 500,000 miles: one crash every 55,000 miles. Human drivers average one police-reported crash every 500,000 miles. The incidents include driving on the wrong side of the road, hitting a cyclist, striking an animal at 27 mph, and requiring emergency intervention at a train crossing.
These are extremely serious incidents they're not being transparent about, and that's with a dude in the car.
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Comment on Tesla 'Robotaxi' status check eight months in: a complete joke in ~transport
chocobean Link ParentFeels kinda gross calling "CEO said a thing!" journalism, when it's just propaganda, capitalism's "Leader Says ---" to the communist Quotations From Mao or Xi Thoughts It makes much more sense if...Feels kinda gross calling "CEO said a thing!" journalism, when it's just propaganda, capitalism's "Leader Says ---" to the communist Quotations From Mao or Xi Thoughts
It makes much more sense if we stop wondering about why its news worth reporting, and just accept that because our society is bought by billionaire and they want us to personality worship them.
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Comment on Hot take: movies suck because there is no rental market in ~movies
chocobean LinkThat's an interesting take I have not heard before, and I look forward to other reasons people put forward. I'm so far removed from the movie market at this point I am only spectator mode; I used...That's an interesting take I have not heard before, and I look forward to other reasons people put forward. I'm so far removed from the movie market at this point I am only spectator mode; I used to watch movies in theatres a lot more as a younger person, and as someone who had much more spare time being outside and more time for in person friends.
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Comment on The mega-rich are turning their mansions into impenetrable fortresses in ~finance
chocobean Link ParentOh I see it now, my mistake, thank you for pointing it out :)Oh I see it now, my mistake, thank you for pointing it out :)
I've been thinking about that as well. Probably less to do with honour/solidarity/loyalty and more self protection. To send a public message that if you threaten us, we will make the country pay in tourism dollars.