chocobean's recent activity
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Comment on US President Donald Trump isn't building a ballroom in ~society
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
chocobean Link ParentTough times, buddy. Unfortunately, abuse affects how a person processes life sometimes permanently. Even if someone is okay 99% of the time, that 1% can pop up in unexpected ways, sometimes it can...Tough times, buddy.
Unfortunately, abuse affects how a person processes life sometimes permanently. Even if someone is okay 99% of the time, that 1% can pop up in unexpected ways, sometimes it can appear on a side of them that no one else outside can see. It can also claim more victims along the way.
Maybe if you get talking to your partner, you can start with sharing a dream that the relationship go back to when you first started. Perhaps they have a sort of all or nothing view of human relationships, that no matter how good something is, once there is a crack there's no way to fix it. It would make you feel vulnerable to share, but relationships are vulnerable human things....
We're here quietly supporting you either way.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft Weekly in ~games
chocobean Link Parent;_; i planted some flowers in their memory;_; i planted some flowers in their memory
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Comment on Dimension 20: Gladlands - "Welcome to the Wastes" in ~games.tabletop
chocobean LinkOscar! <3 Maybe....maybe his character can fall in love with one of Brennan's? Please?Oscar! <3
Maybe....maybe his character can fall in love with one of Brennan's? Please?
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft Weekly in ~games
chocobean Link ParentN00b stuff update #002 Starting the day in a block means mobs are spawned. Creeper blew up a bee :( I need to make a seperate hive somewhere far away as a backup hive maybe.... I also forgot to...N00b stuff update #002
Starting the day in a block means mobs are spawned. Creeper blew up a bee :( I need to make a seperate hive somewhere far
away as a backup hive maybe.... I also forgot to unblock the smokey campfire when collecting. An angry bee stung me, I hid in the water, chugged the honey, didn't die, but the bee did. :( RIP x 2Apparently, each hive can only accommodate three bees, and they don't auto re-gen/breed. Oops! I've stolen bees from the neighbour to my Southwest when I started this hive ....... Made it back over there with a bed, camped for a few days and re-bred them to full capacity.
Back at home, some very preliminary walls are in progress. Sort of wish I hadn't chosen a small mountain hut now: kinda hard to wall up. I can see it now, running and maybe fighting mobs and falling to my death right outside the house. Oh well at least I'd be able to reloot the corpse easily. That reminds me I should stash an extra set of sword/armour near the bed so I'm not totally defenseless upon respawn....
Started a very small wheat plot. At least I don't need to manually water crops! Not sure if bread is baked from the same stove / kiln / smelter or "crafted" on the bench. Guess I'll find out next day when I harvest.
White sheep didn't respawn nearby :(
Black and Grey are still here, and I'm building up a little bit of wool stock. The game is so generous that two wool units make 3 carpets lol in real life it's easily the reverse and would take forever. Funny how there are flying capes and diamond armours and the thing that makes me break suspension of disbelief is making wool rugs.
I'll have to venture out eventually, to look for more iron: the sheers are being used for both bee honeycomb harvesting and shearing and will wear out. I do have a whole mountain behind me... The Wiki says if I keep the corridors well lit and only two across it should be fairly safe. I do have a whole bunch of copper for basic armour. I'll only need 24 units of iron ingots for an upgrade, plus two more for shears. "How hard can it be" right?
played a long time today, blerh, so nauseous
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft Weekly in ~games
chocobean Link ParentThat sounds amazing. Imma sleep on a bed there and die a million times trying. [ √ ] Subscribe to your city update newsletterThat sounds amazing. Imma sleep on a bed there and die a million times trying.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft Weekly in ~games
chocobean Link ParentIt's some kind of giant racing track!? Death rally?It's some kind of giant racing track!? Death rally?
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentThat's true, I can imagine having a monetary exchange at all implies a very different kind of relationship, and can feel off putting, sort of like, "oh, I thought we were friends, but now I see...That's true, I can imagine having a monetary exchange at all implies a very different kind of relationship, and can feel off putting, sort of like, "oh, I thought we were friends, but now I see you only think of me this way :( "
I had a similar experience when I moved into Atlantic Canada. A neighbour has taught us how to go mackerel fishing, gave us metal fishing lures and helped us get all set up and gave us extra fish. I sent him a nice card and a small bit of cash, and he came back and felt almost insulted. In the end he accepted a small non monetary gift after much pushing.
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link Parentit was a major holiday you were a guest, on vacation they decided to party instead of doing something that originally would be their responsibility you're not from around and giftcards may not...- it was a major holiday
- you were a guest, on vacation
- they decided to party instead of doing something that originally would be their responsibility
- you're not from around and giftcards may not work back home
- person probably wouldn't have asked unless they had originally made other plans that fell through, they probably gave you the original cat sitter's fee
- you would have been perfectly fine to decline because you didn't feel comfortable or didn't want to feel responsible if something happened to the cute kitty, and host would have had to spend major money (and time!) getting last minute person to come
I'm sure it was sincere and not transactional at all, that it was an acknowledgement that you went very far out of your way, and that your time as a visitor is very valuable, and in your shoes, they would have felt slightly put upon. In North America, it's normal for companies to be paying extra for people to work during weekends and major holidays, and extra extra if it disrupts an existing scheduled time off.
As a fellow cat owner in North America, your help would have saved my holiday and I could feel my breathing get easier as I processed not having to find and pay for a last minute holiday sittier.
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentOnce, whilst visiting Alberta (nicknamed Canada's Texas North), I stood in line to order breakfast at a cafe, and the person behind me started talking. Just, straight into pleasantries to my back....Once, whilst visiting Alberta (nicknamed Canada's Texas North), I stood in line to order breakfast at a cafe, and the person behind me started talking. Just, straight into pleasantries to my back. I felt my poor little introverted heart sink, turned around with a forced smile, and conversed until I ordered and got the heck out of there. It was so awkward having to keep physically turning around to say "oh wow, you don't say, really, huh, how nice" and then turning back around to try to keep up with the line and figure out what I wanted to order and rehearse it quietly so I don't forget and make a fool of myself, making everyone else wait.
That's the other culture shock: people took their time there. It was considered perfectly normal to chatter the whole way to the front and then hold up a whole restaurant of people to chat with the clerk and then decide what you want.
At the same time, I would be considered too friendly and not efficient enough back home in Hong Kong. People would literally pass me on the sidewalk/escalator step and might give a sideways look that says "space out on your own time and get out of the dang way". I said thank you to bus drivers when I disembark and feel the stares. I was too intimidated to take a mini-bus, which requires you to shout your stop when you're close, otherwise driver blasts past without slowing. Apparently, I'm bad at taking a hint and reading the room and take what people say at face value: "let's have tea" means "I'm going to cut you off mid sentence now because I have to run".
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Linkmacaroni served with clear broth, with options of fried egg, hotdogs, ham slice, or (if feeling fancy) porkchops/grilled chicken/5mm thick steak. I've eaten any variations upon clear broth +...macaroni served with clear broth, with options of fried egg, hotdogs, ham slice, or (if feeling fancy) porkchops/grilled chicken/5mm thick steak.
I've eaten any variations upon clear broth + starch + protein my whole life and never thought it was weird, until Mr Chocobean came to HK with me. After spending a few weeks in my culture, Mr Chocobean was all kinds of culture shocked and wanted something familiar. I suggest macaroni for breakfast? He thought it was kind of weird to eat as breakfast but yes macaroni would be familiar so he came, chose his protein, and was actually pretty excited. Waiter casually dropped off two soup spoons. Soup spoons? Yeah, for your macaroni. More culture shock ensued. We went for actual Italian pasta later that afternoon.
Hot pots:
The first time I had sukiyaki was the first time I realised that hot pots could be beautifully presented: a perfect balance of colours and textures, that looked wholesome and nutritious, promising a responsible diet with a responsible quantity of food.
My first Taiwanese invididual hot pot was also a shock: you mean.... I can take my time and eat at my own pace and whatever I put in stays there until I've actually been able to eat a bite?
Don't get me wrong, I still love my Cantonese hotpot as a family meal, I love feeling like an absolute T-Rex one moment and overloading on greens the next, I love finding surprising ingredients I sure didn't put in but know goes well with the other surprises I fished out, and meals don't need to look good to taste good. But cultural diversity is a wonderful thing.
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentBushes feels more out of the way for everyone and less troublesome for sanitary workers, that's a win.Bushes feels more out of the way for everyone and less troublesome for sanitary workers, that's a win.
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Comment on Is there a way to donate or give unused ADHD medication to people in need? in ~health.mental
chocobean LinkPills don't lose efficacy that quickly, just go ahead and hold on to the extras for a while. If it makes you feel any better, they're like, $10/month for us up here so you're not really actually...Pills don't lose efficacy that quickly, just go ahead and hold on to the extras for a while.
If it makes you feel any better, they're like, $10/month for us up here so you're not really actually losing full "retail" value by surrendering them to the pharmacy, the profit's been made.
Unrelated, back when I was involved in IVF circles, people most definitely traded and gifted super expensive hormone injection medication. They met through forums and it's based on just trust and wishing the other people well. I'm sure theres no way to fully protect ourselves legally, but probably like how I gave away unpasteurized human milk: never mail it, gift in person, have them come pick up, sometimes they bring a small gift but nothing expensive, never exchange money, gift in very small quantities if I don't know them, and it's up to them to show me anything they want to show me like photos of them with their newborns or even prescription to the NICU milk bank.
tangent on NICU milk bank
Additional note: the local children hospital's NICU has an milk donation program too that does all he safety quality checks etc, but it was too expensive (time-wise) for me to participate, and likewise the checked/pasteurized milk is crazy expensive like $25 a meal or something like that, because of all the safety checks involved.But I understand how hard it is to finally get that prescription, and how expensive it will for someone else to try. Another ADHD thing to keep in mind is that it often runs in the family: how did your family take the news of your diagnosis and are any of them curious at all?
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Comment on K-pop drum duet between Japan and South Korea's leaders caps off summit talks in ~society
chocobean LinkWe did it -- we Macross'd/idol'd our way to peace Good job, Lee. Good job Takaichi. Now if all these other world leaders can sit their butts down and watch some quality anime, or at least give...We did it -- we Macross'd/idol'd our way to peace
"Even if our timing was slightly different, our intention to find the same rhythm was shared," he wrote. "In that same spirit, we will continue to build a future-oriented Korea–Japan relationship together, with one heart."
Good job, Lee. Good job Takaichi.
Now if all these other world leaders can sit their butts down and watch some quality anime, or at least give away to folks who do*, we'd all be much better off.
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Comment on There’s no such thing as a fake feather in ~hobbies
chocobean LinkFeathers are a beautiful small marvel. This was a fun little video and I'm glad something so mundane and cheap and widespread gets to be featured a little bit. How they pop out of a bird is...Feathers are a beautiful small marvel. This was a fun little video and I'm glad something so mundane and cheap and widespread gets to be featured a little bit. How they pop out of a bird is interesting too: they start as a tip of a shaft that is filled with blood, then less blood and kinda waxy, and then no blood and hollow and the waxy covering flakes off and voila! There's so much variation in how tough and smooth and watertight, or how soft and fluffy and light and warmth it can pack. So versatile in sizes and function and colour.
Makes our 3d printers and filaments look like crude garbage
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Comment on Iran’s supreme leader signals harsher crackdown as protest movement swells in ~society
chocobean Link Parent12000-20000 is an unimaginable number. Even 2000 in a week, of one's own citizens, is absolutely insane. The CBS says police are intimidating hospitals into giving them injured lists, for further...12000-20000 is an unimaginable number. Even 2000 in a week, of one's own citizens, is absolutely insane. The CBS says police are intimidating hospitals into giving them injured lists, for further retaliation. How can a government lock down an entire population forever?
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Comment on Iran’s supreme leader signals harsher crackdown as protest movement swells in ~society
chocobean Link ParentI hope he's okay. I hope everyone's okay. .... Everyone.I hope he's okay. I hope everyone's okay. .... Everyone.
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentThat's awesome your mutual friend said something!That's awesome your mutual friend said something!
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentMainland China: have they stopped spitting in public and stop holding up children to pee in public trash cans after COVID? Hong Kongers also drinks boiled water, even in the 30°C+ summer. Iced...Mainland China: have they stopped spitting in public and stop holding up children to pee in public trash cans after COVID?
Hong Kongers also drinks boiled water, even in the 30°C+ summer. Iced drinks cost extra for meals that come with a (hot) beverage.
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Comment on What's a culture shock that you experienced? in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentYou don't? Hmmmm okay yeah I don't understand eitherYou don't? Hmmmm okay yeah I don't understand either
Scary if true. The good thing though, is that he's old and unhealthy and has dementia, and that mega projects like this take a few years to build right? At the current recruitment rates they won't be able to have enough ice police to defend against a sustained protest, and the regular police, military and national guards are unlikely to live round against American citizens. Let's see if the mid terms are called off first before being too worried about this.
Honestly if it wasn't this admin, having sovereign cloud that's crazy safe isn't by itself a bad idea. Nimbus is only evil because it's being used for genocide, not for existing