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Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
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Comment on [SOLVED] Hunting for a movie in ~movies
chocobean Link Parentincredible. great job, Tildes community. I wonder if enough of us will hunt it down to watch that they have to explain a weird blip in the search algorithms. godspeed, vord's nipple.incredible. great job, Tildes community. I wonder if enough of us will hunt it down to watch that they have to explain a weird blip in the search algorithms. godspeed, vord's nipple.
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Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
chocobean Link Parent:) I would imagine it's rather hard to find a fellow sump enthusiast!:) I would imagine it's rather hard to find a fellow sump enthusiast!
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Comment on Small talk, ice breakers, lines in ~talk
chocobean LinkOff-topic: Bookmarking this for later this year. I, an introvert, work completely remotely, and only one coworker on my team sometimes chat on Teams casually with me. Other than that, it's work...Off-topic: Bookmarking this for later this year.
I, an introvert, work completely remotely, and only one coworker on my team sometimes chat on Teams casually with me. Other than that, it's work conversations only with a handful of people. I'll be pulled in for this year's Christmas party.... I hope it's okay to sit down, eat and leave. I dread walk around mingle time or expectations to (hold a non-alcoholic) drink / dance.
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Comment on White House website debuts five retro arcade video games that promote US President Donald Trump’s agenda in ~games
chocobean LinkBecause we have and they have not Because they want what we have got We have a wall to work upon We have work and they have none And our work is never done And the war is never won The enemy is...Because we have and they have not
Because they want what we have gotWe have a wall to work upon
We have work and they have noneAnd our work is never done
And the war is never wonThe enemy is poverty
And the wall keeps out the enemy
And we build the wall to keep us free
That’s why we build the wall
We build the wall to keep us free-- Hadestown, Why We Build The Wall
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Comment on What's a show you love that's from before your time? in ~tv
chocobean LinkPolice Squad! With the exclamation, starring Leslie Nielsen as Frank Drebin and Alan North. They got cancelled after only 6 episodes because they relied on a lot of visual humour that audiences...Police Squad! With the exclamation, starring Leslie Nielsen as Frank Drebin and Alan North. They got cancelled after only 6 episodes because they relied on a lot of visual humour that audiences just listening in didn't get. They did better with the film follow ups, The Naked Gun series.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentOh that note, once a friend or partner starts borrowing money from you that they cannot return unprompted within a very short time (~1 month), be prepared that they might ask again and again and...Oh that note, once a friend or partner starts borrowing money from you that they cannot return unprompted within a very short time (~1 month), be prepared that they might ask again and again and again, and unless you're okay with never being paid back, essentially that relationship is basically over.
Might, because sometimes people actually just plain forget. I've lent out a small sum the person has seemingly completely forgotten but they never asked again either so our friendship continues unimpeded.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentGood advice. Also works for relationship: sometimes, you can be right, or you can get along.Good advice.
Also works for relationship: sometimes, you can be right, or you can get along.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentUgh I'm too young for this comment to change my ways but I'm old enough to acknowledge its Truth. I'm just tired, boss. But I know without more maintenance it'll just create more problems that...Ugh I'm too young for this comment to change my ways but I'm old enough to acknowledge its Truth. I'm just tired, boss.
But I know without more maintenance it'll just create more problems that makes me even more worn out =..=
The good thing though is that when you don't let one slider go down too far into the red, a lot of it only needs a bit of nudging to stay in the green.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
chocobean Link ParentI saw that and thought it was such a cute story! I like that the photographer's father had a special connection to roadrunner + coyote as well :)I saw that and thought it was such a cute story! I like that the photographer's father had a special connection to roadrunner + coyote as well :)
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Comment on How do you find new anime to watch? in ~anime
chocobean LinkYouTuber Gigguk* puts out a season preview that's well edited and funny. My husband and I watch them and discuss which ones seem interesting to us, then we'll give the top contender an episode or...YouTuber Gigguk* puts out a season preview that's well edited and funny. My husband and I watch them and discuss which ones seem interesting to us, then we'll give the top contender an episode or two and see how we feel.
(Probably misspelled. My house is under huge storm and without power right now, I'll correct with link later)
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link Parent+1 set up credit card auto pay small recurring cost like cell phone. Try to get a bank account with decent overdraft protection to pay for it on a schedule.+1 set up credit card auto pay small recurring cost like cell phone. Try to get a bank account with decent overdraft protection to pay for it on a schedule.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentIt really sucks to have grown out of being so young people forgive us more for social faux pas we should have been able to pick up. But the good thing is that a lot of people grew up surrounded by...It really sucks to have grown out of being so young people forgive us more for social faux pas we should have been able to pick up. But the good thing is that a lot of people grew up surrounded by peers and the opposite sex, without picking up on basics either, or have to un-learn a whole suite of toxic behaviours. At least with the Internet we don't have to move house to a new village to start over if we super fumble things :)
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentYeah no shame in engaging on some level. Don't hurt yourself racing but being here isn't too bad, the money buys me nice things I'm still going to be a rat stuck here but I don't have to race. I...Yeah no shame in engaging on some level. Don't hurt yourself racing but being here isn't too bad, the money buys me nice things
I'm still going to be a rat stuck here but I don't have to race. I can meander and check out the different rooms. I can chat with a fellow rat. I can take my time slowly walking to the big cheese.
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentI still feel like a kid cosplaying as an adult :PI still feel like a kid cosplaying as an adult :P
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentHaha, I know what you mean: youth is wasted on the young. But..... I do also know that some of us have no way of obtaining good advice when we're ready and looking for them. I remember a subreddit...Haha, I know what you mean: youth is wasted on the young.
But..... I do also know that some of us have no way of obtaining good advice when we're ready and looking for them. I remember a subreddit that was something like, "dad/mom, how do I do XYZ?" for folks whose biological parents aren't around or don't give good advice.
For the rest like myself as an older person, these are good reminders of steps I've already taken, or that I can still make meaningful changes even now :)
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Comment on Adulting -- what advice or encouragement did you receive / wish you had received when you were just starting out moving out? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentGood one "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life." -- Jean-Luc Picard But the experience of having done all that prep, practice, and the actual...Good one
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life." -- Jean-Luc Picard
But the experience of having done all that prep, practice, and the actual attempt, can't be taken from us. It's even possible to re-use most of those for the next attempt that does succeed, or pass on the knowledge to someone else who will.
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Comment on Are there any witches on Tildes? in ~hobbies
chocobean Link ParentYeah I understand that feeling a tiny bit :) during my conversion, it was like a whole world out there opening up to me kind of "Woah". I was fortunate enough to find someone to talk to about it...Yeah I understand that feeling a tiny bit :) during my conversion, it was like a whole world out there opening up to me kind of "Woah". I was fortunate enough to find someone to talk to about it and they gave me some reading materials, a physical practice I can do every day and I think that practice side of thing was the most "orienting" : so much of growing up materialist and western means it's all in our heads and everything has to cognitively make sense first, with no follow up of what it means for our bodies. Intentional physical practice, spending intentional time doing a ritual with sight, sound, smell, taste and touch with careful steps, and following (loosely) a particular diet is a way of inheriting wisdom left by ancients who had previously walked this path. I also found the observing of recurring dates and seasons to be of benefit to me because I tend to "live in my head" too much.
I had a thought the other day, thinking about your request, that if you lived near a university or college campus there's sure to be a small community or at least someone who knows someone? Try posting on their public community boards (digital or analog) or going to their community fairs or club weeks, you might run into something.
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Comment on What made that wedding that you attended particularly memorable? in ~life
chocobean LinkClarification: I was close family but not part of the wedding party We had lunch together the day before and got to spend time hanging out. That was the best part. The couple had polorids and...Clarification: I was close family but not part of the wedding party
What made that wedding distinct from the others?
We had lunch together the day before and got to spend time hanging out. That was the best part.
What aspects of the wedding did you find thoughtful and memorable?
The couple had polorids and guests can take their own photos to keep as well as leave lots for the couple. Low waste favour is a win.
How did that wedding make you feel as a guest?
I'm just happy for the couple, not sure how else I feel really matters, honestly. It's their day
How do you want to feel as a guest at a wedding?
I'm not a big wedding ceremony / reception person. I want to spend time personally talking to the couple and connecting, learning about their new partner. If I could choose to buy them casual dinner with just them and then not being invited to a friend's wedding I would for sure choose dinner 100 times in a row.
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Comment on What made that wedding that you attended particularly memorable? in ~life
chocobean Link Parent+1 introvert wedding. Why can't we just chill and talk :/+1 introvert wedding. Why can't we just chill and talk :/
Can you recommend done videos or other media about the traditional garments worn by the referees, or the traditions around sumo?