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  1. Comment on What have you done to conquer your fear? in ~health.mental

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    What a wonderful celebration post!!! I'm very happy for you and your spouse, and very excited for the days ahead of all of you together! CPTSD is serious business and often I hear so so so many...

    What a wonderful celebration post!!! I'm very happy for you and your spouse, and very excited for the days ahead of all of you together!

    CPTSD is serious business and often I hear so so so many stories of struggle from those in the midst of the discovery and even recovery phase, but I don't often hear of people who have made it to the other side.

    Thank you for sharing your post. It's giving me a lot of new hope. Hope is scary....but it's also necessary to keep gritting my teeth and going on just a little longer.

    You must have a really great therapist :)

    Two requests: can you share some thoughts on how this journey has affected your marriage, and some thoughts on how to identify a good therapist?

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  2. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    Here's the problem with comparing Chinese things with American tech surveillance : when Americans get caught, there'll be trials, there'll be discovery, there'll be freedom of information and...

    Here's the problem with comparing Chinese things with American tech surveillance : when Americans get caught, there'll be trials, there'll be discovery, there'll be freedom of information and investigations and maybe heads will roll, and then maybe regulations with tighten and things might change. Or they won't. But the journalists working on the story don't have people knock on their parents' doors at 3am, they don't get "chats" from the company's Party division, they don't have the risk of being arrested for "making trouble". And the citizens being spied on can mostly go about their lives yelling obscenities at the president and saying whatever they want about their employers without repercussions.

    Even granted they're doing "exactly" the same things, how each State uses that information and what it means for the freedoms and safety of its civilians are drastically different.

    It's like saying every parent checks the report cards of their kids and obviously there's encouragement and discouragement. And then you find out one of them is beating the stuffing out of their kids for getting C's. It's not the same.

    Moreover, foreign interference is more dangerous than domestic misinformation campaigns.

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  3. Comment on Brussels is gambling that tariffs on Chinese EVs are a prod, not a punch in ~transport

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    Will agree with you that EU and basically the entire world had been happy to have their heads in the sand for the last 20 years. During the pandemic Canada suddenly discovered it couldn't even...

    Will agree with you that EU and basically the entire world had been happy to have their heads in the sand for the last 20 years. During the pandemic Canada suddenly discovered it couldn't even make masks, nor any of the medical stuff we need. Cars is just one of the myriad of things China can make better than the rest of the world because they've been the only ones making darn near anything.

    China HAS the capabilities to make the world's best medium and low tech everything because they've been doing it for the world's best companies for years.

    But do they always put in that level of effort?

    We will see. Out of curiosity I looked up a Top Gear review of the BYD Dolphin: many good things, should be fine for most city undemanding drivers like me. But also,

    The Dolphin seems to want to trade handling for ride, but the execution is poor. The dampers are supple, which helps comfort at low speed. But that lets it heave and float on an undulating surface, exaggerating your steering woes. Passengers might not care for it either, because it's a nauseous motion. But it'll at least deal with urban potholes and lumps without punishing you. [...]

    The Dolphin, like its natural namesake, is always whistling, tooting and making some sort of noise. The driver assistance systems are incredibly intrusive, maddeningly hard to switch off and not entirely gone when you do. We kept finding ourselves interrogating the screens trying to divine the source of one of several electronic warning hoots. It felt more perilous than a lack of interruption. Then there's the motorway wind noise. Not awful, but just another thing for the 'could do with improvement' laundry list.

    I have no doubt they will be popular. But we will see if they continue to be popular. I think there's a reason why Toyota's have such a robust used market and continue to have fans come back and buy new, whereas some other brands don't have that kind of longer standing reputation. They probably all contain a ton of Chinese parts, but there'll be a difference. Highly prejudicial for sure on my part, but we will see.

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  4. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    I do see what you mean, but capitalism is more like a bubble dome than actual weather. We can and should and do push against capitalistic oligarchies, and by doing so we can sometimes create...

    In a capitalist society getting angry at this is like getting angry at weather.

    I do see what you mean, but capitalism is more like a bubble dome than actual weather. We can and should and do push against capitalistic oligarchies, and by doing so we can sometimes create meaningful changes. Like labour unions, two day weekends, overtime pay, safety standards etc etc etc.

    We do see what you mean, we just don't think we should lay down and accept it without some push back

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  5. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    Exactly. The videos are a source of valuable training data for them. "They should be paying us"

    Exactly. The videos are a source of valuable training data for them. "They should be paying us"

  6. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    TikTok wasn't banned for being a competitor to YT though, but because ByteDance is run by a foreign hostile entity. They're using the app's algorithm to push misinformation and influence...

    TikTok wasn't banned for being a competitor to YT though, but because ByteDance is run by a foreign hostile entity. They're using the app's algorithm to push misinformation and influence democratic processes.

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  7. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    Bookmarking this for later. Thank you for these resources. Yay Canada! I guess I was too harsh on ourselves

    Bookmarking this for later. Thank you for these resources. Yay Canada! I guess I was too harsh on ourselves

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  8. Comment on Brussels is gambling that tariffs on Chinese EVs are a prod, not a punch in ~transport

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    Hahahahahahaha!! Well :D I'm not that worried about Chinese EVs for the long game. The dumping is worrying. What it will do for x-China manufacturing world wide, what it will do for investments...

    cheap, reliable vehicles

    Hahahahahahaha!! Well :D I'm not that worried about Chinese EVs for the long game.

    The dumping is worrying. What it will do for x-China manufacturing world wide, what it will do for investments and infrastructure and trade will have far reaching consequences for sure. This is a serious threat world wide if a manufacturing power house can just borrow out of thin air and turn around to dump goods to materialize into cash.

    But I'm not worried about each wave of actual physical wheels on the ground being a problem for other manufacturers. These were made as cheaply and as quickly as possible, by factories that know the goal is to dump them in other countries to trade for a cash strapped China. They're post debt balloon popping already. They've gone past collapse of their building craze. The only reason we don't see blood on the streets and bank runs is because the people can't. (Reuters:Chinese who lost money in bank fraud detained for months after protest - remember that having been in prison makes it very difficult to get and keep gainful employment within "the system", and basically guarantees you're financially destroyed for life.)

    These cars are going to be belly up before they hardly roll off the lot. The first waves of buyers will be very enthusiastic and then the reviews will come in, and I very much doubt there will be much demand for a second wave.

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  9. Comment on Where do you find community? in ~talk

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    Your post resonated with me deeply My family moved to rural Atlantic Canada during covid, and many many many other "come from away" families will report how difficult it is to fit in and how...

    Your post resonated with me deeply

    My family moved to rural Atlantic Canada during covid, and many many many other "come from away" families will report how difficult it is to fit in and how shallow and cold the relationship is with these very friendly people. Friendliness is a demeanor, not how they feel about you nor how meaningful that relationship is.

    But much of the problem at least for me is that I'm not looking for a community here nor for deeper friendships. I already have super good friends from highschool and my roster for "people I care that deeply about" is all full up. Trouble is that those people are all very busy and I moved to the opposite side of the continent. Geography and time are my biggest hurdles: I already feel like I'm not spending enough time getting deeper into those relationships.

    then the will to seek more relationships on top of that just isn't within me

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  10. Comment on Where do you find community? in ~talk

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    The pierogies thing is a sadly common trope in older ethnic communities, where their young people increasingly move away and grandkids maybe don't speak the language, and they get together once a...
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    The pierogies thing is a sadly common trope in older ethnic communities, where their young people increasingly move away and grandkids maybe don't speak the language, and they get together once a year to eat pierogies and showcase their culture to the wider community.....but with increasingly fewer and fewer volunteers among younger folks and will disappear within a couple more generations. See also Greek fest or Chinatown events: the average age is going steadily up and up.

    Thanks for asking and sorry for the verbal mess there....actually a neighborhood community is exactly what I mean. People aren't "gathering", they're already there. And they don't have a common "activity" they're doing, they're just doing regular life. But so many neighborhoods these days are full of folks who wave and nod but don't know your dog's name and don't invite you when their family has a party. That's not doing life that's having a locker next to yours.

    Sometimes hobby groups become a community: they're gathered for a common activity, but after they are "already" there, they start to do or plan regular life things together outside of the originally common hobby. Example, when a swimming group goes for lunch after the swimming session; when a faith group paint each other's houses; when classmates hang out all summer; when a knitting group do a cookie exchange.....

    I guess I wanted to distinguish between real communities as folks used to know them and the poor facsimile that a lot of people are sold these days. So many young parents take their kids to "community Santa day" or "Halloween party" or whatever and think their child is experiencing a community. Many adults go to work and have pleasant chats at work but don't actual hang out after work hours beyond once a month beer socials and think that's a community. They're not. They're targets for GoFundMe when crisis hits, not folks you can count on to house sit your dog or pick you up from 2 hrs away or help rebuild your shed. They're people you sell girl guide cookies to, not folks who will sit with your kid and listen for the 10th time before giving them advice about their break up.

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  11. Comment on Bro summer waits for us all in ~life

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    Wholesome :) I especially enjoyed the author's aim to "culturally appropriate their happiness". It's probably of ironically written, but it's actually quite true. My immediate culture around me...

    Wholesome :)

    I especially enjoyed the author's aim to "culturally appropriate their happiness". It's probably of ironically written, but it's actually quite true. My immediate culture around me isn't a culture of happiness: it's more of a FOMO, gotta hustle, climate doom, cynicism and anger towards the world type of culture.

    Maybe I can start ironically culturally appropriating happiness as well.

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  12. Comment on Where do you find community? in ~talk

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    I don't have one currently. The last time I did was before we moved away from our Church community. There were reasons and the move was good in other ways, but I lament the loss of that community...

    I don't have one currently. The last time I did was before we moved away from our Church community. There were reasons and the move was good in other ways, but I lament the loss of that community a lot.

    What I would call a community is one where folks with differences from three or more of these categories mingle: languages, backgrounds, age, views and family make ups. Where these groups get together regularly and be invested in each other's lives and do things they do NOT have common in, that's a community.

    Not a hobby group, not a volunteer group, not a class, not a protest group, not for Church, not for pierogies fest, and most definitely not work. If folks are only gathering because of ONE common reason that's not a community, that's just a hobby group. Some of the worst groups I've visited are the ones where folks have one common reason to gather and they think they're all that because of it.

    I suspect many people don't have one. And is it any wonder? Our parents likely all worked full time all the time. We spent the majority of the first 20ish years in school in arbitrarily segregated groups that rotate every hour and every year. After that we struggle with debt and homelessness and near starvation until we find a job and move to wherever that is. When we get laid off seasonally or when our health don't permit us to stay at the same job anymore we are back on the road. Our lives are a cycle of no meaningful free social time + being ripped away from family, friends and actual communities.

    Someone posted this and I finally read it today.

    Why are religious teens happier than their secular peers? -- Here’s what we can learn from the way faith communities stay rooted in the real world — and diminish the harms of the virtual one.

    I was also watching a documentary on kids living on garbage heaps and slums. One person commented, don't shed too many tears for them, save them for yourselves. This person visits the slums regularly because they've still got family there. They said, when they talk to the kids about the prevalence of depression, dysphoria, bullying, isolation, loneliness, hopelessness, eating disorders, self harm, suicide etc among kids in supposedly far wealthier nations, the kids in the slums are shocked. They shed tears for our youth, they are outraged, they asked how come the govt isn't doing anything and is there light at the tunnel for our youth to have a brighter future. Those kids in the short doc seem quite happy. They have friends and family and their personal stories are rooted in place and time with history and meaning for them.

    We've all got money now and we can afford fries chicken and sleep on nearly new mattresses without rats in the house, but our utter poverty is shocking.

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  13. Comment on YouTube tests harder-to-block server-side ad injection in videos in ~tech

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    I don't think paying for entertainment content is a terrible thing at all, especially if there's profit sharing happening with content creator. And I know it cost them a lot of money to run...

    I don't think paying for entertainment content is a terrible thing at all, especially if there's profit sharing happening with content creator. And I know it cost them a lot of money to run YouTube.

    What I dislike about YouTube, however is that they knew from the get go that it costs money, but they pressed on and on and on at a loss until they monopolized the landscape. Then they're using the monopoly to strong arm money.

    I just don't like this model of running business. It works and it has enabled a lot of content creators to make a living but it still sucks....I wish.....that our collective tax dollars could be used to fund publicly valuable content creators and to support local arts.....

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  14. Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime

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    Jellyfish Don't Swim In The Night If you liked Lycolis Recoil and or Bocchi the Rock, give Jellyfish Don't Swim In The Night a try: young people who may be discouraged by various life...

    Jellyfish Don't Swim In The Night

    If you liked Lycolis Recoil and or Bocchi the Rock, give Jellyfish Don't Swim In The Night a try: young people who may be discouraged by various life circumstances decide to be brave and give art a try because companionship makes you feel better.

    Delicious In Dungeon

    Greatly greatly enjoying Dungeon Meshi. It's funded by Netflix and the English dub is very good. If you're a fan of ProZD's silly skits, Sung Won Cho voices one of the main characters . (The original Japanese VAs are amazing as well obviously, but just throwing that in there for folks who prefer not having to read subs). Season finale this week, with extra manga that has great art to tide you over. Excellent story telling, characterization, and world building all around. Maybe not as gorgeous and beautifully meditative as Frieren, but I would say comparable in terms of excellence in what it sets out to do. It's a laugh a minute great time, every episode, in a fantasy setting that entirely respects Norse/Tolkien style aspects with the author having obviously put a lot of thought into it.

    If you ever thought about eating monsters in a dungeon, this is for you. If you recoil at the thought of even discussing the ethics behind eating demi-human species, this series is for you. If you are in for the laughs to see how they'd tackle various not edible monsters like [spoilers redacted], this series is for you.

    I haven't had this much fun in a fantasy series since Interspecies Review (highly not safe for work), which is also a high recommendation for me.

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  15. Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime

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    I'm also intimidated by its length and hiatus history. A friend of mine who's been following since day one has said though, that there are several story points where the whole thing can be...

    I'm also intimidated by its length and hiatus history. A friend of mine who's been following since day one has said though, that there are several story points where the whole thing can be considered to have wrapped up satisfactorily, so don't worry about the lack of final ending.

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  16. Comment on ‘It’s unbearable’: in ever-hotter US cities, air conditioning is no longer enough in ~enviro

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    And then in these neighbourhoods, often the result of racial discriminatory policies, in door heat deaths are already happening despite $800 electricity bills and ACs. It's insane to think about....

    Some experts have begun to warn of the looming threat of a “Heat Katrina” – a mass-casualty heat event. A study published last year that modeled heatwave-related blackouts in different cities showed that a two-day blackout in Phoenix could lead to the deaths of more than 12,000 people

    And then in these neighbourhoods, often the result of racial discriminatory policies, in door heat deaths are already happening despite $800 electricity bills and ACs. It's insane to think about. That first house they talked about where Ida stripped insulation in 2021, it sounds downright dangerous for residents.

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  17. Comment on Rapid UTI test that cuts detection time to forty-five minutes awarded Longitude prize – could herald sea change in antibiotic use by identifying correct treatments in ~health

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    Buddy of mine went through months of on and off again infection. Finally they treated my buddy's partner at the same time and that was that. It was being passed back and forth with the partner not...

    Buddy of mine went through months of on and off again infection. Finally they treated my buddy's partner at the same time and that was that. It was being passed back and forth with the partner not ever showing any symptoms.

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  18. Comment on Brussels is gambling that tariffs on Chinese EVs are a prod, not a punch in ~transport

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    So that's their solution to a problem that will do " clearly foreseeable and imminent injury to EU industry”? A "not prohibitively high" tarrif? It's a combo of the allure of cheap EVs and fear of...

    So that's their solution to a problem that will do " clearly foreseeable and imminent injury to EU industry”? A "not prohibitively high" tarrif?

    It's a combo of the allure of cheap EVs and fear of retaliation. This is going to blow up in their collective faces for decades to come.

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  19. Comment on Water is bursting from another abandoned West Texas oil well, continuing a troubling trend in ~enviro

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    And once again it's probably fracking. Heavy industry makes their quick bucks while regular ranchers are left with salted earth and clean up efforts dragging their feet.

    Dunlap suspects it may be related to the injection of fracking wastewater. West Texas oil producers pump millions of gallons of so-called produced water, laced with chemical lubricants and numerous hazardous compounds such as arsenic, bromide, strontium, mercury, barium, and organic compounds, particularly benzene, toluene, ethylbenzene and xylenes, underground every day for disposal, often into old oil and gas wells.

    And once again it's probably fracking. Heavy industry makes their quick bucks while regular ranchers are left with salted earth and clean up efforts dragging their feet.

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  20. Comment on Star botanist likely made up data about nutritional supplements, new probe finds in ~science

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    Oh yikes I was wondering how it went on for so long and how the initial UG investigation cleared this guy: Well there you go. Health and wellness is a multi billion dollar industry and this kind...

    Oh yikes

    I was wondering how it went on for so long and how the initial UG investigation cleared this guy:

    Thompson believes UG’s conflicts of interest—such as reputational and funding risks—skewed its initial assessment of Newmaster. That can feed public distrust of science, he adds. “We need to get universities out of the business of policing themselves.”

    Well there you go.

    Health and wellness is a multi billion dollar industry and this kind of scientific fraud is exactly why people keep turning to snake oil.

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