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Comment on Disney decides it hasn’t angered people enough, announces Disney+ price hikes in ~tv
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
chocobean LinkAISLE SPY : Mystery of wedding crasher who bride spotted lurking in her photos is finally solved four years later -- Michelle has now came face-to-face with the unknown guest Source: The Sun. Site...AISLE SPY : Mystery of wedding crasher who bride spotted lurking in her photos is finally solved four years later -- Michelle has now came face-to-face with the unknown guest Source: The Sun. Site has auto play video
Cute story, lovely photos, warm fuzzy ending
THE case of a mystery wedding crasher has finally been solved four years later. Michelle and John Wylie were stunned when they spotted a "random stranger" in photographs of their big day at the Carlton Hotel, in Prestwick, Ayrshire.
"Four years ago my partner was acting as bridesman for his friend Michaela's wedding and I'd been invited as his plus one. For some reason he told me it was at the Carlton hotel in Prestwick at 2pm when it was actually being held at the Great Western hotel in Ayr. He had already left in the morning to help with whatever it is bridesmen do and left me to make my own way to the wedding. I remember thinking to myself 'cool, this is obviously the right place'.
"I parked my car and rushed inside. I make my way into the hall and saw the groom standing and waiting nervously. I had never met Michaela's husband before so I thought 'alright, this must be Ben'." He said the fact he didn't recognise anyone "didn't raise alarm bells" because he assumed his partner would be with the bride in another room.
"Then the music started. Everyone stands up and turns around to watch the bride walk down the isle and 'OMG that's not Michaela!' I was at the wrong wedding!"
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Comment on Poor mental health linked to pregnancy and childbirth can affect women's health in the long term, Swedish study finds in ~life.women
chocobean Linkthe original headline sums it up a bit more clearly for me : "Risk of psychosis is higher in the weeks after childbirth, study finds" The only time in my life where I experienced symptoms remotely...the original headline sums it up a bit more clearly for me : "Risk of psychosis is higher in the weeks after childbirth, study finds"
the risk of psychosis is six to seven times higher in the first five weeks postpartum, and twice as high through week 20, the analysis found. [...]
Across the globe, about 10 per cent of pregnant women and 13 per cent of postpartum women have a mental disorder, usually depression, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).
The only time in my life where I experienced symptoms remotely resembling psychosis was during the period postpartum, and no wonder: the stakes are never higher where casual daily tasks become life or death, I've never been as sleep deprived, and whatever I do there's a chance I'm messing up someone's life and just "not good enough". All while my body is performing all kinds of insane feats for the 50th+ week in a row.
Anyway, obvious research is still good research. People don't believe collections of individual pains, policies only change when there's statistics. I hope this lead to many changes and much good.
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Comment on Former FBI Director James Comey has been indicted by a federal grand jury, an extraordinary escalation in US President Donald Trump’s effort to prosecute his political enemies in ~society
chocobean LinkI don't like what Comey did about Clinton, I blame him for being part of how we got here, and I want him to feel regretful for his actions, but I dont want anyone going to jail on Trump charges....I don't like what Comey did about Clinton, I blame him for being part of how we got here, and I want him to feel regretful for his actions, but I dont want anyone going to jail on Trump charges. This isn't justice, and on that ground I refuse to cheer for erosion of democracy.
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Comment on Announcing the seventh annual Tildes' Make Something Month (Timasomo)! in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentCongratulations on your pending elopement, and looking forward to seeing your nails!!Congratulations on your pending elopement, and looking forward to seeing your nails!!
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Comment on Disney decides it hasn’t angered people enough, announces Disney+ price hikes in ~tv
chocobean Link ParentSeems fair exchange when mega Corps and governments do the same shell game on us for lack of accountability and environmental clean upsSeems fair exchange when mega Corps and governments do the same shell game on us for lack of accountability and environmental clean ups
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Comment on Disney decides it hasn’t angered people enough, announces Disney+ price hikes in ~tv
chocobean Link ParentOr the price increase is a yearly program by a different team, so as long as there isn't a from the top directive they were going to do this, regardless of current events. Or, that's what they'll...Or the price increase is a yearly program by a different team, so as long as there isn't a from the top directive they were going to do this, regardless of current events. Or, that's what they'll say and gives them room for less of an increase this year to show contrition
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Comment on Disney decides it hasn’t angered people enough, announces Disney+ price hikes in ~tv
chocobean LinkThat they're increasing prices every single year is already gutsy enough. With people thoroughly sick of Marvel, and a year of Agent Orange and economic uncertainty they're not skipping the hike...That they're increasing prices every single year is already gutsy enough. With people thoroughly sick of Marvel, and a year of Agent Orange and economic uncertainty they're not skipping the hike this year?
Disney doesn't have backing from Carr, who, since last week, has denied threatening ABC's broadcasting licenses over Kimmel's statements. This week, he aimed to direct all blame for Kimmel being pulled on Disney, saying, "Disney on its own made the business decision not to have him air..."
Serves them right for pre-emptively kowtowing to power
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Comment on Announcing the seventh annual Tildes' Make Something Month (Timasomo)! in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentThat's impressive and I love the variation between human beings :) I have a small collection (<200) of the same songs by maybe not even a dozen artists I've been listening to for decades, but not...That's impressive and I love the variation between human beings :) I have a small collection (<200) of the same songs by maybe not even a dozen artists I've been listening to for decades, but not near as many hours in total, because my brain sort of turns off background music if I'm playing a game or working or in conversation with people . Driving on highway is okay, but not if there's city traffic. There's only 1 country lane of bandwidth. So the only music that comes through is when I'm sitting down with dedicated music time.
listened to a very small smattering of Anthem and a few of your choices for upcoming #14 Scags' Bones, I might be set for music for the rest of my life. Thanks for sharing and looking forward to your Timasomo.
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Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentI'll keep that in mind when that's a bridge I need to cross. The monthly and static nature of it is valuable for sure.I'll keep that in mind when that's a bridge I need to cross. The monthly and static nature of it is valuable for sure.
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Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentHey maybe printed, non-interactive teen/lads/young adult media will make a come back :)Hey maybe printed, non-interactive teen/lads/young adult media will make a come back :)
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Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime
chocobean Link ParentTwo praises for City in two comments?! My job here is done :D For folks who haven't tried it yet here are some YouTube clips: A wholesome and sweet social growth and awareness moment Big feelings...Two praises for City in two comments?! My job here is done :D
For folks who haven't tried it yet here are some YouTube clips:
A wholesome and sweet social growth and awareness moment
But the people in the show overall are completely unhinged
The show ia available from Amazon Prime with good English dub, as well as the high seas
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Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentThanks, MimicSquid. Did you, in fact, read the articles? :) just kidding. I very much enjoyed my Maxim subscription for the jokes, and good art reference.Thanks, MimicSquid.
Did you, in fact, read the articles? :) just kidding. I very much enjoyed my Maxim subscription for the jokes, and good art reference.
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Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentYeah, I hear you on the overall social responsibility side of it for kids whose parents are not helping them / hurting them. I don't know what would help, because it's not like liquor, cigarettes...Yeah, I hear you on the overall social responsibility side of it for kids whose parents are not helping them / hurting them. I don't know what would help, because it's not like liquor, cigarettes and gambling "hey this is bad for you here's a phone line to call for help" really helps does it? Or maybe it does, very little, but it's worth it to make the money makers pay? I hope we as a society move away from shaming, but at the same time I don't want to see normalising addictions and going into extremes without safety guardrails either.
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Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men
chocobean Link ParentI'm of the opinion that it is being taught, but it's being taught by women /not-Buff Scammers, so lessons in compassion and all those good things becomes further signs of danger ensnared men need...I'm of the opinion that it is being taught, but it's being taught by women /not-Buff Scammers, so lessons in compassion and all those good things becomes further signs of danger ensnared men need to run away from. It's like luring a child: "everyone is going to tell you you're too young, but what we have is special and I know you're special and old enough, so you need to self isolate and throw away all those other sources that tell you good things and come only with me. You will see how
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Comment on The Buff Scammer, isolation, and the male loneliness epidemic in ~life.men
chocobean Link ParentThis gives me hope that as the 90s-00s kids either grow old enough to find healing, self compassion and companionship, or (I hope absolutely none of them) die alone, the homophobia dies with that...This gives me hope that as the 90s-00s kids either grow old enough to find healing, self compassion and companionship, or (I hope absolutely none of them) die alone, the homophobia dies with that generation.
That entire generation's [faith group redacted] Parents stripped away anything good and human out of being a boy/man because "it's gay": sleep, good food, friendship, sunshine, swimming, animals, music, dance, art, literature, charity, community, pets, love, family, heck even caring about the women you're having sex with was gay. That generation grew up with the Doom Guy brand of masculinity: Angry Silent Man Kills World as the only possibly not gay shape for a man to be, a violent loner who destroys and is feared.
I don't know what we can do for that generation. But i have hope for the kids in this one, that when they get tired of the Buff Scammer and look up anything under the heavens that is of interest to them, they'll find a niche group who also loves that thing and won't call them slurs for loving it.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (September 2025) in ~health.mental
chocobean LinkIm in the midst of working with a professional on some heavy lifting mental health thing this week, so I'll talk about a small trivial thing instead. Slime Rancher 2 has just announced their full...Im in the midst of working with a professional on some heavy lifting mental health thing this week, so I'll talk about a small trivial thing instead.
Slime Rancher 2 has just announced their full version 1.0 release. It looks so friggin cute, but it makes me sad that my brain is broken and won't allow me to play even 15 minutes of first person 3D games without feeling violently nauseous for hours.
Like FerretLoss meme'd, I'm just tired, boss.
I remember a long period of my life when I didn't have any anxieties / worries or simply too much to deal with, and I wonder if they stage of life is forever behind me.
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Comment on How to stop seeking validation? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentI like this. I think this kind of internal pride and esteem can be fostered from outside of hobby scope as well. Example of a micro project: make a very healthy and beautiful meal and eat it by...I like this. I think this kind of internal pride and esteem can be fostered from outside of hobby scope as well.
Example of a micro project: make a very healthy and beautiful meal and eat it by yourself without taking photos and without talking about it to anyone.
Another: do an act of charity, but "do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret"
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Comment on I tried to protect my kids from the internet. Here’s what happened. in ~tech
chocobean Link ParentI'm of the school of parenting to encourage teaching remediation over that of prohibition or consequences. In the example of child luring, sexual exploitation and trafficking, I teach that I...- Exemplary
I'm of the school of parenting to encourage teaching remediation over that of prohibition or consequences.
In the example of child luring, sexual exploitation and trafficking, I teach that I myself wasn't a very well behaved child. When I broke certain rules, such as accepting private chat from an unknown person, and was met with some natural consequences (eg they were a pedophile), I had nowhere to turn because if I told my parents they would just be furious and enact further restrictions. So, with my own child, I always teach that whatever consequences you might see from us will always be more loving, less harsh, and safer than trying to hide or deal with it on your own. Say someone made a sexual deepfake of you from a perfectly innocent photo: it's okay we'll get law enforcement involved, you're not in trouble, even if the person tries to convince you you are, you're not. It doesn't matter "what you were wearing", if you know what I mean, we got your back.
Now, it does mean I am entrusted to do some very awkward things, like having to find manga / light novels that make me blush. But I am happy to provide this semi filtering service in exchange for them not trying to find it on the open web themselves.
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Comment on Huntington's disease successfully treated for first time in ~health
chocobean Link ParentYeah I hope the first prevention trial is a success! With my limited understanding of how this works, the people already have this gene and the cells pre-emptively making this microRNA should work...Yeah I hope the first prevention trial is a success! With my limited understanding of how this works, the people already have this gene and the cells pre-emptively making this microRNA should work right?
I'm also very happy to hear of the precedence, of national health care paying for haemophilia B. gene therapy, so good chance this one will be covered too. It's good for the nation: a few million £ is cheap compared to what a healthy citizen can contribute to during their lifetime, the amount saved from medical care in the system, saved from various specialists, as well as the loss productivity from family having to care for the person.
you've convinced me never to use the term in business speak again. I'll switch to mega / complex / interdependent / web of / system of systems etc. We've only got the one ecosystem, and it doesn't get enough attention as it is, without being raided for meaning by money talk.