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Comment on What game are you terrible at? in ~games
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Comment on Autistic/Neurodivergent/"just stubborn" members: how did you [happily] learn to do something you couldn't just instantly do? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentI'm slowly ruminating over all the responses here but I just wanted to jump in yours quickly to say, nope what you said makes perfect sense and on topic, and how to balance "apply push" vs letting...I'm slowly ruminating over all the responses here but I just wanted to jump in yours quickly to say, nope what you said makes perfect sense and on topic, and how to balance "apply push" vs letting things drift is the tricky space I'm trying to navigate.
trust me I'm not exagerating
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Some action are so expensive as to be near impossible
This is the hard truth. It's possible to, under enough pressure, to do a thing that costs so much it breaks a person. That's not the same as "being able to".
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Comment on Hayden Panettiere dies at 36 in ~movies
chocobean LinkClaire Bear, no! ;_; It's so sad to read about someone so young and struggled for so many years. That her mother seemed to have been very bad for her as one of those awful child actor parent...Claire Bear, no! ;_;
It's so sad to read about someone so young and struggled for so many years. That her mother seemed to have been very bad for her as one of those awful child actor parent types. tw abuse. (Variety)
Her brother, Jansen Panettiere, died suddenly in February 2023 from cardiomegaly (enlarged heart) coupled with aortic valve complications, his family said in a statement at the time. He was 28.
Just..... Sad. So young.
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Comment on Autistic/Neurodivergent/"just stubborn" members: how did you [happily] learn to do something you couldn't just instantly do? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentOoooh spite!! It's like the dark cousin of happy skill acquisition!! >:D I love this I guess I was wary of those kinds of autism training things that try to force someone to becoming "not autistic...Ooooh spite!! It's like the dark cousin of happy skill acquisition!! >:D I love this
I guess I was wary of those kinds of autism training things that try to force someone to becoming "not autistic anymore" but yes absolutely, self motivating "I'll show 'em!" School of learning
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Comment on Autistic/Neurodivergent/"just stubborn" members: how did you [happily] learn to do something you couldn't just instantly do? in ~life
chocobean Link ParentI, myself, definitely suffer from the on/off switch problem of interest ---> ability. Wouldn't it be great if we could harness it in a direction of our choosing? :) thanks for sharing your perspectiveI, myself, definitely suffer from the on/off switch problem of interest ---> ability. Wouldn't it be great if we could harness it in a direction of our choosing? :) thanks for sharing your perspective
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Comment on I'm not ready to let this place go in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentHitting ignore on this one post was a free action. You can be blunt, but that's still a pretty hurtful thing to say to someone who's feeling distressed by something you're not distressed about. I...Hitting ignore on this one post was a free action. You can be blunt, but that's still a pretty hurtful thing to say to someone who's feeling distressed by something you're not distressed about. I don't think that's what you'd want to hear when you're distressed, to "just chill tf out."
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Autistic/Neurodivergent/"just stubborn" members: how did you [happily] learn to do something you couldn't just instantly do?
I know each person is different and if there's one autistic person's experience that's one person's experience. I'm aiming to spread a wide net here and gather stories to see the diverse range....
I know each person is different and if there's one autistic person's experience that's one person's experience. I'm aiming to spread a wide net here and gather stories to see the diverse range. What I'm looking for is something beyond the "well, you just do it / you start with small steps" experience: assume one can't.
Second hand accounts welcome if you know someone who has difficulties they were able to overcome.
I was talking to someone who could visualize something with microscopic clarity in their mind and that's why they couldn't draw, because any approximation, no matter how close, is not 100%, and that produces enough internal suffering that the task can't be done.
That the sentence "if it's good enough it's good enough" is nearly offensive and also nonsensical: there is the perfect and then there is failure which causes suffering, nothing exists in the middle.
So I'm curious: as an individual, do you have difficulty with .....
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breaking down a complex task into smaller achievable tasks?
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competing very simple tasks that have been broken down for you that leads to that complex task, whether because it's trivial or because now you're being told or some other hurdle?
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mentally being okay with practice / rudimentary exercises because it's not the whole completed perfect thing?
How did you learn to do something that requires practice [from you] to become good at? Do you tend to over rely then on skills that came "for free" to you? If you can see yourself getting better with practice doing that free talent, and you have a hard time learning a new thing that you couldn't also instantly do, why does the experience of improvement from one area doesn't translate into feelings of possibility that it could apply to another?
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Comment on I'm not ready to let this place go in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentEven intentional same-time voice chats probably go a long way towards remembering the human behind the text, I think. At least that's my thoughts as I live 3.5 hours away from the closest city.Even intentional same-time voice
videochats probably go a long way towards remembering the human behind the text, I think. At least that's my thoughts as I live 3.5 hours away from the closest city. -
Comment on I'm not ready to let this place go in ~tildes
chocobean Link Parent:3 thank you and same to you. I've seen so many older usernames pop up in the last few days. We all love the community here. I hope they come back or at least continue to lurk among us. I think...:3 thank you and same to you. I've seen so many older usernames pop up in the last few days. We all love the community here. I hope they come back or at least continue to lurk among us.
I think essentially the struggle we have here is one that's common to all human relationships and communities and not going to be solved by tech.
That each of our viewpoint on a subject is like different little geometrical shapes where sometimes we slide smoothly against each other, and other times we overlap and poke pointy angles against another's smooth round side. Tech can seperate us so that only tileable shapes can interact. But then we'd lose so much. Not to mention there are no two person exactly the same: I might be a triangle politically, but a heptagon when it comes to the environment
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Comment on I'm not ready to let this place go in ~tildes
chocobean LinkHey Delphi I'm one of those members with the downer comments this week. I'm sorry, to you and everyone affected by the overall mood I have contributed to. I'm not trying to be negative, and I have...Hey Delphi
I'm one of those members with the downer comments this week. I'm sorry, to you and everyone affected by the overall mood I have contributed to. I'm not trying to be negative, and I have absolutely no complaints about how Deimos has been running things, nor am I clamoring for enshittifying or radically changing how things work: I've made downer comments because I don't know how to deal with my emotions about seeing members fighting, seeing people leave, the big announcement, and then the news (to me) that code pull requests have not been accepted, and new users not getting invite codes. I don't know how else to interpret the tea leaves other than "I am taking up space/time/money/energy and maybe it's better if I leave".
I'm not ready to go either. This is my home.
One thing I hadn't considered, that Deimos said in a recent comment, is how much work answering request emails had become due to LLM and bad faith actors. Perhaps it's not that we're closing the doors, it's that it's being more closely monitored in tough times. (I would like clarification on this point but that's just me being needy )
There was also an old regular who was banned and apparently still causing problems: thing is, as a guest here having a good time, I really have no idea how much work is being done, if Deimos is tired of it all, the struggles of thankless work not just keeping the lights on but keeping the community safe , plus being blamed for everything.
Deimos has been very behind the scenes this whole time. I hope he has an alt that we interact with more often and that he gets to enjoy the community as well.
Want to stay together, Delphi? Maybe we could shift our thinking a little as well and consider each other not as users (users want the record to be correct or for others to be in agreement with on everything), but as actual friends: in real life, sometimes friendship means putting up with each other on a touchy subject , or deciding to not ruffle feathers today because we know they're going through a hard time. We won't tolerate outright hate, but maybe I can do a better job of celebrating differences. I could always be curious rather than judgemental, but I also need to remember to be more " please ignore if this is costing you energy ".
Sorry for the rambling
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Comment on Is there any interest in building a Tildes successor? in ~tildes
chocobean Link ParentThanks for clarifying, Deimos. You do so much behind the scenes I've taken it all for granted as "stuff just works" . Forgotten that since LLM nonsense became mainstream you must've been having a...Thanks for clarifying, Deimos. You do so much behind the scenes I've taken it all for granted as "stuff just works" . Forgotten that since LLM nonsense became mainstream you must've been having a much harder time with it all.
Will also admit that I was feeling all kinds of emotional and unsure how to express shock about the idea that perhaps you've decided not to open for any more invites.
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Comment on How often are you eating plant based meals? in ~food
chocobean Link ParentWomen live longer and if we listened to women more often we'd all live longer..... (Rephrase as if we listen to other people more we'd all live longer if that feels exclusionary)because my mom nagged me into it
Women live longer and if we listened to women more often we'd all live longer.....
(Rephrase as if we listen to other people more we'd all live longer if that feels exclusionary)
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Comment on Is there any interest in building a Tildes successor? in ~tildes
chocobean LinkApologies, I for one, would not be interested in rebuilding some sort of social media site especially from scratch. And especially one where media is hosted internally or has less focus on text...Apologies, I for one, would not be interested in rebuilding some sort of social media site especially from scratch. And especially one where media is hosted internally or has less focus on text based discussions. There are already plenty of alternatives. I am partial to @creesch 's list of ye old forum boards structure, complete with user icons and signatures.
Like I said, I've enjoyed my time here very, very much, and the best thing about Tildes is the people. I'm actually quite content with the benovelent dictator model .... But perhaps skew slightly towards small committee of elders with one chosen as "first among equals".....
If we all want to stay and chat, I'm sad that we're apparently not welcoming more people: new accounts (at least as of Dec 2025) apparently do not receive invites anymore.
But I understand there's a cost to everything and would not want to place additional burden of time and energy on Deimos. It would only be on that thankful and "but I'm not ready to stop partying" basis that I would entertain any discussion on "should we leave".
I am most likely to dual-participate if @Bauke and @Talklittle want to maintain + add to a tildes branch.
Other than that, if Deimos wants to re-open invites or allow further collaboration from others, I'll be staying here.
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Comment on Any significant changes to Tildes are extremely unlikely in ~tildes.official
chocobean Link ParentI'm uncomfortable with inviting more users if that's not what Deimos wants. The invites mechanism was something intentionally put in, worked for years, and then intentionally and quietly turned...I'm uncomfortable with inviting more users if that's not what Deimos wants. The invites mechanism was something intentionally put in, worked for years, and then intentionally and quietly turned off. I've enjoyed being here very, very much, but it feels entitled of me to add to a burden someone no longer wants.
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Comment on Waving goodbye, carrying my bundle on a stick in ~talk
chocobean Link ParentThanks for putting it succinctly. I've been feeling like that for the last couple of days. Additionally, I don't want to take up any more time or money from someone who might be ready to move on.Thanks for putting it succinctly. I've been feeling like that for the last couple of days. Additionally, I don't want to take up any more time or money from someone who might be ready to move on.
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Comment on Any significant changes to Tildes are extremely unlikely in ~tildes.official
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Comment on Any significant changes to Tildes are extremely unlikely in ~tildes.official
chocobean Link ParentI just wanted to cut in here: @lostwax observed that no new invite codes are issues since joining and emailing for codes no longer works. I've verified with someone I invited back in December...I just wanted to cut in here:
@lostwax observed that no new invite codes are issues since joining and emailing for codes no longer works.
I've verified with someone I invited back in December 2025: they do not have any invite codes.
It used to be that newer folks get invite codes after a short time. If emailing no longer works, and newer users don't get any more....
Then basically we've been invited to someone's house party, it's been really great, but the host has decided it's late and he's going to bed, help yourself to the remaining snacks, there wont be any more pizzas ordered, don't let anyone else in and last person please turn off the lights and lock the door on your way out.
I thought perhaps you and @talklittle should know.
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Comment on Any significant changes to Tildes are extremely unlikely in ~tildes.official
chocobean Link ParentHey, welcome. May I ask the Avenue of how you joined the site? I know Cfabbro checks a Reddit thread, and older users can send invites. Just wonderingHey, welcome.
May I ask the Avenue of how you joined the site? I know Cfabbro checks a Reddit thread, and older users can send invites. Just wondering
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Comment on Clothing, how did they make it? Part I: high fiber. in ~life.style
chocobean LinkEmphasis theirs. So much history focus on processes and on the wrong people, this is different in a welcome way. (This isn't USA focused, because this focuses on Mediterranean history.)As with our series on farming and iron, we are going to follow the sequence of production from the growing of fibers all the way to the finished object, with a focus not merely on the methods of production but also on the people doing the producing at each stage of production.
Emphasis theirs. So much history focus on processes and on the wrong people, this is different in a welcome way.
I am going to narrow things down further, by focusing on just two major fibers: wool and flax (which makes linen) and thus mostly focus on how this worked in the Mediterranean, broadly construed (so the Near East, North Africa and Europe).
(This isn't USA focused, because this focuses on Mediterranean history.)
Any non-rhythm games that require timing or accuracy or quick response.
So, Minecraft is too hard for me :| even discounting the nausea from first / third person games.
Basically, all of them. Some games are forgiving enough that I can farm until I'm nearly invincible in order to get through the challenges. Classic arcades I can push through with emulators (unlimited tokens + heavy save state scumming) . Guess I should be thankful rhythm games are fine as long as they don't throw in another layer of challenge like Crypt of the Necromancer/ Necrodancer