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Comment on What am I supposed to say to my coworker who says that there has basically been no impact from USAID being cut because "the black lady...the nurse at the health place" said so? in ~talk
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentEvery third Friday off sounds fun :) My company does a thing where if there's a stat holiday Monday, the previous Friday in the office morale/focus/attendance is pretty low, so they bring in a...Every third Friday off sounds fun :)
My company does a thing where if there's a stat holiday Monday, the previous Friday in the office morale/focus/attendance is pretty low, so they bring in a free ice cream truck or free catered lunch or something fun. And little random things like that around other stay holidays.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentAbsolutely that should be your example. Filling out your own tracking sheet for the personal wins, answering emails, documentation etc, these solo activity time can be booked off as Focus time...Absolutely that should be your example.
Filling out your own tracking sheet for the personal wins, answering emails, documentation etc, these solo activity time can be booked off as Focus time without interruptions. Have focus days.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentEngineers like you are worth several times the price of others, and good companies would know / care / make sure you feel appreciated. I know the job market is terrible right now but since you...Engineers like you are worth several times the price of others, and good companies would know / care / make sure you feel appreciated.
I know the job market is terrible right now but since you already have a job, do you feel like looking just for fun / to let off some steam?
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentWhat if....on a hiking day you "had meetings" for the day except for open office hours between X and Y you can check at the parking lot / after you came home?What if....on a hiking day you "had meetings" for the day except for open office hours between X and Y you can check at the parking lot / after you came home?
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentSame, doing nothing is my favourite activity. I found that I also greatly enjoy fishing, because (1) there's free food at the end (2) I'm surrounded by sea birds, the occasional seal, and...Same, doing nothing is my favourite activity.
I found that I also greatly enjoy fishing, because (1) there's free food at the end (2) I'm surrounded by sea birds, the occasional seal, and beautiful scenery with sea breeze, and (3) it's moderate exercise (if I'm using the bigger rod) or doing nothing at all (if I'm using the smaller rod or just staring at minnows / crabs) . It's got just an excellent do nothing to do something ratio it's fantastic.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentYeah that sounds frustrating. If I were in your shoes I would be blindsided too, and I'll start to work the metrics he cares about and quietly ramp down the ones he doesn't care about.Yeah that sounds frustrating. If I were in your shoes I would be blindsided too, and I'll start to work the metrics he cares about and quietly ramp down the ones he doesn't care about.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean (edited )Link ParentCurious what's it like for you. Not all north american companies are like this, of course. Even OP was able to book time off freely for years without problems until today and was surprised. It...Curious what's it like for you.
Not all north american companies are like this, of course. Even OP was able to book time off freely for years without problems until today and was surprised. It could even be just his manager in a mood.
Some of us have enough flex that we don't even bother booking time off for doctor: just mark it unavailable on the meeting calendar, catch up when back at desk. Some of us have, in addition to time for vacation, seperate bunch of days for bereavement, family support, mental health, or just "flex" days for just because.
(Edit: typo)
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean Link ParentThat sounds like something you can work on a little a a time, maybe with a life coach or therapist, because it's good to have rest and an identity outsider of work routine, for when you're between...That sounds like something you can work on a little a a time, maybe with a life coach or therapist, because it's good to have rest and an identity outsider of work routine, for when you're between jobs or when you retire.
Most people from my parents generation never develop themselves aside from work 24/7/365. It becomes much more painful later in life.
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Comment on Reminder to myself that my employer does not give a shit about me in ~life
chocobean LinkThe only position that isn't replaceable is with our families. The only deadline that can't be missed is time spent with our loved ones before they're too old to anymore.The only position that isn't replaceable is with our families. The only deadline that can't be missed is time spent with our loved ones before they're too old to anymore.
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Comment on Any reccomendations for a ~2 day itenirary in Toronto in ~travel
chocobean Link ParentCasa Loma is a 1900s modern rich guy's house and not historic like actual castles. It's also fairly out of the way from downtown, so factor in transportation costs + eating away from downtown in...Casa Loma is a 1900s modern rich guy's house and not historic like actual castles. It's also fairly out of the way from downtown, so factor in transportation costs + eating away from downtown in addition to the ~$60 per person admission fee.
Maybe go see the Grange building while you're at the AGO, and Campbell House Museum for beautiful Georgian architecture downtown.
Check to see if the Toronto Opera Company has a Free Concert while you are there. A much more laid back casual dress, but no less professional and talented musical experience than the full size Toronto Symphony Orchestra experience. I liked the intimacy and approachable Q&A afterwards.
Edit: maybe don't wear yourselves out at the zoo then, it's a big long walk esp in the summer, when you've got a week with friends. Also since you're going to Montreal save the fancy food budget for there, eat good cheap food in Toronto like any of the independent ramen shops.
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Comment on Any reccomendations for a ~2 day itenirary in Toronto in ~travel
chocobean LinkWhat kind of things do you guys like? Hockey Hall of Fame good place for fans yes. You guys like hockey, can always try to catch a game even if it's not NHL. My favourite places in Toronto were...What kind of things do you guys like? Hockey Hall of Fame good place for fans yes. You guys like hockey, can always try to catch a game even if it's not NHL.
My favourite places in Toronto were the Zoo, the Royal Ontario Museum, and Art Gallery of Ontario, which is doing a Yayoi Kazuma right now, if you were fans of Team Lab in Tokyo kind of Instagramable experience.
Food ....... Nothing really stood out as must have, need to travel to eat type of thing. There are lots of good options so plan your itinerary first and I'm sure folks will chime in with suggestions around the attraction.
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Comment on Why anime is on the rise even though the industry is so poor in ~anime
chocobean Link ParentAgreed, some absolutely unhinged weird ideas are made every season, a lot of them adapted from smaller light novels, like "My Ribdiculous Reincarnation" where the protagonist reincarnated into a...Agreed, some absolutely unhinged weird ideas are made every season, a lot of them adapted from smaller light novels, like "My Ribdiculous Reincarnation" where the protagonist reincarnated into a rib, a door, a tiny hermit crab, a dungeon torch, and a bunch of other dumb things.
I'm also happy to see industry jugganaut Cygames continuing to investing in very original ideas using their Umamusume money: Brave Bang Bravern¹, Apocalypse Hotel, and adapting the World Is Dancing this season beautifully.
I don't like that the industry tend to eat young people's dreams....but yeah, anime is so much cheaper to produce than Blockbusters or even straight to Netflix streaming movies with stars.
1 last time I tried to recommend Brave Bang Bravern I was told not to bury the lede and to mention It's Top Gun x Independence Day x Gundam with homoeroticism dialed up to 13
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Comment on An update in ~health.mental
chocobean LinkBuddy that's .... That's a horrifying turn :'( I'm so glad you are getting legal counsel. And that you are able to have some other involved humans to talk to. Your child will come around. People...Buddy that's .... That's a horrifying turn :'(
I'm so glad you are getting legal counsel. And that you are able to have some other involved humans to talk to.
Your child will come around. People like that eventually wear out their facades and your kid will know you were always there for them.
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Comment on What pre-NES games do you still recommend today? in ~games
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Comment on What pre-NES games do you still recommend today? in ~games
chocobean Link ParentOh wow no I've not played Gal Pani X , assuming it also has naked people in this one? That's amazing someone on Tildes is an expert on the game :D I'm looking up Gals Street right now (edit) and...Oh wow no I've not played Gal Pani X , assuming it also has naked people in this one?
That's amazing someone on Tildes is an expert on the game :D I'm looking up Gals Street right now (edit) and not finding anything . How can I play this, hopefully on an emulator?
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Comment on What’s a must-buy item you get when traveling internationally? in ~travel
chocobean Link ParentYes I was also thinking of Rudyard Kipling. His Just So stories are also funYes I was also thinking of Rudyard Kipling. His Just So stories are also fun
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Comment on What pre-NES games do you still recommend today? in ~games
chocobean Link ParentI'm a big fan of the mechanics of QIX (wiki). The 1990 GAL Panic is just a thoroughly better update with much better graphics and smoother game play, BUT with the unfortunate drawback of being an...I'm a big fan of the mechanics of QIX (wiki). The 1990 GAL Panic is just a thoroughly better update with much better graphics and smoother game play, BUT with the unfortunate drawback of being an Eroge. In 2022, atari made a brand new but looks like 1980 Qyx -- why. Make it look like Lumines or something maybe?
If anyone knows of a Gal Panic style Qix that looks great without it being an Eroge please let me know. Maybe I'll have to make my own.....
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Comment on Survey: The temperature in my room now is _____ and it feels _____ in ~talk
chocobean Link Parent:| how ..... Cool does it get in winter there?:| how ..... Cool does it get in winter there?
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Comment on Regarding travel agency exoticca.com in ~travel
chocobean LinkSix months ping: how'd the trip go ? Did you get the travel agency thing dealt with?Six months ping: how'd the trip go ? Did you get the travel agency thing dealt with?
Frankly, I'm very confused by people like this. Most of the time I don't try anymore because I'm exhausted. But sometimes it's worth it.
For me, the litmus test for "should I bother" is when I invite them to things that would be uncomfortable for their world view, do they spend time and come with me.
I had a roommate who, when we were young adults, took the "challenge" and visited a sex shop. Sex positivity and homosexuality are completely counter to how she grew up. She came out of the shop slightly green and in her own words, felt nauseous. But she did it, and she had some slightly different thoughts about sexuality and our faith later in the year. I was happy for her when she decided to leave her highschool sweetheart even though culturally there was a huge push to "stick with her first man" etc.
My mom was very staunchly non-catholic, but when I eventually converted to Orthodoxy she took the time to not only hear me out, but would have wanted to attend my kid's Orthodox baptism.
Another friend is on the opposite end of the political spectrum from me, but came with me to a Hong Konger (anti police and govt) protest, among many things that challenges them, over the years.
If he's willing to at least have a discussion in good faith about sources of trustworthy information, maybe start there. Or attend a physical event where he gets to hear about USAID helping people, and meet recipients.