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Comment on Will Smith slaps Chris Rock on the stage of The Oscars in ~tv
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Comment on Will Smith slaps Chris Rock on the stage of The Oscars in ~tv
Eylrid Link ParentA number of celebrities have done extreme things with no dent in their career.At the end of the day here, the biggest thing happened is that Will Smith just blew up his celebrity status.
A number of celebrities have done extreme things with no dent in their career.
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Comment on How would a world without borders look like? Would you want it? If so, what would be the steps to make it work? in ~talk
Eylrid LinkNational borders exist for the same reason that Tildes is invite only: Fear that outsiders will invade and undermine the local culture.National borders exist for the same reason that Tildes is invite only: Fear that outsiders will invade and undermine the local culture.
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Comment on Oglers, repeated glancers, gazers - Stories and opinions in ~talk
Eylrid Link ParentI'm so sorry you went through/go through that. That's awful.I'm so sorry you went through/go through that. That's awful.
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Comment on Oglers, repeated glancers, gazers - Stories and opinions in ~talk
Eylrid Link ParentI think it's worth considering why staring feels uncomfortable in the first place. The reasons I can think of all boil down to security, or lack thereof*. We're afraid of what people will do...I think it's worth considering why staring feels uncomfortable in the first place. The reasons I can think of all boil down to security, or lack thereof*. We're afraid of what people will do because of what they see, which could be anything from being dismissive/rude to full assault, depending on the circumstances and people involved.
When we feel safe and secure we don't mind people looking. Hence public speaking and performance being okay: It's a controlled environment. Or the saying "Dance like no one's watching." They're still watching, it just doesn't matter.
So my question is what can we do to make other people feel more safe and secure?
(*It's hard to use the word "insecurity" here without the connotations of it being a flaw on the part of the person feeling insecure, which I don't intend.)
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Comment on Frustration with TMDb's exclusion of independent filmmakers in ~movies
Eylrid LinkI think IMDb has the right approach. The only bar seems to be that someone cares enough about the video to add it. They have a ton of obscure videos, including a number of youtube videos. A...I think IMDb has the right approach. The only bar seems to be that someone cares enough about the video to add it. They have a ton of obscure videos, including a number of youtube videos. A handful of Joel Haver's videos are on there. The vast majority of youtube videos aren't on IMDb because why bother putting them there. The obscure videos don't in any way get in the way of finding information about the popular movies.
The line between amateur home videos and professional films is getting blurry. There are a number of youtube videos that have way more views than many of the independent films shown at festivals will ever get. The production values of some youtube videos is really good, well above what anyone sensible would call amateur.
If they must have a hard cutoff, maybe the appropriate thing to do would be to set either a minimum number of views, or a minimum revenue.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~talk
Eylrid Link ParentRelated: Penn Jillette Alice / Lewis CarrollRelated:
If you say one thing and do another you double your chances of me agreeing with you.
- Penn Jillette
I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it.
- Alice / Lewis Carroll
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~lgbt
Eylrid Link ParentYou have blown my mind! Gender as a language is such a good way to look at it. I would give you an exemplary label if I hadn't just used one. (So many good comments in this thread!) Tomorrow when...You have blown my mind! Gender as a language is such a good way to look at it. I would give you an exemplary label if I hadn't just used one. (So many good comments in this thread!) Tomorrow when I have another one to give you're getting it.
Also, how much of all this is innate versus how much of that is societal is hard to disentangle, and in many ways I feel like I can't isolate either.
If gender is a language then it's impossible to disentangle personal from societal. Language is how we express ourselves, but it's also inherently tied to society. Even one way communication is a two party affair. It depends on the speaker and the audience (and their idea of each other). It changes based on who we are talking to, including when we are talking to ourselves.
I deeply relate to your story about being seen in what appeared to be a dress. I tried wearing skirts and I was deeply uncomfortable wearing them. I have a purse and I'm completely comfortable carrying it anywhere I go. So some traditionally feminine expression I'm okay with, but not a skirt. Thinking about it as language I think the difference is that the skirt feels loud while the purse feels like a firm but quiet statement. I don't like being loud.
A way I've started thinking about this is a separate spectrum that goes from "gender fulfillment" to "gender abstention".
I agree with what you said about this. For some people gender is an important part of how they see and present themselves and others want gender to just leave them alone already, with people everywhere between those extremes.
I would say that the same can be applied to sexual orientation, as well, with a spectrum from "orientation fulfillment" to "orientation abstention". By orientation abstention I don't mean ace or aro. People who are aro/ace can just as strongly identify with that as allosexuals do with their orientation, and get fulfillment out of identifying that way. I'm talking about people that don't strongly identify with an orientation.
I'm on that abstention end of orientation. I don't strongly identify as hetero, homo, bi, or pan. Nor do I really identify with ace or aro. I have tried many times to put labels on myself and they never stick.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~lgbt
Eylrid Link ParentI want to get to the point where I'm gender agnostic/apathetic. Society and the ideas ingrained in my head make it hard. Religiously, I'm an apatheist. I don't consider myself an agnostic because...I want to get to the point where I'm gender agnostic/apathetic. Society and the ideas ingrained in my head make it hard.
Religiously, I'm an apatheist. I don't consider myself an agnostic because I'm certain there's no higher power (at least not one that matches anything humans have thought up). But I'm at a point where I kind of don't care. I don't need to spend any energy considering the question anymore. To get to this point I had to go through a period where I thought a lot about it and cared very much.
I want to get to a point where I feel about gender the same way I currently feel about religion: That I don't care and I don't think about it. But I'm not there yet.
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Comment on Bitcoins - can't it only go down from here? in ~talk
Eylrid Link ParentThere are 100 million satoshis per bitcoin. You can't send a fraction of a satoshi. (The software records amounts as an integer number of satoshis.)1 BTC has a million satoshis and you can send half, quarter or even a tenth satoshi to someone if you want to!
There are 100 million satoshis per bitcoin. You can't send a fraction of a satoshi. (The software records amounts as an integer number of satoshis.)
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Comment on Bitcoins - can't it only go down from here? in ~talk
Eylrid Link ParentTulips are still a major part of Holland's economy. So yes, tulip prices did stabilize, albeit well below the manic prices of the bubble.Did that work during the tulip bubble?
Tulips are still a major part of Holland's economy. So yes, tulip prices did stabilize, albeit well below the manic prices of the bubble.
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Comment on Blocking users in ~tildes
Eylrid Link ParentIf you want to properly criticize something you need to know the full picture. If you don't understand why people value NFTs you can't effectively argue against them. You end up fighting straw...If you want to properly criticize something you need to know the full picture. If you don't understand why people value NFTs you can't effectively argue against them. You end up fighting straw men.
"If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” - Sun Tzu
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Comment on Walking away from Omelas - Lindsay Ellis says goodbye in ~life
Eylrid Link ParentSocial attacks are vigilante justice. The problem with vigilantes is that they don't take the time to figure out whether someone actually deserves punishment. The line between someone who is...No matter who you are, thousands, tens of thousands, or even hundreds of thousands of people either picking you apart or supporting those that do will fuck you up. In the rare cases where it's deserved (the Harvey Weinsteins of the world), social accountability has done its job where other societal measures for accountability have failed. Unfortunately, I'd argue that most cases of distributed harassment are undeserved, because even if what the target did wasn't okay, the social response is usually highly asymmetric in scope, completely dwarfing the original "misdeed".
Social attacks are vigilante justice. The problem with vigilantes is that they don't take the time to figure out whether someone actually deserves punishment. The line between someone who is guilty and someone who seems guilty can be incredibly blurry, even for highly organized court systems. Someone who gets a 280 character snapshot of a situation before passing judgement doesn't have a chance of getting it right.
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Comment on Walking away from Omelas - Lindsay Ellis says goodbye in ~life
Eylrid Link ParentI read it a couple days ago, but I feel kind of conflicted after the fact. She posted it to a limited audience and I can see why. The people paying her deserve to know why she's quitting. But,...I read it a couple days ago, but I feel kind of conflicted after the fact. She posted it to a limited audience and I can see why. The people paying her deserve to know why she's quitting. But, given what she's going through, I can't blame her for not releasing it to the wider world.
It seems ethically dubious to take content from a Patreon only post and publish it publicly.
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Comment on Walking away from Omelas - Lindsay Ellis says goodbye in ~life
Eylrid Link ParentThey can be. There were angry mobs long before the internet was a thing. See for example the French Revolution and the Reign of Terror. Or school kids ostracizing fellow students for any perceived...People are not this bloodthirsty on their own.
They can be. There were angry mobs long before the internet was a thing. See for example the French Revolution and the Reign of Terror. Or school kids ostracizing fellow students for any perceived social blunder. Social media sites amplify and capitalize on it, but they are playing on impulses that are already there.
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Comment on ‘Cowboy Bebop’ canceled by Netflix after one season in ~tv
Eylrid Link ParentThis is wandering off into the weeds, but the difference in business models may make a difference here. Broadcast tv makes money off of advertising which is tied directly to viewership. But...This is wandering off into the weeds, but the difference in business models may make a difference here. Broadcast tv makes money off of advertising which is tied directly to viewership. But Netflix makes its money off of monthly subscribers, regardless of how much they watch, as long as they sign up and stay subscribed. If I were Netflix I would be looking at what new users watch, to see what attracted them to sign up, and what content is a good predictor of staying subscribed.
A show that doesn't get a lot of watch time, but has a high rate of keeping those who watch it around may be more worth it than something that everyone watches but no one thinks twice about when deciding to cancel.
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Comment on ‘Cowboy Bebop’ canceled by Netflix after one season in ~tv
Eylrid Link ParentI agree with u/vegai's edit. The beginning of Breaking Bad is good and the last season is some of the best tv ever made, but there is a part in the middle that drags a little. Those middle seasons...I agree with u/vegai's edit. The beginning of Breaking Bad is good and the last season is some of the best tv ever made, but there is a part in the middle that drags a little. Those middle seasons could have been condensed a little more. They aren't bad, per se, just a little slow.
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Comment on ‘Big’ data can be 99.98% smaller than it appears in ~science
Eylrid Link ParentIt reminds me of the story about how the US Air Force tried to design seats for their jets by taking an average across pilots for each measurement. They ended up making a seat that no one fit in...It reminds me of the story about how the US Air Force tried to design seats for their jets by taking an average across pilots for each measurement. They ended up making a seat that no one fit in comfortably. That failure led to adjustable seats.
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Comment on Here's why movie dialogue has gotten more difficult to understand (and three ways to fix it) in ~movies
Eylrid Link ParentShadow has a lot of contrast, which makes it visually interesting even without much color. It harkens back to old black and white movies where contrast in brightness was all they had so they...Shadow has a lot of contrast, which makes it visually interesting even without much color. It harkens back to old black and white movies where contrast in brightness was all they had so they really played it up.
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Comment on Rocket Lab unveils Neutron Rocket design in ~space
Eylrid LinkNotable features: Reusable first stage Light weight second stage encapsulated in the fairing Fairing segments stay attached to first stage and return to be reused Designed for return to launch...Notable features:
- Reusable first stage
- Light weight second stage encapsulated in the fairing
- Fairing segments stay attached to first stage and return to be reused
- Designed for return to launch site
- Carbon composite
- 8 tons to LEO with recovery
- 15 tons to LEO expendable
I generally don't condone using physical violence as a response to verbal insults. That said, Chris Rock made a joke about a part of Jada Pinkett Smith's body that she has struggled with. Will Smith acted in her defense. Yes, he could have handled it differently, but I still applaud him for standing up to Chris Rock. Our society needs more men that stand up to other men for being assholes to women.