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  1. Comment on Trump hopes country will be reopened by Easter amid outbreak in ~health.coronavirus

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    Thanks Deimos, sorry about the poor source. I'll steer clear of that site from here on out

    Thanks Deimos, sorry about the poor source. I'll steer clear of that site from here on out

    10 votes
  2. Comment on Trump hopes country will be reopened by Easter amid outbreak in ~health.coronavirus

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    #GeneralStrike is now trending on twitter. There is a lot of talk from people saying they refuse to die for the wealth of others.

    #GeneralStrike is now trending on twitter. There is a lot of talk from people saying they refuse to die for the wealth of others.

    18 votes
  3. Comment on Sixteen and evangelical in ~life

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    That was a powerful article that I can relate to. My time in evangelical youth group was long after the authors', but I still had a very similar experience. This article was authentic without...

    That was a powerful article that I can relate to. My time in evangelical youth group was long after the authors', but I still had a very similar experience.

    This article was authentic without being patronizing. It was honest in a way that allows people to draw their own conclusion.s

    5 votes
  4. Comment on And They Wished to Never Wake Up in ~creative

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    I love it. It's wonderful how much feeling you are able to communicate in such a short piece, which is the mark of a good writer. This was beautifully and very poetically written.

    I love it. It's wonderful how much feeling you are able to communicate in such a short piece, which is the mark of a good writer. This was beautifully and very poetically written.

    4 votes
  5. Comment on How the working-class life is killing Americans, in charts in ~life

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    I can verify this article. I went from blue collar to four year degree and an office job and my quality of life is better in very dramatic ways. I remember when I started my first warehouse job....

    I can verify this article. I went from blue collar to four year degree and an office job and my quality of life is better in very dramatic ways.

    I remember when I started my first warehouse job. It was depression central. Everyone hated the job and their life. And it spread like a disease too. I barely made it through the summer and I knew I had to guess out of there for the same if my mental health.

    9 votes
  6. Comment on Walmart's $250 laptop review in ~tech

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    Was it a thumb or finger trackball? If it was a finger trackball you might give the thumb ones a try. I think they are easier to get used to.

    Was it a thumb or finger trackball? If it was a finger trackball you might give the thumb ones a try. I think they are easier to get used to.

    1 vote
  7. Comment on Walmart's $250 laptop review in ~tech

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    If you want something external that works well in tight spaces then a trackball would be your best friend.

    If you want something external that works well in tight spaces then a trackball would be your best friend.

    1 vote
  8. Comment on A letter to other parents in ~life

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    I agree that the lack of understanding is a huge issue. Even people's common language reflects this ignorance. For example I'll often hear someone say "He's so antisocial" in reference to one not...

    I agree that the lack of understanding is a huge issue. Even people's common language reflects this ignorance. For example I'll often hear someone say "He's so antisocial" in reference to one not wanting to socialize. Antisocial has nothing to do with avoiding people, it's one of the steps before the full blown sociopath diagnosis. Extreme avoidance of people would be closer to schizoid disorder, but, you also hear people calling someone a schizoid when they are "acting crazy", which has nothing to do with schizoid disorder.

    These may sound like small things, but collectively they have a big impact. I want to point them out when I hear these terms used incorrectly but I think I just come off as pedantic when I do.

    Thankfully mine and my wife's immediate family have been pretty understanding (at least to the best of their ability) about everything. It is hard for people to understand without the proper education, and that's just not common. I think public schools should include more detailed information about mental health in their physical education classes. That could be a real game changer given enough time

    2 votes
  9. Comment on A letter to other parents in ~life

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    Thanks very much for the encouragement! The kids have a great therapist that they now see weekly, and they are both working really hard on everything. I know given enough time things will get...

    Thanks very much for the encouragement! The kids have a great therapist that they now see weekly, and they are both working really hard on everything. I know given enough time things will get better.

    I appreciate your validation that we're not "hovering" in this case. Few people understand the complexities of fostering so we tend to catch some judgement from family/other parents.

    Thanks again for taking the time to respond with kindness.

    6 votes
  10. Comment on A letter to other parents in ~life

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    Confession time: I wish I didn't have to hover. I'm sometimes envious of parents that don't have to do that. My wife and I are foster parents to two wonderful boys (ages 4 and 5) and we have to...

    Confession time:
    I wish I didn't have to hover. I'm sometimes envious of parents that don't have to do that.

    My wife and I are foster parents to two wonderful boys (ages 4 and 5) and we have to have eyes on them every second that they're not asleep. They came from a home with extreme sexual abuse that went on for years. If we turn our heads for even a second they try to act out sexually towards each other. It's so bad that we had to put cameras in the house so my wife can see them in the living room while she's in the kitchen or bathroom when home alone with them. It's exhausting.

    For a while we could send each of them to their own rooms to play for short periods of time, which was a nice break for us. Unfortunately that's no longer an option because two weeks ago one of them attempted to start a fire in his room with the electric outlet. We know it wasn't an accident as he clearly told us "I wanted the house to burn down and everyone to die".

    We are desperate for a break for us to take care of ourselves but with their extreme supervision needs and the nature of their behaviors (people get freaked out by sexual behaviors in kids) it's hard to find someone willing to watch them that we also trust.

    Sorry for the long comment, I'm honestly feeling a bit emotionally drained by everything at the moment.

    10 votes
  11. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I just played "When The Darkness Comes". The creator of the game calls it an "experience" rather than a game since it's basically a walking sim with minimal interactivity. It was amazing. The game...

    I just played "When The Darkness Comes". The creator of the game calls it an "experience" rather than a game since it's basically a walking sim with minimal interactivity.

    It was amazing. The game is an artistic expression of the authors struggle with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. It was beautiful and dark at the same time, and just really well done. Experience really is the best way to describe it, as it doesn't have much of a concrete story or game play mechanics, but still kept my attention with ease.

    It was deeply impactful and I would encourage anyone who can handle these kind of themes to pick up this free and short game on Steam. The game has a trigger warning that should be taken seriously as it deals with themes of suicide.

    3 votes
  12. Comment on How hard will the robots make us work? In warehouses, call centers, and other sectors, intelligent machines are managing humans, and they’re making work more stressful, grueling, and dangerous in ~tech

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    This problem existed way before the whole A.I fear train left the station. I worked at a warehouse in 2013 that had rate. The scanners we used were from the 2005-ish era. Rate was hell, you'd...

    This problem existed way before the whole A.I fear train left the station. I worked at a warehouse in 2013 that had rate. The scanners we used were from the 2005-ish era. Rate was hell, you'd absolutely get fired for not keeping up.

    My point is that this problem isn't caused by A.I. it's a human problem that has been around since the industrial age. Using tech as a scapegoat obfuscates the real issue.

    7 votes
  13. Comment on Are you giving up anything for Lent? in ~talk

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    Haha, I decided today to give up Reddit too! Most of the content on Reddit is the mental equivalent of junk food anyways. I'm hoping to focus in on Bible reading and prayer instead, which is a lot...

    Haha, I decided today to give up Reddit too! Most of the content on Reddit is the mental equivalent of junk food anyways. I'm hoping to focus in on Bible reading and prayer instead, which is a lot healthier than reddits endless scroll.

    3 votes
  14. Comment on Opinion: The unspoken truth about managing geeks in ~comp

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    I definitely felt like there was an attempt to try and justify some bad behaviors by the author. It was bordering on 10x engineer territory. I posted it because I did feel like some of the points...

    I definitely felt like there was an attempt to try and justify some bad behaviors by the author. It was bordering on 10x engineer territory. I posted it because I did feel like some of the points the author makes about how IT is treated have some merit, and I thought it would make for interesting discussion here.

    5 votes
  15. Comment on Dis.cool is creating profiles of Discord users who have never signed up for their service and they are refusing to delete them. in ~tech

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    I didn't realize Tildes had a discord server. Is it invite only? I'd be interested in joining.

    I didn't realize Tildes had a discord server. Is it invite only? I'd be interested in joining.

    3 votes
  16. Comment on The Sandman comic series has probably been the strongest influence on my life in recent times. Does this resonate? in ~books

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    Thanks for that review. It has been a few years since I read it, and I was also pretty young so it may have gone a little over my head. That definitely sounds awful.

    Thanks for that review. It has been a few years since I read it, and I was also pretty young so it may have gone a little over my head. That definitely sounds awful.

    3 votes
  17. Comment on The Sandman comic series has probably been the strongest influence on my life in recent times. Does this resonate? in ~books

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    Wait did he rape her? I thought they were consensual lovers. Am I remembering wrong or did I miss that somehow?

    Wait did he rape her? I thought they were consensual lovers. Am I remembering wrong or did I miss that somehow?

    1 vote