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Comment on Apple says Patreon creators must switch to subscription billing in ~tech
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Comment on USB-C PD all the things! in ~tech
JXM Link ParentYeah, adding $12 to every single charger is a bit pricey when you’re trying to USB all the things.Yeah, adding $12 to every single charger is a bit pricey when you’re trying to USB all the things.
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Comment on I let my wife have an affair. Do I have to console her now that it’s over? in ~life
JXM (edited )LinkI’ll add a perspective that I don’t think anyone else here has brought. I’ve been in this situation before. My wife and I love one another very much. After some bedroom fantasy talk, we discussed...I’ll add a perspective that I don’t think anyone else here has brought. I’ve been in this situation before. My wife and I love one another very much. After some bedroom fantasy talk, we discussed her seeing other people for real and both agreed to it. She’s been seeing him for a year. It’s purely a sexual relationship and there hasn’t been one moment where I have felt threatened or upset. In fact, our relationship is even stronger now that we both know we can have fun with other people and the other person can handle it.
In reading this person’s letter, it sure sounds like they only agreed to it in the first place because they didn’t want to lose their wife.
Over the past year, she had an affair, and I knew about it from the beginning. She said that she needed it, that it gave her vitality, that she enjoyed a sexual freedom she had longed for and that she felt it was wrong to do this in secret and without my consent. I agreed; what she said made sense to me, and she convincingly assured me this was no threat to our relationship. At the same time, I always suffered when she was away with her affair partner and could not find a way to take this easily.
Again, it sounds like he really didn’t want this in the first place. And then didn’t speak up when he felt uncomfortable about the whole thing. That’s the issue here. If he didn’t feel comfortable or confident enough to speak up, that’s a shame and whatever underlying issue causes that needs to be addressed. Especially before agreeing to something like this. Easier said than done, I know.
As to whether he is right to not want to console his wife? That’s his choice to make. I think he’s perfectly within his rights to say, “look, I can’t help you with this. Can you talk to your best friend or something?” BUT, he also has to accept that by doing that, he could end up just pushing his wife further away. She may (probably will) react negatively…I know I would be upset if I was her.
The whole situation just sounds like a case where two people just want different things in life and maybe they aren’t as compatible as they thought.
I am happy to share my perspective more if people have questions.
But @DefinitelyNotAFae is right, these people need therapy ASAP if they want to salvage their relationship.
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Comment on Apple says Patreon creators must switch to subscription billing in ~tech
JXM Link(This is all from a U.S.-based perspective; I know there are other places like the EU where it’s slightly less terrible) Honestly, it’s not surprising that Apple is trying again. I understand why...(This is all from a U.S.-based perspective; I know there are other places like the EU where it’s slightly less terrible)
Honestly, it’s not surprising that Apple is trying again. I understand why Apple feels they are entitled to 30% of anyone who touches an iPhone’s money (they’re wrong and they aren’t), but they are just burning so much good will in their quest to increase that all important services revenue.
I know regular, non-tech people who complain that things are more expensive on the App Store. And quite a few who go out of their way to subscribe directly on the web or to a creator so they can make sure more of the money actually goes to the people doing the things they want to support and not a trillion dollar corporation.
I guess a few extra billion is worth pissing your customers off. Where else are they gonna go? Android, which has the same problem?
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Comment on USB-C PD all the things! in ~tech
JXM Link ParentDefinitely too large for a power plug. Unless it was on the end that plugged in to the wall, I suppose?Definitely too large for a power plug. Unless it was on the end that plugged in to the wall, I suppose?
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Comment on USB-C PD all the things! in ~tech
JXM Link ParentThis would be a great place to use a small e-ink screen that could show the current voltage. It could show even the last voltage when powered off. I wonder if they make tiny e-ink screens that are...This would be a great place to use a small e-ink screen that could show the current voltage. It could show even the last voltage when powered off.
I wonder if they make tiny e-ink screens that are just 64 x 64 pixels or something like that.
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Comment on Matt Damon says Netflix wants movies to restate the 'plot three or four times in the dialogue' because viewers are on 'their phones while they're watching' in ~movies
JXM Link ParentI remember when we got our TiVo (my dad was an early adopter and got the very first one), it was incredible and exciting to me that it would see what shows we liked and record similar ones. I...I remember when we got our TiVo (my dad was an early adopter and got the very first one), it was incredible and exciting to me that it would see what shows we liked and record similar ones. I found quite a few shows that way.
Now, when I hear the words “recommendation algorithm”, I am anything but excited.
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Comment on Do you have American healthcare? Do you pay for a gym membership? Perhaps you can pay less and get more! in ~health
JXM LinkMy health insurance doesn’t cover a gym membership but my employer does. They use a program called FitOn that gives you like $50 to spend on whatever health related things you want (massages,...My health insurance doesn’t cover a gym membership but my employer does. They use a program called FitOn that gives you like $50 to spend on whatever health related things you want (massages, sauna, gym, etc).
I’m assuming it’s because we are self-insured and BCBS just manages things, so we don’t get all the BCBS extras. So for my employer to pay for a gym membership that will prevent me from having a heart attack that will cost them hundreds of thousands of dollars in hospital bills is a sound investment.
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Comment on Matt Damon says Netflix wants movies to restate the 'plot three or four times in the dialogue' because viewers are on 'their phones while they're watching' in ~movies
JXM LinkIt’s been fascinating to watch Netflix go from savior of the movie industry to one of the worst content factories out there. When they first started originals, it was prestige shows because they...It’s been fascinating to watch Netflix go from savior of the movie industry to one of the worst content factories out there.
When they first started originals, it was prestige shows because they wanted to show the entertainment world that they were “serious” players (in both senses of the word). House of Cards was a hit so they kept trying higher concept stuff. Somewhere along the way, they realized that they could just make the most basic crap from the worst broad appeal directors out there and that money is better than prestige. They took the lazy way out and just make background noise now.
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Comment on New books aren’t worth reading in ~books
JXM LinkFor the same reason you claim people watch television shows and movies, dumbass author. It’s entertainment. It’s like asking why you listen to music when we have music videos now. Why just hear it...For the same reason you claim people watch television shows and movies, dumbass author. It’s entertainment.
It’s like asking why you listen to music when we have music videos now. Why just hear it when you can see AND hear it?
Also, if you feel that strongly, why not make a video? I’m not reading your article. Who does that anymore? /s
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Comment on Where to buy mp3s legally? in ~music
JXM LinkFor audiobooks, I highly recommend Libro.fm. They have a decent selection of kid’s books. They are owned by Bookshop.org, which is a great place for ebooks that supports local bookstores in the US.For audiobooks, I highly recommend Libro.fm. They have a decent selection of kid’s books. They are owned by Bookshop.org, which is a great place for ebooks that supports local bookstores in the US.
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Comment on Where to buy mp3s legally? in ~music
JXM Link ParentBeen using them for music for years. Never once found an act that wasn’t on there (and I’ve looked for some obscure bands).Been using them for music for years. Never once found an act that wasn’t on there (and I’ve looked for some obscure bands).
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Comment on RCS — SMS via the internet — is good, but it doesn't matter in ~tech
JXM LinkThe problem with these messaging apps is that they’re all disincentivized to make something that works well for everyone. They want their messaging app to be the only one, so they can get all the...The problem with these messaging apps is that they’re all disincentivized to make something that works well for everyone. They want their messaging app to be the only one, so they can get all the users (and therefore data on them for ads).
The only exception is Apple, but they want to make iMessage a thing, so they’re not going to work to make other system better either. They only support RCS because they can read the writing on the wall and realized the EU was going to come after them and wanted to head off some of their arguments.
RCS is a bit of a mess though. It’s a patchwork of who can and can’t use it because it isn’t just an app, it requires carrier level infrastructure and support. And it’s not a marketable feature, so why would they invest in doing it quickly? Verizon isn’t going to make an ad that says, “Join Verizon! Our RCS support is top notch!”
Smaller carriers and MVNOs likely have to wait for the carrier they use for their network to provide support. So it has taken even longer.
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Comment on Youtube channel recommendations 2026 in ~tech
JXM LinkIf you want some good, in depth science content, I highly recommend The Brain Scoop by Emily Grasslie. She started the channel while working at the Field Museum in Chicago and has kept it going...If you want some good, in depth science content, I highly recommend The Brain Scoop by Emily Grasslie. She started the channel while working at the Field Museum in Chicago and has kept it going after she left. Lots of lighthearted, fun science content.
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Comment on NexPhone - Smartphone PC that can boot into Windows, Android or Debian in ~tech
JXM LinkI realize creating a product is hard, but I have very little confidence that Nex can make this work. I've tried multiple versions of their lap docks in the past and they always have major issues....I realize creating a product is hard, but I have very little confidence that Nex can make this work. I've tried multiple versions of their lap docks in the past and they always have major issues. Quality control has been a major issue for them.
I'd absolutely love to be wrong and have this thing work flawlessly and be the one device to rule them all we all want though.
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Comment on Nova Launcher: An update in ~tech
JXM Link ParentIf they stick to their promise and don’t include ads in the paid version, I would be fine with that.If they stick to their promise and don’t include ads in the paid version, I would be fine with that.
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Comment on I recently finished the Cradle series by Will Wight and have post series depression. What shall I read next? in ~books
JXM Link ParentI wholeheartedly second Pandora's Star. It's a massive series. The first book alone is over 1,000 pages and it's got so many characters that you might not see someone for a few hundred pages...I wholeheartedly second Pandora's Star. It's a massive series. The first book alone is over 1,000 pages and it's got so many characters that you might not see someone for a few hundred pages before they show up again.
The author does a great job of weaving all the threads together and making it easy to follow.
If you like your sci-fi big, then I highly recommend it.
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Comment on Saudi funded 3SIX9 Studios reveals slate including Woody Allen, John Boyega, Maxi Iglesias and Arnaud Desplechin films in ~movies
JXM Link ParentKind of ironic that he has to rely on Saudi Arabia, a county that is not particularly friendly to Jews to get money.Kind of ironic that he has to rely on Saudi Arabia, a county that is not particularly friendly to Jews to get money.
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Comment on Scott Adams dead: Dilbert creator was 68 in ~comics
JXM Link ParentDefinitely one of my go to podcasts for road trips.Definitely one of my go to podcasts for road trips.
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Comment on Scott Adams dead: Dilbert creator was 68 in ~comics
JXM LinkCouldn’t have happened to a nicer guy. The only version of Dilbert I ever enjoyed was the TV show and that was mostly Larry Charles’ work, not Scott Adams. I never quite understood the appeal of...Couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy.
The only version of Dilbert I ever enjoyed was the TV show and that was mostly Larry Charles’ work, not Scott Adams. I never quite understood the appeal of the comics.
Quite a lot of the non-techy people I know explicitly search outside the App Store before buying subscriptions because they know it’s usually more expensive to subscribe in app. And they all know it’s because Apple wants to take a cut.