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Comment on Millennials: How do you feel about nostalgia pandering? in ~talk
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Comment on Millennials: How do you feel about nostalgia pandering? in ~talk
JXM (edited )LinkLike most things, I don’t mind it when it’s done well. The absolute best recent example I can think of is the soundtrack for the new(ish) Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles movie, Mutant Mayhem. The...Like most things, I don’t mind it when it’s done well. The absolute best recent example I can think of is the soundtrack for the new(ish) Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles movie, Mutant Mayhem. The trailer makes great use of A Tribe Called Quest and the soundtrack itself has some great 90s songs scattered throughout. TMNT itself could be considered nostalgia bait too. But even without that, it’s still a fantastic movie.
So whatever the thing is that’s doing the pandering, it has to be good on its own AND use the nostalgia well.
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
JXM Link ParentAs a child of divorce, hearing them talk about it would have just made things worse. They could easily have a private conversation about it and then talk to the kids once the decision is made....As a child of divorce, hearing them talk about it would have just made things worse. They could easily have a private conversation about it and then talk to the kids once the decision is made. What matters is how they’re told. The kids just randomly hearing their parents talking about getting divorced would be extremely upsetting and depending on their age, traumatic.
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
JXM LinkAs I was reading the post, I kept thinking about how there were solutions to most of the problems you listed. Some of them would involve a decent amount of work, but they were doable. Once I got...I've been fantasizing a lot lately about what a split would be like. Making plans for where to go, and figuring out how to reconcile things like accounts, items, and debts.
As I was reading the post, I kept thinking about how there were solutions to most of the problems you listed. Some of them would involve a decent amount of work, but they were doable. Once I got to this sentence though, my perspective changed. If you’re really feeling that way and it isn’t just idle daydreaming (“What if I was married to Brad Pitt and had millions of dollars?!”), that is a pretty clear indicator that you want out.
Worst of all I've been fantasizing about being with other people; the intimacy and passions has been gone between us for a long time. The last time my partner initiated anything between us was a year ago, and I don't even remember the time before that. Everything feels so wrong and unsatisfactory.
Fantasizing about other people isn’t a bad thing. It’s natural. But doing it from a lack of intimacy with your primary partner is a problem. Have you discussed this with your partner?
I think any one of the problems you mentioned can be overcome. But together they may be insurmountable. It sounds like a tangled web of interconnected issues that might be difficult to deal with.
However, if you feel up to it and want to give things one last try, I would suggest sitting your partner down after the kids go to bed and in very blunt and simple terms that you’re unhappy and that things need to change if your relationship is to continue. Don’t be mean, but don’t dance around the issues. If you’re willing to work with them on changing things slowly, let them know. If you are willing and can afford it, a couple’s councilor might be able to facilitate things beyond the initial discussion. But make your requirements clear. Let them know X, Y and Z need to happen for the relationship to continue.
Know going in that it may end with them storming off and being mad at you. Feelings will most likely get hurt. But letting these things fester is never a good option.
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Comment on Grand Theft Auto made him a legend. His latest game was a disaster. in ~games
JXM Link ParentEvery time I hear about “rockstar” or famous developers, all I can think of is John Romaro and Diakatana. A good reminder that, as you said, the great man theory doesn’t really hold up.Every time I hear about “rockstar” or famous developers, all I can think of is John Romaro and Diakatana. A good reminder that, as you said, the great man theory doesn’t really hold up.
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Comment on If the Xbox Ally is the future of Xbox, Microsoft is in trouble in ~games
JXM (edited )LinkReminder that Polygon was bought out by a clickbait farm a few months ago and all of their good writers were laid off. Other reviews: PC Gamer Wired IGN They all basically say the same thing: it's...Reminder that Polygon was bought out by a clickbait farm a few months ago and all of their good writers were laid off.
Other reviews:
They all basically say the same thing: it's not worth the $1,000 asking price. I've also seen quite a few reviews wondering why it even runs Windows (money). I wonder how long it will take before someone ports Steam OS?
I own the original Ally and it’s good enough but there was definitely room for improvement. Unfortunately, it looks like neither of the subsequent models have really addressed issues like battery life or heat dissipation.
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Comment on YouTube has a new video player in ~tech
JXM (edited )LinkIf anyone using a Mac doesn't like the new controls (or any of the other weird stuff YouTube does with their players, I highly recommend something like Stop the Madness or Vinegar, both of which...If anyone using a Mac doesn't like the new controls (or any of the other weird stuff YouTube does with their players, I highly recommend something like Stop the Madness or Vinegar, both of which replace the YouTube player with the default OS controls.
Edit: Both work with SponsorBlock.
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Comment on GrapheneOS is finally ready to break free from Pixels, and it may never look back in ~tech
JXM LinkIt’s funny that the title is that they’re “ready to break free” but the article is the exact opposite. They specifically say they are working with a manufacturer to hopefully release something in...It’s funny that the title is that they’re “ready to break free” but the article is the exact opposite. They specifically say they are working with a manufacturer to hopefully release something in late 2026/2027. So they are very clearly not ready.
Regardless, I’m super excited for Graphene to support more phones, especially with an OEM’s blessing.
I know it won’t be Samsung, but I would buy a Galaxy Fold running Graphene in a heartbeat.
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Comment on Queer temperature check: how is everyone doing right now? in ~lgbt
JXM Link ParentCongratulations on getting to be with your partner in person! I’m glad his family is so accepting - that’s not always the case. And welcome to the frying pan that is Texas.Congratulations on getting to be with your partner in person! I’m glad his family is so accepting - that’s not always the case.
And welcome to the frying pan that is Texas.
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Comment on Queer temperature check: how is everyone doing right now? in ~lgbt
JXM LinkI am lucky enough to be able to pass as a straight white guy when I want. That at least buys me some time before I have to worry about myself. I am incredibly lucky in this regard and I try not to...I am lucky enough to be able to pass as a straight white guy when I want. That at least buys me some time before I have to worry about myself. I am incredibly lucky in this regard and I try not to take that for granted because some of my best friends are much more obviously queer. We’ve all lived near each other for nearly 30 years and one of them is seriously researching what it would take to leave the country. It makes me sad that I might lose them but I will do whatever I can to help them.
So I guess, in short, I’m okay but I’m worried for my friends.
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Comment on Who deserves an organ? The dilemma of severe mental illness. (gifted link) in ~health.mental
JXM Link ParentI think this is a good idea in theory, but just adds more red tape to the healthcare process that’s already full of them. What do you do if a decision needs to be made ASAP? Defer to the primary...Ultimately, I think the best solution we have right now are multi-member boards with subject matter expertise in the circumstances and technicalities surrounding such decisions.
I think this is a good idea in theory, but just adds more red tape to the healthcare process that’s already full of them. What do you do if a decision needs to be made ASAP? Defer to the primary doctor on the case?
I do like the idea of physicians taking a more active role and making the choice. I’d rather that physicians focus on the people they can help.
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Comment on Who deserves an organ? The dilemma of severe mental illness. (gifted link) in ~health.mental
JXM Link ParentRealistically, rich people probably just got to another country where they can buy their way to the top of the list.Realistically, rich people probably just got to another country where they can buy their way to the top of the list.
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Comment on Paramount considering a hostile takeover of Warner Bros. Discovery in ~tv
JXM Link ParentIt's wild to me that anyone would think Zaslav is a good CEO. He's been terrible. Look at the awful rebranding and management of the company's most valuable assets. They've trashed the HBO brand...It's wild to me that anyone would think Zaslav is a good CEO. He's been terrible.
Look at the awful rebranding and management of the company's most valuable assets. They've trashed the HBO brand and the DC brand under his tenure. HBO was once the most prestigious name in broadcasting. He threw it all down the drain for a streaming service and then changed the name after a few months. So it was all for nothing...until they decided to change it back again a few years later.
DC may be on the upswing again with James Gunn in charge, but it doesn't take a great CEO to look at Marvel, say "oh, let's just give the guy who made some good Marvel movies a truckload of money to fix DC."
He may have temporarily helped boost profits by firing a lot of people and cancelling completed projects for the tax write downs, but that doesn't make him a good CEO.
I do hope this merger doesn't happen though. The media landscape is already consolidated enough.
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Comment on ‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder in ~tech
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Comment on ‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder in ~tech
JXM LinkAs I was reading this, all I could think is that it’s like one of those sitcom episodes we’ve all seen a million times where the guy is too scared to talk to a girl he likes. So his friend hides...As I was reading this, all I could think is that it’s like one of those sitcom episodes we’ve all seen a million times where the guy is too scared to talk to a girl he likes. So his friend hides in the bushes and tells him what to say (“The hedge, Allison. Allison, the hedge.”) but it’s just ChatGPT.
On the one hand, it’s extremely sad that someone feels they can’t make a connection with another person without the help of ChatGPT. On the other hand, it’s extremely shitty to basically pretend to be someone else just to lure a person in to a relationship.
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Comment on ‘Tron: Ares’ stumbles with $33.5 million debut in ~movies
JXM Link ParentI’ve been asking this for years, so I doubt it will be true this time: Will this be the film that finally ends Jared Leto’s Hollywood career? We can only hope.I’ve been asking this for years, so I doubt it will be true this time: Will this be the film that finally ends Jared Leto’s Hollywood career?
We can only hope.
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Comment on ‘Tron: Ares’ stumbles with $33.5 million debut in ~movies
JXM Link ParentAs someone who loves Tron: Legacy despite its many flaws, I lost all interest in Ares once they announced Jared Leto was starring in it. I know a lot of people who don’t even like the first one...As someone who loves Tron: Legacy despite its many flaws, I lost all interest in Ares once they announced Jared Leto was starring in it. I know a lot of people who don’t even like the first one because it’s so slow, but love Legacy.
But in talking to friends, not a single person I know saw it this weekend and most weren’t interested in seeing it at all.
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Comment on At the end of our ropes in ~health.mental
JXM Link ParentAbsolutely. ADHD doesn't mean you can't concentrate or focus on things. In fact, sometimes it is the opposite, especially when combined with other diagnoses. My SO has it and it's not like she...Absolutely. ADHD doesn't mean you can't concentrate or focus on things. In fact, sometimes it is the opposite, especially when combined with other diagnoses. My SO has it and it's not like she can't focus on things. She can get hyper focused at times too. Sometimes you just can't control when it happens.
I would really, really look for a second opinion, as @Noox said.
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Comment on Synology caves, walks back some drive restrictions on upcoming NAS models in ~tech
JXM Link ParentThey’re really bad at walking things back. I had a previous model that ran fine with whatever drives I wanted to use. They changed things with a software update to that unit. It’s completely a...They’re really bad at walking things back. I had a previous model that ran fine with whatever drives I wanted to use. They changed things with a software update to that unit. It’s completely a software decision.
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Comment on Help choosing a new linux computer? in ~tech
JXM Link ParentI will throw out that Framework is currently having a bit of a meltdown. They have been sponsoring and promoting some projects run by some people who have terrible views on trans people,...I will throw out that Framework is currently having a bit of a meltdown. They have been sponsoring and promoting some projects run by some people who have terrible views on trans people, immigrants and minorities. It’s boiled over on their forum and Mastodon quite a bit over the last few days.
I’ll add for transparency that I was posting over on their forum earlier today but stepped away when things got heated.
Monkeys at a typewriter producing Shakespeare and all that.