Feature request: an option to deactivate or delete your account
Before posting this, I checked my user settings page, the site’s documentation, and GitLab. I also did some site:tildes.net Google searches and used the on-site search for the ~tildes group. I saw...
Before posting this, I checked my user settings page, the site’s documentation, and GitLab. I also did some site:tildes.net Google searches and used the on-site search for the ~tildes group.
I saw that on GitLab there is a feature request for account deletion, but not deactivation, that was marked “Accepted” about 5-6 years ago (August 2019).
I also saw some posts here in the ~tildes group, including one from about 6-7 years ago (June 2018) with a comment that said an option for both account deletion and account "dissociation" was planned. Both of these features sound great.
In addition to account deletion and account dissociation, I want to also request an option for account deactivation.
I don’t want to ask for the Moon here, but I envision account deactivation as having the option to remove all your posts and comments from the site (as well as your profile), with the option of restoring them if you reactivate your account. (I don’t know how annoying or how much effort this would be to code. I’m just imagining what I would find ideal from a user perspective.)
Another wonderful bonus would be the option to set a timer limiting your ability to reactivate your account, e.g. don’t let me reactivate my account for 6 months.
In the past, I’ve done this on another site through an elaborate system where I:
- Set up two-factor authentication.
- Saved the two-factor recovery code on an encrypted pastebin in a password-protected paste.
- Saved the password for the paste in my password manager.
- Used FutureMe.org to send an email with a link to the paste to myself X amount of time in the future.
- Deleted the link to the paste from my browser history.
- Deleted the entry for the site from my two-factor authentication app so the recovery code is the only way to get in.
This works, but it’s an elaborate process and if something goes wrong with FutureMe.org or the paste bin site, you could lose your ability to ever reactivate your account. You have to be willing to take that risk!
I might end up implementing this wacky system again for Tildes. For a site like Tildes, if I permanently lost access to my account (due to FutureMe.org shutting down or suffering data loss, for example) and wanted to re-join the site at some point in the future, I guess the worst consequence would be losing my username. (Also, getting an invite again might be a hassle, I don’t know.) That might be unfortunate depending how much you like your username, but it’s not as bad as a site with follows and followers where you would lose all of those.
I disagree with your analysis of the situation.
I would like to be granted the autonomy to maintain my own boundaries. That’s why I think just having a block feature is a good solution for most social media sites/apps.
If it’s going to turn out that trying to maintain my boundaries isn’t possible, or isn’t possible without some onerous level of stress and effort (e.g. spending hours justifying myself to strangers who have no investment in my well-being), then unfortunately the best option for me is to just quit the site.
I already took a break from the site for about a month after having a bad experience. I am not one of these people who relishes conflict or who wants to get into it with strangers online. Very much the opposite.
I just want to have the ability to stop interacting with someone if I have a bad experience with them. I see no utility in getting into protracted conflict with strangers online. It’s hard enough to resolve conflict with people you know and love, let alone with strangers where you have no established trust, rapport, affinity, or common ground. Why would that be a good use of my very limited resources?