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Comment on Relationship troubles in ~life
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Comment on Marvel’s ‘Avengers: Doomsday’ reportedly a “mess” in the edit after shooting without a finished script and packing in over sixty roles in ~movies
Grayscail Link ParentDoom made a lot of sense after Endgame. Tony Stark dying was a big deal, they made movies like Spiderman that highlighted peoples struggles with moving on from that. Then some new badguy shows up...Doom made a lot of sense after Endgame. Tony Stark dying was a big deal, they made movies like Spiderman that highlighted peoples struggles with moving on from that.
Then some new badguy shows up who is a genius billionaire wearing powered armor, and that plays into that void Tony left behind in the world. Plus Doom uses magic, which sets him up against Doctor Strange who seemed to be the last mature hero left to take up a leader role in the MCU.
Unfortunately, a whole lot of nothing happened since Endgame. Its not fresh in peoples minds anymore. None of the stuff Marvel has been putting out since then feels like it fits together or leads to anything, nobody really knows what this next movie is about.
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Comment on Relationship troubles in ~life
Grayscail LinkI will preface by acknowledging that I dont know anything about your partner so this is pure speculation. What you say about him escaping the conversation sounds like an avoidant attachment style....I will preface by acknowledging that I dont know anything about your partner so this is pure speculation.
What you say about him escaping the conversation sounds like an avoidant attachment style. I struggle with this as well, far more than most people, I would imagine.
In my experience my avoidant tendencies are a result of me not having faith that the other person will really listen to me or care about what I am saying, the argument will just go on until I either give in or walk away, so I choose to do one of those as soon as possible.
From how you describe it, it seems that your partner is not particularly into physical displays of intimacy, and that leaves you feeling unfulfilled in the relationship. From his perspective, it may seem that he has already tried compromising with you on this, allowing those moments of physical intimacy even if he is not particularly into it. So when you bring up that you still feel unsatisfied, to him it may feel like trying to accomodate you only resulted in you asking for more, which is why he avoids the conflict.
This is not a sustainable way to handle disagreements, as you have realized. These unresolved issues just fester and get more frustrating over time, and if you cant break this communication barrier then it might be an incompatible relationship.
If your partner is not engaging much in these discussions, and giving one word answers, it might be incumbent upon you to lead with offering alternate solutions. This is not an easy ask and requires a strong sense of empathy so you can anticipate his needs without him saying them out loud. Some people just need that kind of assistance when it comes to emotional communication.
For this issue with hugs, a possible compromise would be that you agree to not interrupt his netflix watching, and wait for the end of an episode to request a hug, but in return you expect him to be more attentive to you when that does happen. By offering that concession up front, rather than waiting for him to negotiate for it, it might give him reassurance that engaging in these discussions would be worth his while.
Or maybe not, maybe youve already been doing that and it hasnt worked either.
The question I would ask myself is, when you say that these situations could have ended with a quick discussion, what does that ideal discussion look like? Does it mostly work out in your favor, or is it an equitable solution that makes you both happy?
But then again, maybe its not anyones fault, and this is just a sign that your relationship has reached its natural sunset.
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Comment on The end of reading is here in ~books
Grayscail Link ParentI dont know the people you are thinking of, but I would emphasize this possibility. You never really know whats going on in someone elses mind. Some people might just prefer thinking over...some people genuinely seem uninterested in thinking about that kind of stuff (or at least are not interesting in talking about it).
I dont know the people you are thinking of, but I would emphasize this possibility. You never really know whats going on in someone elses mind. Some people might just prefer thinking over interesting topics on their own vs discussing them with others.
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Comment on Modern, abstract art makes me angry in ~arts
Grayscail Link ParentWell thats good to hear that society are taking action against that kind of financial dishonesty. But I was thinking more of the actual art market. Like if you buy a bunch if paintings from some...Well thats good to hear that society are taking action against that kind of financial dishonesty.
But I was thinking more of the actual art market. Like if you buy a bunch if paintings from some unknown artist for $50 each and then use your connections to get them a gallery showing or an art exhibit or something, then other art collectors will think they are a rising talent and will buy their art for $5000 because they assume the art will appreciate in time. So the people who have sway over places like galleries can pick winners and losers based on what would benefit their own financial interest, or the interest of their friends.
Doing something like this shifts the selection process of "good" art away from artistic merit and toward networking and knowing the right people, which could disproportionately benefit the rich and powerful or their kids who dont want to work a desk job. I feel that this would be especially at risk for more abstract art, because its much harder to challenge someone if they assert some random work is a masterpiece when really abstract art is concerned, whereas more detail or skill oriented art styles demand at least some level of perceivable talent.
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Comment on Modern, abstract art makes me angry in ~arts
Grayscail LinkI can kind of agree. I am not a particularly artistic guy, so Im maybe not a great person to weigh in on what constitutes artistic merit. But I think of abstract art as similar to that avant garde...I can kind of agree. I am not a particularly artistic guy, so Im maybe not a great person to weigh in on what constitutes artistic merit. But I think of abstract art as similar to that avant garde style of fashion where models come out wearing bizarre impractical clothing. Its not really meant to be taken as an outfit people would actually buy and wear its more intended to spark someones creativity by being weird and different than the norm. Like art intended for other artists.
I guess the issue that I take with it is that I feel that not just anyone could successfully make abstract art, you have to already be accepted as a valid artist for people to put that kind of consideration into your work. Any kind of art could be considered deep as long as the audience is willing to think deeply about it, but only certain artists are considered important enough to be worth that effort. This is the common complaint you will hear from casual art observers, that anyone could make a splatter painting or tape a banana to a canvas, and its only considered high art when an established artist does it.
This ties in to the suspicion that people have that high end art is a money laundering scheme for the rich. This is conspiratorial thinking, but whenever I see an expensive piece of modern art I have a suspicion that some rich guy is artificially manufacturing hype around that artist, because they already have purchased other pieces from that artist for cheap, and if they make them famous they can instantly turn those pieces into multimillion dollar assets. Which is kind of a corruption of artistry, if true.
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Comment on Behind the ‘Supergirl’ bomb: competing cuts, creative differences in ~movies
Grayscail LinkMakes sense that there was some extra complications in the background. I wasnt planning on seeing Supergirl, but I had expected it to be a success. The things I didnt like about Superman were, I...Makes sense that there was some extra complications in the background.
I wasnt planning on seeing Supergirl, but I had expected it to be a success. The things I didnt like about Superman were, I thought, a result of Gunn being more interested in telling stories about messy flawed characters. So I figured Supergirl would be more in his wheelhouse.
So even if the film underperformed I thought at least it would get good reception among the people who did go see it.
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Comment on Papa Johns can predict when your fridge is empty in ~tech
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Comment on What creative projects have you been working on? in ~creative
Grayscail Link ParentSounds cool. Do you have a particular genre of story you are interested in writing?Sounds cool. Do you have a particular genre of story you are interested in writing?
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Comment on ‘Supergirl’ fall to earth with $68m worldwide opening in ~movies
Grayscail Link ParentThis is it exactly. Lots of Superman's common villains are designed around giving him non-physical challenges. Luthor abuses public opinion and the law to shield himself. Bizarro is technically...This is it exactly. Lots of Superman's common villains are designed around giving him non-physical challenges.
Luthor abuses public opinion and the law to shield himself. Bizarro is technically just confused, not bad, so Superman cant in good conscience just beat him up. Mr. Myxlpytlyk is a godlike higher dimensional entity that cant be harmed with violence. Toymaker I dont really get.
I think a good analog of what Superman stories should be like is Columbo. Columbo stories are not particularly tense, there are not always high stakes, Columbo himself is not usually stressed out. He is relaxed and in control of the situation at all times, and in the cases where someone does actually try to harm him Columbo had already figured out the plan and disarmed the threat in advance. Thats a good example of an "invincible" character who still has entertaining stories.
The problem, as you allude, is that superhero films are not designed around that, they are designed around struggles and clashes of equal strength, which just doesnt mesh well with Superman's core appeal.
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Comment on ‘Supergirl’ fall to earth with $68m worldwide opening in ~movies
Grayscail LinkThe film seemed to follow a similar media trajectory to projects like Snow White and Captain Marvel. The youtube commentary circuit latched onto some interview the lead actress gave and made this...The film seemed to follow a similar media trajectory to projects like Snow White and Captain Marvel. The youtube commentary circuit latched onto some interview the lead actress gave and made this the new target of "wokeness gone mad" rhetoric.
Im curious as to what extent that subculture has influence on the broader moviegoing audience. On the one hand, I doubt many people who hate Rachel Zeigler and Brie Larson were going to go see a female led superhero movie to begin with. On the other hand, the online commentary community can be very loud, and maybe a consistent voice decrying these movies is enough to pull everyone else into preemptively judging the film harshly.
Of course, there seems to be a lot of other more valid reasons why the film is getting criticized. The color grading, deviations from the source material, etc. I might be giving too much credit to youtubers just because thats the part of the media arc that I actually saw.
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Comment on Why carbon capture can't solve climate change in ~enviro
Grayscail Link ParentYeah maybe, I dont really care. Im just saying this article is not making that case, or at least is doing a poor job of it.Yeah maybe, I dont really care. Im just saying this article is not making that case, or at least is doing a poor job of it.
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Comment on Why carbon capture can't solve climate change in ~enviro
Grayscail Link ParentI dont agree with that. Aside from asserting it up front, and circling back to it at the end, the article almost entirely focuses on saying CCS is infeasible, and not at all on establishing that...I dont agree with that. Aside from asserting it up front, and circling back to it at the end, the article almost entirely focuses on saying CCS is infeasible, and not at all on establishing that this some kind of psy op by fossil fuel industries.
Yeah, I bet they do hype up carbon capture like its a big deal, but thats how companies talk about everything, they always oversell what theyre doing like its a big deal. Similarly, its not surprising that boosters of this technology dont focus on the downsides, because thats how advocating for things works.
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Comment on Why carbon capture can't solve climate change in ~enviro
Grayscail LinkI dont like this scrolling format where you see 2 sentences at a time.I dont like this scrolling format where you see 2 sentences at a time.
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Comment on Did Kamala Harris's silence on Gaza cost her the White House? in ~society
Grayscail LinkI think the big reason is that Kamala didn't have very much visibility as VP and then suddenly was thrust into the nominee status without really having built up any real following.I think the big reason is that Kamala didn't have very much visibility as VP and then suddenly was thrust into the nominee status without really having built up any real following.
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Comment on If AI is sentient then so is ‘Age of Empires II’ in ~tech
Grayscail Link ParentSchrodinger originally came up with that metaphor to clown on the Copenhagen interpretation, but now its just what everyone goes to as their default explanation of quantum mechanics.Schrodinger originally came up with that metaphor to clown on the Copenhagen interpretation, but now its just what everyone goes to as their default explanation of quantum mechanics.
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Comment on Nvidia announces liquid cooling system that promises to reduce electricity consumption and cut water use by up to 100% in ~tech
Grayscail Link ParentId expect as much, but I just feel like if there was a leak or something youd have to shutdown the racks and the cooling system to take it apart and reseal everything, and it would be more...Id expect as much, but I just feel like if there was a leak or something youd have to shutdown the racks and the cooling system to take it apart and reseal everything, and it would be more difficult than maintaining air cooling. But maybe not.
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Comment on Nvidia announces liquid cooling system that promises to reduce electricity consumption and cut water use by up to 100% in ~tech
Grayscail LinkIve never done any liquid cooling on my own PCs, but Ive heard it can be a real pain making sure there are no leaks or anything. Could be a real hassle at the warehouse full of server racks level....Ive never done any liquid cooling on my own PCs, but Ive heard it can be a real pain making sure there are no leaks or anything. Could be a real hassle at the warehouse full of server racks level. But then again this is a huge company Im sure they could precision engineer some better solution.
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Comment on If AI is sentient then so is ‘Age of Empires II’ in ~tech
Grayscail LinkHopefully this doesnt end up being a schrodingers box scenario.Hopefully this doesnt end up being a schrodingers box scenario.
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Comment on If AI is sentient then so is ‘Age of Empires II’ in ~tech
Grayscail (edited )Link ParentThere is a competing view that maybe everything actually is conscious, but if you dont think about it then it doesnt really matter in a meaningful way. Like, maybe rocks are actually conscious but...There is a competing view that maybe everything actually is conscious, but if you dont think about it then it doesnt really matter in a meaningful way.
Like, maybe rocks are actually conscious but since they dont have the capacity to think they cant really suffer or fall in love or anything so nobody cares, its just an eternity of being aware of heat or pressure or whatnot.
And then as you go into various forms of life you develop sophisticated systems for sensing and responding to the environment, and that consciousness starts mattering more because it somehow couples into those complex systems and affects how living things behave.
And then eventually at the tier of life humans are at, you develop self awareness and that amplifies the significance of consciousness in some sense, which is why we think of there being a cutoff between chimps and ants.
Theres no shame in wanting to hold onto a relationship youve been cultivating for almost a decade.
In terms of regrets, consider this though: If the two of you mutually agree now that your relationship wont work out, you might end it amicably and still be able to maintain a friendship afterward. That could be a good thing if this is an important person who you want to keep in your life.