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Comment on You can change ONE thing about a game. What do you change? in ~games
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Comment on Your favorite game OSTs in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentMy god yes! I love the Disco Elysium music. Every now and then I'll hear that trombone in a youtube video or somewhere out in thr world and it immediately jumps out to me, and I go right into that...My god yes! I love the Disco Elysium music. Every now and then I'll hear that trombone in a youtube video or somewhere out in thr world and it immediately jumps out to me, and I go right into that introspective liminal headspace induced by playing that game.
A thousand times over, OP: Disco Elysium.
(also strongly suggest playing the game; it's phenomenal)
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Comment on Is anyone else kind of scared by the internet? in ~talk
ingannilo Link ParentThis is pretty close to my "fear of the internet". I've seen the very real culture shift between my generation (born in 1980s) and my wife's (born in 1990s). The constant sense of urgency and...This is pretty close to my "fear of the internet". I've seen the very real culture shift between my generation (born in 1980s) and my wife's (born in 1990s).
The constant sense of urgency and anxiety that she and her like-age friends live with constantly is my idea of hell. If they miss whatever is big on social media then it's as though life in it's entirety has passed them by. Not talking about memes necessarily, at least not in the sense the word is used online, but fads, art, music, events, icons (liking the "right" influencer or parroting the "right" take from some podcaster), fashion, and damn near all the preferences that, I feel, make up a personality - - the tiktok/instagram/snapchat hegemon has decided for them what the correct preferences and opinions are, and if you're not in then you're either out full-stop, or at the very least missing out on something "important" .
I feel like the small joys of building and maintaining your real life have been replaced by building and maintaining the ideal online facade. One of these lasts from each day to thr next, but the other could vanish at any moment. I see it manifest in myriad anxieties and other social/personality struggles, and that shit truly scares me.
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Comment on Honey did nothing wrong in ~tech
ingannilo LinkIn the lawsuit filed by Wendover and Legal Eagle, they claim Honey's actions were unlawful: I'm definitely not a lawyer, but Devon Stone (Legal Eagle) is, and it'd be reputation-destroyingly bad...In the lawsuit filed by Wendover and Legal Eagle, they claim Honey's actions were unlawful:
This case involves a scheme by Defendant to unlawfully steal the attribution for online sales from Plaintiffs...
I'm definitely not a lawyer, but Devon Stone (Legal Eagle) is, and it'd be reputation-destroyingly bad for him to allege illegal action on Honey's behalf if that was transparently not the case. Maybe the attribute stealing is gray-area, or maybe it's well established law, but for these guys to very publicly allege that Honey broke the law leads me to believe that there is some precident here. I'll keep reading the suit and update if I find something concrete.
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Comment on What were your favorite games that you played this year, and why? in ~games
ingannilo (edited )LinkDefinitely put more time into minecraft than anything else this year, mostly because I finally stumbled into the technical aspects of the game (automation, farms, and eventually storage tech)...Definitely put more time into minecraft than anything else this year, mostly because I finally stumbled into the technical aspects of the game (automation, farms, and eventually storage tech) which really opened it up to me.
Also I really loved Lies of P. Super challenging souls-like built around the narrative of Pinocchio. Truly one of the hardest games I've ever played, but loads of fun.
I played Starfield, but for maybe 20 hours total before getting a little "over it". The fallout-ish "you can pick up everything" inventory system but none of the good crafting/dismantling stuff from fallout really left me wanting.
Recently I started STALKER 2. If the major patches rolled out a little sooner, then it may have ended up my GOTY, but I'm only about 8 hours into it because I forced myself to wait until they pushed a few patches before starting. Really excited about it though. So far (just finishing up in the lesser zone now) it's amazing.
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Comment on What were your favorite games that you played this year, and why? in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentMy wife and I each did a playthrough of stray last year, and they were awesome. It was super cute and absolutely had its tense moments. I'd love to find more games like that.My wife and I each did a playthrough of stray last year, and they were awesome. It was super cute and absolutely had its tense moments. I'd love to find more games like that.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~health
ingannilo LinkLike /u/zestier, I am a newer parent. My three year old fell off a lawn chair and hit his head on the concrete stoop a few weeks ago. I rushed him to urgent care, where they said they didn't have...Like /u/zestier, I am a newer parent. My three year old fell off a lawn chair and hit his head on the concrete stoop a few weeks ago. I rushed him to urgent care, where they said they didn't have appropriate means to treat a toddler; raced from there to the pediatric ER. Eventually he gets seen and they're able to close his head wound. But I remember feeling so frustrated at the amount of time that went into basically interrogating myself and my wife about what happened, taking lots of photos, having three or four people in and out of the room before they even talked about sewing him up.
I was happy with his care overall, but it really made me feel bad. Like, I didn't do this to my kid! What kind of monster could? I kiss is tinyest injuries to make then feel better; I pet his back and snuggle him to sleep every night; I get up 3-5 times per night to soothe or feed or provide whatever he needs. I know these folks couldn't know that, but the feeling of having to assert my love for my kid was very strange. You could feel the suspicion in the air, and for a few moments I was really worried that I'd have to somehow prove that my kid fell over in our front yard... How would you even do that?
All this is to say that I'm sympathetic with the tone of the article. I cannot imagine how helpless a parent accused but innocent of this kind of abuse would feel. I'm glad we have safeguards in our society and people who are looking out for children. I grew up in an abusive home, and it's not a good childhood. But zeal must be tempered with absolute honesty and transparency because the damage that could be done to everyone involved if a doctor or prosecutor gets it wrong is immeasurable.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
ingannilo Link ParentDefinitely agree with your points, that legislation cannot help here, and that folks will always find ways to be confused about sex. I am very against this particular legislation and all laws of...Definitely agree with your points, that legislation cannot help here, and that folks will always find ways to be confused about sex.
I am very against this particular legislation and all laws of its ilk. I don't think we can legislate morality, and this seems to fall into that camp.
My comment above is trying to think through how lawmakers rationalize passing what seems like an unpopular law, how they might sell it. I think about the ways women I know were manipulated online at a very young age to do and share things they really didn't want to do or share. Mostly on the web-chat sites of the mid 2000s. I do think that some of that manipulation was made easier by the victims' early exposure to porn.
My answers to my wife so far have been that right now we cannot even predict what the web will be like when our kids reach puberty, and that we'll have to be agile, honest with our kids, and open-minded about cultural changes to handle things well. I think it's these concerns in politicians and their constituents that allow the tech lobby to sell these kinds of (bad) laws.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
ingannilo Link ParentI agree with your main thesis, that this is really about data. I know the FL legislature well enough to know that they're not all hip to that reality though, and I think that legitimate concerns...I agree with your main thesis, that this is really about data. I know the FL legislature well enough to know that they're not all hip to that reality though, and I think that legitimate concerns about kids being exposed to unrealistic sex at an early age is the elevator pitch from the tech folks (who just want data and whose lobby almost certainly authored the bills) to the politicians (who are always seeking a way to appear hard-working while serving their money masters).
There may or may not be an interest in rug-sweeping some of the social impacts of kids exposure to sexual content online. I'm thinking more of the spaces where kids can be manipulated and exploited. Early exposure to porn may set expectations in kids' minds regarding what others want from them.
I don't claim to have answers here. Wife and I talk a lot about what we'll do to manage our son's web traffic down the road. I like what you describe, but I'm not sure I have the time to execute the way you do. I certainly don't expect these draconian laws to help the situation. I'm just observing how they might rationalize them.
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Comment on Suggestions for a tablet or a light laptop in ~tech
ingannilo LinkLots of good ideas here. For my two bits, I'm a ThinkPad fan-boy with a real love for their older models which were more repairable than the X1 carbon discussed in earlier comments. I daily drive...Lots of good ideas here. For my two bits, I'm a ThinkPad fan-boy with a real love for their older models which were more repairable than the X1 carbon discussed in earlier comments.
I daily drive a T480 now and by my standards it is highly portable for its size (14 inch). My previous daily was a smaller X230, which was excellent but is arguably too old to consider for a purchase today. If you like the modularity and can tolerate the slightly larger screen than requested, I'd look into the T-series on low budget, or P-series for higher budget options. I'm not sure what happened to the X-series, but there were some more modern revisions that I would consider if portability is priority.
The most important thing for me is repairability, and slightly older ThinkPads are great for this. Framework I believe is the only other option that comes close in terms of modularity and ease of fixing/replacing/upgrading bits.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
ingannilo Link ParentI feel that this needs examination. I married someone about half a generation younger than me, and her experience in life, largely due to sexualization online has manifested numerous serious...but we're decades into that reality and there hasn't been any kind of uptick in issues with sexuality that I'm aware of.
I feel that this needs examination. I married someone about half a generation younger than me, and her experience in life, largely due to sexualization online has manifested numerous serious issues in our relationship.
My very early exposure to porn (from my dad leaving VHS porn playing while intoxicated) definitely had an impact on my development. My wife's experiences absolutely had powerful impacts on her. The differences in our exposures to sex have been significant, even with relatively close ages at first exposure just due to the nature of the media.To be clear, I am not in favor of these laws because I think the only result will be people's personal info being exposed in future hacks. As others mention, horny kids will find a way. But I also don't think it's wise to totally rug-sweep the whole conversation.
My personal opinion is that kids learning about sex is a good thing. I'd rather my son first be exposed to sex the way real people do to rather than some of the out-there fantasy-driven stuff that dominates porn sites.
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Comment on Best new install steps for Windows 11 gaming PC? in ~tech
ingannilo Link ParentQuick bit of feedback. I used Titus' script on my second to last win 11 install. it ended up nerfing the Webcam on my t480. Couldn't figure out why and after a few weeks I gave up and reinstalled...Quick bit of feedback. I used Titus' script on my second to last win 11 install. it ended up nerfing the Webcam on my t480. Couldn't figure out why and after a few weeks I gave up and reinstalled without running Titus' script.
I guess if you don't read through the code and understand everything the script does, then you shouldn't run it. Probably pretty obvious, but I was a little too naive. Just wanted to share.
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Comment on Struggling with nihilism and the inability to enjoy things in ~health.mental
ingannilo Link ParentI'm happy to see the more jovial tone in your reply there. This stuff is weird, and the void is loud. My friend used to tell me, when playing chess, "you've just gotta make a move, man". Surely he...I'm happy to see the more jovial tone in your reply there. This stuff is weird, and the void is loud.
My friend used to tell me, when playing chess, "you've just gotta make a move, man". Surely he was just getting bored with waiting, but those words stick with me in a lot of different contexts.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (December 2024) in ~health.mental
ingannilo LinkI found out late last night that my wife has been cheating on me. For the last five years I have taken care of everything for her in terms of housing, cars, insurances, basically all financials,...I found out late last night that my wife has been cheating on me. For the last five years I have taken care of everything for her in terms of housing, cars, insurances, basically all financials, while she bounced from college program to program, failing out of physics, astronomy, nursing, and now aviation mechanic school.
We had arguments, but I always supported her and encouraged her to be positive. If this didn't click, that's okay. You'll find your thing.
We had a kid. I take care of him. She goes to school half heartedly. Lots of parties and festivals that leave me at home alone with my son. I love being home with my son, so I tolerate it. He's three now.
I found out last night that she's cheated on me. Two people, at least three different events. Most recently with a kid from her mechanic class. She'd been staying close to school on weekdays and being more mean and avoidant when home. Doing weird stuff while out with friends. Blaming me for her behavior.
I feel so unbelievably hurt right now. I stayed home from work today, with her. We talked a lot. Idk what is going to happen. I desperately want us to be okay, but I have always said that I'd stay with her if and only if she is faithful to me. We've had lots of struggles before this, but this is an absolute and total violation of the one rule I had in our relationship.
I'm worried that if I don't end things, that she won't change. She'll continue being mean to me, leaving me holding the bag on every "responsibility" front, and then using my exhaustion as an excuse to rationalize lying and cheating on me.
I'm worried that if I do end things I am giving up on the deepest love I have ever found, violating my wedding vows and promises to her grandmother, and giving up on my son having a happy childhood.
This isn't appropriate probably, but I cannot talk to anyone. If I share with my family, they'll never accept her back into the fold. Friends are all split loyalty, and she's lied to them about me to poison the water there. I just feel awful. If not for my son, I think I would've ended myself last night. As is I just wish I could teleport him and myself somewhere far away, or have some magic tool to undo so much of the past.
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Comment on What programming/technical projects have you been working on? in ~comp
ingannilo LinkI'm still a humble newb in the software world, but I just finished my toughest project yet in the C++ Intro to Programming class I'm taking. It was to code a dice poker game, where the user...I'm still a humble newb in the software world, but I just finished my toughest project yet in the C++ Intro to Programming class I'm taking. It was to code a dice poker game, where the user "rolls" five 6-sided dice, and receives a number of points based on the probability of getting certain "hands" (pairs, three of a kind, full house, straight, et cetera).
It took me three sit-down-and-think sessions, but I came away with a solution I really liked. Later I googled and found, of course, that it's a standard problem in coding classes. But to my surprise most of the solutions I found were (imo) pretty inelegant compared to mine. Where most used lots of branching if statements and arrays, mine used concise loops and wherever possible stored info as vectors. I'm excited to see what feedback my prof gives.
It's fun being a student again when I can actually find time to do the work. This week I was basically catching up on four weeks of material I fell behind on due to my own teaching load/ caring for my son/ generally burning out.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentPlaying FO4 in survival forces a more role playing vibe, because everything is much more dangerous, you need to monitor food, water, and radiation, addiction is crippling, and death has real...Playing FO4 in survival forces a more role playing vibe, because everything is much more dangerous, you need to monitor food, water, and radiation, addiction is crippling, and death has real teeth.
Playing FO4 on very hard (ime) was super frustrating because it still felt like the same game just with much more bulletspongy enemies.
If you're looking for a more careful experience in the commonwealth, then I think you'll enjoy the survival mode most.
My only survival playthrough was cut short by quest breaking bugs with a mod I had installed, but I was really enjoying it up to then.
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Comment on Using winutil or MicroWin to disable Windows Recall is breaking File Explorer in ~tech
ingannilo Link ParentThis is older, but I just saw your reply. I can't imagine that the laptop in question has co-pilot+. It's a ThinkPad from 2018-ish.This is older, but I just saw your reply. I can't imagine that the laptop in question has co-pilot+. It's a ThinkPad from 2018-ish.
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Comment on 2024 United States election megathread in ~society
ingannilo Link ParentWhen I filled out my ballot I was very surprised by the bold text under this and amendment 3. It's as though they've allowed the right to campaign on the fucking ballot! Literally never has the...When I filled out my ballot I was very surprised by the bold text under this and amendment 3. It's as though they've allowed the right to campaign on the fucking ballot!
Literally never has the bold text on the ballot that's meant (I thought) to explain what the legal language of the amendment is saying, strayed so far from explaining the content of the amendment and gone so deeply into trying to tell people how they ought to vote on that issue.
I had heard that the ballot language was found to be unconstitutional. At the time I wasn't aware of thr exact language that'd appear. Now I'm wondering if that's the part that was problematic. When I heard there were problems with the ballot language, I just assumed it was a problem with the amendment itself. But now it makes more sense. How this garbage got on the ballot is a mystery, but heads should roll.
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Comment on 2024 United States election megathread in ~society
ingannilo Link ParentThis is the messaging that killed the Harris campaign and democratic platform, imo. I can't say where these prospering people are. I believe they exist, but I do not see them in my day-to-day. My...This is the messaging that killed the Harris campaign and democratic platform, imo.
I can't say where these prospering people are. I believe they exist, but I do not see them in my day-to-day. My neighborhood and my family (I'm a math professor at a state college) have really suffered economically over the last five years like never before. Two 50% hikes in housing costs, continuously rising food and energy costs, and pretty much all consumables.
I believe that the Biden administration inherited a trashed economy due to the poor management and policies of the firet Trump administration and the pandemic; I believe that they did some very clever things to avert the kind of total financial meltdowns we see in places like Turkey, caused by similar mechamisms. However it's not the case that for people like myself and those around me, that "the economy is better than ever" . I don't go on vacations or buy nice things for my kid. I struggle to stay on top of the mortgage. I've had to accept that things I took on in the past, that by my reasonable planning should have been manageable, became unmanageable, and I've had to let go of some of those obligations and accept the damage to my reputation and credit score. It's been incredibly hard, but if I have to choose between housing my family or paying a credit card bill, I gonna do the former.
The left did very little to speak to folks like me. They still got my vote, for so many reasons it's hard to list them all, but their messaging on the economy totally missed me. And it is not at all hard for me to see how, if you're not all-in on the social and democratic principles espoused by the left, then voting for the side that acknowledged your struggle and in some way claims they can help, might be tempting.
I wish this was a surprise. It was closer than I would've expected over the summer. The Harris campaign did a great job of improving their numbers in thr last few months, especially considering the assassination attempts. But most folks are primarily worried about their money. Most regular (read: poor) people have seen their quality of life fall, a lot since 2018/2019. One party messaged to that, and one party did not. I am not surprised that the party acknowledging the elephant in the room won.
I do know that Harris had one major platform point on the housing crisis, but even to a liberal Iike me, it really didn't seem like a good fix. Just offering down-payment assistance won't help in the long run if the mortgage is unaffordable; my instinct was that this would also raise the cost of houses long-term.
It's a sad day. The party steamed straight ahead in the fog of non-communication and echo chamber polling. We could and should have done better to avoid the iceberg. We could and should have talked to our neighbors, asked how they were doing. We could and should have been more aware of what the half of our country that aren't idealogically aligned with us were struggling with and worried about, besides the idealogical stuff. That's where we lost and I hope we learn the lesson.
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Comment on Cooking with black plastic is particularly crucial to avoid in ~health
ingannilo Link ParentNot the person you replied to, but I cooked in a commercial kitchen for a while. Lots of stuff will stick to stainless no matter what you do (looking at you, garlic!) but if you use reasonable...Not the person you replied to, but I cooked in a commercial kitchen for a while. Lots of stuff will stick to stainless no matter what you do (looking at you, garlic!) but if you use reasonable heat and some oil then plenty of things won't stick in a way that's problematic.
My go-to for cooking most things that might stick is cast iron. It's a little hefty, but once you season them they're very nonstick and definitely devoid of weird chemicals. They also help with nice even heat distribution.
I didn't mind the system in Lies of P. It gives a justification to the mechanic of breaking enemy weapons, which is huge in some encounters.
Some degradation mechanics, which don't really balance well (looking at you STALKER 2, where my guns break and jam, but enemy guns never seem to do so, even though when you defeat the enemies and loot them their guns are all at 0%), but if there's a player advantage that can be exercised as a result, then I think it's a cool idea.