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Comment on Tildes Minecraft Weekly in ~games
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Comment on What’s a point that you think many people missed? in ~talk
ingannilo Link ParentThis one also irks me... probably because I'm a math prof at a teaching focused institution. Before I found my current gig I worked at two universities where research pressure was the main thing....This one also irks me... probably because I'm a math prof at a teaching focused institution. Before I found my current gig I worked at two universities where research pressure was the main thing. I wasn't a bad researcher, in that I was very effective at solving the problems I found interesting, but I was a pretty bad researcher in the sense that I only found a really narrow set of problems sufficiently interesting for that level of investment.
I love teaching and agree with everyone here saying that the teaching skillset is different from the doing skillset. The original idiom is straight up wrong, and many suggested by y'all are more reasonable.
I'd like to add to this discussion, though, the idea "those who cannot do, ought not teach". Where I work, due to the low research expectations, attracts some folks who genuinely "can't do", and boy howdy are they it great at teaching either. When I'm on screening committees, I am primarily interested in two things: technical skillset and social skills (specifically empathy, but also other communication stuff). If you have those, then good teaching is possible. You still have to want to teach well, but in our environment the skillset is still most important, and surprisingly often it's insufficient even in well-credentialed applicants.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (January 2026) in ~health.mental
ingannilo Link ParentThat does all sound really rough. As a rule I've learned that selling stuff, especially important things, to temporarily cover a recurring cost really isn't wise. If I were in your shoes I'd sell...That does all sound really rough.
As a rule I've learned that selling stuff, especially important things, to temporarily cover a recurring cost really isn't wise. If I were in your shoes I'd sell lots of other things before my car, because a car can be a real lifeline for finding work.
I'm sure it's not a fun idea, but I'd be looking for non-career temp jobs. Something like retail or food service. Those industries are always hiring, and having some income can give you room to breathe and time to plan and find your next serious gig.
Another thought is that, depending on your credit, it may be possible to take out some kind of loan, either borrowing directly as a personal loan or against equity in some higher value asset like a house or a car. This could be a good alternative to selling the car if things are truly dire.
This stuff does chip away at sanity, for sure. Can I ask where you're located and what kind of work you're looking for?
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (January 2026) in ~health.mental
ingannilo Link ParentHey, I'm late to this thread because I'm trying to be more wary of opening up on the internet, but I peeked here today and just wanted to reply to you. Maybe it's helpful or maybe it's totally...Hey, I'm late to this thread because I'm trying to be more wary of opening up on the internet, but I peeked here today and just wanted to reply to you. Maybe it's helpful or maybe it's totally useless, but I can't not.
A year ago I felt very much like you. Like you, I I came back (in 2009-ish, so a long time ago) from a two year stint as a homeless drug addict. I built my life up, got degrees and a good job, and eventually married and a kid and a house. Somehow though, for several years recently, my financial stability sunk month over month. Default on credit card and some personal loans. Electricity getting switched off. Generally miserable. I was working and making what I thought was enough money, but it all just vanished into the million open hands clammering 24/7.
Well, last summer I caught my wife cheating on me. I was devistated, but after a few weeks some silver linings started to shimmer. For the first time in years last August I finished a month without a negative checking account balance. And that pattern continued. And I started getting my debts sorted out. Now I still have a long way to go, but everything is moving in the right direction. I love my wife. I haven't divorced her. I have no idea what the longterm holds for us, but right now she's a much much smaller part of my world than since before we met. What I've realized is that god damn near all of the shit that was wrecking my life stopped getting worse and started getting much better the day I stopped trying to be a perfect partner for her.
I guess what I'm saying is that yeah, a lot of the shit you're staring at is awful, but folks who've been around like us know it doesn't need to stay that way. If you haven't considered it yet, take a minute to ask yourself if there is a person or people in your life who are hurting you. If there are such people, at least experiment with distancing yourself from them to see if things get better.
Don't let other people keep you feeling trapped. I'm not saying it's what you are dealing with -- I have no idea. But I never would have considered it myself, and now I see it clear as day.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentI quite like donkeys! The horse that's been lingering by my house just feels out of place. Feel free to grab the horse when you swing by if you want it.I quite like donkeys! The horse that's been lingering by my house just feels out of place. Feel free to grab the horse when you swing by if you want it.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentI appreciate you explaining, and sorry I missed the details elsewhere. I've never used any of these in my own survival worlds because I haven't been able to decide if they "feel right". Maps for...I appreciate you explaining, and sorry I missed the details elsewhere. I've never used any of these in my own survival worlds because I haven't been able to decide if they "feel right". Maps for example-- I always felt like "learning the lay of the land" is a big part of getting comfy in a new world, but with so many people and such a large build area, this is a lot more daunting. Litematica I think I'm totally on board with for big builds. Freecam is something I struggle with because the view limitations are another thing I've always regarded as an inherent challenge of the game, but I've been learning about terraforming, and it really seems impossible without being able to zoom out every few minutes.
Anyhow, thanks!
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Comment on The 2025 Steam Awards in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentI see. That may be a deal breaker for me :/ Maybe down the line if it gets really cheap or something, but I've generally been allergic to shooting games with random human opponents. Just usually...I see. That may be a deal breaker for me :/
Maybe down the line if it gets really cheap or something, but I've generally been allergic to shooting games with random human opponents. Just usually gets too toxic.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo LinkIt's been fun playing with y'all these last few days. I have a few questions as a newbie to the group and playing Minecraft online in general. Are there rules about client-side mods? I have sodium...It's been fun playing with y'all these last few days. I have a few questions as a newbie to the group and playing Minecraft online in general.
Are there rules about client-side mods? I have sodium and some shader packs for performance and visuals, but haven't fiddled with any mods besides those.
I've seen here that folks use minimaps and other mapping tools. Seems useful! Are there strong opinions about what mapping mods are kosher? How does the group feel about using litematica for build schematics? Or freecam mods? Is there a guiding principle or rules or a list of permitted modd?
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentI'll look at the design there. I haven't been to the nether or end yet. Going slow, just getting my starter house built and whatnot with the few hours I've had so far. If someone else wants to...I'll look at the design there. I haven't been to the nether or end yet. Going slow, just getting my starter house built and whatnot with the few hours I've had so far. If someone else wants to jump on it, feel free, but I'll check the industrial district each login and if I get my resources together before someone else starts it, then I'll build the shulker farm.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentJust replying to FYI that I'm building my little swamp hut at -620, -440Just replying to FYI that I'm building my little swamp hut at -620, -440
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Comment on Advice on avoiding the hedonic treadmill of endless content? in ~life
ingannilo LinkIt's not easy, and without totally eschewing modernity, I'm not sure it's possible. I do have a few rules for myself and my household where my son is growing up. I let my kiddo watch youtube...It's not easy, and without totally eschewing modernity, I'm not sure it's possible. I do have a few rules for myself and my household where my son is growing up.
I let my kiddo watch youtube videos on the TV, but autoplay is off and shorts aren't an allowed. He's still too young to really operate the keyboard, so this hasn't been hard to enforce. As he grows, the smart devices will be locked down to communication tools, and anything that stuffs short-form videos into the users face one after another won't be available to him. I don't use services like those either for the same reason: mental/intellectual health.
I'm gonna try to steer him away from image or video based social media. Text based stuff is okay, provided it's safe. Long form video content is okay, provided it's appropriate and mostly educational or creative. Just hoping to avoid the pure distilled brainrot.
I think my best tool is showing him the joy in other things, like reading, playing in the dirt, gardening, racing rc cars, driving his power wheels, playing with the dog, drawing and painting, and gardening.
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Comment on The 2025 Steam Awards in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentHm, maybe I'll have to take a peek. Is it possible to play single player, pure pve? I've seen a few reviews, but none of them got into any of the details you mention. That does sound like it could...Hm, maybe I'll have to take a peek. Is it possible to play single player, pure pve?
I've seen a few reviews, but none of them got into any of the details you mention. That does sound like it could be innovative.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentI've been pretty short on time to log in and play. I hopped on for the first time yesterday and started a little hut in the mangrove swamp just off the coast from a valley between two hills with...I've been pretty short on time to log in and play. I hopped on for the first time yesterday and started a little hut in the mangrove swamp just off the coast from a valley between two hills with cherry trees, but hopefully I'll be able to pitch in a bit on one of these projects tonight or tomorrow.
I've built a few witch farms in the past, a copper golem sorter is easy too. Never done a shulker farm though, and that's something I want to learn. Also happy to help where I can with the community storage.
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Comment on What's something you're "in too deep" on? in ~talk
ingannilo Link ParentOmg it took me nearly until my neighbor across the street moved out, like two years, to propey remember his name. We've moved furniture for each other, borrowed lawn mowers and ladders, cared for...Omg it took me nearly until my neighbor across the street moved out, like two years, to propey remember his name. We've moved furniture for each other, borrowed lawn mowers and ladders, cared for each other's pets, helped each other's kids with stuff. For nearly all that time I knew his name started with a B... but couldn't tell you with any certainty what it was.
The house nexdoor to me has three grown men living there. I know one is named Scott. Great dude. Saved me by watching my dog, very last minute (previous arrangement flaked out) , when we had to go out of town for a month (including Christmas and new years!) back in 2022. I'll never forget Scott... but I know he's introduced me to the other two guys... A few times... I know there's some family relationship, like maybe the youngest is Scott's son and the older one is his uncle? Or maybe the older guy is Scott's brother and the youngest one is his brother's kid? I just don't remember and at this point I'd feel terrible confessing it.
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Comment on What's something you're "in too deep" on? in ~talk
ingannilo (edited )Link ParentFrom where I'm sitting (single-ish [it's complicated] dad of one very energetic child whose finishing VPK and getting ready for kindergarten) it sounds like you've done and are doing an amazing...From where I'm sitting (single-ish [it's complicated] dad of one very energetic child whose finishing VPK and getting ready for kindergarten) it sounds like you've done and are doing an amazing job.
Most parents are only interested in their children's schooling if the kids are in trouble or if the kids are doing something that will get the parents in trouble. You've invested huge amounts of resources, and more importantly love, in teaching yours. It sounds to me like you've done a good job of giving them a pretty well rounded experience in terms of learning content, and even if that wasn't the case, it's clear reading your words that you care tremendously about their learning. That, the significance of learning, cannot possibly be missed by your kids. They have to see it, and they'll carry that into adulthood.
I'd give anything to have more time and energy and everything really to put into my son's learning. We read and draw/write, talk a lot about different topics I believe are important (logic, geometry, numbers, physics), and I try to focus his media consumption on content that's somehow educational, but I always feel like he deserves more than I can give.
I'm sure you're maxed out and constantly task saturated with all that you're doing, but I just want to applaud you for investing so much of yourself into teaching your kids. The world needs so much more of that spirit.
Editing in some more direct feedback of the type maybe solicited? Anyway, I do think public high school might be a good idea. Your kids are likely, intellectually at least, way ahead of the curve. Socially though, there is an awful lot learned at school which cannot be recreated at home. University or high school, or even just entering the working world -- at some point they'll need to interact more frequently with folks outside the family, and high-school is basically a chance to take a shot at a public facing persona, change it up a few times, and then totally start fresh after graduating and going to college/uni.
University could be that first experience too, but the training wheels are off because generally uni students are not coming home to mom and dad every day with the option to talk through all the social stuff. For that reason, I'd probably advocate for letting them try public school, assuming they're into it.
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Comment on The 2025 Steam Awards in ~games
ingannilo (edited )LinkI was surprised to see so little of Kingdom Come Deliverance II, and to see Arc Raiders in the innovation category. I haven't played Arc Raiders at all because (to my knowledge) it's just another...I was surprised to see so little of Kingdom Come Deliverance II, and to see Arc Raiders in the innovation category. I haven't played Arc Raiders at all because (to my knowledge) it's just another extraction shooter, which has definitely been done to death and never tickled my fancy. Similar feelings about Duckov in that category -- sure it's a clever coat of paint, but the formula is tried and true, and I'm not aware of anything mechanically innovative in either title.
Really happy to see Silksong clean up here after being shafted so hard at the game awards.
Expedition 33 is admittedly something I'd never have tried if not for it's TGA sweep and all the following publicity (so far I like it quite a lot, enough to set Outer Worlds 2 aside near the endgame). Its soundtrack is great, but I feel like the visual style is even stronger, and what it does with gameplay is more innovative than any of the stuff in that category.
Editing to ask a favor: can anyone explain to me (who hasn't played any online fps games since tf2 in 2011) what makes arc raiders special?
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Comment on I am kinda curious about the demographics of Tildes in ~talk
ingannilo LinkI'm late 30s, cis, straight, white, American, male, professor of mathematics in a US state that loathes the existence of truth and logic. One kid, married (but estranged I guess, long story),...I'm late 30s, cis, straight, white, American, male, professor of mathematics in a US state that loathes the existence of truth and logic.
One kid, married (but estranged I guess, long story), generally pretty into my life. Been learning to let go of things I can't change so I can better focus on the things I can.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentCool. You sound pretty confident, so maybe I'll just sit back and learn this time around. I couldn't get on yesterday, and reading this thread, I'm amazed how much everyone got done! Today is...Cool. You sound pretty confident, so maybe I'll just sit back and learn this time around.
I couldn't get on yesterday, and reading this thread, I'm amazed how much everyone got done! Today is pretty rainy here and my son seems content to lay about, so hopefully I'll be able to get in and say hi to everyone.
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo Link ParentVery cool! I am interested in storage tech but not particularly experienced. I've been researching hybrid bulk halls and input / parallelization systems. Do you think it'd be okay if I tried to...Very cool!
I am interested in storage tech but not particularly experienced. I've been researching hybrid bulk halls and input / parallelization systems. Do you think it'd be okay if I tried to build something like that?
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Comment on Tildes Minecraft - Season 3 Launch Day in ~games
ingannilo LinkI'm really excited to hop on! I remember the first tildes smp, watching from the sidelines as a console-only bedrock player. Now that I have a pc, I'll be able to join in! From what I saw in...I'm really excited to hop on! I remember the first tildes smp, watching from the sidelines as a console-only bedrock player. Now that I have a pc, I'll be able to join in!
From what I saw in screenshot and whatnot from before, there are some super talented builders and redstoners among the tildes people.
I've never played Minecraft online. Are there any etiquette or other rules that I should be aware of besides the obvious "don't be a jerk" stuff for the tildes server?
I'm actually kind of giddy!
I'd be down to join the raid, but I also have super limited time between work and kiddo.
If it's possible to coordinate the time for somewhere around 9pm EST, then hopefully I'd be able to join. If it ends up going down without me though I totally understand. Just hope I can scoop an elytra at some point.
For the record, I'm in no rush. If folks wanted to wait another week or two, I'd even be down for that. But I understand that a lot of folks play more often than me and are ready for the next bit of progression.