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  1. Comment on Are you a purist or evolutionist? What your language 'pet peeve' reveals about you in ~humanities

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    I would find that an egregious insult to my intelligence. Please no.

    I would find that an egregious insult to my intelligence. Please no.

    2 votes
  2. Comment on Death of the Calorie in ~food

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    Fad diets are not the answer, either.

    keto

    Fad diets are not the answer, either.

    3 votes
  3. Comment on Are you a purist or evolutionist? What your language 'pet peeve' reveals about you in ~humanities

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    Can we not do the /s thing here, please? This is Tildes, we're supposed to be better than that. yes, yes, irony, I know.

    Can we not do the /s thing here, please? This is Tildes, we're supposed to be better than that.

    yes, yes, irony, I know.

    2 votes
  4. Comment on Does anyone on Tildes not speak—intentionally or not—to one or both of your parents? If so, why? in ~talk

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    Mother dearest is a narcissist, and a lover of drama. Oh, and she's also homophobic, transphobic, racist, and probably a bit sexist. And a terrible parent ("I can make another one just like you",...

    Mother dearest is a narcissist, and a lover of drama. Oh, and she's also homophobic, transphobic, racist, and probably a bit sexist. And a terrible parent ("I can make another one just like you", "I brought you into this world and I can take you out") who tried to buy love through gifts. And that weird kind of religious that only comes up when used for manipulation (see above: narcissist). All of those things screwed me up in ways that I didn't even realize until I was around 30, and I'm still recovering from.

    Father is not a narcissist, but seemed to have some vaguely homophobic views. Mostly reasonable, but enables his narcissist wife.

    I cut contact with them a few years ago and have been quite happy since. No more yelling and screaming, no more drama, no more nonsense. I am the person I am despite my parents. They were fine role models of who not to be.

    You are under no obligation to love your parents, or anyone else, who treats you poorly. A parent is not automatically owed love. This is a very unpopular view, but it's unpopular among those who have good parents (or who don't realize how awful their parents actually are). We have this (mis)perception that becoming a parent makes someone infallible. It does not. It takes a lot of skill (which no one is trained in), effort, and favorable circumstances to be a parent, without which you can really screw up a person for their entire life. Yet there's no regulation around becoming a biological parent, there are no laws, rules, suggestions, anything. You can create a family of scarred, broken people, and there's nothing preventing you doing so.

    You are free to choose your family. Learn this at 24 instead of 30 when I did. Preferably, learn it before 24.

    3 votes
  5. Comment on The lost worlds of telnet in ~tech

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    I don't think this article really gives MUDs and similar games fair coverage. There's still a lot of work and innovation in this area, and some MUDs give some good reasoning for why they're able...

    I don't think this article really gives MUDs and similar games fair coverage. There's still a lot of work and innovation in this area, and some MUDs give some good reasoning for why they're able to do things that graphical MMOs can't. If you're interested, there's a whole world (many, actually) to explore. Sure, it takes some investment to learn the new mechanics and such, but that's true of any game. It's just that MUDs tend to be a lot deeper than most!

  6. Comment on Telegram gets 3M new signups during Facebook apps’ outage in ~tech

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    In addition to the excellent points deing raised, Telegram's support is entirely volunteer. This means that if something goes wrong, you may not get any response from their support at all. I had...

    In addition to the excellent points deing raised, Telegram's support is entirely volunteer. This means that if something goes wrong, you may not get any response from their support at all. I had an issue with moving phone numbers and they totally ignored me (both on their official support and on their twitter, when I still had a twitter). In addition, the only official way of reaching support is... on Telegram. So, yeah. You can hopefully see the problem with that.

    3 votes
  7. Comment on DARPA Is Building a $10 Million, Open Source, Secure Voting System in ~misc

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    Indeed. I'm absolutely not a fan of the DoD or the military, but I have to admit they do at least some good work (like that thing you may have heard of, the ARPANET). Given that election tampering...

    Given DARPA's track record I have more faith in them than most,

    Indeed. I'm absolutely not a fan of the DoD or the military, but I have to admit they do at least some good work (like that thing you may have heard of, the ARPANET). Given that election tampering is clearly a matter of national security, the DoD does have a vested interest in doing it right, too. I imagine the alphabet soup agencies are going to get involved, too, if they aren't already.

    3 votes
  8. Comment on The Hottest Chat App for Teens Is … Google Docs in ~tech

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    The fascinating thing about this, from the perspective of an old Unix nerd like me, is that Google Docs updates live, and using it as a chat platform means you get all the nuance, all the real...

    The fascinating thing about this, from the perspective of an old Unix nerd like me, is that Google Docs updates live, and using it as a chat platform means you get all the nuance, all the real humanity, that realtime updates provide. It's actually just like the oldschool talk(1) system on Unix back in the day, but multiplayer. The linguist and the anthropologist in me is really curious if these kids are inventing some of the same conventions that existed for talk(1) back in the day, or if the technology makes them unnecessary.

    I did not expect to observe yet another way of tech repeating itself, but here we are. And yes, there was ytalk(1), a multiuser version, but that was third-party and most Unixes (Unixes, not Linux distros) shipped with talk(1) in the default install. I've only used these programs a couple of times, and emulations of them on BBSs a few times, but I miss the immediacy and the imperfection they allowed. Of course, it was possible to really embarrass yourself (e.g. by responding before your interlocutor (intertyper?) was finished typing), and I wonder if the kids experience this kind of thing too.

    8 votes
  9. Comment on How Google’s Bad Data Wiped a Neighborhood off the Map in ~tech

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    It's not really cliques; that feels like an exaggeration of what I was trying to say. I'm sorry if you got that impression. Cliques, to me, are the kind of thing in high school where you'd be...

    It's not really cliques; that feels like an exaggeration of what I was trying to say. I'm sorry if you got that impression. Cliques, to me, are the kind of thing in high school where you'd be actively socially attacked and ostracized if you don't fit in. It's not like that in the city, at least not in my experience.

    There can be an aspect of discrimination, you're right, but there's practical and human elements as well. For example, in Philadelphia, you can be pretty sure you're going to find the best Chinese food in... Chinatown. And apartments in Rittenhouse Square or Manayunk are going to be pricier than, say, Kensington. Upscale shopping is on Walnut Street, especially near Rittenhouse Square.

    It benefits from being in a map for the reasons I described above, so you know what to expect. You can call this stereotyping, but there's absolutely a lot of truth to it, especially regarding real estate.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on Domain names as tags in ~tildes

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    It is a bit confusing, yes. And I agree with you that this particular case it makes sense to remove the tag altogether because we have the information elsewhere in the post (which corroborates the...

    It is a bit confusing, yes. And I agree with you that this particular case it makes sense to remove the tag altogether because we have the information elsewhere in the post (which corroborates the argument I made in my OP). Would you think it reasonable to retire the tag when the word count feature is more robust?

    I had no idea about the spoilers -> spoiler rewrite, that's cool! That's exactly what I had in mind in my post and it's really encouraging to see you thought of it already. :D

    1 vote
  11. Comment on Google has quietly added DuckDuckGo as a search engine option for Chrome users in ~60 markets in ~tech

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    And iOS, if you're into that, too, but the Tor browsers for iOS tend to be... what's the word... crap. Not at all as polished as the native browser.

    And iOS, if you're into that, too, but the Tor browsers for iOS tend to be... what's the word... crap. Not at all as polished as the native browser.

  12. Comment on Domain names as tags in ~tildes

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    It covers some useful things, but I'm proposing something a bit beyond that.

    It covers some useful things, but I'm proposing something a bit beyond that.

    1 vote
  13. Comment on How Google’s Bad Data Wiped a Neighborhood off the Map in ~tech

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    Hi, Philadelphian here. Neighborhood divisions are a big deal here. Specifically, I live in what's known as the Gayborhood. Yet if you look at that neighborhood on Google Maps, you'll see it...

    Hi, Philadelphian here. Neighborhood divisions are a big deal here. Specifically, I live in what's known as the Gayborhood. Yet if you look at that neighborhood on Google Maps, you'll see it referenced as Washington Square West--despite there being no Washington Square East (that'd put you in the river, or, horrors, Camden). Washington Square is one of the parks in the city. You'll also see Rittenhouse Square, its own neighborhood, and local businesses like to refer to themselves with the name Rittenhouse even if they're not actually on the square. It's a bit like suburbanites saying they're from a big city if they're from a suburb, I think. I lived on the square for a year or two, and labelling yourself "Rittenhouse This or That" when you're not on the square is just silly.

    Northeast a bit you'll find Fishtown, and Kensington. The former is something of a gentrification hub / hipster revival (much like Manayunk before it, a bit further north but bordering the other river), the latter is Philadelphia's little Camden. Lots of poor folks, lots of crime.

    Each neighborhood has its own feel, its own people. I don't really feel comfortable in Germantown, for example, and it's not just a feeling; bad experiences up there. Conversely, a Germantown native may not feel comfortable in dense Center City where I live. University City (guess what it's named for) is its own thing, lots of well-off folks because Drexel and Penn are so expensive. Neighborhoods matter, and you can easily tell if someone is from another part of town.

    edit: accidentally a word

    6 votes
  14. Comment on Tildeverse - association of like-minded tilde communities in ~tech

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    Please note that this has nothing to do with tildes.net and that the name is merely coincidental.

    Please note that this has nothing to do with tildes.net and that the name is merely coincidental.

    10 votes
  15. Comment on Domain names as tags in ~tildes

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    First, I'm not trying to pick on anyone with this post, or single out anyone as doing something bad, but it's an example I saw and I wanted to have a discussion about it so we can all make the...

    First, I'm not trying to pick on anyone with this post, or single out anyone as doing something bad, but it's an example I saw and I wanted to have a discussion about it so we can all make the site better going forward.

    This post came up and I'm wondering about how we do tagging here. I've helped run larger sites that have tag collections (books, in this case, not links / discussion posts), and I learned a good deal there. One thing I learned is to not have tags for something you can search for otherwise. For books, this is things like authors, titles, publisher, that kind of thing. For submissions here, it's the domain, ideally one day the submitter, that kind of thing.

    Furthermore, the longread tag is a duplicate of the long_read tag. I have a lot of experience with deduplicating tags like this, and one thing that worked really well was a silent tag rewriting system: something that would, on input, look for tags that have been marked as duplicates and then change them to the canonical version in the database and on display. This addressed common typos but also helped us standardize on one specific tag for something that could be referenced in a number of different ways. It's important to not interrupt the flow of content submission with this, but document it so the user knows what's happening. If they submit something with tag foo and it shows up in their post as food, we want to be sure they know why so they don't try to change the tags.

    Again, not meaning to pick on anyone, but this is something I have some experience with and would like some feedback on.

    2 votes
  16. Comment on Is it a good idea to use an AWS server as a vpn? in ~tech

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    I was able to get to Netflix with encrypt.me, but all the recaptchas were really annoying. The worst thing is the slooooooooow fadeout of each image when you have to select multiple things.

    I was able to get to Netflix with encrypt.me, but all the recaptchas were really annoying. The worst thing is the slooooooooow fadeout of each image when you have to select multiple things.

  17. Comment on The Most Influential Academic Books in the Last 20 Years According to the Chronicle of Higher Education in ~books

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    Any list like this is going to be based on popularity and the subjective judgement of the people making the list. No such list can possibly be definitive, and that you haven't read them (I haven't...

    Any list like this is going to be based on popularity and the subjective judgement of the people making the list. No such list can possibly be definitive, and that you haven't read them (I haven't even heard of most of them) does not reflect poorly on you or suggest that you need to read them all, or at all. It's exactly like awards for music, television, and film. It's the subjective opinion of a group of people, and some other group of people will have a different list. Don't worry yourself over what is currently in fashion.

  18. Comment on Is it a good idea to use an AWS server as a vpn? in ~tech

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    The recaptcha thing is absolutely true. I was, until a few weeks ago, using encrypt.me for my VPN provider. They use a lot of shared AWS instances for hosting their VPNs, and I was getting so many...

    The recaptcha thing is absolutely true. I was, until a few weeks ago, using encrypt.me for my VPN provider. They use a lot of shared AWS instances for hosting their VPNs, and I was getting so many recaptchas that it felt like it was every single site. It was about as bad as when I was running a Tor relay node. I just couldn't take it any more. I clicked on so. many. traffic lights and busses. So many.

    3 votes
  19. Comment on TikTok will change the way your social media works — even if you’re avoiding it in ~tech

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    I recently had thoughts of opening a gaming store in my city (there's only one, I do not, at all, feel welcome there, it's quite far from my apartment, and they have one tiny shelf dedicated to...

    I recently had thoughts of opening a gaming store in my city (there's only one, I do not, at all, feel welcome there, it's quite far from my apartment, and they have one tiny shelf dedicated to RPGs compared to a whole floor for Magic / miniatures) and I came to the same realization, that I would have to use all kinds of social media. The same goes for any kind of independent business. Tildes is the most "social" I get with my media.

    1 vote