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Comment on Getting permission from your significant other in ~life
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Comment on Getting permission from your significant other in ~life
papasquat LinkI wanted to make another comment because this touches on a pet peeve of mine that I really hate. That's using tired gender stereotypes as a sales tactic. Very often, I'll be in situations where...I wanted to make another comment because this touches on a pet peeve of mine that I really hate.
That's using tired gender stereotypes as a sales tactic. Very often, I'll be in situations where I'm likely to be sold to with my wife. That could be walking around home depot, going to a trade expo, going to a really touristy spot on a vacation, and so on.
My wife and I are very similar in that we're both extremely skeptical of people approaching/cold calling/advertising to us about anything, but especially when they're clearly selling something. Both of us would rather just immediately say no, and if we want the thing that is being sold, we come back later after actually weighing our options and deciding if it's a good deal.
One thing that sales people do, and I'm very sure this is intentionally taught at their stupid training retreats, is to try to use my wife against me. They'll say things like "oh, well I understand, your husband doesn't like to spend money, that's rough", or "you know you're supposed to take care of your lady right? Don't you care about making her happy?". They'll try to sell directly to her and cut me out of the conversation if they don't feel they're getting anywhere with me, or they'll try to form an "alliance" with my wife to get her to help them pitch me.
Thankfully, this basically never works, but the entire idea of it is really disgusting to me, and using it will 100% guarantee that I'll go out of my way to never do business with their company again.
It draws on the same old well of tired stereotypes thats behind "wife=bad" humor, or "happy wife happy life" , "gotta ask the boss" and so on. The idea that women are humorless hags with full control of their husband's life and wallet, and that a husbands role is to desperately perform for their wives for the rest of their life to escape being bitched at and nagged.
It's not the kind of relationship dynamic that anyone I know would ever want to be in, and it annoys me when people not only assume that that's the dynamic of my relationship, but try to use that assumption for personal gain.
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Comment on Enjoying reading in the age of LLMs in ~humanities
papasquat Link ParentIt depends on what type of writing you mean. There are certain types of writing that AI already has largely supplanted. Low level copyrighting is completely done by AI now, and the current models...Personally I don't see AI writing supplanting human writing.
It depends on what type of writing you mean. There are certain types of writing that AI already has largely supplanted. Low level copyrighting is completely done by AI now, and the current models are way more capable than they ever needed to be to create that work.
I imagine a lot of technical writing will also be completely taken over by AI as well.
Most summarization, translation, and report writing are in the process of being taken over by AI as well.
If you're talking about writing that people consume for pleasure or enjoyment though, I think some of that may be taken over, but there will always be a market for human written work. The issue is always going to be actually trusting that it really was human written. There's no way to verify that, nor can there ever be, because of the nature of text.
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Comment on Getting permission from your significant other in ~life
papasquat Link ParentI don't think the boss description is apt, because bosses have control of their subordinates, but their subordinates don't have control over them. In a healthy relationship, neither partner wants...I don't think the boss description is apt, because bosses have control of their subordinates, but their subordinates don't have control over them.
In a healthy relationship, neither partner wants to disappoint each other, so they each have some degree of control over one another. That doesn't fit with them being a boss at all.
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Comment on Getting permission from your significant other in ~life
papasquat LinkI think it likely is option 2, which is pretty sad. I'm married, but if I got a sense that I needed permission to do things, I don't think I'd be married for much longer. When someone asks me if I...I think it likely is option 2, which is pretty sad.
I'm married, but if I got a sense that I needed permission to do things, I don't think I'd be married for much longer.
When someone asks me if I can do something that's going to take a while, I don't ask permission, but I do talk to my wife to see if we have anything planned. If she says yes, I will tell them no 99% of the time, because keeping plans with my wife is more important to me than whatever the other thing is. If the thing we have planned is something we're both kinda meh about, and the alternative is great, I'll tell her that I'm going to do the other thing.
I'm an adult, I don't need anyone's permission to do whatever I want.
Part of being an adult is accepting that you have responsibilities though. One of those responsibilities is caring about your spouses feelings, and if I just randomly decided to do things that impact plans we've already made, I wouldn't be living up to that responsibility.
The only issue I ever have with my wife on this front is that sometimes, she will make plans up in her head and not tell me until right beforehand, or have some sort of an expectation that we will do something on a certain day but never let me know that, so if I do something, even after I tell her about it, it disappoints her.
I've had conversations with her about it, and it's just her personality. She's a lot more passive and less willing to actually ask for what she wants than I am, so I have to be careful to not just trample all over her ideas. She's gotten better about actually communicating her future plans with me as well.
It could be that a lot of people are in a similar boat and just use the "permission" thing as shorthand for that.
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Comment on Artemis II April 1 launch in ~space
papasquat Link ParentWell to be fair, when you look up from Earth's surface all you see is empty space forever in all directions too. The view from the far side of the moon would sorta be more similar to a view from...Well to be fair, when you look up from Earth's surface all you see is empty space forever in all directions too. The view from the far side of the moon would sorta be more similar to a view from Earth than the view from the near side would be.
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Comment on How to turn anything into a router in ~comp
papasquat LinkI've gotta say, it's cool to know how to do all of this stuff manually, but for most people, this would be completely impractical. It's the whole reason why firewall/router distributions like...I've gotta say, it's cool to know how to do all of this stuff manually, but for most people, this would be completely impractical. It's the whole reason why firewall/router distributions like pfsense exist.
You can install an ISO, and have all of these features instantly available with a great cli configuration system and web GUI to manage it.
There's no well in hell I'd ever manually install and configure each individual component of a router/firewall myself. It doesn't seem practical just about anywhere.
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Comment on "CEO said a thing!" journalism in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentSure, but this is sort of a "broken clock is right twice a day" situation. Most of the things Musk and Trump say will happen, do not happen. The fact that every so often, what they say will happen...Sure, but this is sort of a "broken clock is right twice a day" situation. Most of the things Musk and Trump say will happen, do not happen. The fact that every so often, what they say will happen does happen doesn't suddenly mean everything they say is news.
Given their track record, we'd be better off regularly reporting on the result of a coin flip.
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Comment on Haliey Welch interview (Hawk Tuah) by Channel 5 in ~life
papasquat Link ParentI had a similar opinion a while ago, because I used to really like all gas no brakes. I looked into it further because I didn't really want to feel so conflicted about him. My conclusion was that...I had a similar opinion a while ago, because I used to really like all gas no brakes. I looked into it further because I didn't really want to feel so conflicted about him. My conclusion was that it looks really bad for him, and he almost certainly raped at least one woman, and had a long pattern of behavior that really rode the line of consent. I don't have time to dig it all back up right now but if I remember, I'll edit this comment.
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Comment on "CEO said a thing!" journalism in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentIt's not really news. It's advertising. "CEO said a thing" is not something that actually happened, or will actually happen. It's press, released by the company. No different than the article...It's not really news. It's advertising. "CEO said a thing" is not something that actually happened, or will actually happen. It's press, released by the company. No different than the article "Breaking: Coca-Cola is refreshing on a hot day, according to The Coca-Cola Company".
If you want to make it news, you need to do some actual analysis of what the statement likely means.
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Comment on Air Canada CEO will retire this year after his English-only crash message was criticized in ~transport
papasquat Link ParentThis is kinda crazy to me, but I admittedly don't have the cultural background, since I'm American. For most of our far saner history than the current administration, the US had no official...This is kinda crazy to me, but I admittedly don't have the cultural background, since I'm American.
For most of our far saner history than the current administration, the US had no official language, but we're a defacto bilingual nation as well; 19% of Americans speak spanish (not too far off from the proportion of Canadian French speakers, and way more in absolute terms). The idea of the CEO of a company being fired for not speaking Spanish is so wild of an idea to me.
I guess that may have something to do with the fact that Spanish language use in the US is growing, not shrinking, and maybe some racism thrown in.
I'm curious, do you think it would be a similar situation if it was the inverse? That is, if there were a CEO that only spoke French, would people ask for his resignation?
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Comment on Haliey Welch interview (Hawk Tuah) by Channel 5 in ~life
papasquat Link ParentHonestly, I never had anything against Hailey Welch. I think she's totally fine as a person, and her crypto scam very obviously seems like something she signed up to do without fully understanding...Honestly, I never had anything against Hailey Welch. I think she's totally fine as a person, and her crypto scam very obviously seems like something she signed up to do without fully understanding the implications. She's about a thousand times better than many of the other influencers that are more successful than her who continually and intentionally use their audience as flocks of sheep to be harvested.
I didn't, and probably won't watch the interview because I can't really do Andrew Callahaghan anymore, but it feels really weird for him to do sit down, critical interviews with controversial figures. Usually someone who does that sort of thing has to have a positive or at least neutral moral standing to pull it off well, since you're effectively casting judgement on someone for something they did wrong.
The whole thing doesn't really work for me because yeah, Hailey did scam a lot of people out of their money on behalf of some people who scammed her too, but like... Andrew's a rapist.
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Comment on Scientists uncovered the nutrients bees were missing -- colonies surged fifteen-fold in ~science
papasquat Link ParentCurious as to why you think it's related to the economic system. Like, if we lived in a socialist country, people would continue to need to grow crops, and the most efficient least labor intensive...Curious as to why you think it's related to the economic system.
Like, if we lived in a socialist country, people would continue to need to grow crops, and the most efficient least labor intensive way to pollinate them would still be to do that beehive shuffle.
Its done that way right now because it's more profitable, but that's just a translation for "least labor intensive" in a market economy.
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Comment on I think Tildes moderators and admins may need to make a decision regarding how to handle Harry Potter related posts in ~tildes
papasquat Link ParentI mean if you want a more apt comparison, we could ask if we want this to be a safe space to discuss Kanye West's music without bringing up the things he's said publically. I would say no, most...I mean if you want a more apt comparison, we could ask if we want this to be a safe space to discuss Kanye West's music without bringing up the things he's said publically.
I would say no, most people on this site probably do not want that. Is it possible to discuss Kanye's music without touching on the terrible person he's become? Yeah it's possible. It's probably not a good idea or desirable in any way to do that though, even if you like his music.
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Comment on Welcome to a multidimensional economic disaster - the AI boom wasn’t built for the polycrisis (gifted lnk) in ~tech
papasquat LinkThe frustrating thing about this situation we're all in is that after the inevitable crash happens, and we face pain that makes 2008 seem like a mild annoyance, mountains of think pieces,...The frustrating thing about this situation we're all in is that after the inevitable crash happens, and we face pain that makes 2008 seem like a mild annoyance, mountains of think pieces, newscasts, movies, and other media will come out with the main thesis of "HOW COULD WE NOT SEE THIS COMING???".
It was as plain as day two years ago that basing the entire economy on a single industry that is totally untested and not actually profitable anywhere was a bad idea. Doubly so when it relies on goods manufactured by literally a single small island nation that has thousands of Chinese nukes pointed at it.
People have been warning about this till they've turned blue and people in power have done literally NOTHING about it. They've done worse than nothing. They actively encourage more and more pigeonholing into the AI wagon, and the overall risk mitigation strategy is basically just cross your fingers and hope for the best.
Normal people should be outraged and frustrated that we've let the world come to the precipice in this way just to make a couple of hundred people richer than God.
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Comment on How China forgot Karl Marx: The Chinese economy runs on labor exploitation (gifted link) in ~society
papasquat Link ParentYeah I think that's something that's often missed in critiques of capitalism. Income inequality is often treated like the mother of all statistics and proof of extreme exploitation, and maybe in...Yeah I think that's something that's often missed in critiques of capitalism.
Income inequality is often treated like the mother of all statistics and proof of extreme exploitation, and maybe in some ways it is. Shouldn't the actual thing we're trying to optimize for be general human well being though?
Like, is a society where the rulers live in golden floating places, but everyone else lives in huge, comfortable homes without any medical issues, economic anxiety or crime worse in any way to a society where everyone is dirt poor and starving?
The thing I care about is if rich people are making life horrible for poor people. I don't really care about the fact that rich people are richer than everyone else in isolation.
I think a lot of people get hung up on an abstract idea of fairness versus overall general well-being.
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Comment on Interesting material types for fantasy resources/macguffins other than crystals or metals? in ~creative
papasquat LinkI think it's neat when the super powerful crazy object is just a sliver or refuse of some unimaginably powerful entity. Like the tear of some long dead god from hundreds of thousands of years ago...I think it's neat when the super powerful crazy object is just a sliver or refuse of some unimaginably powerful entity. Like the tear of some long dead god from hundreds of thousands of years ago in a vial gives you insanely ridiculous powers if you wear it on your neck. Or the eyelash of some ancient dragon that lets you breathe fire or something.
It makes your imagine run wild about how crazy the world must have been back then if someone is running around destroying armies with a tiny discarded sliver of a being that existed long ago.
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Comment on Android to debut "advanced flow" for sideloading unverified applications in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentEr... No. I don't use chatbots to make comments on the internetEr... No. I don't use chatbots to make comments on the internet
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Comment on US regulator bans imports of new foreign-made routers, citing security concerns in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentI guess that depends on if the US market is lucrative enough that the small amount of purchases they'd get for replacing broken hardware is enough to justify continuing to support an old router...I guess that depends on if the US market is lucrative enough that the small amount of purchases they'd get for replacing broken hardware is enough to justify continuing to support an old router that no one in the rest of the world wants.
The only reason most people buy a new router is if the one that have broke, or if they want faster speeds/better wifi. If you cut off the possibility of the latter reason being a motivating factor, do enough people have broken routers to make it worth a company's time to keep manufacturing them and releasing security updates?
In reality, I think the most likely scenario is realistically that people continue to import foreign routers that aren't FCC certified after retailers figure out that the federal government is not staffed to enforce this. Either via blatantly just doing it, having some grey area loophole like rebranding some white label or shipping blank hardware that has an easy flash button or something, or via some sort of bribe to the president allowing them to get on the exception list.
Either way though, it's a really bad thing for consumer internet costs, security, and American competitiveness in the tech market. I also suspect it's just yet another grift by the Trump administration to enrich Trump and his family, like a good half of the federal policy decisions made nowadays.
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Comment on US regulator bans imports of new foreign-made routers, citing security concerns in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentSure, but if this ruling stands, eventually, none of them will. If you find out your router is compromised, it's not like the average consumer would be able to go out and buy a new one that...Sure, but if this ruling stands, eventually, none of them will. If you find out your router is compromised, it's not like the average consumer would be able to go out and buy a new one that doesn't have unpatched vulnerabilities.
Yeah, I think saying "gotta check with the boss" pretty clearly leans on gender stereotypes and traditional roles, even though it's pretty innocuous.
To illustrate that, I've never heard of a woman saying that about her husband when her friends ask her to do something.
We live in a world of gender roles and sexism, it's impossible for anyone to not absorb some of that even if you're aware of it and make a conscious effort to avoid it.
I don't think it's a big deal overall, although it would be nice to one day live in a world where people don't make assumptions about your personality or relationship dynamic based on your gender.