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Comment on I let my wife have an affair. Do I have to console her now that it’s over? in ~life
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Comment on I let my wife have an affair. Do I have to console her now that it’s over? in ~life
papasquat Link ParentI don't see how this possibly could have ended any other way. If you cheat, "actually, I think I'm non monogamous" is a complete cop out. You've failed to live up to an agreement you had with your...I don't see how this possibly could have ended any other way.
If you cheat, "actually, I think I'm non monogamous" is a complete cop out. You've failed to live up to an agreement you had with your significant other, and there's no way to slice it other than an extreme betrayal. I'd argue that non monogamy started that way is virtually always coerced.
I think there are people for whom non monogamy can work well, but I think they're an extreme subset ot the population. Just because you can, on a rational, logical level reason that there's nothing morally wrong with two people mutually deciding they they want to have sex with other people does not mean you're compatible with that lifestyle.
I think the mistake that people make with this stuff is that they look at their marriage, they look at the fact that they can't have sex with other people then go "I like this marriage, except I can't have sex with other people. It'd be even better if I could!"
It's so much more complex than that though. There are so many additional problems and struggles that opening up a relationship brings that you need to weigh. There's a reason why monogamy is the default relationship status, and it's not solely because of oppressive religious mores like a lot of ENM people claim.
When considering this stuff, a lot of people need to look at their relationships and say to themselves "this is great, and that's good enough" instead of "...but it could be even greater!!!".
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Comment on Amazon’s promotion of ‘Melania’ has critics questioning its motives (Amazon has spent 35M on marketing on top of its 40M budget) in ~movies
papasquat Link ParentNitpicky, but it's not millionaires. It's billionaires. Most working professionals above the age of 50 or so are millionaires. The bulk of millionaires are now solidly middle class. It's not until...Nitpicky, but it's not millionaires. It's billionaires.
Most working professionals above the age of 50 or so are millionaires. The bulk of millionaires are now solidly middle class. It's not until you get to tens or hundreds of millions that you pass the threshold to upper class, and you enter a type of person that has solely focused on the accumulation of wealth above all other considerations.
A mid level manager at a f500, an engineer, and most lawyers are millionaires by middle age though. Doctors, dentists, lawyers at big firms, software people that got in at the right time, and so on are likely millionaires by their 30s/40s. It's one in ten adults in the US, so chances are if you pick out someone on the street who is older than 50, and they've worked their whole lives in a professional career, they're a millionaire.
Inflation is a bitch.
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Comment on Microsoft gave FBI keys to unlock encrypted data in ~society
papasquat LinkHonestly, this isn't shocking or surprising and doesn't trigger any righteous outrage in me at all, despite being very pro privacy. Companies are required to hand over info on their users if they...Honestly, this isn't shocking or surprising and doesn't trigger any righteous outrage in me at all, despite being very pro privacy.
Companies are required to hand over info on their users if they receive a court order to do so. I don't think I have any issue with that. If someone is being investigated for murder or child exploitation or mass terrorism, I think the government should be allowed, with a formal process requiring a warrant from a judge, to be able to seize that data, just like I think they should be allowed to enter someone's house and search the premise.
I don't think that compaines should be compelled to build features that would compromise the security of their products to allow the government to do that though.
I don't see any way that Microsoft could simultaneously back up people's recovery keys so that they're able to hand them over to users on request while also not allowing themselves access to that key. You could end to end encrypt them... But then you just have a new key the user needs to remember. Not very helpful.
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Comment on San Francisco parents are letting teens ride in Waymos without an adult in ~transport
papasquat Link ParentOf course. If cars and trucks didn't exist, virtually no one would ever die on bicycles. That distinction doesn't really matter that much if you're a parent doing the risk calculus of letting your...But as the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety points out, essentially all cycling fatalities are from crashes involving a motor vehicle
Of course. If cars and trucks didn't exist, virtually no one would ever die on bicycles.
That distinction doesn't really matter that much if you're a parent doing the risk calculus of letting your kids take a waymo across town versus ride their bike though.
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Comment on San Francisco parents are letting teens ride in Waymos without an adult in ~transport
papasquat Link ParentPer capita here means per person in the US, not per user of that transport mode.Per capita here means per person in the US, not per user of that transport mode.
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Comment on San Francisco parents are letting teens ride in Waymos without an adult in ~transport
papasquat Link ParentThat statistic is not meaningful. Less than 1 million people commute via bicycle in the US, versus 124 million via car. So yeah, more people die driving cars than riding a bike, because more...That statistic is not meaningful. Less than 1 million people commute via bicycle in the US, versus 124 million via car. So yeah, more people die driving cars than riding a bike, because more people drive cars regularly than ride bikes.
But 891 people died riding bikes in 2020 versus 38,824 in cars, meaning per amount of people regularly using that mode of transportion, bikes are actually more dangerous.
If it were just about raw numbers of people killed, knife juggling would be safer than both.
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Comment on San Francisco parents are letting teens ride in Waymos without an adult in ~transport
papasquat Link ParentCycling is not extremely safe in a lot of places in the US. Around me, to get anywhere, I'd have to ride on a bike lane in between the right lane and a ton of turning lanes on a very busy stroad...Cycling is not extremely safe in a lot of places in the US. Around me, to get anywhere, I'd have to ride on a bike lane in between the right lane and a ton of turning lanes on a very busy stroad where people don't do a great job paying attention or looking for cyclists. It's so dangerous that I'm surprised the city even bothered paining the bike lanes, and the only bikes I've ever seen near that road is on the sidewalk. There's no way in hell I'd be comfortable letting my kids ride bikes there.
Lots of people die by getting hit by cars riding bikes in places like that.
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Comment on US immigration officers assert sweeping power to enter homes without a judge’s warrant, memo says in ~society
papasquat Link ParentLegal and financial responsibility of the child falls to the other parent, or if the other parent isn't willing or able to be responsible, the state. There's no change there, and not wanting to be...Legal and financial responsibility of the child falls to the other parent, or if the other parent isn't willing or able to be responsible, the state. There's no change there, and not wanting to be responsible for a child isn't really an argument for abortion. Men are already financially responsible for kids they conceive, whether they want to be or not.
In a world where we can magically teleport a fetus from a womb and finish it's gestation without any risk or ill effects, I doubt severe abnormalities would be much of a thing, but I think medical experts could make that determination on a case by case basis, just like parents do now.
In cases of rape, yeah, it could potentially be traumatic? Typically the trauma from being forced to carry a rapists baby is use of your body against your will though. If getting a fetus out of your body is as quick, painless, and risk free as an abortion, we've avoided the most traumatic part.
It doesn't demand a woman undergo a medical procedure, it gives her the choice to either continue or terminate her pregnancy. The same choice she has now. I'm a firm believer in the concept that one person's rights end where another's begin, and I view the strongest argument for abortion being legal as women having full dominion of their own bodies. The fetus isn't their body. So they have the right to demand the fetus stop using their body, but not the right to unilaterally determine what happens to the fetus.
Right now, we lack the technology to preserve the lives of fetuses in a low risk, quick way. If we did though? I can't possibly see a moral argument to allow a mother to determine whether her fetus lives or dies.
Once you start allowing that, you start inviting all other nasty consequences as a result. For instance, why does the mother get the sole choice of whether to decide whether a pregnancy goes through or not? Fathers have just as many parental rights. If it's an issue of parents having dominion over their fetuses, it's as much the father's fetus as the mothers, despite it being dependent on the mother's body. It doesn't morally compute to me that just because someone conceived a fetus, they get to do literally whatever they want to it until it's born.
It makes a lot more sense to allow women to have full dominion over their bodies, but no one else's (including one that's not yet born).
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Comment on US immigration officers assert sweeping power to enter homes without a judge’s warrant, memo says in ~society
papasquat Link ParentIt's not that we don't want to, it's that DHS isn't seeking them. They're asserting that they can go into anyone's house they want if they determine they need to, and a judge doesn't even need to...I'm at a loss as to why we wouldn't want to effect that removal immediately, by issuing such a judicial warrant.
It's not that we don't want to, it's that DHS isn't seeking them. They're asserting that they can go into anyone's house they want if they determine they need to, and a judge doesn't even need to review it.
This is a pretty obvious fourth amendment violation. Even if you go with the theory that noncitizens aren't protected by the constitution (they are), there's no guaranteeing that they're not invading citizen's privacy as well. Lots of illegal immigrants live with us citizens. Law enforcement agencies also make mistakes on a regular basis.
Putting aside the legality for a moment, I don't want to live in a world where ICE can legally bust my door down because they think an illegal immigrant lives at my house without a judge even granting a warrant.
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Comment on US immigration officers assert sweeping power to enter homes without a judge’s warrant, memo says in ~society
papasquat Link ParentI agree. ICE's current strategy is deeply unpopular everywhere except the white house. The general populace doesn't like it, the courts don't like it, and Congress doesn't like it. No one truly...I agree. ICE's current strategy is deeply unpopular everywhere except the white house. The general populace doesn't like it, the courts don't like it, and Congress doesn't like it. No one truly puts a stop to it out of fear of the president right now, but the administration is somewhat tempered by the fact that there is a line, even if it has been pushed so far beyond the norm.
If we start seeing armed resistance to enforcement actions, Congress and the courts will start signaling to trump that the already very slack leash has been dropped. Renee Goode was an attempt at manufacturing that resistance, but she was an unarmed middle aged woman. No one is buying that narrative.
If you have a family holed up with assault rifles though, Trump suddenly gets a boogey man and Congress gets to enthusiastically support this stuff without fear of their constituents labeling them as Nazis.
It would make all of this so much worse.
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Comment on US immigration officers assert sweeping power to enter homes without a judge’s warrant, memo says in ~society
papasquat Link ParentYeah, this is the strongest argument for abortion, and the only logically consistent one that makes sense to me. Downplaying a fetus as "not human life" or arguing the minutea of when life begins...Yeah, this is the strongest argument for abortion, and the only logically consistent one that makes sense to me. Downplaying a fetus as "not human life" or arguing the minutea of when life begins is just an argument of semantics that goes nowhere.
Ultimately it comes down to the fact that people shouldn't be obliged to use their body in ways they don't agree with. I shouldn't be forced to give a blood donation if I don't want to, I shouldnt be forced to take a vaccine I don't want, and I shouldn't be forced to carry a child against my will.
The correlary to that is that if there were a risk free, easy to access, safe way to remove a fetus from a woman's body and still keep it alive and viable, I would be 100% ok with abortion being made illegal across the board. We're not even close to that existing, and the safest way to terminate a pregnancy is, and will remain for the foreseeable future to be abortion, so it's completely unethical to make it illegal.
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Comment on US immigration officers assert sweeping power to enter homes without a judge’s warrant, memo says in ~society
papasquat LinkThe whole thing that irritates me about the way conservatives frame these abuses is the rhetorical high ground they operate from. I, and many other left leaning people don't support illegal...The whole thing that irritates me about the way conservatives frame these abuses is the rhetorical high ground they operate from.
I, and many other left leaning people don't support illegal immigration. I think people should be deported if they're here illegally. There are about a billion caveats to go along with that though. Such as: we need to massively expand and make the legal immigration process much easier to interact with. Asylum should be as speedy and painless of a process as possible. We should NOT be funding a paramilitary gestapo force to abduct people from the street and whisked off to God knows where in the middle of the night. Illegal immigration is a crime, but it's a crime like jaywalking is a crime, or speeding on an empty freeway is a crime; that is, it's almost always victimless, and is only really a crime because we'd rather people use the legal route.
It's impossible to bring those caveats up with a conservative though. To them it's either you don't support illegal immigration, and thus how ICE is operating is good, or you do support illegal immigration, and that means you want people to come into the country whenever they want, not pay taxes, leave our borders completely open, and fund free social services for anyone who wants them.
Trump so effectively ran on immigration because he realized that that nuance does not exist in the argument. It's immigrants = bad. Period. End of story. If you get them out of the country, you're doing a good job. If you don't, you're doing a bad job. No other factors or nuance enter into the conversation.
It's one of those issues that is so frustrating to talk about with the right because of that.
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Comment on We are witnessing the self-immolation of a superpower in ~society
papasquat Link ParentWhen you think about it, it's kind of amazing that something like this hasn't happened before. Historically, the most vulnerable time for an empire is during succession. The ruler dies, and his...When you think about it, it's kind of amazing that something like this hasn't happened before.
Historically, the most vulnerable time for an empire is during succession. The ruler dies, and his designated heir is just an idiot, or is lazy, or doesn't have the vision his father had. Or the heir isn't designated, or another would be ruler has a claim on the throne and there's a succession war.
In a monarchy, that sort of thing happens once every 40 years or so, the adult lifespan of a ruler. In a liberal democracy, it happens every four years.Yeah, in theory, the fact that we vote our rulers in instead of them being designated by birth should mean we have qualified presidents instead of kings who just got there by happenstance, but in practice it's just a popularity contest backed by capital and someone's qualifications have very little bearing on whether they're president or not.
This whole problem was supposed to be tempered by checks and balances, but those have been consistently eroded to the degree that the president is effectively a king now, if only for four years stints (we hope).
I don't see how under those circumstances, something like this was anything but an inevitability.
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Comment on What programming/technical projects have you been working on? in ~comp
papasquat Link ParentThat's why I held off on getting one for years. Then I got into flying and building FPV drones, and they're incredibly useful for that. You can't realistically print a decent drone because 3d...That's why I held off on getting one for years. Then I got into flying and building FPV drones, and they're incredibly useful for that. You can't realistically print a decent drone because 3d printer filament isn't strong nor stiff nor lightweight enough, but you can print tons of parts for them, and those parts often get destroyed when you crash (which is a lot, depending on the type of flying you do), so I'm usually printing new stuff at least once a week.
I actually kind of hate the little sculptures that most people who own 3d printers end up printing constantly, because I can't stand clutter and chotckes, but I do end up printing out little functional parts quite a bit for stuff around the house. (Custom holders for tools to go on the wall, bins for my toolbox, headphone holders, some mounting brackets for a power strip, some brackets to hold up some LED tubes I had, among other things).
I'd say unless you have a specific hobby that would be well supported by 3d printed parts, or if you like little sculptures and want to make 3d printing a hobby in it of itself, they're probably not worth it to most people.
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Comment on NexPhone - Smartphone PC that can boot into Windows, Android or Debian in ~tech
papasquat LinkThis is very cool, but I'm scratching my head to understand who it's actually for. I guess if I was somewhere with just my phone, and there was a USB c dock with a mouse, keyboard, and monitor...This is very cool, but I'm scratching my head to understand who it's actually for.
I guess if I was somewhere with just my phone, and there was a USB c dock with a mouse, keyboard, and monitor there, and I really needed to do some work that could only effectively be done at a desk, maybe I'd use that functionality?
But android already has a desktop experience where I could do 90% of the work I'd want to do anyway in that situation.
If I had some weird business specific app that only ran on windows, I could see that use case, but that app is unlikely to work well on ARM anyway.
It's a cool thing to think about being able to do only if you don't think about a specific situation that you'd ever want to do it.
I will admit, the idea of only owning a single computing device that fits in my pocket which I can game on, work on, and communicate on is appealing, but cycling through three different OSes to do it is the opposite of appealing.
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Comment on Massive winter storm expected to dump snow and ice across United States in ~enviro
papasquat Link ParentLiving in Florida during hurricane Sandy, there was a bit of schadenfreude from me towards people I knew who live in New York. Any time there's reports of ice or snow in North Florida, they would...Living in Florida during hurricane Sandy, there was a bit of schadenfreude from me towards people I knew who live in New York. Any time there's reports of ice or snow in North Florida, they would give me shit because roads and schools were shut down.
The mainstream media collectively pretended that hurricanes were some new invention that no one has ever heard of before and it was the end of the world because it affected NYC. It was a cat 1 storm. If it hit where I lived, I wouldn't even get the day off of work, and everyone would have just continued their normal routine except they'd wear a rain coat.
Areas that experience things rarely don't tend to invest a lot of resources into preparing for them. Shocker!
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Comment on GameSir Pocket Taco Kickstarter has been launched in ~games
papasquat Link ParentThe whole appeal of magsafe is that it can be used through a case though.The whole appeal of magsafe is that it can be used through a case though.
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Comment on Why everyone is suddenly in a ‘very Chinese time’ in their lives in ~tech
papasquat Link ParentProbably because it's the last piece remaining that prevents the CCP from claiming a total victory in the chinese communist revolution. The ROC and the PRC are still technically at war. A peace...Probably because it's the last piece remaining that prevents the CCP from claiming a total victory in the chinese communist revolution. The ROC and the PRC are still technically at war. A peace has never been negotiated or signed. As long as Taiwan remains a separate country, it's a blemish on the Chinese communist party.
Taking Taiwan would cement Xi in history as the Chinese leader that finally unified the country under communism.
There are massive economic reasons as well of course, but I don't think those are the main drivers.
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Comment on Scott A. on Scott A. on Scott A. in ~comics
papasquat Link ParentNah. Just an absurd amount of c clamps. I eventually figured it out, but it took an absurd about of trial and error, and I think I eventually just recut everything. I learned that there are dozens...Nah. Just an absurd amount of c clamps. I eventually figured it out, but it took an absurd about of trial and error, and I think I eventually just recut everything.
I learned that there are dozens of ways for double rabbet joints to sit on a box, and if you don't plan out exactly how yours will sit, and write them down, you're almost guaranteed to have something that doesn't fit. If I ever have to do it again, single rabbets only. Or if I'm in the mood to feel like a complete idiot on an even higher scale again, maybe I'll try dovetails.
Honestly, this reminds me of my own "traditional" marriage. Except I don't not talk to my friends and family with problems out of shame. I don't talk to them because I don't want to taint their perception of my wife. I think that's very common.
I love my wife, and I love spending time with her, and we generally communicate well and have very few problems. We do have minor problems now and then though, like every couple. If I told my parents or my sister when those problems came up, or when my wife does things that annoy me, those problems will color their perceptions of her forever.
I know this from experience. If I bring up one time that it annoys me when a girlfriend leaves her clothes on my side of the bed, for years it became "Oh, you must be busy cleaning up after her because of how messy she is".
That becomes one of her main defining character traits forever in their minds. I'd rather not deal with that perception and having to correct people about it, so to the outside world, my wife is and will always be a perfect angel who doesn't do any wrong.
It does leave a gap for who to actually talk to about stuff though.