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  1. Comment on Tesla’s “self-driving” system never should have been allowed on the road in ~transport

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    I wouldn't say it's far-fetched or infeasible, I would just expect people to try to use that lane to avoid traffic and whatnot. It's a solid idea, nonetheless.

    I wouldn't say it's far-fetched or infeasible, I would just expect people to try to use that lane to avoid traffic and whatnot.

    It's a solid idea, nonetheless.

    1 vote

  2. Comment on Where do you share your art with the world? in ~creative

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    I know close to nothing about photography and jargon, but I love how classic your shots are. It makes me feel like I'm watching a movie. A cult classic kind of movie.

    I know close to nothing about photography and jargon, but I love how classic your shots are. It makes me feel like I'm watching a movie. A cult classic kind of movie.

    3 votes

  3. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    Your perspective. My perspective was Mews's comment was potentially harmful. Turns out it wasn't. Wow, clarification helps and perspective matters! Replace "POC" with "straight white males" and...

    I wouldn't categorize what you're doing as completely harmless.

    Your perspective. My perspective was Mews's comment was potentially harmful. Turns out it wasn't. Wow, clarification helps and perspective matters!

    When someone effectively says I'm going to invite a few more POC and the first response is can you please not discriminate that's probably not overtly welcoming to POC.

    Replace "POC" with "straight white males" and it's problematic. Singling out any group based on race or gender is questionable, whether if it's concerning bias or discrimination. It has nothing to do with me not welcoming my own people.

    Actually, Tildes has had many, many discussions on exactly this. It's not explicitly a space for this obviously, but I've been here for a while and there's absolutely room for identity and identity politics here

    Exactly my point, it's not explicitly a space for it. Not once have I assumed that discussions about social politics don't exist on Tildes; one out of two of my concerns was that it could become a prevalent issue and end up like any other social media where you get censored, banned, or mass reported just because people disagree with you on social politics.

    but I don't really think someone's attempts at inviting people to Tildes could be considered a suitable platform for that discussion.

    You think that, and I thought there was discrimination against white males and racial/gender bias from Mews's comment. They clarified that isn't the case, and that's all.

    You mentioned in one of your comments:

    Something I've had to learn (and am still learning) as one of Tildes' few (?) liberals over time is not everyone who disagrees with you is asking to be responded to, sometimes people just want to vent about something without it turning into an argument or debate.

    This is ironically the case in this situation. I wasn't looking for an argument or a debate, and Mews already clarified what they meant.

    Have a nice day/night.

  4. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    I totally get how important diversity is and how much value and richness it brings. My only concern was making things about social/identity politics in Tildes and/or vetting based on gender and...

    I totally get how important diversity is and how much value and richness it brings. My only concern was making things about social/identity politics in Tildes and/or vetting based on gender and race.

    With that not being the case, great!

  5. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    You're reacting to a single individual exercising their completely harmless decision to question why someone wants to include race and gender in their vetting process for inviting people to...

    You're reacting to a single individual exercising their completely harmless decision to question why someone wants to include race and gender in their vetting process for inviting people to Tildes, and acting as if Tildes has an 'predominantly white men' sign on the door.

    I can't really understand your reaction, to be honest.

    From Mews:

    People want a community that represents them, and adding diversity to tildes seems like a positive for us all.

    That sounds nothing like what you assume to be the case for Mews's decision. It just sounds like, "Tildes is too white and doesn't have enough representation for minority people who want it."

    Which is why I expressed my annoyance about bringing social and identity politics into an anonymous forum.

  6. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    I've lived in wonderfully diverse communities as well as predominantly race communities as a minority, so I understand how awesome it is to hear and witness so many experiences. Tildes's...

    I've lived in wonderfully diverse communities as well as predominantly race communities as a minority, so I understand how awesome it is to hear and witness so many experiences.

    Tildes's demographic likely being predominantly white males, however, hasn't affected or detracted from the experience of discussing topics that I've observed and enjoyed so far, whether in a bland or negative way. A person's race or gender also doesn't always affect their perspective and experiences, usually unless it's negative. But we don't have to include race- and gender-related experiences or perspective to discuss a general topic.

    Saying that something needs more diversity could very well suggest that A) something is wrong with its current demographics, 2) something isn't quite right with it, or D) it's subjectively not up to your standards.

    "If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it," right?

  7. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    Tildes isn't about representing any race or gender or ideologies or religion. It's just a place to have discussions. This is what I mean by bringing social politics into everything. From what I've...

    Tildes isn't about representing any race or gender or ideologies or religion. It's just a place to have discussions. This is what I mean by bringing social politics into everything.

    From what I've seen so far on Tidles, there hasn't been any white male or groups of them spewing mysognistic or racist remarks, and if there has been a few, that's expected literally anywhere within every race, culture, community, etc.

    It's just an unnecessary thing to think that you need to think about race and gender on a faceless forum.

    4 votes

  8. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    There isn't anything wrong with a place having predominantly white males, but even then I haven't ever thought about a person's gender or race as I've interacted with them here on Tildes, whether...

    There isn't anything wrong with a place having predominantly white males, but even then I haven't ever thought about a person's gender or race as I've interacted with them here on Tildes, whether it's a secret or not.

    I'm not reading a good conversation between faceless people and thinking, "Are they a white male? Or an Indian woman who supports LGBT? How diverse is this thread right now?"

    Choosing race or gender as a final checkmark to make a decision should be wrong any way someone looks at it. Is that not valuing skin color and sexual orientation more than the content of someone's character, their work, etc., which ironically defeats the purpose of equality and fairness?

    4 votes

  9. Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes

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    Have you considered maybe not discriminating based on race, nationality, and sexual orientation? It sounds like, "Wow, this person shares great insight. I'll invite them to Tildes. Oh wait, he's a...

    Have you considered maybe not discriminating based on race, nationality, and sexual orientation? It sounds like, "Wow, this person shares great insight. I'll invite them to Tildes. Oh wait, he's a white male...maybe not."

    I fit 2/4 of those categories you listed, by the way. It's pretty frustrating that people say not to discriminate against us, but discriminate for us and against others.

    That's one of the main things that turned me off from Reddit and other social media in recent years. I ironically recognize this about myself and actively avoid this just so I don't fall into that hole again. Maybe I'm triggered lol

    3 votes

  10. Comment on What do you miss the most about the old internet? in ~tech

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    It is! This site gave a crazy dose of dopamine.

    It is! This site gave a crazy dose of dopamine.

    1 vote

  11. Comment on What do you miss the most about the old internet? in ~tech

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    That part. Granted, I had about 15k subscribers on an old blog from 2010–2013 before I stopped; it started to feel like I was obligated to keep it running. In 2015 I tried to use a social media...

    We weren't trying to make money or become famous or anything like that.

    That part. Granted, I had about 15k subscribers on an old blog from 2010–2013 before I stopped; it started to feel like I was obligated to keep it running. In 2015 I tried to use a social media site to share my artwork and gained several hundred followers in one month, and then left because I started to care too much about the numbers. The way they've designed these apps and sites to make them addictive had definitely got me here and there, but now I'm fed up.

    I've been on and off from social media since then, and it's just not the same. I deleted all but one account that I don't use anymore within the past couple of years. The ones I have created were anonymous, private, and only to watch the videos that my friends send me. I deleted those too, recently. One asked me when I'm going to use social media again and I said probably never.

    It's 99% inauthentic now.

  12. Comment on How is your mental health? in ~health.mental

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    Despite your anhedonia, maybe you could explore what you're good at or used to enjoy, then look up relevant articles about passive income options for that, or YouTube videos (if YouTube's even...

    Despite your anhedonia, maybe you could explore what you're good at or used to enjoy, then look up relevant articles about passive income options for that, or YouTube videos (if YouTube's even good at providing gold results anymore).

    If you don't feel like you're good at anything or care enough to think about what you used to enjoy, look into dropshipping or starting a basic Amazon store.

    Lionbridge is the last resort I'd recommend. I know of a few people who manage to get a Rater job and made about $1-2k per month a few years ago. It could be different now, but that helped them make decent side money while they had a main FT job.

  13. Comment on Books that changed your perception in ~books

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    That's understandable; there are some boldly wild things in that book.

    That's understandable; there are some boldly wild things in that book.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on What do you miss the most about the old internet? in ~tech

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    I'm going to cry. Thank you.

    I'm going to cry. Thank you.

    5 votes

  15. Comment on What do you miss the most about the old internet? in ~tech

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    My favorite part about the internet. I used to build some awesome layouts and loved looking at everyone else's. I found a tiny bit of success googling "classic internet websites" and similar...

    My favorite part about the internet. I used to build some awesome layouts and loved looking at everyone else's.

    I found a tiny bit of success googling "classic internet websites" and similar phrasing, but still so very few.

    2 votes

  16. Comment on What do you miss the most about the old internet? in ~tech

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    Well put. I hate that I have to carefully consider what I share just because it can come around to bite at some point, even if it's not wrong.

    Well put. I hate that I have to carefully consider what I share just because it can come around to bite at some point, even if it's not wrong.

    1 vote

  17. Comment on How is your mental health? in ~health.mental

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    There are local and remote companies that hire people with physical and/or mental disabilities—mild to severe. I encourage you to look for something that will accommodate you if you haven't...

    There are local and remote companies that hire people with physical and/or mental disabilities—mild to severe. I encourage you to look for something that will accommodate you if you haven't already. You can also look into ways to get passive income, though it may take more initial effort.

    I hope you can overcome your anhedonia.

    1 vote

  18. Comment on What are your latest gaming achievements? in ~games

  19. Comment on Tesla’s “self-driving” system never should have been allowed on the road in ~transport

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    I'm not going to pretend I know everything about this subject, but I'm still curious. I read @miyu's comment here about only 17 deaths since 2021 from Tesla US compared to 43,000. Not even...

    I'm not going to pretend I know everything about this subject, but I'm still curious.

    I read @miyu's comment here about only 17 deaths since 2021 from Tesla US compared to 43,000. Not even thinking of fatality rates—what's the rate of crashes from autopilot Teslas compared to rate of crashes from all other drivers? I think that information would give us a better idea of what's actually happening here.

    The fatality rate could be higher just because their build isn't protective enough, not because their autopilot is unreliable, right? Correct me if I'm wrong.

  20. Comment on Books that changed your perception in ~books

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    The Bible. The Bible tells me that I need to change the way I think and align my interests to that of God's. This plainly tells me to give up everything I thought I knew because I am wrong and so...

    The Bible.

    The Bible tells me that I need to change the way I think and align my interests to that of God's. This plainly tells me to give up everything I thought I knew because I am wrong and so is everyone else.

    The world tells me that I should be able to have my own mind and interests, yet put others' into consideration because everyone's truth matters. This confuses me.

    I then cannot help but question, "By whose authority should I consider others if I'm my own person? Are universally agreeable things really universal if there are people and other species who do not agree?" And then I ultimately ask more and more questions until nothing makes sense and everything becomes pointless.

    I became a completely different person and have been learning to suppress my challenging and nihilistic tendencies because of the Bible.

    4 votes