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What is a good gender-neutral pet name for my daughter?
Shortly after my son was born I started calling him "Buddy." I love it and he answers to it like a name now. My daughter is two and she calls him Buddy, which I think is the most adorable thing ever.
I'd like to do this with my daughter, but I'm not really a fan of things like "honey" or "sweetheart," though I do wind up calling her sweetheart pretty frequently.
Buddy is like friend, which is what I'm going for, but that's taken already. What else could I use?
You read my mind. I call my daughters ‘kiddo’ all the time, generally quite conscious of the film.
I'm not sure this is easy to do without knowing your daughter's personality. I feel like nicknames are something that people usually pick up organically either by doing something, having a strong personality trait that sticks, or by kids not being able to pronounce their actual name. Like, my wife blanked on our new puppies name and randomly would up blurting out "Bebbo!" (Which sounds absolutely nothing like "Frankie," his actual name). But we've ended up referring to him as Bebbo or Beb ever since.
Nothing in particular that either of them are doing, but I've been looking for a name like "friend" (Buddy) to call them. Nothing that sounds childish or anything.
You could be a turbo-nerd and call her "Mellon." It sounds like "melon," which is cute by itself, but the true Tolkien nerds will know. . .
My nickname for my nephew is "monkey", and I used to call my cousin's daughter "bubbles" when she was younger... neither of which has any real gender implications. And I think pretty much any animal or "thing/object" based nicknames similar to those could probably work for either gender as well. Incidentally, I personally prefer using those sort of nicknames, that reference someone's specific personality/behavior, more than the generic ones like "kiddo" and whatnot, since it feels more personal.
p.s. Is it weird that I have always taken "buddy" to be male gendered even though it's not really explicitly so?
I like those! Animal names would probably be great. That's a great thing for me to consider, something that's reflective of her personality. Thanks! And I'm not sure what it is about Buddy that seems male, either.
It has been used as a male name fairly often. Dictionary.com says the word "buddy" is "perhaps a reduced form of 'brother'"
"Monkey pants."
My mom called me "Bun" when I was little, which is relatively free of gender stuff.
Edit: I'm nearing 40, and she still calls me by that name on rare occasions. It was super embarrassing when I was a teen, though.
I like it!
My sister calls her 5yo daughter "Spider". I don't know why. I do know it's nothing to do with spiderman/girl. But they both enjoy it. If you ask her if she's a brave girl or a hungry girl or similar she'll say "no, I'm a spider girl". My son somehow ended up being "Little Bear" despite me not really being a pet name kind of person, and I have no idea where that came from, but that's what I call him...
I tend to think you have to just let these things happen by themselves.
Sport? Kiddo? Bucko? Boss? Sweetpea? Comrade? There isn't that much that doesn't lean one way or another.
my vote is comrade
I was thinking maybe along the lines of a name they could keep into adulthood (Buddy Holly, etc.) Trying to stay away from sport or squirt or similar.
Two kids? "Damn it" and "Jesus Christ"
On a more serious note, some general ones might be birdie (sounds cute alongside "buddy"), pearl, petal, [little][honey]bee, gal. Some "buddy"/friend equivalents might be amigo or pal.
Everybody in my family for generations has a nickname, and it wasn't until a decade or so ago that I discovered that none of my mother's siblings go by their birth name.
It should be a play off their own name, though. I'd skip the common ones like 'Babs' or whatever and make something up that is easy to say, but is also a play on their name.
My daughter has endured 'Beast' for 35 years. :-D