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  1. Comment on Megathread for news/updates/discussion of Russian invasion of Ukraine - May 23-24 in ~news

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    Last Friday, my favourite ukrainian was victim of a phishing scam targeting databases of refugees coming from Ukraine and their hosts/families. Someone pretending to be from Europol called her and...

    Last Friday, my favourite ukrainian was victim of a phishing scam targeting databases of refugees coming from Ukraine and their hosts/families.

    Someone pretending to be from Europol called her and got her to transfer 2000 EUR to Thailand via Remitly.

    I'm so fucking pissed. I'm chasing the money down but I'm seriously fucking pissed at this worst-of-the-worst targeting. Thankfully, it's just money, but this is hitting her really hard...

    Would love advice if someone can suggest anything. I already filed a variety of police, FTC and fraud watch reports and I'm using those to push Remitly to reimburse the money as a facilitator in fraudulent payments.

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  2. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    Oh... I think there's a lot of great suggestions here but I think introspection on what exactly is happening will be most helpful. It's already great that you are recognising this as a problem to...

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    I think there's a lot of great suggestions here but I think introspection on what exactly is happening will be most helpful. It's already great that you are recognising this as a problem to the point of posting here asking for advice.

    My personal recommendation for inspiration would be to start with Meetup, or even Facebook Events. Lots of cool things probably happening around you unless you live in the middle of nowhere. You might find your next hobby through there.

    Your social circle is also often a huge driver on how much fun you can have. Personally, my calendar lately has been so full of different activities with friends, to the point that I'm actively trying to reduce it, and see less people.

    Good luck

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  3. Comment on Megathread for news/updates/discussion of Russian invasion of Ukraine - May 13-15 in ~news

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    Day 80 of the war. I felt bad waking up this morning after saying I don't write here anymore, so I wanted to say something. But not a link dump; there's more than enough of those going around....

    Day 80 of the war.

    I felt bad waking up this morning after saying I don't write here anymore, so I wanted to say something. But not a link dump; there's more than enough of those going around. Instead, I wanted to write a bit of a general update about how things have been going, from my perspective.

    I actually get a lot less news directly from the two sisters than before. They have fully turned the page and are trying to disconnect as much as possible from the war, and on that I say good for them. I have been trying to continue following the situation from a variety of Ukrainian sources, a couple of Russian sources, and in general thanks to contacts through volunteering groups here in Belgium.
    I'm also really trying to keep in mind that... what I see is still going to be warped. There is a very active fog of war right now, and it's under all circumstances going to make things look more favourable to Ukrainians.

    But what I see is that the past few days, things have kind of been turning. Ukrainians seem to be much more actively on the offensive than before. And as Russia has "given up" (for now) on most of Ukraine, something I thought would actually be bad for Ukraine in the medium term, well it turns out that between supplies and morale running low on RU side and more of the EU help starting to pay off on the UA side, things are looking better and better. Russians are now defending their current positions, and what desperate positions they are. In hindsight, this was obvious, but I guess it was not a bad idea to be wary of ulterior motives in Russia's backpedaling.

    I'm not a war analyst. Don't listen to me. I'm probably overly optimistic. But from what I'm seeing, as time passes, things are becoming better for Ukraine. Russia's aggression, which greatly amped up for a while, seems to have diminished. May 9 went by uneventfully.

    So with extreme caution, and a few tears in my eyes, I write for the first time:

    I think Ukraine is winning.

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  4. Comment on Bill Gates is so over this pandemic in ~health.coronavirus

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    Benefit of the doubt. If you truly understood the implications and cost of what you're asking for (such as elsethread where you talk about weddings and funerals still being unreasonable), then I...

    Why do you think I see that is as free?

    Benefit of the doubt. If you truly understood the implications and cost of what you're asking for (such as elsethread where you talk about weddings and funerals still being unreasonable), then I don't believe you'd be asking for it.

    But I do need you to understand what you're saying.

    I do. And it's not like I'm only on one of those rails, I'm very much on both.

    Now this is going to sound insensitive, and maybe it is. I don't want to tell you how to live your life; you do you, and this is just an opinion: I think both you and your boyfriend need to go through some serious risk assessment thinking.

    I would readily bet that this person I mentioned upthread is at least as much if not more at risk than your boyfriend -- she is immunosuppressed, has severe asthma, weak lungs after multiple lung infections in her life, etc. Just about the only thing she has going for her is that she got vaccinated (and suffered extreme side effects for two months because of it).
    She is obviously very careful, and even quite a bit introverted, the lockdowns haven't affected her spirit much. And still, she makes choices that it sounds like you yourself wouldn't make. Having talked to her, I know it's partly due to some amount of fatalism: It's not just Covid. Pollution, second-hand smoke, flu, all of these can send (and have sent) her to the hospital. She is used to making tradeoffs, and sometimes being on the losing side of a tradeoff and dealing with the consequences.
    I could talk about her all day. I love and admire her ever so much. Point is, the equations she's dealing with now look a lot like the equations she was dealing with before the pandemic, and really not that much has changed except that the world has if anything adapted to her more than before.

    I can't speak for her any more than I can speak for you or your SO, but I see the difference in attitude, and I think there's maybe some QOL available for the two of you.

    8 votes
  5. Comment on Bill Gates is so over this pandemic in ~health.coronavirus

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    I wasn't flippant when I said my friends saved me from suicide recently. Being able to see them was very much a requirement. I would have, quite simply, died due to mental health complications had...
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    I wasn't flippant when I said my friends saved me from suicide recently. Being able to see them was very much a requirement. I would have, quite simply, died due to mental health complications had 2020's strictness continued into 2021, or had 2022 not significantly improved on 2021 itself.

    Thing is, I'm not alone in this. Maybe I'm at an extreme, but mental health damage from the pandemic has been rampant. And even though I survived it, I am still dealing with the complications today. Study after study has been coming out, talking about exactly this in some demographic or other, such as students revealing how depressed they have been during the remote learning period, or young people not being able to be as social as before, more people being single than ever, etc. I'm certain you've seen it.

    I'll tell you what a disabled person's life is worth to me: Exactly the same as a non-disabled person's life. So this is just the trolley problem, except that the trolley is going to hit one at-risk person, and you are going around, asking people to hit the switch it so it hits ten non-at-risk people, and being frustrated not understanding why people don't want to do this.

    This has a cost. This is what I tried to convey. What you see as free, has a cost, and I want you to really try to imagine that cost, put yourself in the shoes of millions of people who might not be as free as you are to drop social life for extended periods of time.

    You still see this as "Those bloody young'uns, they would rather drink and party even if it kills my boyfriend", forgetting that it's not about partying, but about living. About doing something more than spending months in a row watching Netflix and having groceries delivered. About, I dunno, meeting the future parent of your children for example.

    If you know me at all, you'll know I readily give my life to others. I have, for example, dedicated the past three months of my life to contribute to a fight, in a war that is by no rights mine (I might not post in the megathreads much anymore, but I'm still regularly volunteering, donating, educating and helping any way I can, and the war consumes a significant part of my week).
    So take it from me when I say: Nobody in the world has any right to ask for others to give their life to fight for somebody else's sake. Now, this goes both ways of course, and I also have no right to ask your loved one or my loved one to give their literal life "so I can go out". So... neither group can ask for each other's lives, and we're just back to raw numbers: Most people are protected, most unprotected people can be treated and survive, the disease is not that deadly anymore.

    I'm sorry. It sucks having to make this tradeoff. It sucks that your boyfriend's life is at risk, and will continue to be for the foreseeable future. It sucks that one of the people I love the most in this world almost died just two fucking days ago, and still very well might. (And by the way, I won't share her name, but if you are somewhat into mental/physical health communities, there is a good chance you know her)

    But you're asking for too much.

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  6. Comment on Bill Gates is so over this pandemic in ~health.coronavirus

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    This so much. I just cannot get behind all these arguments to reinstate mandatory masking / social distancing etc measures, because they are not free, and they are nowhere near cheap. "You just...

    Lockdowns shatter social circles and cause tangible psychological damage; long-term masking probably does too, but feeling overwhelmingly isolated and depressed because you can no longer properly hear people or read facial cues isn't as visible, so it's not a popular argument.

    This so much.

    I just cannot get behind all these arguments to reinstate mandatory masking / social distancing etc measures, because they are not free, and they are nowhere near cheap.

    "You just get to see your friends less" -- My friends were the only thing that prevented my suicide these past two years. This isn't about boo-hooing missing a friday night watching football over a beer or something. I get it. I was an introvert before. I'm no extrovert now, but I have grown to need a hefty dose of social in my life.

    "It's just some basic precautions" -- No. It's a mindset. I, like several others I know of, have lost friends and loved ones not to the disease itself, but due to them becoming overly paranoid and cautious, turning themselves into hermits. People who aren't even at risk, and aren't with anybody who is.

    I have seen this discussion time and time again here on Tildes and elsewhere, and without fail, frustratingly, it's always the people least affected by such measures who are ready to call everybody else selfish for being against them.
    There was a good argument that people not respecting the rules and guidelines were selfish during the pandemic. But it's neither absolute nor binary... that argument made less and less sense over time, and now is absolutely untrue.

    I would be selfish if I weren't taking every precaution when hanging out with highly at risk people. But I am not selfish for not doing that in day-to-day life, 2.5 years in, now that we have a vaccinated population, treatments, hospitals ready to receive people, and a much less severe variant in circulation.

    And IMO, it is the definition of selfish to demand that a majority of people suffer (economically, socially, mentally) for an indefinite amount of time, to offer slightly better protection to a very small minority of people.

    I feel kind of exasperated pointing this out, though, because most people here already know all this, and the very few who disagree simply do not see the equation that way. They refuse to see the cost of the measures. It's very easy to say "it's just money" when you have money. It's very easy to avoid going out when you're already an introvert. It's very easy to stop being social when you aren't looking to date. And it's much easier to stop seeing other people, when you don't live alone and doing so won't send you into a spiral of loneliness and depression.

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  7. Comment on Megathread for news/updates/discussion of Russian invasion of Ukraine - May 11-12 in ~news

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    There are reasons beyond morale boost to talk about illness in the leader. Specifically, it raises the question of whether they are capable to lead, and if not, or if they die, who takes over....

    There are reasons beyond morale boost to talk about illness in the leader.

    Specifically, it raises the question of whether they are capable to lead, and if not, or if they die, who takes over.

    It’s a sign of instability and incidentally the number one symptom of a coming coup.

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  8. Comment on Bill Gates is so over this pandemic in ~health.coronavirus

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    Both of these things can be true. An old girlfriend of mine is immunosuppressed and at very high risk of Covid. She has it, and is in the hospital right now, with severe lung infection and almost...

    Both of these things can be true.

    An old girlfriend of mine is immunosuppressed and at very high risk of Covid. She has it, and is in the hospital right now, with severe lung infection and almost died yesterday, to the point she texted me her goodbye. This hasn't been a great day.

    But... she is the exception, and I have to remember that. I care about her a LOT, and would never, ever put her at any sort of risk, but when it goes to everyday life... we move on. Covid is endemic, and for most people it is fairly harmless, and a vaccine is available.

    She herself takes very high precautions but absolutely doesn't live as a hermit. She certainly goes out less than the average but won't hesitate to, for example, work from a cafe with a good mask on, surrounded with people who most likely don't give a shit.

    There's something to be said about a life worth living. "We'll all catch it at some point" may sound bleak, but it's pretty true. I have five(!) vaccines in me right now and I am lying in bed with Covid right now. She takes extreme precautions and is hospitalized with it right now. I don't have a single person in my contacts I know who hasn't had it, including all the very careful ones. This shit spreads easily, and it kind of defeats all the efforts you're making the moment you do catch it...

    If you do catch it, and you are at high risk, there are good treatments available now as well. And medicine keeps progressing on it as it's one of the highest medical priorities on the planet right now. Of course, I'm
    incredibly thankful she didn't catch it 6-12 months ago when she would have suffered a great deal more, likely died from a stronger variant and less effective treatment (and she's not out of the woods yet...). But it's a risk tradeoff for everybody, and there is no absolute in it.

    I wrote the same thing several months ago, and I'm still pretty emotional from what happened yesterday but my emotions don't change the facts: Gates is right, cars are way more dangerous than Covid for the majority of people. And like you, I do want cars gone, but I'll still step on the street / go into a car when the risk-tradeoff makes sense.

    24 votes
  9. Comment on Westworld | Season 4 official teaser in ~tv

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    I'm excited. I know a lot of people don't like the direction Westworld has taken since season 3 but, being a huge fan of Person of Interest, I LOVED it and it's exactly the direction I expected it...

    I'm excited.

    I know a lot of people don't like the direction Westworld has taken since season 3 but, being a huge fan of Person of Interest, I LOVED it and it's exactly the direction I expected it to eventually take. Nolan on a real budget.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on How cryptocurrencies actually work in ~tech

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    I have to stress how high quality an explanation this is of how cryptocurrencies work. An absolute must watch for anyone remotely interested in the tech behind cryptocurrencies.

    I have to stress how high quality an explanation this is of how cryptocurrencies work.

    An absolute must watch for anyone remotely interested in the tech behind cryptocurrencies.

    4 votes
  11. Comment on The insane engineering of the Javelin anti-tank missile in ~tech

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    Finally watched this. “Insane” describes it well. Actually no, it doesn’t even begin to describe it. Holy shit.

    Finally watched this.

    “Insane” describes it well. Actually no, it doesn’t even begin to describe it. Holy shit.

    4 votes
  12. Comment on Nebula Classes in ~life

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    This appears to be Nebula’s take on Skillshare and was just announced. Excited to try it later this week!

    This appears to be Nebula’s take on Skillshare and was just announced.

    Excited to try it later this week!

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  13. Comment on Ukrainian beer Чернігівське to arrive on the Belgian market in ~food

  14. Comment on How electricity actually works in ~science

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    Incidentally, the absolute best demonstration of Cunningham's Law that I've ever seen.

    Incidentally, the absolute best demonstration of Cunningham's Law that I've ever seen.

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  15. Comment on Twitter accepts buyout, giving Elon Musk total control of the company in ~tech

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    I said both wings are doing it. I don't care if it's the right or the left, what matters is the end result: This issue has been politicized. Look how defensive you are just talking to me about it....

    I said both wings are doing it. I don't care if it's the right or the left, what matters is the end result: This issue has been politicized.

    Look how defensive you are just talking to me about it. It's impossible to even hold a meta-conversation about it without it turning into you repeating shit I already know or accusing me of not caring. All semblance of nuance is gone.

    I'm done with the noise here; feel free to DM if you want to talk further, I don't mind.