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Comment on What kind of gaming details do you guys like to see? in ~games
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Comment on Cormac McCarthy has died in ~books
Indrid LinkI'll never, ever forget reading The Road. I read it during a holiday trip with my dad, who I hadn't seen in a couple years and who was beginning to forget bigger and bigger stuff due to early...I'll never, ever forget reading The Road. I read it during a holiday trip with my dad, who I hadn't seen in a couple years and who was beginning to forget bigger and bigger stuff due to early dementia. The weather during the trip was grey and oppressive & it just underscored the bleak setting of the book. I remember seeing my dad fading away before my eyes, occasionally forgetting where he was and how he got there, only to come to himself and recenter himself amongst his closest family. Having The Road as my book companion during that time was simultaneously existentially devastating and transformative. I don't think I'm the same person on the other side. It gave me a greater sense of connection to the idea of mortality, personal ethics and meaning, and "carrying the fire."
Rest in peace to one of the giants of our time.
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Comment on Any migraneurs here? How are you doing? in ~health
Indrid Link ParentSo sorry to hear you're dealing with that, truly. A friend of mine has intractable migraine and it's been awful for her. Regarding medical marijuana -- is there any particular form/strain that...So sorry to hear you're dealing with that, truly. A friend of mine has intractable migraine and it's been awful for her. Regarding medical marijuana -- is there any particular form/strain that you've found beneficial? I am lucky enough to live in a legal state & have been trialing out a tiny dose of a 1:1 edible. For some reason, it seems like I get more preventative benefit when I smoke, but I'd prefer not to smoke super often and it's harder to dose anyway. Anything in particular you would recommend?
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Comment on Any migraneurs here? How are you doing? in ~health
Indrid Link ParentI've heard really good things about Ubrelvy! Glad it's working well for you. Do you notice any side effects with it? I respond well to triptans but they do sometimes make me feel pretty weird...I've heard really good things about Ubrelvy! Glad it's working well for you. Do you notice any side effects with it? I respond well to triptans but they do sometimes make me feel pretty weird right after I take them.
I tried nortriptyline a while back as I was working my way through the first line preventatives. I had one really good month at first and thought it was going to be the answer, and then things went right back to normal after that. I stuck it out for like six more months and never had another good month like that. So frustrating when things stop working! Luckily my current preventatives are decently effective.
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Comment on Any migraneurs here? How are you doing? in ~health
Indrid Link ParentSolid recommendations here. I have a pair of those type of glasses and they do seem to help! Agreed that they aren't magic or anything, but they've aborted a couple full-blown migraines for me...Solid recommendations here. I have a pair of those type of glasses and they do seem to help! Agreed that they aren't magic or anything, but they've aborted a couple full-blown migraines for me which is pretty remarkable. Even when they don't get rid of the pain, they're also wonderful for light sensitivity.
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Comment on Any migraneurs here? How are you doing? in ~health
Indrid LinkSome info I can share about my experience -- I have had chronic migraine in the past, but some successful treatment has decreased the frequency to the point that I have edged just below the...Some info I can share about my experience -- I have had chronic migraine in the past, but some successful treatment has decreased the frequency to the point that I have edged just below the threshold and am now diagnosed as episodic again. Most of my attacks are migraine without aura, and I'm at about 1-2 attacks a week overall. I'm currently managing things with Ajovy, triptans, and cannabis. I'm also a fan of my Cefaly device as an additional tool in my toolbox, though I've noticed the battery life seems to be getting worse over time.
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Any migraneurs here? How are you doing?
One of the communities on reddit that I greatly benefited from was /r/migraine. It was helpful to have a space to talk about common symptoms, experiences, and the various treatment options out...
One of the communities on reddit that I greatly benefited from was /r/migraine. It was helpful to have a space to talk about common symptoms, experiences, and the various treatment options out there. Wondering if anyone here also experiences migraines & might be interested in a support-ish type discussion thread? I'll post a bit about my personal experience in a separate comment.
(Also -- this is my first post here, so please feel free to let me know if I've tagged this incorrectly or made some other newbie mistake. Thanks!!)
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Comment on Introductions | June 2023, part 2 in ~talk
Indrid Link ParentWelcome! Fellow recent reddit expat here & your comment resonated with me. I too have a reactive pup (total sweetie but so easily frightened, even by familiar people at times) & I will greatly...Welcome! Fellow recent reddit expat here & your comment resonated with me. I too have a reactive pup (total sweetie but so easily frightened, even by familiar people at times) & I will greatly miss the /r/reactivedogs community on reddit. It can be isolating at times because I have to be really cautious about inviting people over and so forth. I also have some experience with a parent with dementia, although I lost my dad in an early stage and I imagine late-stage is an entirely different deal. Anyway, happy you're here and maybe our paths will cross again. Tildes seems like the kind of old-school place where we might actually get to know other posters which is pretty refreshing.
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Comment on What little thing has stuck with you? in ~talk
Indrid LinkMy father-in-law had just passed away suddenly & my spouse and I were going through it. Plenty of folks sent kind texts along the lines of "let us know if you need anything." We had smiled at...My father-in-law had just passed away suddenly & my spouse and I were going through it. Plenty of folks sent kind texts along the lines of "let us know if you need anything." We had smiled at those texts and just kept moving forward with all the many, many big and little tasks that line up in front of you when someone close to you dies. Then one of my friends texted me something along the following lines:
"Hey, thinking about you both. I'll be heading home from work in a few hours and I'd really like to bring you guys dinner if you don't already have dinner figured out. Do you want dinner from [place A] or [place B]?"
It was honestly one of the most amazing experiences. It was something we could say yes to. It was an offer of help that didn't come with another little task (what can so-and-so do to help us?). That little experience shaped the ways in which I offer help to others in a crisis ever since. Even if I don't know exactly what might help, I always try to make at least 1-2 concrete suggestions of help I can provide, rather than yet another message of "let me know how I can help" that likely won't be acted on.
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Comment on Pat Robertson, broadcaster who helped make religion central to GOP politics, dies at 93 in ~news
Indrid Link ParentThis is so familiar to me & I just wanted you to know that I empathize. Although I'm no longer a Christian, & thus don't believe in the Bible or any of its teachings, I do still find some comfort...This is so familiar to me & I just wanted you to know that I empathize. Although I'm no longer a Christian, & thus don't believe in the Bible or any of its teachings, I do still find some comfort in the idea of caring for that kid-version of me that was a believer. It's a little hard for me to put into words -- but I can feel a sense of healing when I imagine myself caring for someone (my past self) who has been hurt and who needs that hypocrisy gently pointed out. For example, Pat Robertson (and others) say that queer people like me are fundamentally broken and go against God's design. "But," I can remind that hurt kid version of myself, "I thought I was made in God's image? I was made this way, so how can I be broken?"
The good news for people like us who are healing from this shit is that, at least in my experience, extreme beliefs always break down under scrutiny -- which makes the work of deconstruction/deconversion a lot easier. Folks like Pat Robertson have profited off amplifying the parts of the Bible that support the us-versus-them narrative (and that subsequently drives donations). Congrats to you on escaping; just know you're not alone.
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Comment on Tildes fundraiser June 2023: Encourage an app developer (me) to work on a Tildes app faster, by donating to Tildes (not me)! in ~tildes
Indrid Link ParentI appreciate this encouragement. Between this and the RIF announcement today, it reminded me that this was on my mental to-do list. Just chipped in $5 a month on github.I appreciate this encouragement. Between this and the RIF announcement today, it reminded me that this was on my mental to-do list. Just chipped in $5 a month on github.
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Comment on Pat Robertson, broadcaster who helped make religion central to GOP politics, dies at 93 in ~news
Indrid LinkI was raised in one of those fanatical evangelical households where Christian media was all we watched and listened to. Pat Robertson is on my personal shortlist of people whose voices I heard...I was raised in one of those fanatical evangelical households where Christian media was all we watched and listened to. Pat Robertson is on my personal shortlist of people whose voices I heard endlessly as a child and now have a visceral reaction to (shoutout to the singularly awful James Dobson who probably makes #1 on that list). I've deconverted and am proud of myself for the work I've done to thoroughly deprogram and address the religious trauma I experienced. I don't celebrate Pat Robertson's death, but I certainly won't mourn him...I'll save my mourning for the millions of people harmed and/or brainwashed by his vile, hateful rhetoric.
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Comment on Apollo will close down on June 30th. Reddit’s recent decisions and actions have unfortunately made it impossible for Apollo to continue. Thank you so, so much for all the support over the years. in ~tech
Indrid Link ParentInteresting how third-party apps didn't make the cut for the topics in that list. Guessing reddit doesn't want to acknowledge/broadcast their existence to a wider audience, despite the fact that...Interesting how third-party apps didn't make the cut for the topics in that list. Guessing reddit doesn't want to acknowledge/broadcast their existence to a wider audience, despite the fact that many third-party reddit apps existed long before reddit saw fit to develop one themselves.
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Comment on Apollo will close down on June 30th. Reddit’s recent decisions and actions have unfortunately made it impossible for Apollo to continue. Thank you so, so much for all the support over the years. in ~tech
Indrid Link ParentI'm a little self-conscious about this but I really do feel some noticeable emotions over this -- loss, grief, anger, sadness, etc. I've used RiF for so long while reddit has grown less and less...I'm a little self-conscious about this but I really do feel some noticeable emotions over this -- loss, grief, anger, sadness, etc. I've used RiF for so long while reddit has grown less and less recognizable. I made my first account in 2010 and reddit has been part of my life ever since.
In a way, RiF and its cozy old-school vibes has allowed me to somewhat ignore how alienating the current iteration of the internet feels to me. I think I could have frogboiled for even longer, to be honest, but the loss of third-party apps has forced me to reckon with it and it's been painful. Even if reddit reversed course, I don't think I'd ever be able to go back.
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Comment on Why is everyone watching TV with the subtitles on? in ~tv
Indrid LinkI've preferred subtitles/closed captions since I was a kid in the 90s. I find that when I'm tired, sick, stresssed, etc., I'm less able to make sense out of the sound of speech. It kind of just...I've preferred subtitles/closed captions since I was a kid in the 90s. I find that when I'm tired, sick, stresssed, etc., I'm less able to make sense out of the sound of speech. It kind of just stays as noise instead & takes a conscious effort to mentally process it into actual words. Guessing I have a mild auditory processing disorder -- but it doesn't come up as a barrier too often & thankfully it's easier than ever to access subtitles on most platforms.
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Comment on Please post your podcast preferences in ~hobbies
Indrid Link ParentI agree. There was a period of time when a really big chunk of my entertainment was McElroy-based or at least adjacent. This was back when a couple of them were at Polygon & the latter seemed...I agree. There was a period of time when a really big chunk of my entertainment was McElroy-based or at least adjacent. This was back when a couple of them were at Polygon & the latter seemed really invested in putting out really goofy video series (Video Games Theatre, anyone?). Eventually that all kind of folded up & MBMBAM seemed to kind of cave in under the weight of its increasingly toxic fanbase.
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Comment on Please post your podcast preferences in ~hobbies
Indrid LinkMy current top three: Oh No, Ross & Carrie: The hosts investigate pseudoscience/fringe practices by joining in as newbies and taking part, then reporting on their experiences. They come from a...My current top three:
Oh No, Ross & Carrie: The hosts investigate pseudoscience/fringe practices by joining in as newbies and taking part, then reporting on their experiences. They come from a skeptical background but generally try to give everything a shot in good faith. They're also both former evangelicals so there are plenty of interesting and rich discussions. It's funny and thought-provoking without crossing the line into mocking the people whose groups they join. A good place to start is their Scientology series.
Knowledge Fight: The host, Dan, recounts (and dissects/rebuts) episodes of InfoWars to his buddy Jordan. Dan is probably the most well-versed person on the planet in terms of Alex Jones' psyche & was invited to consult for the Sandy Hook plaintiffs. It's a hilarious podcast but they steadfastly avoid the low hanging fruit & insist on taking Alex's claims apart meticulously and in context.
Normal Gossip: This one is just pure delight. The host, Kelsey, invites a guest on the pod to listen as she recounts a little drama story submitted by a listener. Is there anything more human than just listening to a dumb juicy story of regular human mundane drama? I love this one for a change of pace from more serious listening.
Honorable mention -- I've recently started listening to If Books Could Kill, which is about nonfiction "airport bestsellers" like The Secret or Freakonomics and their various poorly-researched claims. I'm only a few episodes in but enjoying it quite a bit so far.
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Comment on Introductions | June 2023, part 1 in ~talk
Indrid Link ParentThank you! So nice to find people here with similar experiences. Yeah there is something about the combination of slow progress plus having to do regular repetitive maintenance that is just not...Thank you! So nice to find people here with similar experiences. Yeah there is something about the combination of slow progress plus having to do regular repetitive maintenance that is just not compatible with my brain so far. I've killed as many plants through forgetfulness and neglect as I have through zealously overdoing it (why is it so easy to accidentally water a plant to death?). People who are good at gardening make it look so easy!
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Comment on Introductions | June 2023, part 1 in ~talk
Indrid LinkHello all! Another long-time redditor and aging millennial looking for a new spot to call home. So far I am loving the cozy vibe and sense of quality over quantity that I'm finding here. It...Hello all! Another long-time redditor and aging millennial looking for a new spot to call home. So far I am loving the cozy vibe and sense of quality over quantity that I'm finding here. It reminds me of the internet of old in the best way.
I work in special education at a state education agency & am passionate about disability rights, universal design, etc. Additional interests include video games (mostly PC but some Switch), board games, queer stuff, horror, roadtripping/camping, and dogs. I imagine myself to be a person who grows veggies but so far my ADHD brain lacks the follow through to do it. Lately I've picked up a fascination with space weather so it's been lovely to have something new and different to learn about.
Really looking forward to exploring this space and getting to know folks here. If anything, the reddit situation has prompted some serious reflection about how/where I spend my time online. I think I'll be a lot happier in a space that isn't engineered primarily for low-effort posting and reacting to stuff.
Specific to simulation-type games with people involved, like Rimworld or Cities: Skylines -- I really like being able to click on an individual person and see what they're up to. One of my favorite things to do in Rollercoaster Tycoon back in the day was to follow a random person as they wandered all over my amusement park. Rimworld especially scratches this itch since you can really get into the motivations and personalities of each individual pawn. I don't get the same enjoyment out of sim/tycoon games where the "people" are just unclickable animations.