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Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental
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Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental
KakariBlue Link ParentThis is off topic but I want to say that this is natural for cisgendered people - the mere thought of losing intrinsic body characteristics that you identify with, that make you you, is a pretty...[A]s in I struggle with the idea of wanting to change my gender or that my pronouns should be different.
This is off topic but I want to say that this is natural for cisgendered people - the mere thought of losing intrinsic body characteristics that you identify with, that make you you, is a pretty good indicator you aren't any flavor of non-binary and certainly not transgendered.
I've helped a few people (who suddenly had to confront trans personhood more personally than they ever thought they would have to due to family members transitioning in one form or another) by really getting them to engage with the visceral sense that they wouldn't want to change their characteristics and roleplay that level of certainty and emotion as if you don't want those characteristics. I freely admit it didn't help everyone in that situation but if nothing else I found it was an interesting thought experiment to dig into myself and help understand both trans people and the people who were struggling to understand trans people.
Last thought on building understanding for a trans viewpoint*: I read a story by someone who was closeted (40y ago) given their age and more recently (25y ago) out as gay listening to a local talk at an LGBT group by a trans person. The talk was world-changing for this person because they suddenly realized that what they felt and had known their whole life had a name, and it wasn't the box they had squeezed into for decades (being gay), instead their body didn't match who they were as a person. Hormones, surgery, and a name change later and they are loving their life more than ever finally feeling like they fit their body.
To your original post, I've come down on the side of "don't talk politics" with those similar to your situation. I did argue back with other family who supported someone under a Democratic ticket who had racist policies (and later had a "me too" moment and shunned out of office) and it didn't go well in the moment so we just moved on to other topics. Later when the politician was viewed without the positive media buzz the family member admitted that their support was misplaced and they should've thought more about what I had been saying (and I certainly should've been calmer in my denouncing the politician).
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Not saying you're not understanding since you obviously are across all your comments, just that it was an anecdote in my own journey of better understanding other people's lived experiences.
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Comment on Why I’ve tracked every single piece of clothing I’ve worn for three years in ~life.style
KakariBlue Link ParentI'm curious, do you use a toploader or front loader for washing? I've recently done a few washes in a top loader (and quite a bit 'lower end' than my usual front loader) and each wash and dry has...I'm curious, do you use a toploader or front loader for washing? I've recently done a few washes in a top loader (and quite a bit 'lower end' than my usual front loader) and each wash and dry has my clothes getting worn at a rate easily 10 times that of my front loaders.
Not to say that front loaders haven't destroyed some clothes but it was every few years not every few loads.
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Comment on EV discussion thread in ~transport
KakariBlue Link ParentHave you seen the clutch tricks in the 5N? I know the link you had mentions the 5N but it seemed to be more a preview. They also had a dig at the 7 speed manual 911 which makes me wonder if they...Have you seen the clutch tricks in the 5N? I know the link you had mentions the 5N but it seemed to be more a preview. They also had a dig at the 7 speed manual 911 which makes me wonder if they fully appreciate how useful a clutch is when you're chasing anything but track times.
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Comment on How do you shave? in ~life.men
KakariBlue Link ParentFor anyone else reading this, especially if you've seen different blade manufacturers mentioned and the advice I'm about to repeat, don't necessarily write off this method if the first blade you...For anyone else reading this, especially if you've seen different blade manufacturers mentioned and the advice I'm about to repeat, don't necessarily write off this method if the first blade you try doesn't work for you. When it comes to a good shave there's your skill with the razor that will naturally improve and there's the blade. Some people love Feathers, others find they get more nicks, or that they barely last or last forever with a light stropping (jeans/denim work just fine on a budget).
Once you have some feel for the technique and angles, it's often worth getting a mixed blade pack (usually 1-2 of 5 or 10 different blades) and find one that you like and works with your hair and skill.
Or just get an electric and skip all the mess and ritual ;) .
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Comment on [Home networking] Setting my Ruckus APs to DFS channels manually, any chance of running afoul of the FCC? in ~comp
KakariBlue Link ParentYou're fine; if you look around the Ruckus forums you'll see people who have had great use of DFS channels. Others who had it working for a long time then something changed in air traffic (or...You're fine; if you look around the Ruckus forums you'll see people who have had great use of DFS channels. Others who had it working for a long time then something changed in air traffic (or maybe satellite downlink) and they went away.
If you do find issues, the logs may show that it's a subset of the DFS channels in your area that are the problem and you can then manually deselect those channels for faster channel selection.
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Comment on [Home networking] Setting my Ruckus APs to DFS channels manually, any chance of running afoul of the FCC? in ~comp
KakariBlue Link ParentIf you login and go to System, Diagnostics you can poke around in the logs (or download them or forward them to your syslog server, etc) and see if there are DFS events, an example at the forums:...If you login and go to System, Diagnostics you can poke around in the logs (or download them or forward them to your syslog server, etc) and see if there are DFS events, an example at the forums:
Apr 27 02:27:55 2819 daemon.info channel-wifi1: Pausing 10 minutes (DFS related)
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Comment on This behavior is by design in ~tech
KakariBlue LinkThe decision to set Calibri as a default font reminds me of the various forgeries over the years that use too-modern typeface and are caught out because of it. ReferenceThe decision to set Calibri as a default font reminds me of the various forgeries over the years that use too-modern typeface and are caught out because of it.
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Comment on What happened to “personal computing”? in ~tech
KakariBlue Link ParentWell it's been a little while and I haven't much fleshed out my points (and your Excel comments jibe with what I was going to have a longer post on so I think I'll skip rehashing the whole Excel...Well it's been a little while and I haven't much fleshed out my points (and your Excel comments jibe with what I was going to have a longer post on so I think I'll skip rehashing the whole Excel is the #1 IDE in the world meme).
I thought of this post when I read https://plausiblydeniable.com/myths-of-the-modern-age/ as a result of clicking around from another post that's near the top of Tildes right now. It is definitely a tangent to your post but I think it reads well and contextualizes aptitude and understanding with computers (whether they are carried in a pocket, bag, or left next to a desk).
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Comment on Five geek social fallacies [2003] in ~life
KakariBlue LinkI enjoyed the post and think it has some good observations. I laughed at this from one of the Geek Social Fallacies (GSF), "Friendship is Transitive": For anyone too young to remember it,...I enjoyed the post and think it has some good observations. I laughed at this from one of the Geek Social Fallacies (GSF), "Friendship is Transitive":
Arguably, Friendster was designed by a GSF4 carrier.
For anyone too young to remember it, Friendster was an early social site that was probably coming close to its peak when the post was written. I don't recall it supporting lists or separation of groups of friends but that could be a false memory after reading this post.
I was also reminded of the term 'missing stair' while reading the whole post, but especially the first fallacy "Ostracizers are evil." Missing stair was coined about 9 years after this post was written and I think has existed probably for a lot of human history, especially in communities that are insular for one reason or another (according to Wikipedia 'missing stair' as a term came out of a BDSM/kink post in 2012).
And one last tidbit before I go meta-political, the author wrote an interesting reflection in 2005 on the reaction to this list being shared so widely and what it means to write for the Internet (in 2003, years before theFacebook would let you share a link to your parents accounts, because they couldn't make one until 2006).
General political comments below in case you'd rather just skip that.
I was recently asked by a family member how someone could support a political candidate on the assumption that the candidate was a poor fit for that someone's situation. Reading this quote resonated with me as a modern General Social Fallacy that is played out in (American anyway) politics:
Social fallacies are particularly insidious because they tend to be exaggerated versions of notions that are themselves entirely reasonable and unobjectionable.
I think this concept is played out with the starting points of many issues important to one side or the other becoming distorted in a 2 party system via winner-take-all/Duverger's Law. The adoption of a pathological, extreme, or at least unnuanced viewpoint becomes a rallying cry, often for both the proponents and opponents of a policy. This often leading to a fallacious view not only of the people involved but often even the core idea being discussed.
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Comment on SpaceTraders — A unique multiplayer game built on a free Web API in ~comp
KakariBlue Link ParentAnother game that might be of interest is Bitburner, it was the first thing I thought of before I clicked on the posted link. Oh and definitely more of a departure but tangentially related is Greyhat -
Comment on Elon Musk’s X sues Unilever, Mars and CVS over ‘massive advertiser boycott’ in ~tech
KakariBlue Link ParentThere's a ton of child labor in chocolate and even the companies that led in marketing have issues (e.g. Tony's). Not to give a pass just that dealing in chocolate at scale means you're likely...There's a ton of child labor in chocolate and even the companies that led in marketing have issues (e.g. Tony's). Not to give a pass just that dealing in chocolate at scale means you're likely utilizing product that has unethical sources.
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Comment on Are we really engineers? (2021) in ~engineering
KakariBlue Link ParentIt doesn't but it does give liability traceability. Primarily with civil engineers and some electrical (power) engineers there is a real public cost to getting things wrong and if that happens...I'm doubtful whether licenses even make engineers safer. Passing an exam doesn't guarantee you won't make mistakes.
It doesn't but it does give liability traceability. Primarily with civil engineers and some electrical (power) engineers there is a real public cost to getting things wrong and if that happens knowing who designed, approved, and possibly, inspected it are important. If nothing else it gives you a starting point to reassess other projects done by the same person.
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Comment on Suggestions for games with addicting skill mechanics that you can play while listening to an audiobook or podcast? in ~games
KakariBlue LinkIs the Gnorp Apologue seem like something that might work? It's more on the clicker side which might not have enough skill but if I were to try what you describe I'd need something of that level.Is the Gnorp Apologue seem like something that might work? It's more on the clicker side which might not have enough skill but if I were to try what you describe I'd need something of that level.
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Comment on Plumbing questions in ~life.home_improvement
KakariBlue LinkI'd add that 3 may have something to do with vents like 1&2 but more than likely it's just vacuum locking itself and holding onto water until some evaporates and breaks the seal. If it's tiltable...I'd add that 3 may have something to do with vents like 1&2 but more than likely it's just vacuum locking itself and holding onto water until some evaporates and breaks the seal. If it's tiltable I'd tilt it a bit or give it a light shake when you finish your shower and see if it occurs; descaling as mentioned by vord probably wouldn't hurt but you'd probably see if it was necessary on the head. If it has a hand shower, body jets, or other diverter valve you can try shifting that position and see if it releases.
4 depends on the exact setup, I've had a Kohler that hangs up on its chain sometimes and some carefully placed zip ties fixed it. If you have hard water buildup then some careful cleaning is probably enough. Unless it's an exotic/expensive toilet the entire assembly is a YT video or two, a bucket, some towels, and under 50 bucks to rebuild. And don't start a plumbing project at 5pm on a Friday, that's just tempting fate ;) . I even rebuilt a valve with a $3 replacement membrane at an Airbnb that the local middle-of-nowhere hardware store happened to have so sometimes it can be even cheaper!
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Comment on Any recommendations on places to visit in Singapore? There for a week. in ~travel
KakariBlue LinkThe night zoo is an awesome experience on the tram, there's nothing quite like feeling a little preyed upon by hyenas and the tiger (I was last there in 2018 as it's not something I've found...The night zoo is an awesome experience on the tram, there's nothing quite like feeling a little preyed upon by hyenas and the tiger (I was last there in 2018 as it's not something I've found interest in with my travelmates since).
If you like ramen Hakata Ikkousha is great (a chain but the thinness of the chashu is great at Apt/Blk 7, Tanjong Pagar Plz, #01-104B, Singapore 081007) and there's a place called Four Seasons ramen, it's not at the Four Seasons but can be fun if you're in the area (158 Rochor Rd, Singapore 188433).
If you want dim sum, Red Star restaurant is at the top of a building and provides the most full contact du sum experience I've had. I haven't had the chance to go since COVID but it was good food and overall experience.
Second on the chili crab, I've had it at a place near the Merlion that was good and JUMBO (at least East Coast) is decent and right on the water.
There's also the southern islands, check out descriptions online for which sounds best for you and remember to bring lots of water, snacks, and an alarm so you don't miss your ferry back! Kusu may be the most approachable as it's small, I believe the tortoises are still open, and is a little bit rarer for the average tourist to end up at.
Enjoy your time there, it's an absolutely great place to visit; if you like bridges and architecture there's the DNA pedestrian bridge next to the Sands, the Louis Vuitton design center, Raffles Hotel, and National Gallery; more modern stuff is often office and condos so not as easy to visit but the Interlace and Parkroyal Collection (dripping in plants) are fun to see.
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Comment on What cooking techniques need more evidence? in ~food
KakariBlue Link ParentExpanding on your points: A refrigerator is going to be the driest part of many homes and unless the bread is stored well sealed will reduce moisture in the bread. If it is well sealed you may...Expanding on your points:
A refrigerator is going to be the driest part of many homes and unless the bread is stored well sealed will reduce moisture in the bread. If it is well sealed you may still find moisture escaping via condensation into the bag/bin but that will depend on how the bread is removed and used each time.
On frozen bread a single freeze/thaw cycle makes little difference to me but wetter, denser breads or repeated freeze/thaw cycles are noticeable to me when the bread is used at room temperature. If toasting or using in something else (soup, French toast, etc) I can't tell.
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Comment on What happened to “personal computing”? in ~tech
KakariBlue Link ParentI have more thoughts than I have time for at the moment so this is going to be a bit of a list of fragments I'll flesh out later. One thing that struck me was the markdown blog concept (which I...I have more thoughts than I have time for at the moment so this is going to be a bit of a list of fragments I'll flesh out later. One thing that struck me was the markdown blog concept (which I love) but that it still steered towards (needs supabase?) a 3rd party service to render even when run locally.
The original Celeste (whose anniversary game recently made the rounds here) was written on PICO-8.
I think you have an automistake of 'relieve' instead of 'relive'.
Programming in Excel (even without VBA) is many corporate workers molding of their computer to their needs.
Microsoft's Power platform does allow for low- to no-code automation but not generally local.
Great comment and it touches on something I didn't want to bring up in my original comment (but should be mentioned!) and that is non-binary and gender fluidity. I use those terms because they are more concise than what you've written but I think you've done a better job capturing the option of a kind of 'agender' (like asexual) as well as various mixes of gendered traits.
Personally I feel much as you do; gender and traits and expression are needlessly linked in a way that hampers us as humans but I also understand that it's the paradigm so many people view the world through.
Why is it the default? I lean towards tribalism as an answer and that can be good and bad - a tribe can protect its members, especially valuable to those who are vulnerable, but it also others those outside and inherently risks conflict when none is warranted. I also feel like there's something about natural safe spaces experienced by the majority (cisgendered) where everyone identifies similarly and outsiders can stumble in but I haven't explored that line of thought enough to really have figured how it fits in.