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Comment on Great shows with a truly satisfying ending? in ~tv
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible Link ParentThanks <3 Rural life lessons are hard I am finding out :( I'm glad it wasn't worse.Thanks <3 Rural life lessons are hard I am finding out :( I'm glad it wasn't worse.
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible Link ParentThis movie is so good, it's like a movie about internal family systems (therapy type).This movie is so good, it's like a movie about internal family systems (therapy type).
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible LinkWhen I started therapy again this year, it was the first time I was doing it from a place of stability. All the other times I was coming from a crisis. This time, I just wanted to understand...When I started therapy again this year, it was the first time I was doing it from a place of stability. All the other times I was coming from a crisis. This time, I just wanted to understand myself better. I really am not great at identifying my emotions, and kind of felt like I only had 5 - angry, sad, happy, confused, and anxious. My therapist has really been reinforcing a practice where I ask myself "where do you feel it in your body?" And then I work hard to recall other times I've felt that way and what was going on then. For example a few weeks ago, one of my ducks died (fox got her). And when I saw her in the morning, I thought I didn't feel anything. By the end of that day though, my shoulders were tense and my throat felt tight, I was HIGHLY irritated at other cars on the road, and at everyone in the grocery store. Trying to make a repair to their coop that evening drove me to the brink of irritable into actual rage. My eyes were vibrating. I also was refusing to ask for help at any point. From this, I could work out that I was actually feeling shame, and sadness, and some regret. Not "nothing". I just needed to find it in my body to make some connections. When my stomach tight I check in with myself, am I scared? When my jaw is clenched I am usually anxious. Etc. But I don't often notice the emotion first, I just feel fucked up physically in some way. I wrote down on my whiteboard "where do you feel it in your body?" for a daily reminder to check in. "Sad" is a much wider range now. So is "anxious". It's been weird for me to try to learn this as an adult, and hard to accept that it wasn't my fault for not learning it as a child, but what can you do? Shame is the biggest one I am working on now because it contains MANY complex emotions that I used to chunk in the "sad" bucket.
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Melvincible Link ParentAlso this is the nicest post ever. I appreciate all of you so much. Even if I am mostly lurking.Also this is the nicest post ever. I appreciate all of you so much. Even if I am mostly lurking.
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Melvincible LinkI find myself in the same threads as @skybrian, @DefinitelyNotAFae, and @boxer_dogs_dance the most often for some reason. I feel like I used to see @OBLIVIATER alot, but then stopped. Skybrian, I...I find myself in the same threads as @skybrian, @DefinitelyNotAFae, and @boxer_dogs_dance the most often for some reason. I feel like I used to see @OBLIVIATER alot, but then stopped. Skybrian, I feel vaguely like we might have disagreed somewhere once about something? But I like reading your take on stuff and can't remember why I vaguely think that...
It's neat seeing the same people regularly, it's part of what I love about Tildes... and boxer_dogs_dance, I think we might actually live really close to each other in real life (but can't remember why I think that anymore either, my memory is not awesome).
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentI don't think it's any more or less noble than keeping yourself safe and alive by leaving. I mean it's still an act of resistance to leave. They get one less resource. For me, I never expected to...I don't think it's any more or less noble than keeping yourself safe and alive by leaving. I mean it's still an act of resistance to leave. They get one less resource. For me, I never expected to live this long anyway for various reasons, so every day past 30 that I've gotten has been an absolute gift and a blessing and I'm grateful for it. I just have too many people here, and I don't like the idea of helplessly watching them from afar. My life would be devoid of meaning if I lost the people in it. Survival for survival's sake is not worth it in my opinion, but I totally understand that it is for most people and that's extremely valid and not something I would ever judge somebody for doing.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentFor the record, protecting your kid by any means necessary is courageous.For the record, protecting your kid by any means necessary is courageous.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentVery true about legitimate reasons not to own guns!! But incorrect about leftists. They have always been extremely pro gun ownership. I think there's just some misunderstandings because in America...Very true about legitimate reasons not to own guns!! But incorrect about leftists. They have always been extremely pro gun ownership. I think there's just some misunderstandings because in America people have been referring to liberals as "left" for so long. A pretty effective strategy to control a population is to obscure the true meaning of words. Which is why people think anarchy and chaos are synonyms. And that liberal means leftist. The ultra left as you called it is heavily armed.
But yes, hard agree about not owning guns if emotionally devastated.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentMy hopefully irrational fear --- The current administration has set us on the path of protests being illegal, homelessness being illegal, and involuntary servitude as punishment for a crime being...My hopefully irrational fear --- The current administration has set us on the path of protests being illegal, homelessness being illegal, and involuntary servitude as punishment for a crime being totally legal. It is a very dark opportunity to create labor camps. Which is what I fear would be the result of these homeless tent cities Trump is proposing to create. He has been vocal about leftists being some sort of radical enemy and needing to be dealt with. I feel like it's a coin toss right now whether that happens. The billionaires want cheap labor, the prisons want profits, and government wants activists to go away. It's a reasonable fear I think.
Private prisons in Arizona sued the state for failing to meet a contractually obligated quantity of prisoners, and they won damages. States are required to incarcerate a minimum number of prisoners, which is usually above 90% capacity. This is a terrifying concept to me. We do not get to decide what constitutes a crime, or what the sentences are.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentYou could think of it as a hobby and put the paranoid thoughts to the back of your mind. It's never really a bad idea to have guns for defense. Even if you never use them. And paranoid people are...You could think of it as a hobby and put the paranoid thoughts to the back of your mind. It's never really a bad idea to have guns for defense. Even if you never use them. And paranoid people are still right some percent of the time... stability is transitory.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentThere are more of us than people realize :) I'm thinking of starting a local mutual aid type group for clothing, repairs and trades. I don't know exactly how yet. The concept of mutual aid is...There are more of us than people realize :) I'm thinking of starting a local mutual aid type group for clothing, repairs and trades. I don't know exactly how yet. The concept of mutual aid is still fairly new to me. But I am a firm believer that every little thing adds up. If all I can do is keep people warm and fed, that's not nothing. I'm glad you have solid footing too. I'm looking up what an auntie program is now.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible LinkI don't think you could get me to leave. In these worst case scenarios, there would be people here who can't leave. And I honestly think I would rather be executed by fascists for resisting them...- Exemplary
I don't think you could get me to leave. In these worst case scenarios, there would be people here who can't leave. And I honestly think I would rather be executed by fascists for resisting them than start a new life as a refugee. I'm pretty well equppied to be a resource, not financially, but in other ways. I got some trad skills. I think some Americans imagine being a refugee as just.... moving. Like if you can afford to just move, I guess maybe it would be like that? I can't. But the reality for most would be refugee status which is not an easy life. I don't really see the point in living that way for myself, I don't have kids or a family to take care of and I'm in a little off grid community. We have each other, we have solar, we have water... But I'm also not particularly afraid of being dead so that helps.
If the worst kind of fascism really plays out, we will have so much death. It will feel like my duty to resist that. I love a lot of people who can't leave, and probably can't do much to protect themselves. So yeah, I'm okay dying for them. We'll go together.
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Comment on How do people get over enshittification? in ~life
Melvincible Link ParentThe issue for clothing is everything now contains plastic. This is a relatively recent development. Elastane is in almost every clothing item, and it is not durable. Not long ago jeans were made...The issue for clothing is everything now contains plastic. This is a relatively recent development. Elastane is in almost every clothing item, and it is not durable. Not long ago jeans were made of denim. Now they are made of some denim and some elastane. Socks, shirts, it's in everything :( It's substantially more difficult to find clothing made of wool, or 100% cotton, than it is to find clothing made of plastic. This doesn't even touch on the design/build quality, which is orders of magnitude worse than it was a few decades ago. Fast fashion is the worst thing that has ever happened to clothes. And it's in places that market themselves as high end, so it's really tricky to avoid.
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Comment on How do people get over enshittification? in ~life
Melvincible LinkI've turned it into a hobby almost, of repairing items instead of replacing them. This Thursday I'm taking apart my oven door because it doesn't quite close all the way, I think I can fix it.......I've turned it into a hobby almost, of repairing items instead of replacing them. This Thursday I'm taking apart my oven door because it doesn't quite close all the way, I think I can fix it.... maybe. But yeah it's such a solid appliance I'm not ready to let it go. Same with clothing. I will cling to these things I like until the very last! I also had a blackberry until they stopped making them, so maybe I take it too far.
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentLike the other commenter I replied to, I am failing to understand where "silence" is coming from. Are you unaware of the protests and everything that leftists and left leaning people did leading...Like the other commenter I replied to, I am failing to understand where "silence" is coming from. Are you unaware of the protests and everything that leftists and left leaning people did leading up to the election to be heard? Why does none of that count as communication in your mind. What specifically could we all have checked on our presidential ballot that would have clarified our message further? Your statement is painfully oversimplified. The voters Harris lost have not been silent at all, liberals just decided they didn't want to hear it and gambled that we were a small enough group not to matter. We need to be understood to move forward from here, that party will not recover from what they've done if they continue to plug their ears like this.
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentFor you, why does the conversation not include everything that comes before and after election day?For you, why does the conversation not include everything that comes before and after election day?
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentSo the status quo we're talking about, that we want to change. We voiced to the candidates for an entire year, through every available channel, what we would not vote for. How is that silent?...So the status quo we're talking about, that we want to change. We voiced to the candidates for an entire year, through every available channel, what we would not vote for. How is that silent? There was nothing on the ballot EXCEPT status quo. How would voting have made sense in that context?
For the record, I did spoil my ballot I just didn't know that had a term, I thought it was the same as not voting. The election being over does not mean any of us are going to stop voicing our opinion, the work doesn't just stop.
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentI think silent acceptance is a judgment you're inserting yourself, there hasn't been anything silent about the protests and activism. We have actually been very very loud. We were shown we would...I think silent acceptance is a judgment you're inserting yourself, there hasn't been anything silent about the protests and activism. We have actually been very very loud. We were shown we would not be considered, and our actions would be made prosecutable despite the constitutional right to protest, and that the police are allowed to beat people up without consequence. The message was fall in line, vote for us anyway, because at least we aren't that guy, and if you don't stop we'll hurt you. We showed up to the primaries, we showed up to every rally, and have been screaming at them for a year.
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Link ParentIt feels like you are trying not to understand, and also being unkind in your tone. What OP typed above is being conveyed to politicians precisely through not voting for them. You can be sure that...It feels like you are trying not to understand, and also being unkind in your tone. What OP typed above is being conveyed to politicians precisely through not voting for them. You can be sure that 20 million fewer voters communicated a message. In case you are not aware, it was also communicated all year long through very regular massive protests and disruptions. And during the primaries. Being loud failed, and for many resulted in also being beaten and arrested.
It's honestly so rude to come at somebody like that when they are legitimately trying to both process how they are feeling in a public forum, and also explain it thoughtfully. "Not trying to be dismissive" but also "Struggling to find a topic of discussion here", be honest with yourself. You just want to shut the conversation down because you're annoyed. Which is super effective at alienating people and making them feel isolated. Which is what this post is about.
I watched it when it was coming out, basically all of high school for me. Watching it again this year as someone who is 38.... like. The experience I'm having is so much fun. It feels like I've never even seen it, even though I remember it quite well. I just relate to the characters is SUCH a different way. It is holding up as one of my all time favorite shows. I'm excited to get to the last season because I remember what I felt while watching it better than I remember what actually happens.