Melvincible's recent activity
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Comment on US Food and Drug Administration to revoke authorization for the use of red no. 3 in food and ingested drugs in ~health
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
Melvincible I watched Tangerine, directed by Sean Baker, released in 2015. I really loved it. I haven't seen his other movies, but I think I will after watching this one. It made me laugh a lot, it also made...I watched Tangerine, directed by Sean Baker, released in 2015. I really loved it. I haven't seen his other movies, but I think I will after watching this one. It made me laugh a lot, it also made me tear up a little bit a couple times. It felt very real while also being kind of ridiculous. And I liked how much it felt like I was just following these people around the city. It didn't feel like it was "directed" or set up, just that it was happpening and the audience is standing nearby. They felt like real people. I felt like it was about loneliness, friendship, and acceptance.
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Comment on US Food and Drug Administration to revoke authorization for the use of red no. 3 in food and ingested drugs in ~health
Melvincible I personally would love to stop ingesting things that are not food.I personally would love to stop ingesting things that are not food.
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Comment on In praise of California. It has its flaws — what place doesn’t? — but it plays a big role in America’s greatness. in ~society
Melvincible I have similarly been pulling scales out of my eyes for what feels like my entire adult life. Each time I think I'm done and I understand, I'll become aware of something new and my heart breaks a...I have similarly been pulling scales out of my eyes for what feels like my entire adult life. Each time I think I'm done and I understand, I'll become aware of something new and my heart breaks a little more. I agree with you that as a collective our society seems to be petty, vindictive, selfish etc. And the evidence of that is all over the internet and discussions and comments sections are kind of soul crushing. But also, the portrayal of that collective is curated and spun by people who get richer if we are hyper individual consumers who fear their neighbor. They made algorithms to promote division. You can't believe in it.
I know this is just an anecdote, but I have family in Erwin Tennessee and Western NC that were impacted by Hurricane Helene, and my partner and my childhood best friend are in LA right now (I am north of there). We couldn't reach my elderly aunt in the mountains by phone for many days after the storm, and her road was gone. But she's fine because a compassionate neighbor kept her safe. Community grocery stores popped up run by citizens, where everything is free for those in need, it's stocked by other Americans. All of my right leaning republican family in the south east has been texting me to ask how they can help. I watched/am watching both of those events as closely as a person can. And I just wanted to tell you that I don't feel anything but hope in the collective right now. They want people to believe there is looting and people living in fear, when the opposite is true. Thousands of people have mobilized to help. The ruling class want us to believe we can't trust each other, and that we are on our own, that people will only do things if they personally benefit, and there is nothing at all we can do, and it's a lie from the fucking devil's own mouth.
Here is a link to just one resource sheet that made me feel hopeful, there are many more like it. I hope it refills your hope meter a little bit. If it was "too late", they wouldn't be trying this hard to keep dividing us.
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Comment on Great shows with a truly satisfying ending? in ~tv
Melvincible I watched it when it was coming out, basically all of high school for me. Watching it again this year as someone who is 38.... like. The experience I'm having is so much fun. It feels like I've...I watched it when it was coming out, basically all of high school for me. Watching it again this year as someone who is 38.... like. The experience I'm having is so much fun. It feels like I've never even seen it, even though I remember it quite well. I just relate to the characters is SUCH a different way. It is holding up as one of my all time favorite shows. I'm excited to get to the last season because I remember what I felt while watching it better than I remember what actually happens.
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible Thanks <3 Rural life lessons are hard I am finding out :( I'm glad it wasn't worse.Thanks <3 Rural life lessons are hard I am finding out :( I'm glad it wasn't worse.
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible This movie is so good, it's like a movie about internal family systems (therapy type).This movie is so good, it's like a movie about internal family systems (therapy type).
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Comment on How do you learn to recognize your own emotions? in ~health.mental
Melvincible When I started therapy again this year, it was the first time I was doing it from a place of stability. All the other times I was coming from a crisis. This time, I just wanted to understand...When I started therapy again this year, it was the first time I was doing it from a place of stability. All the other times I was coming from a crisis. This time, I just wanted to understand myself better. I really am not great at identifying my emotions, and kind of felt like I only had 5 - angry, sad, happy, confused, and anxious. My therapist has really been reinforcing a practice where I ask myself "where do you feel it in your body?" And then I work hard to recall other times I've felt that way and what was going on then. For example a few weeks ago, one of my ducks died (fox got her). And when I saw her in the morning, I thought I didn't feel anything. By the end of that day though, my shoulders were tense and my throat felt tight, I was HIGHLY irritated at other cars on the road, and at everyone in the grocery store. Trying to make a repair to their coop that evening drove me to the brink of irritable into actual rage. My eyes were vibrating. I also was refusing to ask for help at any point. From this, I could work out that I was actually feeling shame, and sadness, and some regret. Not "nothing". I just needed to find it in my body to make some connections. When my stomach tight I check in with myself, am I scared? When my jaw is clenched I am usually anxious. Etc. But I don't often notice the emotion first, I just feel fucked up physically in some way. I wrote down on my whiteboard "where do you feel it in your body?" for a daily reminder to check in. "Sad" is a much wider range now. So is "anxious". It's been weird for me to try to learn this as an adult, and hard to accept that it wasn't my fault for not learning it as a child, but what can you do? Shame is the biggest one I am working on now because it contains MANY complex emotions that I used to chunk in the "sad" bucket.
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Melvincible Also this is the nicest post ever. I appreciate all of you so much. Even if I am mostly lurking.Also this is the nicest post ever. I appreciate all of you so much. Even if I am mostly lurking.
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Comment on Follow up on the username thread: What Tildes users do you recognize when browsing and, without being rude or inflammatory, what is your impression of them? in ~tildes
Melvincible I find myself in the same threads as @skybrian, @DefinitelyNotAFae, and @boxer_dogs_dance the most often for some reason. I feel like I used to see @OBLIVIATER alot, but then stopped. Skybrian, I...I find myself in the same threads as @skybrian, @DefinitelyNotAFae, and @boxer_dogs_dance the most often for some reason. I feel like I used to see @OBLIVIATER alot, but then stopped. Skybrian, I feel vaguely like we might have disagreed somewhere once about something? But I like reading your take on stuff and can't remember why I vaguely think that...
It's neat seeing the same people regularly, it's part of what I love about Tildes... and boxer_dogs_dance, I think we might actually live really close to each other in real life (but can't remember why I think that anymore either, my memory is not awesome).
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible I don't think it's any more or less noble than keeping yourself safe and alive by leaving. I mean it's still an act of resistance to leave. They get one less resource. For me, I never expected to...I don't think it's any more or less noble than keeping yourself safe and alive by leaving. I mean it's still an act of resistance to leave. They get one less resource. For me, I never expected to live this long anyway for various reasons, so every day past 30 that I've gotten has been an absolute gift and a blessing and I'm grateful for it. I just have too many people here, and I don't like the idea of helplessly watching them from afar. My life would be devoid of meaning if I lost the people in it. Survival for survival's sake is not worth it in my opinion, but I totally understand that it is for most people and that's extremely valid and not something I would ever judge somebody for doing.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible For the record, protecting your kid by any means necessary is courageous.For the record, protecting your kid by any means necessary is courageous.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible Very true about legitimate reasons not to own guns!! But incorrect about leftists. They have always been extremely pro gun ownership. I think there's just some misunderstandings because in America...Very true about legitimate reasons not to own guns!! But incorrect about leftists. They have always been extremely pro gun ownership. I think there's just some misunderstandings because in America people have been referring to liberals as "left" for so long. A pretty effective strategy to control a population is to obscure the true meaning of words. Which is why people think anarchy and chaos are synonyms. And that liberal means leftist. The ultra left as you called it is heavily armed.
But yes, hard agree about not owning guns if emotionally devastated.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible My hopefully irrational fear --- The current administration has set us on the path of protests being illegal, homelessness being illegal, and involuntary servitude as punishment for a crime being...My hopefully irrational fear --- The current administration has set us on the path of protests being illegal, homelessness being illegal, and involuntary servitude as punishment for a crime being totally legal. It is a very dark opportunity to create labor camps. Which is what I fear would be the result of these homeless tent cities Trump is proposing to create. He has been vocal about leftists being some sort of radical enemy and needing to be dealt with. I feel like it's a coin toss right now whether that happens. The billionaires want cheap labor, the prisons want profits, and government wants activists to go away. It's a reasonable fear I think.
Private prisons in Arizona sued the state for failing to meet a contractually obligated quantity of prisoners, and they won damages. States are required to incarcerate a minimum number of prisoners, which is usually above 90% capacity. This is a terrifying concept to me. We do not get to decide what constitutes a crime, or what the sentences are.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible You could think of it as a hobby and put the paranoid thoughts to the back of your mind. It's never really a bad idea to have guns for defense. Even if you never use them. And paranoid people are...You could think of it as a hobby and put the paranoid thoughts to the back of your mind. It's never really a bad idea to have guns for defense. Even if you never use them. And paranoid people are still right some percent of the time... stability is transitory.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible There are more of us than people realize :) I'm thinking of starting a local mutual aid type group for clothing, repairs and trades. I don't know exactly how yet. The concept of mutual aid is...There are more of us than people realize :) I'm thinking of starting a local mutual aid type group for clothing, repairs and trades. I don't know exactly how yet. The concept of mutual aid is still fairly new to me. But I am a firm believer that every little thing adds up. If all I can do is keep people warm and fed, that's not nothing. I'm glad you have solid footing too. I'm looking up what an auntie program is now.
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Comment on If our worst fears about Donald Trump play out, how will we know when it's time to leave? in ~society
Melvincible I don't think you could get me to leave. In these worst case scenarios, there would be people here who can't leave. And I honestly think I would rather be executed by fascists for resisting them...- Exemplary
I don't think you could get me to leave. In these worst case scenarios, there would be people here who can't leave. And I honestly think I would rather be executed by fascists for resisting them than start a new life as a refugee. I'm pretty well equppied to be a resource, not financially, but in other ways. I got some trad skills. I think some Americans imagine being a refugee as just.... moving. Like if you can afford to just move, I guess maybe it would be like that? I can't. But the reality for most would be refugee status which is not an easy life. I don't really see the point in living that way for myself, I don't have kids or a family to take care of and I'm in a little off grid community. We have each other, we have solar, we have water... But I'm also not particularly afraid of being dead so that helps.
If the worst kind of fascism really plays out, we will have so much death. It will feel like my duty to resist that. I love a lot of people who can't leave, and probably can't do much to protect themselves. So yeah, I'm okay dying for them. We'll go together.
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Comment on How do people get over enshittification? in ~life
Melvincible The issue for clothing is everything now contains plastic. This is a relatively recent development. Elastane is in almost every clothing item, and it is not durable. Not long ago jeans were made...The issue for clothing is everything now contains plastic. This is a relatively recent development. Elastane is in almost every clothing item, and it is not durable. Not long ago jeans were made of denim. Now they are made of some denim and some elastane. Socks, shirts, it's in everything :( It's substantially more difficult to find clothing made of wool, or 100% cotton, than it is to find clothing made of plastic. This doesn't even touch on the design/build quality, which is orders of magnitude worse than it was a few decades ago. Fast fashion is the worst thing that has ever happened to clothes. And it's in places that market themselves as high end, so it's really tricky to avoid.
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Comment on How do people get over enshittification? in ~life
Melvincible I've turned it into a hobby almost, of repairing items instead of replacing them. This Thursday I'm taking apart my oven door because it doesn't quite close all the way, I think I can fix it.......I've turned it into a hobby almost, of repairing items instead of replacing them. This Thursday I'm taking apart my oven door because it doesn't quite close all the way, I think I can fix it.... maybe. But yeah it's such a solid appliance I'm not ready to let it go. Same with clothing. I will cling to these things I like until the very last! I also had a blackberry until they stopped making them, so maybe I take it too far.
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Comment on Understanding the leftist that didn't vote: "Everybody else gets one, but not me" in ~society
Melvincible Like the other commenter I replied to, I am failing to understand where "silence" is coming from. Are you unaware of the protests and everything that leftists and left leaning people did leading...Like the other commenter I replied to, I am failing to understand where "silence" is coming from. Are you unaware of the protests and everything that leftists and left leaning people did leading up to the election to be heard? Why does none of that count as communication in your mind. What specifically could we all have checked on our presidential ballot that would have clarified our message further? Your statement is painfully oversimplified. The voters Harris lost have not been silent at all, liberals just decided they didn't want to hear it and gambled that we were a small enough group not to matter. We need to be understood to move forward from here, that party will not recover from what they've done if they continue to plug their ears like this.
Which foods do you think require objectively way worse stuff? It seems to me like most of the bad things are put there, not occuring naturally.