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  1. Comment on What's a life lesson you've applied that has changed your life? in ~life

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    That's quite interesting. How would you say that has helped you?

    That's quite interesting. How would you say that has helped you?

  2. Comment on What's a life lesson you've applied that has changed your life? in ~life

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    Any story behind that one?

    Any story behind that one?

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  3. What's a life lesson you've applied that has changed your life?

    When I was about 18 years old, I had a philosophy class where the teacher said this quote: "Things over which you do not have power should not have power over you." It could also be read as...

    When I was about 18 years old, I had a philosophy class where the teacher said this quote: "Things over which you do not have power should not have power over you." It could also be read as "control the things you control, ignore the rest".

    That lesson really spoke to me. I put a lot of effort integrating it into my personality and I must say now, almost 15 years later, it made my life so much more enjoyable.

    I used to get mad, really mad about stuff or get stressed about stuff out of my control, and I could never really remove those feelings. These words kept coming back to me and through some effort, I must say that I can more or less apply them in my everyday life now. It saved me a lot of trouble on various situations and has helped me break through problems way faster than I would have in the past, simply by helping me identify the things I could change and focus on those things.

    I'm curious about you guys and your life stories. Has any lesson had as much impact on your life?

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  4. Comment on Where do you find community? in ~talk

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    Oh my, in so many ways. I love to connect with people! I have various hobbies where I have followed their scene/followed the progress of the different actors throughout the years. It's like a...

    Oh my, in so many ways. I love to connect with people!

    I have various hobbies where I have followed their scene/followed the progress of the different actors throughout the years. It's like a healthy FOMO game I've been playing for a decade pretty much. I actively participate in the subreddits of those communities and/or actively read them everyday. I watch a lot of youtubers that cover those hobbies. Here are some examples of my hobbies:

    Bodybuilding: Followed the rise and fall of Phil Heath's Olympia wins, saw the beginning of Classic Physique, followed the arrival of many great BBs and witnessed the death of some of them...

    Super Smash Bros: Witnessed some of ZeRo's era of dominance, Mkleo's era. Saw Leffen finally win his Evo. Saw the community get exploded through the MeToo movement. Saw the end of the Five Gods' era...

    Chess: Magnus Carlsen... that's it. His dominance is such a joy to see. I've watched so many great games of his. Same goes for Fabi, the rise of the Indians, the Uzbeks, Hou Yifan, Hans' drama...

    Soccer: Messi/Ronaldo of course, but since I follow Chelsea's progress, it's a (sad) tale nowadays, but the Abramovich era was insane. Drogba, Shevchenko, Cech, Hazard, Mount, Pulisic, the Lukaku saga...

    Boardgames (Spirit Island/Frost/Gloomhaven): Those two games I have actively contributed on the forums as much as I could. Love them to death. I have finished both Haven games and have played more than a thousand SI games, both digital and IRL.

    Finally, my friends. I'm lucky enough to have a group of ~6-8 people who are all loving, caring and fun people to be around. I've drank, smoked, played, and experienced so many things with them throughout the years. We have a group chat where we often organize some parties (even in our thirties!) and usually 5-6 people show up. I'm also lucky enough to have another group of friends (from university) that I see semi-regularly.

    I really loved seeing this question on Tildes so thank you for asking it. I've been depressed in the past and finding that sense of community really gave me a reason to live. Just having the feeling of "I was there" makes life worth living, even if "I was there" just means watching a bodybuilder defeat a seven-years reigning champion.

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  5. Comment on How to find purpose in life? in ~life

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    I feel like giving you my life story would be too long of a comment to be useful, but since I haven't seen my advice in the comments, I kinda want to chime in. What helped me was a combination of:...

    I feel like giving you my life story would be too long of a comment to be useful, but since I haven't seen my advice in the comments, I kinda want to chime in.

    What helped me was a combination of: started to make friends, made myself likeable, started to climb (rock climbing), started to drink and smoke (socially), sought discomfort and new experiences.

    I also find a lot of solace in bettering myself - at least once every month, I look at how I improved at X thing and am happy with my progress. Perhaps I'm a better listener, I cooked a new meal, gave up on negative thoughts, took time to be grateful towards someone, etc.

    Still, I'd be lying if I underplayed weed and mush in that equation. Weed really helped me with social anxiety, which is ironic because it can make you paranoid, but that's the thing, once you get over that paranoia, you're really unafraid to just "be yourself".

    Mush also REALLY helped to undo all the negative thoughts about myself. I was lucky enough to do a couple trips with friends and it always made me a better person afterwards. Permanent change that came from mush would be a new sense of community? I'm waaay more capable of loving others and loving myself after all those experiences. I feel like we're all connected to everyone, that we all have bad thoughts, problems, and that's okay. Love is what really makes you enjoy life.

    I hope you find your purpose. It can be as simple as "be happy and seek experiences" - that would be mine.

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  6. Comment on Divine Hiddenness argument against God’s existence in ~humanities

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    I have to agree with burkaman here in that I think this argument is too weak to be of any use. I have spoken with many believers and debated some of them. Ultimately, faith is the cornerstone of...

    I have to agree with burkaman here in that I think this argument is too weak to be of any use.

    I have spoken with many believers and debated some of them. Ultimately, faith is the cornerstone of their beliefs. It doesn't matter how many arguments you throw at them: faith is inherently tied to their ideology.

    In that sense, I feel like they would answer such an argument with something like this: God chooses not to show Himself, in order for him to test our faith. Non-belief occurs because people choose not to have faith.

    I have cornered some believers in the past, but you cannot win over someone who believes faith (which in a sense could be defined as believing without proof) or lack of faith dictates one's identity. In some eyes, faith is access to God, it's access to paradise. His hiddeness is just a test of faith.

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  7. Comment on The moral economy of the Shire in ~books

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    That was a fantastic read. I don't know why, maybe it's english being my second language, but only just now, reading it, do I realize why Sam often calls Frodo "Mister" Frodo (or Master?). The...

    That was a fantastic read.

    I don't know why, maybe it's english being my second language, but only just now, reading it, do I realize why Sam often calls Frodo "Mister" Frodo (or Master?).

    The article really gives us a good perspective into the "patron" nature of the Shire and why Sam would feel indebted towards Frodo and the Baggins family.

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  8. Comment on Three Cheers for Tildes: App updates and feedback (May 2024) — Version 1.0 is out for iOS! in ~tildes

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    I absolutely love the app! I got it when you posted your last update and it's definitely made it easier for me to use Tildes. I guess it's kinda the same for many people: I feel like opening an...

    I absolutely love the app! I got it when you posted your last update and it's definitely made it easier for me to use Tildes.

    I guess it's kinda the same for many people: I feel like opening an app feels better than opening my browser and going to a bookmarked page of Tildes.

    I haven't really read your past updates but the only thing missing for me is the search function, right now, you can only search groups, which feels weird.

    Thanks a lot for your amazing work, you're awesome!

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  9. Comment on On DM’ing for the first time in ~games.tabletop

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    Oh my, what a write-up. As soon as I read "three hours", I kinda knew where this was heading. I wouldn't call myself an experienced player, but I was lucky enough to play under 3 DMs and saw how...

    Oh my, what a write-up. As soon as I read "three hours", I kinda knew where this was heading.

    I wouldn't call myself an experienced player, but I was lucky enough to play under 3 DMs and saw how their style differed. The best DM is by far the one who prepares less.

    I feel like all you need is a map, an overarching story that feels compelling and adventurous... and then good improv skills. Your players should decide what to do, so the sessions should always be a mix of "rail-roading" and free will. If you have more in one aspect, it feels bad.

    Your players know it's your first time also and will understand your shortcomings. You seem like you really want to prepare stuff in advance and my advice considering that would be to practice improvising.

    Think of random scenarios and how to react to them, random encounters and how you would create them on the fly, if your players intimidate, haggle, destroy, etc., how would you react?

    It takes practice to be able to do them perfectly, but good improv will hide those flaws well. In time, you'll encounter all situations, but it takes time. Be patient with yourself and don't be scared to make mistakes. :)

    Have fun with your game!

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  10. Comment on 17-year-old Gukesh wins the Candidates, becomes youngest ever Chess World Championship challenger in ~games.tabletop

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    The future of chess looks really promising. I've been following chess on and off since Carlsen vs Karjakin and I've grown bored (just like Magnus mentioned many times) how it's always been the...

    The future of chess looks really promising.

    I've been following chess on and off since Carlsen vs Karjakin and I've grown bored (just like Magnus mentioned many times) how it's always been the same people competing in tournaments for the last 10 years.

    Classical has also been considered on a decline since Carlsen commented that he wanted shorter time controls for the World Championship. I've seen so many discussions about how to make the game more exciting, how to reduce draws in classical and it seems to me that the time controls for this tournament worked VERY well. No added time per move until move 41 really made for some interesting games and it felt like the time pressure was even more meaningful.

    Gukesh totally deserved the win and I cannot win to see his WC against Ding! I have never been more excited for a World Chess Championship.

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  11. Comment on Have you had a life-altering change in who you are? in ~talk

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    I appreciate the insight. To say we all believe without proof would be grossly misunderstanding science, evolution and overall collective knowledge, just as it would be untruthful to say there is...

    I appreciate the insight.

    To say we all believe without proof would be grossly misunderstanding science, evolution and overall collective knowledge, just as it would be untruthful to say there is zero evidence to say other minds exist. There is partial or full evidence that minds exist based on tests and experiences about consciousness and our definition of it.

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  12. Comment on Have you had a life-altering change in who you are? in ~talk

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    Thank you for your response. I'll be honest and say that it is unsatisfying, but I don't want to debate you on this subject unless you wanted to. I feel like this post isn't the place to do so....

    Thank you for your response. I'll be honest and say that it is unsatisfying, but I don't want to debate you on this subject unless you wanted to. I feel like this post isn't the place to do so.

    You say you jumped stances and mentioned abortion. How do you feel about it today and how has your view changed?

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  13. Comment on Have you had a life-altering change in who you are? in ~talk

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    I'm curious about the atheist part. Why do you feel this way about it?

    I'm curious about the atheist part. Why do you feel this way about it?

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  14. Comment on Have you had a life-altering change in who you are? in ~talk

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    First of all, love reading these stories. Self-growth and self-reflection are such amazing human qualities, I love reading any story that involve them. As for myself, I most definitely did. I had...

    First of all, love reading these stories. Self-growth and self-reflection are such amazing human qualities, I love reading any story that involve them.

    As for myself, I most definitely did.

    I had a tough childhood. We weren't really poor, but we couldn't really live comfortably. I had hand-me-down clothes, never traveled, had 1 car for the whole family, a small house, etc. On top of that, my parents never really loved each other and they divorced when I was 11. We (my brother and sister) ended up staying with our dad because he had the best salary, but my dad was horrible, man. He wasn't the violent/drunk type. He was the sneaky manipulative type. Good Christian, friends with everyone, charming, social. With us? Terrible. He used to come at the house for his three kids, made supper, then watched TV. That's literally all he did. We did all the chores all our lives and would get absolutely manipulated into thinking we were horrible human beings if we didn't tend to the house... while he did nothing.

    Fast forward a couple years and I ended up reading a book about manipulators like him when I was a teenager and, sadly or fortunately depending on your perspective, my relationship with him would never recover from that. The book helped in protecting yourself from people like him and the fits he would throw would only be worse from that point on, but, at least, I got to keep my sanity.

    After some years, while I had moved away from his house, I kinda had the thought "what if I'm like him?" So I reread the book with the perspective of myself. "I am the manipulator". While I found that I wasn't as worse as him, there were definitely parts of my personality that were manipulative and it really hit me like a truck.

    For the next two years or so, trait by trait, I slowly deconstructed and changed those manipulative traits to become a better person and I must say that I succeeded. For example, I used to really like sarcastic humour, which is fine, but when you really think about it, sarcastic humour can really be abrasive at times, to the point where unless you really know the person, it can easily come off as insulting. I didn't really realize that and in a way, I kind of used sarcastic humour to push other people down and raise myself up. Initially, I forced myself to add "I'm just kidding you/teasing you" or changing my tone and, eventually, I just stopped using this type of humour entirely.

    It's a small example, but when you added all the other traits, I wasn't really the kind/nice person that I wanted to be and I'm happy to say that I am now much closer to this ideal than I was back then.

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  15. Comment on I can't cry for some reason in ~health.mental

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    I had that problem for a really long time. I cried about 10 times before ~25. In retrospect, I kinda understand why I wasn't able to cry, but what cured me was completely unexpected. I watched...

    I had that problem for a really long time. I cried about 10 times before ~25. In retrospect, I kinda understand why I wasn't able to cry, but what cured me was completely unexpected.

    I watched Grave of the Firelies one evening and this movie just broke me in half, manipulated me into crying like nothing else ever had. Without spoiling too much, this movie just assaults you with sad moments and when you think there's hope, the movie swiftly crushes those hopes.

    I've been able to cry normally ever since. Mushrooms and pot kinda helped too.

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  16. Comment on What are some of your favorite PlayStation 1 games? Any odd or unique ones worth playing? in ~games

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    I did play the remake, yes! I thought it was faithful to the original and worth the buy.

    I did play the remake, yes! I thought it was faithful to the original and worth the buy.

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  17. Comment on What are some of your favorite PlayStation 1 games? Any odd or unique ones worth playing? in ~games

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    I'm surprised no one mentionned Crash Team Racing, which imo hit the perfect balance of fun, arcade and skillful racing gameplay. The spyro games are also very fun.

    I'm surprised no one mentionned Crash Team Racing, which imo hit the perfect balance of fun, arcade and skillful racing gameplay.

    The spyro games are also very fun.

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  18. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    That is the perfect amount of information. Thank you!

    That is the perfect amount of information.

    Thank you!

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  19. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I have read the reviews of Slice & Dice and I decided to buy it because of you. Thanks for the suggestion! I've played over 500 hours of Slay the Spire, have two characters at A20 (won) and two at...

    I have read the reviews of Slice & Dice and I decided to buy it because of you. Thanks for the suggestion! I've played over 500 hours of Slay the Spire, have two characters at A20 (won) and two at A18 so this is a game I'm sure I'll love.

    Do you have any suggestion about the gameplay for me? Is there something I need to know before starting?

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  20. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I've honestly been playing a lot of Spirit Island on TTS. I've been playing the game for years now, pretty much every week for multiple games. We were discussing tier lists/spirit powers with my...

    I've honestly been playing a lot of Spirit Island on TTS. I've been playing the game for years now, pretty much every week for multiple games. We were discussing tier lists/spirit powers with my friend and it revitalized the game for me, so I've been playing a lot of random spirits two-handed and I've been having a ton of fun.

    Other than that, some Monster Hunter World, my friend told me about this game that he played a lot. I really like the grinding/farming aspect of the game, plus the visuals and the story... but the gameplay is just meh. I hate being stuck into long animations, especially considering the very nature of the monsters you fight against. It's not natural for a human to be stuck for 3-5 seconds into doing the same motion when the monster moved after the first second.

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