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Comment on What are the simple things in your life that you are thankful for? in ~life
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Comment on What are the simple things in your life that you are thankful for? in ~life
Randomise Link ParentMy favourite one is "what difference does it make?" I'm picky and intense on a lot of things that I can control and it happened many times in my life where I was tempted to complain on something...My favourite one is "what difference does it make?"
I'm picky and intense on a lot of things that I can control and it happened many times in my life where I was tempted to complain on something that irritated me. In the end, after some time reflecting on it, I found that just asking myself "heh, what difference does it make anyways?" really helped. It turns my brain into an analyst bot where I see how inconsequential something is and I'm able to either make the small change or just let go of the negative thoughts because it doesn't really matter anyways.
Another one is "it's never too late". I often stressed in the past about not doing something and I realized quickly that life is not a race. I used to look at other people's lives and dislike mine because I didn't achieve what they did at their age. But this feeling is endless. So I told myself many times that "it's never too late" and it always grounds me.
So the fail-safes are really just sentences that stop any further downward negative spiraling. I have a couple others for general situations and after working at it for decades now, I realize that I don't hold any negative thought for more than a day. Sometimes it takes me a second, sometimes it takes me a day, but never really more than that.
My absolute fail-safe is "we're all gonna die anyways" and that has really helped for more intense stressful situations.
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Comment on What are the simple things in your life that you are thankful for? in ~life
Randomise LinkIt may sound corny, but my ability to accurately reflect on things. Regardless of the situation, I'm always able to get the positives out of it and not stay in a negative state of mind. I've built...It may sound corny, but my ability to accurately reflect on things.
Regardless of the situation, I'm always able to get the positives out of it and not stay in a negative state of mind.
I've built up a couple of "fail-safes" when things go wrong and it has always saved me.
I've been told by many that I'm always a positive person and it's really because I am able to fully understand situations from both sides.
I am super grateful that my brain can do that!
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Randomise Link ParentIt's a lot of fun! I'm as a newbie as you are. Just play it, really, the game doesn't throw you everything at once. You unlock features as you play and it shows you where to look for when you...It's a lot of fun!
I'm as a newbie as you are. Just play it, really, the game doesn't throw you everything at once. You unlock features as you play and it shows you where to look for when you unlock them. It's very intuitive.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Randomise LinkHonestly, I've been playing a lot of Archero 2 on my phone lately. I have less and less time to devote to gaming these days, so playing on my phone is a good alternative. I love that game because,...Honestly, I've been playing a lot of Archero 2 on my phone lately.
I have less and less time to devote to gaming these days, so playing on my phone is a good alternative. I love that game because, while there are microtransactions (a lot of it). There is actual skill to the game, you can easily level up and get stronger every time you play. It doesn't translate that much into the game play (the monsters get stronger as you do), but I'm at the point where I can tweak my build to maximize a certain playstyle and it's fun when you get the combat upgrades that fit that playstyle.
It's a ton of fun! I must say I'm a little addicted... which I feel is great because I haven't found that in a game in at least 6 months.
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Comment on Posts vs. comments. Where do you fall and why? in ~tech
Randomise LinkI feel like I do both. The thing with commenting is that sometimes it feels futile when there are already tens of comments, even moreso on Reddit where it can get into thousands and at one point...I feel like I do both.
The thing with commenting is that sometimes it feels futile when there are already tens of comments, even moreso on Reddit where it can get into thousands and at one point you're just wondering "why am I doing this?" when commenting. On Tildes, it often feels great because the engagement is good accross the whole post. I've seen posts on Tildes where the top comment had no replies and some 2-3 comments down had tens. It's fun! I feel that my time is never wasted when I type a comment.
As for posting, I like to do it when I have a good question to ask. I've done it a couple times, maybe 3-4 times a year and I'm always happy with the engagement. At the same time, the only internet I visit is Youtube and I never feel like sharing a Youtube video is a good thing. So if I don't have a good question to ask as a post, I just don't do it.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
Randomise Link ParentIt is a shame, but at the same time, I kinda hate the discourse around harassing and straight up hate these people receive for not putting out books. They're all humans, if they don't write as...It is a shame, but at the same time, I kinda hate the discourse around harassing and straight up hate these people receive for not putting out books. They're all humans, if they don't write as much and want to do something else, then good for them. I'll read something else instead.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
Randomise LinkI finally got back into reading after decades. I used to read while riding the bus, and the habit spread to become my favourite hobby after gaming. After school became a lot harder during...I finally got back into reading after decades. I used to read while riding the bus, and the habit spread to become my favourite hobby after gaming. After school became a lot harder during university, I stopped reading for fun... being forced to read like 5 books in 2 months is just not fun at all. I started reading my first two semesters and then... I just never read again until this year.
One of my friend had told me about this book that he read for a full year: The Name of The Wind. So when I wanted to read again, I picked up that book. Oh, it was so wonderful. I'm almost done with the second book, The Wise Man's Fear and I'm kinda sad about it. I hadn't loved being deep inside a story like that for fifteen years. I'm really glad to be reading again.
I'm kinda looking for some fantasy suggestions, now!
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Comment on Grandmaster, popular commentator Daniel Naroditsky tragically passes away at 29 in ~games.tabletop
Randomise LinkThis is terrible, absolutely shocking news. Danya has been a staple of high-level chess commentary for a long time. He's loved by everyone in the community for his skills both as player and a...This is terrible, absolutely shocking news.
Danya has been a staple of high-level chess commentary for a long time. He's loved by everyone in the community for his skills both as player and a commentator, but also because he's a genuinely good human. He will be so so missed.
He had been away for a little bit too... I fear it's somehow related this his passing.
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Comment on Denmark plans social media ban for under-15s – PM Mette Frederiksen links social media use to anxiety, depression and lack of concentration in ~tech
Randomise Link ParentFor real, I wasn't sure how to respond to that, thank you for the elaborate response. Of course it's a slippery slope. We were able to live without cellphones prior to ~2010, of course we can...For real, I wasn't sure how to respond to that, thank you for the elaborate response.
Of course it's a slippery slope. We were able to live without cellphones prior to ~2010, of course we can still live without them now. Especially if it's only during school hours. It's not like the kids cannot use them outside of the school perimeters or in the bus ride. The parents know where they are anyways.
If the kid is dumb enough to use the cellphone at school then it's on him/her. Almost all parents agree with the cellphone being confiscated if they don't respect the rule. Most parents dislike how much their kid use their cellphone anyways.
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Comment on Denmark plans social media ban for under-15s – PM Mette Frederiksen links social media use to anxiety, depression and lack of concentration in ~tech
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Comment on Denmark plans social media ban for under-15s – PM Mette Frederiksen links social media use to anxiety, depression and lack of concentration in ~tech
Randomise Link ParentSee phone, confiscate phone. First offense is kind of a warning, depending on who intervenes, but it can be a full 24h before you see your phone again, 48h the second time and your parents have to...See phone, confiscate phone.
First offense is kind of a warning, depending on who intervenes, but it can be a full 24h before you see your phone again, 48h the second time and your parents have to get it for you; up until a week.
We confiscated some phones the first week and now the students just don't use them, it's working pretty well!
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Comment on Denmark plans social media ban for under-15s – PM Mette Frederiksen links social media use to anxiety, depression and lack of concentration in ~tech
Randomise (edited )Link ParentIt's always been banned in the class, but you know the drill. Kids all have them in their pockets anyways and over time, teachers have used it for teaching purposes or as a behavior tool, like...It's always been banned in the class, but you know the drill. Kids all have them in their pockets anyways and over time, teachers have used it for teaching purposes or as a behavior tool, like "you can use your cellphones the last 5 minutes if you guys behave well".
Some schools had it banned everywhere inside the school (especially private schools), but not all of them. It's the first year it's banned everywhere in all schools.
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Comment on Denmark plans social media ban for under-15s – PM Mette Frederiksen links social media use to anxiety, depression and lack of concentration in ~tech
Randomise LinkI work in a school that teaches 12-17 years old kids, I also have two nieces that are 13 and 15 years old. Our school banned cellphones completely this year for the first time and I can really see...I work in a school that teaches 12-17 years old kids, I also have two nieces that are 13 and 15 years old. Our school banned cellphones completely this year for the first time and I can really see the difference.
It's tough to fully grasp how much cellphones impact the kids because we (people my age) haven't really lived through it. I was lucky enough that Facebook only took off at the end of my high school years. Before that, anything related to public opinion and stigma was only done through discussions at school, what you heard, what you saw.
Can you imagine having the whole world influence how you live your life? Can you imagine how quick a single snapchat sent to ~100 people can be influential? Can you imagine how easier shittalking and gossiping is now? It used to take months or years to make or break a reputation, now it can take a single afternoon or overnight. It's so easy to become paranoid when you cannot control how people talk about you. So much of growing up is trying to fit in and be accepted, "being yourself" comes after.
I've seen the kids come up to me after talk and literally cry deeply because some asshole posted a mean snapchat in the class group chat (yes, that's a thing now) and now everyone laughs at that girl. All of that bullshit because one single idiot kid wanted to make a joke. The circle of influence is so much bigger than it used to be. It's no wonder that you don't see a lot of "different" kids compared to when we were young. If you're different, you're laughed at. All the girls are pretty, all the boys are pretty. They are all decked out, have good haircuts, nice shoes, etc.
I applaud Denmark to think about banning that. It's a tough call and there will be a ton of backlash, but social media is absolutely terrible for their development. The cons far outweigh the pros.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Randomise Link Parent+1 for Megabonk I got it in my recommended pop-up one time when I opened Steam and I got hooked immediately. The price is very good and it got me ton of quick fun. It's quite hard also! But it's...+1 for Megabonk
I got it in my recommended pop-up one time when I opened Steam and I got hooked immediately. The price is very good and it got me ton of quick fun. It's quite hard also! But it's rewarding when you hit a good combo of tomes/weapons. The fact that you are effectively way worse by not picking weapons early already makes it better than Vampire Survivors imo. With VS, I felt like the game was really easy and it was just a matter of waiting 20 minutes destroying endless waves. The balance is a little better in Megabonk, although it's easier to sink time in VS, tho.
I realized this year that I just cannot immerse myself in a game any more like I used to. And it's not for lack of trying, but I feel like after an hour or so, especially failing multiples times, the restart after a failed run is harder and harder. I used to be able to just go run after run after run, but with the responsibilities and maintenance that adult life brings, I really only go max 2 hours, and often it's just 30-45 minutes here and there. Megabonk is perfect for that.
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Comment on What's a product or service that you use but don't want to pay for and why? in ~life
Randomise Link ParentI used dating apps for the first time in my life this year, in my 30's, and I agree with everything you said. I told myself that trying to hijack and speed up the process was just not worth it....I used dating apps for the first time in my life this year, in my 30's, and I agree with everything you said.
I told myself that trying to hijack and speed up the process was just not worth it. Who cares if I match twice as more? 1-2 matches every week was plenty enough for me.
It took two bad dates and around 12 bad matches to finally find my (now) girlfriend. I'm happy I took my time and didn't set unrealistic expectations for me.
It also helped that dating apps are like 15$ a week. Fuck that.
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Comment on What are some of your routines or habits? in ~life
Randomise Link ParentThanks for the recommendations, I'll definitetly try these. I have not been able to get a full night sleep in about 20 years. Trazodone helps for now so we'll see. Gummies and pot never helped.Thanks for the recommendations, I'll definitetly try these. I have not been able to get a full night sleep in about 20 years. Trazodone helps for now so we'll see.
Gummies and pot never helped.
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Comment on What are some of your routines or habits? in ~life
Randomise Link ParentI do yeah, especially during summer when I'm off work for like 2 months. I don't really have a routine then and I kinda don't like it. I wanted to start school again just to get back in the...I do yeah, especially during summer when I'm off work for like 2 months. I don't really have a routine then and I kinda don't like it. I wanted to start school again just to get back in the routines lol
It helps that my work days are always the same since I'm a teacher. So that really helps.
Also, I'm medicated for ADHD since january and it literally changed my life. It's way easier to keep a routine and stay organized when you're constantly able to be on top of things. It's easy to break a routine when your life is filled with mood swings, energy swings, motivation drops, etc. I don't really have those anymore, I just do stuff now.
I feel like I don't really answer your question. I do break it sometimes, especially anything related to food (cooking, groceries), but that's just because my evenings always fill up with random stuff. The rest of the routines are all kinda unbreakable at this point because I forced myself to do it for so long because I wanted it to become a routine. If I break it one day or one week, my brain doesn't like it lol
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Comment on What are some of your routines or habits? in ~life
Randomise (edited )LinkOh my, what a question! Where do I start? I feel like everything in my life is a routine. When you get older and settle a little more into just living as an adult, you realize that a lot of your...Oh my, what a question! Where do I start? I feel like everything in my life is a routine.
When you get older and settle a little more into just living as an adult, you realize that a lot of your happiness is tied to just having your life together, and that means being organized, respecting your time, keeping the calendar updated. It also means doing what "needs" to be done, like all the chores, going grocery shopping, cooking, etc.
- Sleep
- I started a habit this year that I wanted to go to bed at the same time every day. I'm getting to an age where I don't go out a lot anymore and fridays are getting free again for the first times in years. So, bed at 10.
- I stop all screens around 8:30pm, sometimes I go up to 9 if I feel like it
- Trazodone at 9 (I have a lot of sleeping problems so only that has helped, so I take that)
- Brush my teeth
- Go to bed and read
- Close the book when the pill hits, then sleep
- Cleaning
- I have a small apartment with no rugs and all the furniture is either lifted (so I can vacuum under it) or totally solid (so the dust cannot go under, really)
- I tidy up every day after I stop all screens (it really only takes maybe a minute since I just put back stuff where it goes nowadays)
- I always make sure my dishes are done (I don't have a dishwasher), here's how I do it: I have my rack on the left of my sink. EVERY TIME I use some dishes, I rinse it off, if I cook I kinda do it all after, but even just toasts in the morning, I wash my knife and plate every time. This is the key! After the rack is 3/4 full or full, I do the dishes on that day. I just fill the sink with hot soapy water, put the dishes in the sink, wash, dry, put it away.
- Sunday evening I vacuum (takes about 10 minutes), do the laundry (easiest, but takes the longest; I do all my clothes (every week) and bed sheets every two weeks), clean my toilet/toilet sink (takes about 10 minutes). Sometimes I use a swiffer duster on the furniture maybe once or twice a month (takes about 5 minutes).
So yeah, my apartment is always clean, apart from the dishes, I clean my apartment maybe 2 hours a week? It's just spread apart every day because I don't let stuff "stay where it's not supposed to be"
- Cooking
I'm getting better at that, so this is what I do for now
- Since I live alone and work in a school, I eat at the cafeteria everyday. It's about 37.25$ for the whole week (5 lunch meals) which is not too bad for not having to cook/prepare stuff.
- I have a cooking app that gives me suggestions, I pick one I like and just buy groceries around it. I do that for maybe 2-3 times a week since I always have leftovers.
- I've been doing that for a while so I have a lot of recipes in my head now. I always try something new every week/month. Like last month it was paan pizzas and roasts.
- For breakfast I sometimes do omelets but honestly, I've been eating peanut butter toasts for like 30 years lol so I still do that
- Working out
- I'm lucky because my school has a gym and we start classes at 9:45am so I arrive at 8-8:15, workout maybe 45-1h, 4 times a week (all week besides wednesday)
- I do slow reps for now, 5-6 exercices where I focus on a movement (I do pull, legs, full body, push). Sometimes I'll add a push/pull exercices in the legs because I feel like it
- I have a protein shake after/during the workout (2 scoops, ~700ml water)
- Fun
- I always do an activity every week. Either it's see my family, one friend, whatever, I always do something because I know it makes me feel better. I have very good friends, probably around 6-7 people I can see alone and have fun with so it's cool that I have choice. It's friends I've kept for maybe 10 years at this point, some are new
- Every week evening is kinda busy, but I like to watch animes, play video games, talk with my friends, watch youtube videos and stuff.
- Every sunday is a "me day", I spoke pot, play videogames, eat ice cream, whatever the fuck I wanna do. I love it
As for the rest, I feel like I'm top of things, I love reading reddit and tildes, because I'm a curious person and any knowledge is good knowledge for me so I read random stuff every day. That's about how I live my life.
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Comment on Who’s playing Blood on the Clocktower? in ~games.tabletop
Randomise Link ParentI'm happy you like it! I went for a more general review of it, I guess a more apt review would be "if you dislike dishonesty and lying in games, then it's not for you", but that part is kinda...I'm happy you like it! I went for a more general review of it, I guess a more apt review would be "if you dislike dishonesty and lying in games, then it's not for you", but that part is kinda obvious, isn't it.
Kinda yeah.
For people, I always try to find a quality in them and those that I really don't like, I just go with "they don't deserve to be in my life" and try to avoid them.
As for situations, it's kinda hard to translate from french (I speak french), it would be "that goes with it" (ça vient avec). Traffic? That goes with working and getting money. Chores? That comes with wanting a clean place. Small talk? That comes with wanting to be liked but my coworkers. Losses? That comes with any competition.
Also, it helps that I forced myself early on to see what I can control in life and what I cannot control. After many years, I have small tricks I can use to maximize the dopamine of any situation so I'm not bored out of my mind or frustrated because I'm stuck in a bad place. Control what you can, let go of the rest.