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  1. Comment on Hoopla Bonus Borrows for February 2026 in ~books

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    Alas it seems skimpy this month. Going to try the sapphic holiday romance because it's at least something but eh

    Alas it seems skimpy this month. Going to try the sapphic holiday romance because it's at least something but eh

  2. Comment on She graduated from high school with honors but can’t read or write. Now she’s suing. in ~society

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    I'm so glad for how things turned out for you and so sorry for the system failing you by never looking at anything other than the tests and just placing you with no additional help. Families don't...

    I'm so glad for how things turned out for you and so sorry for the system failing you by never looking at anything other than the tests and just placing you with no additional help. Families don't know how to help their kids they just trust the school officials (or don't at all, but that tends to the same outcome ironically.)

    Also, just like, the idea that anyone but a lawyer is writing a (non-small claims) lawsuit... Those who do, the outliers, are on the whole not exemplars of educational or legal success. Like I said, it's flippant but ignores shes incredibly determined and not unteachable. She just needed different help.

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  3. Comment on She graduated from high school with honors but can’t read or write. Now she’s suing. in ~society

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    I want to point out that this is flippant, but where she actually graduated and got into college it seems like it was because she used adaptive technology. And did it herself while English is...

    I want to point out that this is flippant, but where she actually graduated and got into college it seems like it was because she used adaptive technology. And did it herself while English is probably her second language.

    The school failed her but if she had to file in small claims, she seems very capable. If she's in special education the fact they didn't consider her dyslexia or really evaluate her until her senior year is absolutely on them. This is why kids from families whose parents don't know how or don't have the capacity to advocate for them do so much more poorly than those who can afford tutors, have the time and capacity to press uncooperative schools for legally mandated care plans, etc.

    12 votes

  4. Comment on Single vaccine could protect against all coughs, colds and flus, researchers say in ~health

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    Plus on top of making it more likely that healthcare workers get sick patients who are there for other things may also end up catching one of those nasty respiratory viruses with everyone coughing...

    Plus on top of making it more likely that healthcare workers get sick patients who are there for other things may also end up catching one of those nasty respiratory viruses with everyone coughing up a lung in the waiting room.

    We try to avoid the ER as much as possible, but with my partner's medical stuff, it is inevitable that a catheter will need an emergency replacement or something else will happen. He hates going because he knows there's a chance he'll end up sicker despite everyone's best efforts. And the flu is a hospital stay for him. But even something else can lead to a pain/cough feedback loop from hell.

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  5. Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news

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    I did check, it doesn't look like they're cross posting on YT or Instagram. They're fairly small creators

    I did check, it doesn't look like they're cross posting on YT or Instagram. They're fairly small creators

    5 votes

  6. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    Yeah. The other suggestion I have is shared MyChart access (either shared login or getting added as an approved viewer). It means I can go check appointments easily. But yeah a physical cue can...

    Yeah. The other suggestion I have is shared MyChart access (either shared login or getting added as an approved viewer). It means I can go check appointments easily.

    But yeah a physical cue can help, and getting a habit of writing things down even if they already "know" they told you (and vice versa) so there's a record.

    1 vote

  7. Comment on Humble Bundle Books: (Almost) the entirety of Discworld for $16 in ~books

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    Someone elsewhere suggested making a US Kobo account and downloading books using an online tool. Not sure how that works if you can't buy the bundle, :/

    Someone elsewhere suggested making a US Kobo account and downloading books using an online tool. Not sure how that works if you can't buy the bundle, :/

  8. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    Hey, shit is really rough and I hear you in that in some ways this is "working" for you. But I wanted you to know, from an internet rando, I'm glad you're still here.

    Hey, shit is really rough and I hear you in that in some ways this is "working" for you. But I wanted you to know, from an internet rando, I'm glad you're still here.

    1 vote

  9. Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech

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    I'm open to other alternatives, do you have a recommendation that meets the accessibility needs I described in another comment? I am sure none of us are perfect either in alignment with our ideals...

    I'm open to other alternatives, do you have a recommendation that meets the accessibility needs I described in another comment? I am sure none of us are perfect either in alignment with our ideals or in practicality. But I'm willing to try.

    However I've got a guy in a wheelchair who needs to be able to answer the door and it's very helpful for me to be able to assist with that from work when he can't.

    4 votes

  10. Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech

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    Oh you can but you won't get the answer you asked for, vs talking with the new person about their situation or ignoring the unwanted interjection. That's why I find it odd.

    Oh you can but you won't get the answer you asked for, vs talking with the new person about their situation or ignoring the unwanted interjection. That's why I find it odd.

    4 votes

  11. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    Is a fridge calendar/white board a doable/useful thing? (Or shared Google calendar if more digitally inclined). It helps a lot with partner's memory (TBI induced) and my ability to track appointments.

    Is a fridge calendar/white board a doable/useful thing? (Or shared Google calendar if more digitally inclined). It helps a lot with partner's memory (TBI induced) and my ability to track appointments.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    Yeah I told him that even when I'm exhausted and want a break, it's not a break from him, it's really a break for him because if he's not stressing and hurting and in the hospital etc then I can...

    Yeah I told him that even when I'm exhausted and want a break, it's not a break from him, it's really a break for him because if he's not stressing and hurting and in the hospital etc then I can sleep better and get actual rest.

    If you have the ability it isn't the worst idea to cut to the chase and get all the legal protections for the low price of a marriage license and conforming to social norms and civil authority. But it's very manageable to use the work arounds. (For fun you can adopt them or vice versa!).

    I'm not attached to the concept of marriage for its own sake, but at this point it'd make so many things easier we'd have gotten the piece of paper over a decade ago if we could have. At least we won't have to divorce to afford a nursing home in the future? ಠ⁠_⁠ʖ⁠ಠ

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  13. Comment on Palantir partnership is at heart of Anthropic, US Pentagon rift in ~society

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    They hit the news semi regularly. I think it's more likely that people don't know what they do. I'm fairly "normal people" in that corporate data analytics and military/intelligence software is...

    They hit the news semi regularly. I think it's more likely that people don't know what they do.

    I'm fairly "normal people" in that corporate data analytics and military/intelligence software is mostly off my radar. I'd heard of Palantir before I joined Tildes. I can guess what they do based on the name and gathered a broad gist they were the baddies. I'm probably more aware now, but even now I don't really know what they do. Idk that people who do are all scared shitless though. That would be a lot of people terrified all day.

    10 votes

  14. Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech

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    It's kind of odd to argue with someone else over whether a third person thinks it's an effective deterrent for themself. Like asking them makes sense, but debating it with other people doesn't....

    It's kind of odd to argue with someone else over whether a third person thinks it's an effective deterrent for themself. Like asking them makes sense, but debating it with other people doesn't.

    It's of course probably impossible to prove on an individual level. You cannot track what doesn't happen, and thus your standard is unrealistic. But IME most home security is vibes based for the individual and only able to be tested on a societal scale. Which hey, probably they don't do much if anything at that scale from the data we have, which is small. But people don't only operate on a pure rational basis in the first place.

    For me, don't get ding dong ditched by the kids in the neighborhood so that's nice, maybe someone thinks twice about fucking with my car or something but my town is safe enough I left my tailgate open and the police knocked on my door to let me know/make sure I was ok. So probably not.

    But otherwise it's a convenience/accessibility tool for me. I can't speak for them though.

    8 votes

  15. Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of February 16 in ~society

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    Labor Secretary’s Husband Barred From the Department After Sexual Assault Reports Gift link The man is an anesthesiologist which makes the whole thing even worse in that he has access to...

    Labor Secretary’s Husband Barred From the Department After Sexual Assault Reports
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    The women said Ms. Chavez-DeRemer’s husband, Dr. Shawn DeRemer, had touched them inappropriately at the Labor Department’s building on Constitution Avenue. One of the incidents, during working hours on the morning of Dec. 18, was recorded on office security cameras, the people said. The video showed Dr. DeRemer giving one of the women an extended embrace, and was reviewed as part of a criminal investigation, one of the people said.

    The man is an anesthesiologist which makes the whole thing even worse in that he has access to vulnerable people regularly.

    But also it's not just him who sucks

    The inspector general’s office is investigating a formal complaint that Ms. Chavez-DeRemer was having an inappropriate sexual relationship with a subordinate — a member of her security detail — and abusing her office by taking staff to strip clubs, drinking alcohol on the job and taking personal trips at taxpayer expense. Her lawyer has denied the allegations.

    Anyone in this administration have an ethical consensual sexual relationship?

    4 votes

  16. Comment on Babylon 5 S01E1: "The Gathering" - Episode Discussion in ~tv

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    FYI for folks this is also showing as available for free on the Roku Channel! Not sure how regions work for that.

    FYI for folks this is also showing as available for free on the Roku Channel! Not sure how regions work for that.

    2 votes

  17. Comment on What are important historical books lost to time? in ~books

  18. Comment on What are important historical books lost to time? in ~books

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    Just for clarification are you looking for books that are totally lost or books that are unappreciated today? I thought the first but then you asked where to find a copy!

    Just for clarification are you looking for books that are totally lost or books that are unappreciated today? I thought the first but then you asked where to find a copy!

    9 votes

  19. Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech

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    But "dangerous sexual predator" is not what people want to watch during their socially acceptable gladiatorial matches. People don't buy doorbell cameras to catch violent predators. They want to...

    But "dangerous sexual predator" is not what people want to watch during their socially acceptable gladiatorial matches. People don't buy doorbell cameras to catch violent predators. They want to see their family member at the door or see their package arrived. Other cameras, maybe it's fear based, but doorbells seem mostly to be convenience and utility.

    That sort of language works for politicians, sometimes, but during a violent law enforcement "surge" where people are being tracked, harassed and beaten or killed not just for "being a criminal" but for saying "hey I don't like how you're doing that"... It's probably the wrong time for a "look at us helping law enforcement" ad too. I doubt it would have gone any better.

    The softest sell of "helping your neighbor" with less creepiness factor than the dog search wouldn't be a compelling Superbowl ad either.

    7 votes

  20. Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv