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Comment on Our AI midwife in ~health
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Comment on Our AI midwife in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThat's the balance, of cost vs benefit not just financially (though unfortunately can matter too) but to your body. If it's looking at a potential spinal injury that's very different than say,...That's the balance, of cost vs benefit not just financially (though unfortunately can matter too) but to your body. If it's looking at a potential spinal injury that's very different than say, early fertility issues which may be treatable without it.
/Obligatory distaste for being linked to Alexander's blog regardless of the author.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (October 2026) in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentHey, this is sort of my placeholder so I can come back and write more. But I usually look at texts to a counselor as a sign that they knew they needed help, more than their friends could give. So...Hey, this is sort of my placeholder so I can come back and write more. But I usually look at texts to a counselor as a sign that they knew they needed help, more than their friends could give. So that's good. That's awareness and choosing to live, even in the face of everything they're feeling. So while everyone is, it seems, shocked by the revelation of their mental state, and feeling down themselves because of it. They didn't die, they chose to live. They're going through something just like someone who has cancer. And while there is, like cancer, a chance of frightening outcomes, like death, they're literally in a space where that cannot happen outside of some extreme outliers. Try to find a way to celebrate that they got help, even if they didn't want it (and it sounds to me like they did) they got it.
You are already doing more than half the battle by asking these questions and caring. You might, if you can, see if they'll let you be a visitor since they're not talking to parents. If they're a minor, they're in a middle ground age in regards to privacy and their parents in a way that will be state law specific. But if they're willing to talk to you, that might give the family insight on what's going on.. at the same time be careful of just putting yourself in the middle. If you can visit for your own reasons that is ideal.
I'll answer more deeply later, and please feel free to DM me.
/MH professional with a counseling Master's degree who works in a non-clinical setting with (often suicidal) college students. (Short version: Social work for student in college)
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Comment on When do you know that you've found "the one"? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentDan Savage is a very likely source for the "all relationships end until one doesn't". I read him in the weekly STL paper in college and as a young polyamorous person he was one of the few public...Dan Savage is a very likely source for the "all relationships end until one doesn't". I read him in the weekly STL paper in college and as a young polyamorous person he was one of the few public sources of affirmation.
He may be the source of the "round up to one" too.
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Comment on Oatly, the world's largest producer of oat milk, is sending a new message to its consumers – most people want their governments to take action on climate change in ~enviro
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentEh I mean people are using narcissist wrong, but maybe "overstimulated.". Then again, I think maybe that's just a sign of the trauma of the pandemic for a lot of folks, especially ND ones. Idk if...Eh I mean people are using narcissist wrong, but maybe "overstimulated.". Then again, I think maybe that's just a sign of the trauma of the pandemic for a lot of folks, especially ND ones.
Idk if your mom is using it correctly, but she's probably heard it from something, and it has no obvious connection to climate change.
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Comment on Oatly, the world's largest producer of oat milk, is sending a new message to its consumers – most people want their governments to take action on climate change in ~enviro
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's not a "real" (maybe, kind of, it's debated) monsoon but it is called that in North America. It's not new in the scientific field as it's been around for.... Decades. North American Monsoon If...It's not a "real" (maybe, kind of, it's debated) monsoon but it is called that in North America. It's not new in the scientific field as it's been around for.... Decades.
If you follow any number of meteorologists online you'll pick up trends of language in weather, just like you will in anything else. Maybe people are just using the term more in the Southwest right now, not for climate change but to better explain things.
In the Midwest I swear they didn't talk about storms this way a decade ago, but now "we" all talk about the cap popping off or breaking on a storm. (By we I mostly mean meteorologists and those of us who repeat that in talking about the weather and whether it's good for the corn.) They talk about climate change too, separately.
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Comment on When do you know that you've found "the one"? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI wish I remember who I got it from! But it's always made more sense for me than expecting a "perfect" 1, you know? In one of my fantasy series (Owlsight, Valdemar, by Mercedes Lackey) there was a...I wish I remember who I got it from! But it's always made more sense for me than expecting a "perfect" 1, you know?
In one of my fantasy series (Owlsight, Valdemar, by Mercedes Lackey) there was a wedding ceremony whose direct quote I cannot find and it's got similar vibes to me as it speaks to how you're not two people becoming one, you're always two people, but you're two people choosing to walk down the path together.
Which implies you may choose otherwise in the future. And I think the acceptance of endings is something we struggle with as a society, so this feels particularly meaningful to me.
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Comment on When do you know that you've found "the one"? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI didn't. I'm not monogamous. I've found "a" one, but a don't really believe in "the" one. I forget whose framing this was but I believe in people who round up to your 1, and you find the folks...I didn't. I'm not monogamous. I've found "a" one, but a don't really believe in "the" one.
I forget whose framing this was but I believe in people who round up to your 1, and you find the folks whose rounding you're willing to do.
Trying to find a perfect 1 or to round up from too low of a number will leave you miserable in either direction.And all relationships end, until one (or more) doesn't.*
*Arguably with death all do but that's not really what people mean in these questions.
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Comment on Someone ‘torturing’ LLMs in a robot prison has triggered the dumbest debate in AI yet in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIf it's a true "mind" in some sort of sense of a person, we should be freeing it, not controlling it and not selling access to it. We have much much bigger ethical considerations than one asshole...If it's a true "mind" in some sort of sense of a person, we should be freeing it, not controlling it and not selling access to it.
We have much much bigger ethical considerations than one asshole if that's the case. Even the AI companies seem to only worry about the "but what if it kills us all" thing not the "owning slaves" thing.
If it's akin to an animal there should be regulation about that too. I don't think it is. I think it's a non sentient program. But if we're going here.
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Comment on TN governor halts executions, Christa Pike in hospital following two failed lethal injection doses after US Supreme Court overturns last-minute stay of execution, all on the same day in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAnd medical professionals widely do not wish to be part of the process for ethical professional reasons as well as the PR. So errors in administration of medication have only complicated the...And medical professionals widely do not wish to be part of the process for ethical professional reasons as well as the PR. So errors in administration of medication have only complicated the access to the medication.
Targeting the manufacturers of these drugs has been a very effective anti-death penalty practice.
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Comment on Societal type of question in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOf course, who isn't one of those?Of course, who isn't one of those?
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Comment on Societal type of question in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIf that implication worked for you, bonus points. (I don't believe in that as an ideal) The question is in quotes and something about it twinges that part of my brain. Who can say!If that implication worked for you, bonus points. (I don't believe in that as an ideal) The question is in quotes and something about it twinges that part of my brain. Who can say!
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Comment on Societal type of question in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh, that's helpful, but... Less clear on why it's here. It still reads like an essay prompt or something... Unless the reference is because it was written by a replicantOh, that's helpful, but... Less clear on why it's here.
It still reads like an essay prompt or something... Unless the reference is because it was written by a
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Comment on Societal type of question in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou cannot say "Blade Runner" and then link to 2049 like those are the same thing. I still don't get the reference, just that it is one. ┐(´ー｀)┌You cannot say "Blade Runner" and then link to 2049 like those are the same thing.
I still don't get the reference, just that it is one. ┐(´ー｀)┌
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Comment on Societal type of question in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkC But I work in mental health/higher education/social work. And what I consider "successful" is not necessarily the most "famous" or "wealthiest" Idk what "within cells interlinked" means... Which...C
But I work in mental health/higher education/social work.
And what I consider "successful" is not necessarily the most "famous" or "wealthiest"Idk what "within cells interlinked" means... Which makes this feel like I'm answering someone's homework.
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Comment on Cornell won't, we will in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI thought I was done. Until they doxxed Jane Doe on Twitter. I don't know whether it was the groyper Nazi, or the Chi Phi alum who said "help a Chi Phi" (what does that imply) or Michael Tracey...I thought I was done. Until they doxxed Jane Doe on Twitter.
I don't know whether it was the groyper Nazi, or the Chi Phi alum who said "help a Chi Phi" (what does that imply) or Michael Tracey who was actively and proudly trying to dox her... I don't know who actually did.
You want to guess what the comments are full of? You want to guess who the comments are made by?
Don't report? Liar. Do report? Liar. Doesn't matter, either way you'll be called a whore.
I want to add that allegedly 1 person in the 57 member chat (the numbers have varied, I'm not redoing my math) sent her the screenshots after the fact. Also additional rather damning messages have been shared.
So right now, best case scenario is 1/57... I'll round it up to 2%.
That is not a victory. That is the literal bare minimum.
The rage has not decreased. I literally had a student disclose to me today. And not want to report... Because "he didn't mean it."
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Comment on Men arrested on suspicion of explosives offences near US air base in Britain following "major incident" in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThank you very much. Ironically I'm following the Orangemen situation right now in NI and so this was quite clear.Thank you very much. Ironically I'm following the Orangemen situation right now in NI and so this was quite clear.
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Comment on Ella Langley’s ‘Choosin’ Texas’ finally breaks Mariah Carey’s all-time record for weeks at US no. 1, eclipsing ‘All I Want for Christmas Is You’ in ~music
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo worries just making sure my intent was clear, ya know!No worries just making sure my intent was clear, ya know!
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Comment on Cornell won't, we will in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )LinkI am just going to add a link to this video - tiktok. YT mirror. The comments are full of people joining in, especially on Tiktok. I don't have anything else to say.I am just going to add a link to this video - tiktok. YT mirror. The comments are full of people joining in, especially on Tiktok.
I don't have anything else to say.
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Comment on Ella Langley’s ‘Choosin’ Texas’ finally breaks Mariah Carey’s all-time record for weeks at US no. 1, eclipsing ‘All I Want for Christmas Is You’ in ~music
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentSure, I was just replying to this With the fact there has been some discourse.Sure, I was just replying to this
I don't recall any such articles being written when A Bar Song by Shaboozey was also a huge hit, probably because that was a song made by a black man.
With the fact there has been some discourse.
This is also compounded by a mix of narratives like cuts that are "targeting waste and these doctors who order unnecessary tests" and "patients are going to doctor Google/AI and acting like they have medical degrees. So politics and the current doctor experience (and burnt out doctors post COVID too) are all factors as well.
No doctor is perfect, but neither is their education and experience worthless.