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Comment on The big five publishers have abandoned literary fiction, putting it on life support in ~books
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Comment on The big five publishers have abandoned literary fiction, putting it on life support in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentFor sure, I just enjoy reading too, sometimes fluff and sometimes something solid. It's not snobbery to recognize greatness, it's just snobbish to ignore it when it doesn't sound like Bach :)For sure, I just enjoy reading too, sometimes fluff and sometimes something solid. It's not snobbery to recognize greatness, it's just snobbish to ignore it when it doesn't sound like Bach :)
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Comment on The big five publishers have abandoned literary fiction, putting it on life support in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentSure and some of that work is in "genre" fiction the way that not all great art, music or literature comes from the same era of Western Europe. It's mostly the literary fiction world that tries to...Sure and some of that work is in "genre" fiction the way that not all great art, music or literature comes from the same era of Western Europe.
It's mostly the literary fiction world that tries to draw this line. I literally just read a skeet from Tobias Buckell (SFF author) on this topic from literally an hour ago:
I teach at an MFA.
I was also delisted after being waitlisted for an MFA at a prestigious uni bc I the prof said I could not be admitted if I wrote “that infantile Arthur Clarke stuff” and I said “you dropped the ‘sir’ from his name. He was knighted for services to literature.”
Was invited to go. [To leave the office]
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Charlie Jane AndersI've said this for years, but I believe that a huge amount of the snobbery and disdain that genre writers feel like they receive from literary types is purely to do with academia and writing programs. It's more about academic hangups than anything else.
C.L. Polk
I remember when I said that I would love to go to to emily carr and got told point blank that my name three artists included a comics artist so there was no way
Like how insecure do you have to be to refuse to see greatness because he drew the New Mutants. lol. lmao. Keep it.
We have a lot of SFF fans around here so we're more inclined to perceive the snobbery angle associated with it.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIn a world where "raw dogging" is now used to describe flying with no distractions among other things unrelated to sex without condoms... I think you'll lose the battle at stopping the progression...Depending on my energy level and audience, I might push back on casually broadening the scope of “ghosting”. My choice of not engaging with something doesn’t feel like ghosting.
In a world where "raw dogging" is now used to describe flying with no distractions among other things unrelated to sex without condoms... I think you'll lose the battle at stopping the progression of language
However there's not really the assumption of maliciousness that I've seen some ascribe to it.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentArticles about gooning (unrelated to the origin of the word) were a few steps too far off the edge of the internet for me todayArticles about gooning (unrelated to the origin of the word) were a few steps too far off the edge of the internet for me today
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh, misusing the slang is something I'm looking forward to so much as an auntie. My stepkid is less aware of Tiktok trends than I am, so it's a waste of time there.Oh, misusing the slang is something I'm looking forward to so much as an auntie. My stepkid is less aware of Tiktok trends than I am, so it's a waste of time there.
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Comment on A close reading of Luigi Mangione’s self-help library in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou said that he's part of the "exposure and members first" crowd. You and @sparksbet seem to agree on this but from different directions. For you, this seems to be something that excuses (if such...You said that he's part of the "exposure and members first" crowd. You and @sparksbet seem to agree on this but from different directions. For you, this seems to be something that excuses (if such is even needed) the association with those figures. For sparksbet this same behavior and goal of getting exposure above all, is not a redeeming factor.
You may feel this is an incorrect conclusion about the guy in question, but it's opinion and reiterating the same things over and over is not going to help, nor do I think it's necessarily unfair criticism.
If someone hangs out with people I find distasteful, but his friend is like "he's not that bad, you'd like him solo, he only hangs out with those people because it makes him look cool and makes him money" I probably wouldn't feel reassured by that either.
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Comment on My doctor emailed me back - Abigail Thorn in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt is, for what it's worth, more complicated than any "never" or "always" sort of thing. But it is really important for professionals to know the positives and negatives. Diagnoses can be super...It is, for what it's worth, more complicated than any "never" or "always" sort of thing. But it is really important for professionals to know the positives and negatives. Diagnoses can be super validating, or they can feel limiting. For some folks another dx like ADHD would be just as limiting for job purposes and others whose lives are set in such a way that it's very unlikely a diagnosis could be harmful.
I do have these convos with students who sometimes do have ADHD and think they may also be autistic or who have depression but think they may have ADHD. For my purposes with them we talk about how school accommodations can be covered by and coping skills can work for other diagnoses, but sometimes that validation is just as important. Getting disability is not at issue for the folks I work with so I can't speak to it specifically.
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Comment on Jet Lag: Hide + Seek Japan | Trailer in ~hobbies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI've been trying not to get though all of it so I have stuff for later. But yeah I've been running through it.I've been trying not to get though all of it so I have stuff for later. But yeah I've been running through it.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThe graph shows it spiked in 2019 and again in 2022 I just felt it was one I keep seeing, your mileage may vary.The graph shows it spiked in 2019 and again in 2022
I just felt it was one I keep seeing, your mileage may vary.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt was Something Awful forum slang but I am pretty sure that's unrelated to the current usage due to age. Edit: I regret every moment I spent googling and am walking away from the internet nowIt was Something Awful forum slang but I am pretty sure that's unrelated to the current usage due to age.
Edit: I regret every moment I spent googling and am walking away from the internet now
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Comment on My doctor emailed me back - Abigail Thorn in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThere's a narrative fomenting that autistic people aren't really trans, and they're only thinking they're trans because they're autistic. So the "special interest" would be the implication that...They said it was a special interest to her.
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There's a narrative fomenting that autistic people aren't really trans, and they're only thinking they're trans because they're autistic. So the "special interest" would be the implication that they can't possibly be trans, just autistic. Then the immediate follow up is essentially, "because you're autistic your opinion cannot be trusted on this." It's some real ableism/eugenics sort of stuff. But some of the US laws restricting gender affirming care for teens and adults included some bits about how an autism diagnosis would essentially be disqualifying. (I think one was explicit and several others were implicit - you have to "resolve" or address any mental health concerns prior to considering gender transition. I don't even know if those are currently on the books due to the back and forth court cases but yeah. )
There are higher instances of trans identities among autistic folks (including non-binary genders and agender identities) so there's probably a connection between not feeling comfortable with current societal labels and expectations and well not feeling comfortable with gender labels and expectations. But I don't know the research, just anecdata
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Comment on Jet Lag: Hide + Seek Japan | Trailer in ~hobbies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentEp 3 I took would sit at the massage chair multiple times... maybe not talk so much about the butt action on it though 😅Ep 3
I took would sit at the massage chair multiple times... maybe not talk so much about the butt action on it though 😅
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentA lot of "new" slang is cribbed from older AAVE. I don't know if this is one of them but it wouldn't be surprising for it to have hit white mainstream much later. Or other media that used it...A lot of "new" slang is cribbed from older AAVE. I don't know if this is one of them but it wouldn't be surprising for it to have hit white mainstream much later. Or other media that used it became popular again. But everyone saying "crashed out" now (and I don't know how far that has spread, enough for me to know it) is streets behind for example.
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Comment on What are some words or usage that became more prominent in 2024, either in your life or in general? in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link"Stochastic Terrorism" Because it was nowhere and then it was the word of the day on the collective calendar, and people used it for everything It's a fine phrase and all but everyone pretended..."Stochastic Terrorism"
Because it was nowhere and then it was the word of the day on the collective calendar, and people used it for everything
It's a fine phrase and all but everyone pretended they'd known it the whole time. It was weird.
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Comment on Merry Christmas, people of Tildes in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOof take it easy and feel better!Oof take it easy and feel better!
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Comment on Merry Christmas, people of Tildes in ~talk
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYes, it's mostly a nasty cough but no flu/COVID/strep so the antibiotics are mostly a "you had a root canal and it's not the usual suspects so let's play it particularly safe" My coughs are pretty...Yes, it's mostly a nasty cough but no flu/COVID/strep so the antibiotics are mostly a "you had a root canal and it's not the usual suspects so let's play it particularly safe"
My coughs are pretty gnarly this morning but when I'm not coughing I feel better so, gonna hit that Rx cough syrup
Merry Christmas 😅
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAgreed. However in the length of time you were discussing regional chains, Kroger bought them all.Agreed. However in the length of time you were discussing regional chains, Kroger bought them all.
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah and I think it's hard to quantify, especially at the time, how many jobs will ultimately be lost. But it was a real sticking point for me. I do, because of that, think that small business...Yeah and I think it's hard to quantify, especially at the time, how many jobs will ultimately be lost. But it was a real sticking point for me.
I do, because of that, think that small business owners don't all deserve to run a small business. If you can't pay your people properly, don't run a business. (Walmart also does not pay their people properly, mind you)
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Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWhat I always struggled with, especially as a teen working retail in a mom&pop department store, was that Walmart paid better than what I made at the local store and the local movie theater....What I always struggled with, especially as a teen working retail in a mom&pop department store, was that Walmart paid better than what I made at the local store and the local movie theater. They're awful for the economy but I understand why people shop and work there. Like when a DG opens up and destroys the local grocery store but still pays more... Idk I know small businesses run on thin margins but if they're not able to pay a living wage, should they be open either?
I do think we've kicked the genre barrier down a bit, but now I see the "Booktok" label used with the same down-the-nose glance.
There are some awesome indie authors on TikTok. I've read more diversely since snagging recs from there and I own some signed copies of books which are pretty neat. And plenty of trad published books are talked about and recommended there. Jemisin's Broken Earth Trilogy has been talked about a lot for example. There's junk food published everywhere, and it can still be fun to read.
"Romance" still gets a sneer as does "women's fiction" aka "chick lit" so it's certainly a work in progress.