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  1. Comment on Around twenty drown in France as French seek relief from heatwave in ~enviro

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    The ableism of "they were the most vulnerable" with any sort of disaster is incredibly stark. As if it doesn't matter it is more OK.

    The ableism of "they were the most vulnerable" with any sort of disaster is incredibly stark.

    As if it doesn't matter it is more OK.

    1 vote

  2. Comment on Nobody clicks your share buttons in ~tech

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    I meant why did the author bring it up now In those circumstances I understand you found it useful, and that you think potential AI use - and correlated, writing quality and ethics - is not a...

    I meant why did the author bring it up now In those circumstances

    I understand you found it useful, and that you think potential AI use - and correlated, writing quality and ethics - is not a relevant conversation point.

    For me those things matter, but also I wasn't who you were talking to before so I don't think I'm complicating anything. Any discussion will necessarily add aspects and layers and tangents.

    1 vote

  3. Comment on Nobody clicks your share buttons in ~tech

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    I understand it's good enough for you, but simply saying "that should be good enough" doesn't make that so, and certainly doesn't define that line for other folks. It certainly lessens my interest...

    I understand it's good enough for you, but simply saying "that should be good enough" doesn't make that so, and certainly doesn't define that line for other folks. It certainly lessens my interest in what is functionally "old news".

    Why bring this old topic up again now if you're not going to put in human effort for my attention? Or if they write in a way I consider to be lower quality, why do I as a person want to read their article on the topic.

    3 votes

  4. Comment on How important is sexual chemistry/ability/quality to you when you date/marry/whatever? in ~life

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    Yeah none of those first list of things are my top skills I look for. And very little of what I care the most about is PIV sex. I enjoy that, but it's not the most important thing. Openness to...

    Yeah none of those first list of things are my top skills I look for. And very little of what I care the most about is PIV sex. I enjoy that, but it's not the most important thing. Openness to talking about what works for me - or listening if I say "I'm enjoying this but it's not going to lead to an orgasm tonight, so here's what I'm up for right now."

    9 votes

  5. Comment on How important is sexual chemistry/ability/quality to you when you date/marry/whatever? in ~life

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    Most likely the thing they were doing was making it feel better for them than the thing your rhythm was doing. They may not have had the words or the comfort level to communicate about that but...

    agree that it’s not compatible but why I said they fight me is because when I would adjust to them, they switch up.

    Most likely the thing they were doing was making it feel better for them than the thing your rhythm was doing. They may not have had the words or the comfort level to communicate about that but may have seen you as "fighting" what they were doing.

    People don't talk enough during or about sex and think that lasting a really really long time is the goal for everyone, or that size is what matters most for everyone or whatever. I think people find more compatibility when they're not too scared to talk about what works and what doesn't.

    I think "compatibility" isn't a yes/no it's a sliding scale of communication. Sure some people cant communicate (verbally or through sex) but if you can listen to each other both explicitly and implicitly, you're going to be far more likely to have an enjoyable experience.

    16 votes

  6. Comment on The global fertility crisis is worse than you think in ~society

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    It's a good story, but very different in a "cannot have children" vs "choosing not to have children" way. The movie is really good IMO too

    It's a good story, but very different in a "cannot have children" vs "choosing not to have children" way.

    The movie is really good IMO too

    12 votes

  7. Comment on Not so empty nesters: record-high number of US adults under 35 live at home, new data says in ~life

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    Co-residence data in this report is drawn from the IPUMS Current Population Survey (CPS) Annual Social and Economic Supplement (ASEC), covering survey years 2000–25. The CPS ASEC is conducted by...

    Methodology

    Co-residence data in this report is drawn from the IPUMS Current Population Survey (CPS) Annual Social and Economic Supplement (ASEC), covering survey years 2000–25. The CPS ASEC is conducted by the U.S. Census Bureau and represents the largest annual household survey in the United States. All population estimates use CPS person-level weights (ASECWT) to produce nationally representative figures. Adults are defined as individuals aged 18 and above. Co-residence is defined as living as “child of head” of household, based on the RELATE variable in the IPUMS extract. The 2014 survey year is excluded from all trend analyses due to a CPS sample expansion that year, which creates a discontinuity in absolute population counts; percentage shares are unaffected, but the year is omitted for consistency.

    The counterfactual analysis in the Trends section applies the average co-residence rate at every single year of age (18–34) from 2000–03 to the actual adult population in each subsequent year. The resulting figures represent how many adults would be living with parents had early-2000s co-residence patterns persisted, holding age structure and population growth constant.

    Employment, marital status, educational attainment, and sex breakdowns are drawn from the same IPUMS CPS extract using EMPSTAT, MARST, EDUC, and SEX variables, respectively.

    Looks like it's if you answer "child of head of household" on the surveys.

    They're also looking at mostly younger adults meaning it's a bit less likely to have (retired) parents who move in with you at that age. Obviously not impossible. But more of an outlier perhaps.

    9 votes

  8. Comment on The room the economy can’t see in ~society

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    It's been more but it's never been more than 4k adjusted for inflation or an actual amount of 3.3k in 2022 which is an outlier.

    It's been more but it's never been more than 4k adjusted for inflation or an actual amount of 3.3k in 2022 which is an outlier.

    2 votes

  9. Comment on ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ sequel in the works with Jim Carrey, Ron Howard in ~movies

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    It's a thing on Tiktok too, so when your friend sends you a video you can just follow them directly. I get the purpose but it's not how I use YT

    It's a thing on Tiktok too, so when your friend sends you a video you can just follow them directly. I get the purpose but it's not how I use YT

    4 votes

  10. Comment on ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ sequel in the works with Jim Carrey, Ron Howard in ~movies

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    This is a new setting you can turn off in YT for folks unaware!

    This is a new setting you can turn off in YT for folks unaware!

    6 votes

  11. Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news

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    We've been telling people to buy the powder/packets on Tiktok!

    We've been telling people to buy the powder/packets on Tiktok!

    4 votes

  12. Comment on Who was the first transgender person? in ~lgbt

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    Trans women are (broadly) the latter example. A trick to remembering this is that the term will focus on the identity that the person has now, not who they were perceived to be at birth. That is...

    Trans women are (broadly) the latter example. A trick to remembering this is that the term will focus on the identity that the person has now, not who they were perceived to be at birth. That is to say, a trans woman is a woman.

    Gender and sex gets more complicated from there too but that's the basic answer.

    12 votes

  13. Comment on Who was the first transgender person? in ~lgbt

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    I do have those moments for straight cis people myself, when I'm hanging around my queer friends or online in queer spaces it can make me pause that there are other folks sometimes.

    I do have those moments for straight cis people myself, when I'm hanging around my queer friends or online in queer spaces it can make me pause that there are other folks sometimes.

    7 votes

  14. Comment on Don’t call it a sequel. Or a reboot. Or a remake. Why certain words trigger Hollywood. in ~movies

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    Im referencing the original article/title

    Im referencing the original article/title

    1 vote

  15. Comment on ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ sequel in the works with Jim Carrey, Ron Howard in ~movies

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    Oof damn, I did not know the lore. Either they promised major changes or offered him a huge check probably

    Oof damn, I did not know the lore. Either they promised major changes or offered him a huge check probably

    2 votes

  16. Comment on ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ sequel in the works with Jim Carrey, Ron Howard in ~movies

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    Idk how he feels about the Grinch but some combination of the money and the job must have been right? ETA he did appear in a Dick Van Dyke doc last year but that and Sonic are it!

    Idk how he feels about the Grinch but some combination of the money and the job must have been right?

    ETA he did appear in a Dick Van Dyke doc last year but that and Sonic are it!

    2 votes

  17. Comment on Babylon 5 S01E15: "Grail" - Episode Discussion in ~tv

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    Judgement call on your part! I did forget this one last week

    Judgement call on your part! I did forget this one last week

    1 vote

  18. Comment on Don’t call it a sequel. Or a reboot. Or a remake. Why certain words trigger Hollywood. in ~movies

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    Oh right, it's our fault the joke didn't land, especially when you doubled down on it! Oopsy doodles, how silly of me. /S Tone is hard to read in text, and Poe's law comes into effect more often...

    Oh right, it's our fault the joke didn't land, especially when you doubled down on it! Oopsy doodles, how silly of me. /S

    Tone is hard to read in text, and Poe's law comes into effect more often than we'd like, and "I was just joking" is a common response when a statement goes awry.

    Just make it clear if you're not serious, instead of saying you stand by it?

    6 votes

  19. Comment on Babylon 5 S01E15: "Grail" - Episode Discussion in ~tv

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    Ooh you caught up and I forgot to post here! This is one that I enjoy but don't find a lot of commentary for so I'll snag some comments from JMS. Christy Marx wrote most of this episode, but the...

    Ooh you caught up and I forgot to post here!

    This is one that I enjoy but don't find a lot of commentary for so I'll snag some comments from JMS.

    Christy Marx wrote most of this episode, but the trial was written by JMS. It took about a week to render the Feeder.

    JMS talks about not wanting Kosh to sound like a fortune cookie but that it's ultimately more unsettling when he speaks a single word... "Why". "Good"
    Maybe there are reasons to be afraid of Vorlons.

    No boom?
    No boom.
    No boom today. Boom tomorrow. There's always a boom tomorrow.

    What! Somebody's got to have some perspective around here!

    1 vote

  20. Comment on Don’t call it a sequel. Or a reboot. Or a remake. Why certain words trigger Hollywood. in ~movies

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    I mean sure, you can also keep making a bunch of shitty sequels... I don't really care But if you don't want me to call your movie a sequel, don't make one. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    I mean sure, you can also keep making a bunch of shitty sequels... I don't really care But if you don't want me to call your movie a sequel, don't make one. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

    3 votes