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Comment on Just had Surströmming yesterday – here is my experience (and what experience it was!) in ~food
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Comment on Who was excited to pick a cool username? in ~tildes
endash Link ParentLooks like @Deimos managed to avoid the Scunthorpe problem with usernames here.Looks like @Deimos managed to avoid the Scunthorpe problem with usernames here.
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Comment on ASL? Just kidding but seriously where are most of you Tildoes from? in ~talk
endash Link ParentI'm told the Flemish Dutch is more "musical" as in some consonant sounds are less harsh than the Dutch spoken in the Netherlands. As a native English speaker, Dutch overall has some common...I'm told the Flemish Dutch is more "musical" as in some consonant sounds are less harsh than the Dutch spoken in the Netherlands. As a native English speaker, Dutch overall has some common elements for surface reading and looks similar to German with a lot more i's and j's in there.
I learned how complex the Dutch G sound is when I tried to ask a fellow passenger waiting which commune "Geen Dienst" was located in since an idling bus had that on its lit marquee sign. Probably never going to live that down no matter how much Nederlands I study, lol.
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Comment on ASL? Just kidding but seriously where are most of you Tildoes from? in ~talk
endash Link ParentHoly moly, did you respond to the Tildes demographic survey? I was wondering who the second person was to indicate Belgium as their location. Expat w/Belgian spouse headed in the Flanders...Holy moly, did you respond to the Tildes demographic survey? I was wondering who the second person was to indicate Belgium as their location.
Expat w/Belgian spouse headed in the Flanders direction after living near the capital. For the life of me I cannot pronounce the "musical" G's (it ends up as an exhaled "huh") of the local dialect.
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Comment on Any ex-pats/long time travelers out there? What's the biggest thing you miss about your home country? in ~talk
endash Link ParentI don't know how accessible soft tortillas/tortilla chips are in your neck of the woods, but between that and local cilantro/coriander, oregano, limes, and cumin I've managed to wrangle pico de...I don't know how accessible soft tortillas/tortilla chips are in your neck of the woods, but between that and local cilantro/coriander, oregano, limes, and cumin I've managed to wrangle pico de gallo, guacamole, and fajitas with rice at home.
Ninja edit: When you say Chinese are you referring to the more traditional stuff like Peking duck or ma po tofu? Or "westernized" Chinese takeout along the lines of orange/kung pao chicken and lo mein noodles?
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Comment on Why should everyone try your hobby at least once? in ~hobbies
endash Link ParentI wear glasses, hate the idea of shelling out for prescription goggles for snorkeling or scuba, and definitely know I like reef diving from past experiences. What do you recommend as a starting point?I wear glasses, hate the idea of shelling out for prescription goggles for snorkeling or scuba, and definitely know I like reef diving from past experiences. What do you recommend as a starting point?
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tildes
endash LinkErm, are you suggesting they go into ~misc or ~talk? I'm not sure how more general it gets than hobbies or food. And while 3k is the current usercount and deimos is going for sustainable growth...Erm, are you suggesting they go into ~misc or ~talk? I'm not sure how more general it gets than hobbies or food.
And while 3k is the current usercount and deimos is going for sustainable growth tilted towards posters of OC, I think we'll fill out enough to bump the activity for each sub.
I'd also like to hope that the posting culture here is less flash in the pan than a trending Insta post or subreddit topic. I enjoy having a nice block of time offline without the FOMO feeling one can get with shallower, more zippy content aggregators.
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Comment on What's something you're passionate about? in ~talk
endash Link ParentFirst note, two thumbs way up for your well-thought out replies and clarifications. I'm extremely pleased to see neither of us got crapped on for talking about topics that touched on bias,...First note, two thumbs way up for your well-thought out replies and clarifications. I'm extremely pleased to see neither of us got crapped on for talking about topics that touched on bias, discrimination, and abuse that can be controversial.
I do think they were given equal opportunity, but that the team itself was being discriminatory. These are seperate issues, and should be handled as such. There's already laws in place to protect from discrimination, and what happened was in conflict with them. The company handled the situation incorrectly by not addressing this particular issue, but this is no case of inequal opportunity.
With this clarification, we seem to be on the same page. Cool beans. Didn't know you were from outside the US, so I'll try my best to fill in the gaps relevant to the topic.
I am not familiar with the "statutes of limitations" (I'm not from the USA), so I can't comment on this.
The statute of limitations (SOL), roughly speaking, is a time limit on prosecutors charging someone with a crime that was committed, to ensure the evidence, testimonies/eyewitnesses stay "fresh". Some offenses have statutes of limitations, others do not (like murder, arson, kidnapping). Each of the 50 US states has different laws on whether sexual assault has a SOL.
However, short statues of limitations can allow rapists who would have otherwise been convicted to avoid having charges brought against them even with strong physical evidence and witnesses. Lavinia's family promptly notified the police after their daughter was assaulted by a home intruder at knifepoint, and a forensic kit was taken, but despite DNA evidence and the perpetrator already being in jail for other offenses, she could take no further action because the SOL had run out.
Don't forget that the inverse is also true, people accused of sexual assault or rape are also ostracized by communities. I don't think there is any sane group of people that condone sexual assault or rape.
This is certainly a point we both agree on, and I see the "witch hunting" of people accused as something that feeds the cycle of victim blaming when it comes to dissuading victims from reporting assault (i.e. "don't ruin his/her life with an accusation!"). There needs to be a better balance struck between supporting victims and preventing "tarring and feathering" of the accused on the public stage in response to allegations.
I acknowledge that victims are likely to be under stress, but to me that sounds like a very bad argument to not report it. You do not have to post the details on Facebook or anything, you're reporting it to the police, who take extreme care when it comes to rape cases.
Unfortunately it has been an ongoing process to ensure that the interactions between law enforcement and victims are sensitive to how reports are handled.
"...cases like hers can be found around the country. In 1997, a legally blind woman reported being raped at knife point in Madison, Wis. That same year, a pregnant 16-year-old reported being raped in New York City. In 2004, a 19-year-old reported being sexually assaulted at gunpoint in Cranberry Township, Pa.
In all three instances, the women were charged with lying. In all three instances, their reports turned out to be true. The men who raped them were later identified and convicted.
In 2001, a 13-year-old in White Bear Lake, Minn., reported being abducted and molested. “You keep lying and lying and lying and lying,” a police detective told her. In 2015, a physical therapist in Vallejo, Calif., reported being kidnapped and sexually assaulted. The police called her story a hoax. One lieutenant said that she “owes this community an apology.” In both instances, video footage later surfaced affirming the victims’ reports."
The fact that many sexual assault victims do not act like "typical" victims can make their stories doubtful in the eyes of investigators, and make it easier for defense attorneys to target the credibility of the accuser.
"... In Marie’s case, and with some of the other cases, the victims hadn’t acted the way the police thought a victim should act. Their affect seemed off, or they declined help from an advocate, or they looked away instead of making eye contact. As a result, their stories became suspect."
"Cops must also learn that trauma influences victims in ways law enforcement won’t necessarily understand. One notorious example is victims’ flat affect. This always puzzled senior officer Holly Whillock, a 13-year veteran of the Houston Police Department. She expected victims to be enraged or visibly anguished, but instead they spoke coolly, without emotion.
While Whillock thought the muted response might be the result of trauma, she also knew it would be a weakness in court. Defense attorneys question detectives on a victim’s bearing, often asking: “How could she have been raped if she didn’t react when you asked her about the assault?” It’s a simple way to destroy a victim’s credibility—unless a cop can explain why a victim’s lack of affect is a normal response following a traumatic experience."
This Slate article uses terms in the beginning of the article and an ideological slant I do not necessarily agree with, but includes descriptions on the neurobiological findings in the fifth paragraph. I'm still trying to chase up the links to the exact studies being mentioned.
I also prefer having set standards on the definitions to be included in statistics, so that we don't get the situation we have now, where random people can make up random statistics and pose a certain idea, in an attempt to push a (corrupt) agenda.
I agree that better statistics should be collected on crime. My aim is to provide points of evidence that better illuminate why there is such a discrepancy between victim accounts of sexual assault and what is formally reported through legal channels due to an unfortunate confluence of institutional bias, the deeply violating nature of the crime, and how trauma can deaden/interfere with the victim's ability to convey what happened to them in a constructive manner for both them and law enforcement, and systematically, to seek justice.
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Comment on Daily Tildes discussion - should inviter/invitee info be public? in ~tildes.official
endash LinkI'll toss an "aye" in the public pile, with some caveats. Pros: attempts at sockpuppetting/brigading/trolling groups (said "rotten branches" from @jgb) can be spotted by the community seeing the...I'll toss an "aye" in the public pile, with some caveats.
Pros:
- attempts at sockpuppetting/brigading/trolling groups (said "rotten branches" from @jgb) can be spotted by the community
- seeing the invite tree gives us a more intuitive view of how the userbase has grown
Cons:
- bad behavior on the part of invitee accounts should not be a factor for banning the inviter unless some serious shit is going down (illegal content, spam, all of the invited accounts spewing the discourse equivalent of hot nuclear waste, a user reporting attacks from all the linked accounts whether through post replies or DMs)
- users should be dissuaded from witch hunting the inviter should an invitee of theirs somehow rubs them the wrong way
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Comment on Daily Tildes discussion - banning for bad-faith/trolling behavior in ~tildes.official
endash Link ParentCertainly the edits were pointed out and screenshots could have been taken. As I mentioned in a previous post, though, screenshots can be faked and there a multitude of reasons why people edit...Certainly the edits were pointed out and screenshots could have been taken. As I mentioned in a previous post, though, screenshots can be faked and there a multitude of reasons why people edit posts. If a user falsely claimed an edited post was edited due to inflammatory content, how can the community or moderation tell if the edit function was really being abused in the absence of a log?
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Comment on Does anyone have a homelab? in ~hobbies
endash Link ParentHeyyo! I miss working with kit during analytical chem lab - who do you source from for glassware and/or general equipment?Heyyo! I miss working with kit during analytical chem lab - who do you source from for glassware and/or general equipment?
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Comment on Let's speak in foreign (non-English) languages! in ~talk
endash Link Parent...naiintinidihan ko! Pero sinabi ko na ang aking pakikinig ay medyo maganda, mas mababa ang pag-unawa sa pagbabasa, ngunit pagsulat ... hindi....naiintinidihan ko!
Pero sinabi ko na ang aking pakikinig ay medyo maganda, mas mababa ang pag-unawa sa pagbabasa, ngunit pagsulat ... hindi.
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Comment on Your Weekend Plans in ~talk
endash Link ParentWelp, TIL. Sorry about that, I confused the term for "homebrew". Got a roommate who worked in infosec and now works with a ton of migrating servers, so if you have questions, I'll happily pass...Welp, TIL. Sorry about that, I confused the term for "homebrew".
Got a roommate who worked in infosec and now works with a ton of migrating servers, so if you have questions, I'll happily pass them along.
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Comment on What's something you're passionate about? in ~talk
endash Link ParentGonna preface this with the statement that I also have issues with identity politics that prove to be pigeonholing and divisive, and the idea of the "progressive stack" and similar ideologies...Gonna preface this with the statement that I also have issues with identity politics that prove to be pigeonholing and divisive, and the idea of the "progressive stack" and similar ideologies being used to run roughshod over reasonable discourse. Also, I agree that critical thinking skills seriously need to be taught more widely full stop - the fact that the Educational Board of Texas declined to implement this in public school because the sentiment was that teaching critical thinking skills early on would "undermine parental authority" is pretty heinous imo.
I personally prefer equality of opportunities much more than equity, which means equal outcome.
Certainly equal outcome for every single person is not possible, not should it attempt to be forced through draconian methods. However, how is the equality of opportunity determined? Consider the study linked to in the first sentence of this Atlantic article, with this quote.
"In the 1970s, the business professor Rosabeth Kanter published an influential account of an American company that had recently recruited women to its sales team. The quality of those women’s working lives, Kanter noted astutely, depended on their representation. When they made up just 15 percent of the workforce, they faced stereotyping, harassment, isolation, disproportionate performance pressures, and other disadvantages. But when they made up something like 35 percent of the workplace, they started shifting its culture in their favor by forming alliances and establishing a counterculture."
By employing women and men on the sales team and allowing them to work, the company provided them with an even opportunity on paper. This did not mitigate the backlash and pressure they received from their male cohorts and indeed, said negatives did not diminish until they reached a larger representation within the department.
- Had the original 15% compared their lot with the lack of censure and isolation their male co-workers were privy to and left the sales team, could it be said they were offered an equitable opportunity to work?
- Could the usual reception and competition a new sales team member would experience before women were hired be compared apples-to-apples with the 15%'s experience of being seen as unsuitable/lesser because of their status as women?
- Had the tipping point of 35% never been reached, would you say that the underrepresentation of women in the sales field was justified, as the company gave them an equal opportunity to be hired, and equal outcome was never promised?
On victims of sex crimes in universities, these numbers are meaningless without context. When we look at reported incidents, the number drops astonishingly. Given that a core aspect of justice is innocence until proven guilty, we should look only at actual reports with actual, proven victims.
Ok, please clarify: what would be the criteria for an actual report, and an actual proven victim?
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Consider that someone who is sexually assaulted is likely under extreme duress, and the way that communities have retaliated against victims who make a report, up to and including ostracization and death threats, such as those abused by clergy or influential figures in large industries a la Weinstein. Might there be valid external and internal pressures that drive the lower number of reports filed vs. victim accounts?
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In the Steubenville case, the woman's assault was captured on photo and video, and the perpetrators bragged about it on social media, but she was still subject to blame for "casting a negative light on the team and town. Given the clear-cut nature of the evidence and the persons responsible admitting to the actions taken, do you think this would discourage victims who were violated but have less visible evidence (and perhaps an abuser who denies anything ever happened) from reporting?
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In forensic terms, there is currently an astounding backlog of rape kits that are still waiting to be tested.
DNA can be recovered from only half the kits on average, and about 60% of the recovered DNA generate a hit in CODIS. When New York City tested its entire backlog, only 3.7% of CODIS hits led to convictions. This is because, according to data from the National Center for Victims of Crime, around 60% of hits led to cases that were beyond the statutes of limitations, 20% of hits led to offenders who were already arrested, and 10% of hits were associated with victims who were either missing, unwilling to move forward with the case, or deemed unreliable.
- If we place "actual, proven victims" under the rule of having DNA evidence of assault, this number will be a fraction of those who were assaulted in some way. Would you consider a victim whose kit's DNA is tied to a rapist who cannot be tried or reported on due to the statutes of limitations to be a proven victim?
- Are victims that are missing or unaccounted for yet have positive matches to their rape kits considered actual victims? Would those that later were unwilling to move forward legally "count" in an actual report?
This differs from social justice, which likes to use different terms as to what constitutes a sexual assault, and believes every story without clear evidence.
Yes, there should be a clear delineation between legal terms and common discourse. I don't think a blanket approach of belief should be extended, but within the context of psychotherapy and groups that work to support victims (in terms of overall physical and mental well-being, not legal advocates necessarily), the importance of allowing a person to feel they are trusted and not under a constant spotlight of scrutiny when they talk about a traumatic experience cannot be underestimated.
What is the criteria for clear evidence?
- Is it the physical hallmarks of abuse? DNA evidence? A psychiatrist diagnosing a victim with PTSD due to sexual trauma? A conviction?
- Would you consider the Steubenville case to have clear evidence even if the victim did not ultimately pursue legal action? Would her case be suitable to be included in an actual report?
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Comment on Your Weekend Plans in ~talk
endash Link ParentNeat, what kind of beer are you going to brew?Neat, what kind of beer are you going to brew?
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Comment on Homosexual marriage legal or illegal? in ~talk
endash Link ParentCivil union (legal marriage) is possible in several nations. For clarification, are you referring to the Catholic (religious) definition of marriage? Can heterosexual pairs where one or both...Civil union (legal marriage) is possible in several nations. For clarification, are you referring to the Catholic (religious) definition of marriage? Can heterosexual pairs where one or both parties are asexual/sterile have a marriage as well?
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Comment on Hobby Pic Thread - What's been going on with your hobby? Share a picture of it ! in ~hobbies
endash Link ParentSpacing looks just fine to me! Aside from the caged tomatoes, what is in there? Ayyy, is that a square foot garden? If not, you have the perfect setup for one and I'll happily PM you relevant...Spacing looks just fine to me! Aside from the caged tomatoes, what is in there?
Ayyy, is that a square foot garden? If not, you have the perfect setup for one and I'll happily PM you relevant pages from Mel's book to help. He debunks the myth of plants six inches apart and beds a foot apart guidelines derived from commercial farming.
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Comment on How often do you go to write a comment or a post online, and after a bit of time spent writing you decide that it is crap and just delete it? Is this a good thing? in ~talk
endash Link ParentI agree, would rather we not be expected to whip out PhD level citations and articles for every post on Tilde or personal expression. Where is the line for [citation needed]? I don't think anyone...I agree, would rather we not be expected to whip out PhD level citations and articles for every post on Tilde or personal expression. Where is the line for [citation needed]? I don't think anyone could definitely say.
However, I would say the "need" for backup scales with the scope and content of a statement. Someone asking for sources for the following is being pedantic:
"Putting pineapple on pizza has never really ended well."
But someone asking for evidence to back this up is justified, in my opinion:
"Homeopathy's therapeutic benefits are being discredited. Just because it hasn't been scientifically proven to kill cancer cells doesn't mean it can't help someone get better."
Also
People attacking a person for a mistake or a source they don't find credible is another thing that generates some apprehension.
Personal attacks and semantic nitpicking-for-the-sake-of-it? Uncool. But expounding on logical fallacies being made or why they don't find the source credible and rebutting with a different source, making a case for why said source is more accurate/is less biased/not pushing an agenda should not be considered an attack, I hope.
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Comment on Change my mind: The world will be better without religion in ~talk
endash Link ParentOK, that could definitely work for the first case. In the second case, where a moderation decision might need to be made for the validity of "Troll" tags on what now looks like an inoffensive...OK, that could definitely work for the first case.
In the second case, where a moderation decision might need to be made for the validity of "Troll" tags on what now looks like an inoffensive post, how could a fair choice be made in the absence of a visible edit history? Other users could try posting screenshots of the pre-edit version, but those can be faked.
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Comment on Change my mind: The world will be better without religion in ~talk
endash Link ParentDefinitely possible, probably the case for some quantity of users. We're all going to have to actively check ourselves before we wreck ourselves in the heat of debate, but this should not negate...I feel like a lot of people are seeing him in a more negative light because of his views.
Definitely possible, probably the case for some quantity of users. We're all going to have to actively check ourselves before we wreck ourselves in the heat of debate, but this should not negate the value of other users pointing out the flaws in said views or how they are expressed.
The moment someone posts something that the majority disagree with they'll question every single thing they do?
Assuming the questioning is done within good faith and the COC, I'd imagine each Tilder is free to question whatever they want. Pointing out common trends (provocatively couched queries, using the edit tool to avoid rebuttals for holding a certain view or blanket statement made without evidence) in subsequent threads for the same user should not be considered a form of harassment.
While not exactly my idea of a spa day, if I posted a topic and espoused a view that was disagreeable to the minority, I would not aim to shame or censor rebuttals made within the bounds of good faith, even if I don't like the content. I imagine most users don't want sunshine blown up their asses, but most would prefer to engage with a topic knowing they're not trying to debate with a brick wall.
Hey, sorry about the long radio silence on this end, but I finally found the book.
Icelandic Food & Cookery by Nanna Rögnvaldardóttir
Publisher: Hippocrene Books New York
ISBN 0-7818-0878-2