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  1. Comment on Zoom to pay $85M for lying about encryption and sending data to Facebook and Google in ~tech

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    Good on you for evangelizing the better option! This was such an obvious outcome: 15-25 class-action dollars in exchange for your private or professional secrets. And there are still doctors...

    Good on you for evangelizing the better option! This was such an obvious outcome: 15-25 class-action dollars in exchange for your private or professional secrets. And there are still doctors calling patients via Zoom.

    6 votes
  2. Comment on Writing Club #3—"Madness" (Submissions) in ~creative

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    Thanks for checking in. I'd love to resurrect this. Interest plummeted. Folks may have been busy with re-opening and summer. I might have a blindspot, but I think the guidelines were about as open...

    Thanks for checking in. I'd love to resurrect this.

    Interest plummeted. Folks may have been busy with re-opening and summer. I might have a blindspot, but I think the guidelines were about as open as could be: prose or poetry on any theme (not exclusive to the inspiration), less than 7,000 words. Maybe there are other ways to make it easier.

    Another reason could be that I crept away under a blanket of depression, so the enterprise may have suffered from lack of a cheerleader. But as I am moving to a new home across the globe, with a priority of producing writing there, count me in for more rounds.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on How Foucault was shielded from scandal by French reverence for intellectuals in ~humanities

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    No revelation could surprise me less. Sadism stained his writings, in which philosophical critique barely conceals the impulse to indulge medieval fantasy.

    No revelation could surprise me less. Sadism stained his writings, in which philosophical critique barely conceals the impulse to indulge medieval fantasy.

    2 votes
  4. Comment on How has the pandemic changed you? in ~talk

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    I lost 20 lbs. I maybe shouldn't have. When the pandemic seemed like it was about to end then didn't, I lost interest in food, have settled in to constant pain, spend every day waiting on some...

    I lost 20 lbs. I maybe shouldn't have. When the pandemic seemed like it was about to end then didn't, I lost interest in food, have settled in to constant pain, spend every day waiting on some thing that used to materialize with alacrity.

    Soon I will change countries. I have consecrated the rest of my life to art, but lack time and tools in the present transition phase. Moving is a month of Judgment Days. Non-stop, you tell your things, "You never brought me joy as a planter box, be consigned to flames," and meanwhile reckon the weight of your own sin when six highlighter markers surface from a junk drawer still in their packaging. But, here I mock what is actually such a stressful process that I find myself pausing in doorways, supporting my standing frame there while gathering the will to endure more of it.

    I wait for life to begin.

    8 votes
  5. Comment on Thoughts on SSRIs? in ~talk

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    This is a fascinating perspective. Do you have studies or readings to link where I could learn more?

    On a more down note, this is why anti-depressants can increase the risk of suicide, as the depressed individual finally gains enough energy to put a plan into action.

    This is a fascinating perspective. Do you have studies or readings to link where I could learn more?

    5 votes
  6. Comment on Uffizi is suing Pornhub after it turns masterpieces into live porn in ~arts

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    I'll take a polemic stance. Would the old masters be outraged by porn videos contrived to bear a passing resemblance to their works? I don't really give a flying fig leaf if they would. Treating...

    I'll take a polemic stance. Would the old masters be outraged by porn videos contrived to bear a passing resemblance to their works? I don't really give a flying fig leaf if they would. Treating centuries-old paintings, art which belongs to the world, like some IP to be defended by a museum against reflection, derivation, parody, or crass burlesque, is anti-culture, and should not stand in court. What do you think?

    18 votes
  7. Comment on ‘I’m sorry, but it’s too late’: Alabama doctor on treating unvaccinated, dying COVID patients in ~health.coronavirus

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    This would be an easier answer if deniers harmed only themselves. Surely you would agree that if anyone has to suffer the consequences of COVID, it would be preferable for it not to be the...

    This would be an easier answer if deniers harmed only themselves. Surely you would agree that if anyone has to suffer the consequences of COVID, it would be preferable for it not to be the careful, the considerate, and the rational rather than the reckless, the selfish, and the stupid. There are vulnerabilities in each category, but when the latter group is actively making life more dangerous for the former, can't you see apportioning sympathy and resources accordingly? I may not wish death on those responsible for killing our loved ones, but when the champagne of their ignorance (benefits they were enjoying such as cheap air travel and wedding venues) turns to piss, I'm not going to rush to suck it out of their mouths.

    I agree with you very much in advocating for a society that mitigates my own stupidity. No, these people don't deserve to die, but I understand the anger of those who suffer after doing everything right.

    17 votes
  8. Comment on Tinnitus is making me crazy in ~health

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    Have you been exposed to COVID recently? Worsening or nascent tinnitus been reported as a symptom.

    Have you been exposed to COVID recently? Worsening or nascent tinnitus been reported as a symptom.

    3 votes
  9. Comment on Midway in the journey of our life I found myself moving to Spain in ~life

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    That's right! We'll be 2.5 hours from Porto. Visiting there will be a dream come true. I just hope people won't be as unwelcoming of photography (in Spain and Portugal both) as I've been led to fear.

    That's right! We'll be 2.5 hours from Porto. Visiting there will be a dream come true. I just hope people won't be as unwelcoming of photography (in Spain and Portugal both) as I've been led to fear.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on What do you collect? in ~hobbies

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    I started amassing heaps of fundamentalist Christian tracts and pamphlets in defense of my hometown library. They'd erupt in the stacks on Wednesday nights--bigoted comics planted to terrorize...

    I started amassing heaps of fundamentalist Christian tracts and pamphlets in defense of my hometown library. They'd erupt in the stacks on Wednesday nights--bigoted comics planted to terrorize children (gay men are pedophile rapists, listening to the wrong genre of music will earn you eternal flames, etc.). Eventually I identified a single family as responsible, since they smuggled them in using an unsubtle crumpled paper bag. The mentality that motivated them to do this in the name of "witnessing," but permitted them to lie to deny it when confronted, fascinated and disturbed me. I hold on to these fear-fueled scraps of vernacular hate literature when I find them, like I'm still collecting evidence.

    10 votes
  11. Midway in the journey of our life I found myself moving to Spain

    I interact with few people in this dark-wood era of my life, and yet all of them have walked, or are planning to walk, the Camino de Santiago de Compostela (fuck that noise, I'm flying). So, given...

    I interact with few people in this dark-wood era of my life, and yet all of them have walked, or are planning to walk, the Camino de Santiago de Compostela (fuck that noise, I'm flying). So, given the area's popularity, I thought I might also share with all of you my impending move, which will take me from virtual shut-in to Galician outsider. Maybe you too know the territory.

    My wife has accepted a teaching post. I hope to improve as a writer. Preparations for the the move have so far had me feeling like I am directing the building of a bridge via email, in Spanish, where every night a new worker reports for a shift of maybe a few minutes, and by this incremental and absurd process I construct a conveyance that will take me to a new home. In mental conversation, I speak an eloquently minimalistic Castilian. But the planning experience has revealed my extreme poverty in the language. On the other hand, this opportunity strikes me as something incredible. I hope to feel this when some of the stress dissipates.

    Please feel free to share any insights into the region, Spain in general, or moves to Europe from the U.S. Despite there being no more than one Spaniard included on the last Tildes census, I ask because this is the community I feel closest to.

    22 votes
  12. Comment on What’s your favorite music from 2021 so far? in ~music

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    Wow, it's really that old Arab Strap. Thanks for the alert!

    Wow, it's really that old Arab Strap. Thanks for the alert!

    1 vote
  13. Comment on To all the shrinks I've known before in ~health

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    Thank you. Though I'm on the cusp of swearing off of therapy for myself, I still advocate that others try it.

    Thank you. Though I'm on the cusp of swearing off of therapy for myself, I still advocate that others try it.

    4 votes
  14. Comment on To all the shrinks I've known before in ~health

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    Believe it or not, this helps immensely to hear. I've been afraid of revealing this history to another therapist, expecting her to pause, tilt her head, write "confabulation" in her notes, then...

    Believe it or not, this helps immensely to hear.
    I've been afraid of revealing this history to another therapist, expecting her to pause, tilt her head, write "confabulation" in her notes, then move on. It's good to know I'm not alone in finding bad apples. Sadly, my issues tend to dampen down my assertiveness, and usually, despite privacy violations or other inappropriate behavior, I roll with it longer than I should.

    4 votes
  15. To all the shrinks I've known before

    Is this what therapy looks like for other people? I can't tell you how often I've come to the edge of sharing the following experiences--destructive, traumatic, bizarre: all the opposites of what...

    Is this what therapy looks like for other people?

    I can't tell you how often I've come to the edge of sharing the following experiences--destructive, traumatic, bizarre: all the opposites of what therapy is supposed to be. For months after the latest incident, I've needed to tell someone. I've struggled so hard with life and with putting things into writing, typing and erasing H-E-L- into the title field on Tildes over and over. Where do you go when therapists are the problem? Then, this morning, I woke up with this idea of squeezing the facts into a lightly comedic lyric. Try as I might, I guess I can't deny my métier. (I can clarify what gets lost in the parody.)

    Sing along if you know the tune and have a high tolerance for aural ipecac from the 1980s.

    To all the shrinks I’ve known before,
    I was ten and your help I begged for.
    You said, “Those aren’t real issues,
    Please spare some of my tissues.”
    You were a shrink I’ve known before.
    To all the shrinks who somewhat tried,
    Who thumbed their whiskers as I cried,
    One had a light-bar toy
    And called me a scared boy.
    He was a shrink I’ve known before.

    The winds of fashion keep on blowing,
    With each conference you attend.
    The only constant is me going.
    What won’t I do for friends!

    To the shrink who said, “talk speedier,”
    Then stalked my social media,
    You came to session with the flu,
    And so I got it too.
    Now you're a shrink I’ve known before.
    One hid his grins with coffee mugs,
    While second-guessing my psych drugs.
    He phoned the very dude
    With whom I had a feud,
    Now he’s just a shrink I’ve known before.

    The pandemic brought us video,
    Any doctor can be seen!
    But it’s the same as ab initio,
    Behind or just off screen.

    To the one who should have HIPAA claims,
    Whose spouse listened outside the frame,
    I heard him eating lunch,
    But you dismissed my hunch,
    Now you’re a shrink I’ve known before.
    To all the shrinks I’ve known before,
    Who apparently could not close doors,
    You broke my fragile trust,
    So say goodbye I must,
    To all the shrinks I’ve known before.

    13 votes
  16. Comment on This is why we don't shoot earth's garbage into the sun in ~space

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    1. The possibility of a launch failure. If your payload is radioactive or hazardous and you have an explosion on launch or during a fly-by with Earth, all of that waste will be uncontrollably distributed across Earth.
    2. Energetically, it costs less to shoot your payload out of the Solar System (from a positive gravity assist with planets like Jupiter) than it does to shoot your payload into the Sun.
    3. And finally, even if we chose to do it, the cost to send our garbage into the Sun is prohibitively expensive at present.
    11 votes
  17. Comment on Writing a best man speech for my brother’s wedding, any advice? in ~talk

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    See if you can be the first human in history to avoid opening, "For those of you who don't know me...." I think it's impossible. I would avoid searching for "best man speech jokes" or the like....

    See if you can be the first human in history to avoid opening, "For those of you who don't know me...." I think it's impossible.

    I would avoid searching for "best man speech jokes" or the like. Gags like, "I've been asked to keep it brief... [proceed to unfurl 30 sheets of paper taped together]," or "Look into each other's eyes. Bro, put your hand on top of hers. Savor this moment. It's the last time you'll ever have the upper hand! Wokka wokka!" have been done past the point of universal nausea.

    12 votes
  18. Comment on Edgar Wright finished his Sparks documentary in ~movies

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    And there's more! A Sparks musical with Marion Cotillard and Adam Driver???

    And there's more!
    A Sparks musical with Marion Cotillard and Adam Driver???

    1 vote
  19. Comment on Edgar Wright finished his Sparks documentary in ~movies

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    A few minutes ago, I was singing to myself "Never Turn Your Back on Mother Earth" while cleaning debris from a freak thundershower. It turns out I have also failed at keeping tabs on Edgar...

    A few minutes ago, I was singing to myself "Never Turn Your Back on Mother Earth" while cleaning debris from a freak thundershower. It turns out I have also failed at keeping tabs on Edgar Wright's Sparks project, which I doubted would ever wrap. It's coming out in a couple weeks.

    I expect to have to stomach heaps of, "All modern pop music derives from Kimono My House," dished by celebrity admirers, and, "This is not like other band documentaries"—there was a lot of the latter in the documentary XTC: This Is Pop.

    But there will also be satisfyingly clever music like this: "Amateur Hour"

    2 votes