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Comment on Enough phone (compact phone) kickstarter is up in ~tech
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Comment on Google receives response from Project Suncatcher prototype satellite in space in ~space
h3x LinkThis is almost good. I enjoy the first and last lines, but the middle one is honestly quite poor.Blue marble below
Data streams in silent grace
Starlight feeds my core. ✨This is almost good. I enjoy the first and last lines, but the middle one is honestly quite poor.
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Comment on [SOLVED] Help identifying a show by a half-remembered scene in ~tv
h3x Link ParentOmg, asked and answered. That's exactly it! I was conflating it with a scene from Prison Break for some reason.Omg, asked and answered. That's exactly it! I was conflating it with a scene from Prison Break for some reason.
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[SOLVED] Help identifying a show by a half-remembered scene
I'm trying to pin down a half remembered scene from a movie or a TV show. I'm most confident that it's from a TV show, but it could also be a movie. I can only remember small snippets, none of...
I'm trying to pin down a half remembered scene from a movie or a TV show. I'm most confident that it's from a TV show, but it could also be a movie. I can only remember small snippets, none of which I'm certain are accurate or not false memories, but I'm here to try and get help from my fellow Tilderen!
The scene involves someone being chased by killers who may or may not be employed by some rogue clandestine government agency. Possibly just one, but I think there are two. I think the victim is a teen? The chase leads into an outdoor car park, where the victim is managing to remain hidden. One of the killers deliberately loads/cocks their gun loudly, and starts giving some bravado speech about how he's done it to make the victim feel afraid. It's something along the lines of "Do you hear that? I bet you wonder why I didn't have my gun loaded already. It's because that's a scary sound. And I want you afraid."
That's it. That's the memory. I'm really hoping there's enough to go on here that someone can help me out, because this has been driving me crazy!
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Comment on Proton to ‘re-interview’ staff about AI to see who gets to keep their job in ~tech
h3x Link ParentAnother vote for Fastmail! I’ve been using it for years, and recently got my wife onto it as well, and we’ve been making extensive use of the unlimited aliases.Another vote for Fastmail! I’ve been using it for years, and recently got my wife onto it as well, and we’ve been making extensive use of the unlimited aliases.
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Comment on How is your current TTRPG campaign going? in ~games.tabletop
h3x LinkMy group is notoriously bad for organisation, and as such we're only one session into a campaign set in a homebrew world that I spent a long time thinking about and prepping for. It's the...My group is notoriously bad for organisation, and as such we're only one session into a campaign set in a homebrew world that I spent a long time thinking about and prepping for. It's the perennial issue of scheduling a bunch of neurospicy adults with full time jobs; not for nothing do we call it the final boss of D&D!
Anyway, I'm really hoping we can get some consistent sessions in, as I'm really proud of the world and the setup for the campaign, and we had a really promising first session, where all the players had done their homework and engaged with a little introductory prequel vignette for their characters. I shamelessly stole the technique from Brennan Lee Mulligan, and will absolutely be using it again. It makes for a far more interesting session 1 than the usual gubbins.
The game is 5.5e and the setting is a homebrew world I've run before, with its own history and whatnot. There's not much mechanically different to D&D, yet at least. The intention is that we'll be starting small and escalating into an interdimensional conflict as the game goes on. I'm honestly really excited for it! It's set in a world where magic has been outlawed, and the party are members of a travelling troupe of entertainers. The troupe is a partial front for finding and rescuing magic users who are in need of help. We're trying to use magic as an allegory for queer identity (X-Men, anyone?), which I'm pleased to say my players are fully invested in. If you think of a combination of the first Mistborn trilogy, Station Eleven, and X-Men, you'll arrive somewhere near the tone and vibe that we're pointing toward.
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Comment on How have you improved your living spaces? in ~life.home_improvement
h3x LinkFeng Shui might be a bit woo woo for your taste, but I think it's worth exploring a few of its principles. Cliff Tan on YouTube/TikTok/Instagram has a really good approach to it, IMO. It really...Feng Shui might be a bit woo woo for your taste, but I think it's worth exploring a few of its principles. Cliff Tan on YouTube/TikTok/Instagram has a really good approach to it, IMO. It really helped change the feeling of my home for the better. I think the main thing I've benefitted from is a big overhaul to the entranceway. We changed the mat from a tiny little thing to a larger one. The small one felt really cramped and constricted when you were trying to take your shoes off, which is not how you want to feel when you step into your home. We also added a reed diffusor, massive spider plant, and warm lightbulbs to the space to make it feel fresh and cosy. It's a massive win, coming home into a space that immediately feels welcoming.
You want to really consider the flow of your rooms, and imagining footpaths that lead from the doorway to your most inhabited positions really helps with this. For instance, we had our kitchen table sticking out into the middle of the room, which was directly in the path between the doorway and the cooking area. It's a minor thing you barely even notice, but the tiny inconvenience you feel when you need to start cooking builds up, especially if you're crossing the kitchen three or four times. We rotated the table 90 degrees and it fixed the whole issue. We've done similar things with our lounge and our bedroom and it's a big improvement.
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Comment on How have you improved your living spaces? in ~life.home_improvement
h3x Link ParentI do the same! And I have a guitar hanging on the back wall for the same reason.I do the same! And I have a guitar hanging on the back wall for the same reason.
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Comment on Non-queer men of Tildes: PLEASE consider before commenting on ~life.women and ~lgbt without careful consideration. We are losing members over this issue. in ~tildes
h3x Link ParentI think I used to be this kind of person, many years and one gender ago. I'm not sure I could recreate my thought processes exactly, but I'll give it a stab. I think it was, at its core, a...- Exemplary
I think I used to be this kind of person, many years and one gender ago. I'm not sure I could recreate my thought processes exactly, but I'll give it a stab.
I think it was, at its core, a self-preservation thing. I was not in a good place mental health-wise, nor was I particularly socially or emotionally intelligent. It was easier to invalidate someone's emotions and experiences than to risk shattering my own fragile internal state. It wasn't (as far as I'm aware) ever a conscious choice. It was an unhealthy coping mechanism I developed in order to survive among other people. The paradox is that it seems to have come from a place of empathy, albeit empathy that I don't have the ability to attenuate. Validating someone else's experience or feeling meant that I would be hit with a massive wave of emotion that felt like it was being forced upon me, and that I couldn't control. It was simply too much for me to handle, and I learned over time that I could protect myself from it by closing myself off to the reality of someone else's experiences. It became a reflex, and a way of holding onto an idea of myself as some stable island, who could not be affected by others. I got to the point where I didn't need to say anything out loud, and could just produce some kind of invalidation inside my own head, protecting my peace silently, and, so doing, protecting myself from any social consequences of being an asshole.
It took a lot of therapy and self-reflection, inner child work, attachment theory research, and transitioning to get to a place where I was able to see how maladaptive this all was. And there are still occasions when I can feel that pathway light up if someone is telling me something I don't have the spoons to properly respond to. I don't always master the impulse, but I mostly manage to do that internally rather than saying it to someone's face. I feel enormous guilt every time that happens.
I can't say how similar this experience of mine is to that of anyone else, but I'd hazard that it's far from unique. ASD had a big part to play in why I acted so obliviously to the plights of others, as did the traits of toxic masculinity. The idea that men should be emotionless rocks, who operate solely on cool logic and are unaffected by the emotions of others is a pervasive (and highly attractive) one. Outwardly it displays a sense of unshakable stability and strength, that ultimately (for me) belied inner feelings of fear, weakness, and shame.
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Comment on OpenFatigue™: Open is the new closed in ~finance
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Comment on US Pentagon says the firing squad execution of Fort Hood shooter Nidal Malik Hasan will be livestreamed in ~society
h3x LinkBloody hell, that's awful. What an appalling step backwards in civilisation. I know that public executions have been a thing for a long time throughout history, and by all accounts were popular...Bloody hell, that's awful. What an appalling step backwards in civilisation. I know that public executions have been a thing for a long time throughout history, and by all accounts were popular events. But, I don't know. I guess I hoped that as a species we might be growing out of this kind of cruelty. Don't all the studies show that this kind of thing isn't even remotely efficacious at reducing crime?
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Comment on Timasomo 2026: Week 1 Updates in ~creative.timasomo
h3x Link ParentI really like this, it's got a great relaxing vibe to it. I'd love to know what VSTs and such that you've used for it!I really like this, it's got a great relaxing vibe to it. I'd love to know what VSTs and such that you've used for it!
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Comment on Timasomo 2026: Week 1 Updates in ~creative.timasomo
h3x LinkAll righty, here's the GitHub repo for my project. It's coming along nicely, and I'm hoping to put some more time into the project today. At the outset I felt really over-faced by this whole idea,...All righty, here's the GitHub repo for my project. It's coming along nicely, and I'm hoping to put some more time into the project today.
At the outset I felt really over-faced by this whole idea, and it felt like it might be beyond my abilities. But I've actually been having a really good time working on it, and it feels like just the right amount of challenging. Honestly, I think the hardest part of this right now is that Textual's docs are a little obtuse and poorly laid out (to my mind at least). I've taken to using Kagi with a site:https://textual.textualize.io/ directive instead of the site's own search function, which seems to get me where I need to be much faster.
My next steps are to get the logic for adding a new actor into initiative order, and to add in a way of progressing through the list. Along the way I want to fix up the CSS, because at least in my terminal this thing looks ugly as sin. Any feedback on my progress so far is greatly appreciated!
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Comment on Was watching a history YouTube video when I realized they are all AI in ~tech
h3x Link ParentI don’t doubt he’s a controversial figure. But he’s a great history communicator, and does an excellent job (IMHO) of making history not “boring.” I don’t personally see what the problem is with...I don’t doubt he’s a controversial figure. But he’s a great history communicator, and does an excellent job (IMHO) of making history not “boring.” I don’t personally see what the problem is with someone taking a topic that a great many people think is dry, stuffy, and uninteresting, and being able to make it compelling, interesting, and exciting?
Perhaps it’s a false equivalence, but to me it’s like saying that I shouldn’t listen to any music unless the artists involved all have degree-level knowledge of music theory. But I want to listen to whatever compels me and sounds good, and makes me feel something!
I have a degree in linguistics, and I still enjoy listening to people knowledgeable of the field—but not necessarily academically educated in it—talk about language. If someone can synthesise together a lot of ideas and communicate them for mass appeal, then I think that should be applauded. We all win when more people are more knowledgeable.
I hold academia in very high regard. But I recognise it’s not for everyone, and we shouldn’t gatekeep knowledge behind the ivory towers of the university system, to be doled out through dry online lectures. Yes, those educators have a deep understanding of a very specific niche in history, and their contributions to the store of human knowledge are invaluable. But Dan Carlin and his ilk have the ability to take a broad look at something, give it some context, and package it in a way that is palatable for huge numbers to experience and take an interest in. To make people feel something.
There is room for both, and I would argue that neither can exist without the other.
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Comment on Was watching a history YouTube video when I realized they are all AI in ~tech
h3x Link ParentDan Carlin would like a wordThis will sound snobby buy I don't care: If the person presenting does not have a Ph.D or at least a Masters Degree in the topic they are speaking on turn it off, they have no business speaking on the topic. Secondly, if whatever you are watching feels 'entertaining' it is probably crap, history is boring and that is OK.
Dan Carlin would like a word
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Comment on US closely monitoring case of lab worker who ‘possibly’ died of plague in Siberia, says Marco Rubio in ~health
h3x Link ParentThe frantic tone of a lot of the media on this topic has been quite eye-opening, especially after a period of complete news avoidance. The attempt at mongering fear over this (admittedly serious)...The frantic tone of a lot of the media on this topic has been quite eye-opening, especially after a period of complete news avoidance. The attempt at mongering fear over this (admittedly serious) disease outbreak in a distant land borders on hysterical.
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Comment on Netherwilds - Return The Goat (2026) in ~music
h3x Link*reading tags* Peasant metal? *watches video* Ah yes, peasant metal.*reading tags*
Peasant metal?
*watches video*
Ah yes, peasant metal.
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Comment on There is no epidemic of loneliness, but there is an epidemic of social scurvy in ~life
h3x Link ParentThis has really stuck in my mind since I first read your reply to this thread. It's a great reframing of the challenge, and one that's helping me to reconsider how I go about making friends in my...I think maybe embracing acquaintanceship instead of being focused on finding a new best friend opened me up to a breadth of connection that I found really rewarding.
This has really stuck in my mind since I first read your reply to this thread. It's a great reframing of the challenge, and one that's helping me to reconsider how I go about making friends in my thirties. Thanks!
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Comment on End of development of Orion for Linux and Windows in ~tech
h3x Link ParentI've not had any issues with it, that I can recall. My only real gripe is that the extension experience is inferior to that of Safari's. I miss being able to use the fingerprint reader to unlock...I've not had any issues with it, that I can recall. My only real gripe is that the extension experience is inferior to that of Safari's. I miss being able to use the fingerprint reader to unlock the Bitwarden extension. But beyond that, no complaints!
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Comment on End of development of Orion for Linux and Windows in ~tech
h3x LinkThis is a shame. I really like using Orion on my iPhone and on my Mac, and was looking forward to using it on my work laptop. In its current state Orion for Linux is not really usable for a daily...This is a shame. I really like using Orion on my iPhone and on my Mac, and was looking forward to using it on my work laptop. In its current state Orion for Linux is not really usable for a daily driver, especially for actual work. I really hope it does get picked up and carried forward; although I expect it’ll end up being quite different than Kagi originally intended. Heigh ho.
My assumption has been that the market generally has rejected small phones as a form factor? I’m all for someone taking another stab, but between the failure of attempts from the more mainstream manufacturers and the usual trend for small/enthusiast brands I would worry about this becoming abandonware within a couple of years of launch.