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  1. Comment on Rogers CEO says service back online for most customers, blames outage on 'network system failure' in ~tech

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    The irony of working for the other big telco but having to take the day off because you can’t connect from home. All our meetings have been postponed to Monday because of this crap. My whole...

    The irony of working for the other big telco but having to take the day off because you can’t connect from home. All our meetings have been postponed to Monday because of this crap.

    My whole family was off the grid. Can you imagine needing an ambulance but can’t even call 911? When I think of state cyberterrorism, this is the kind of scenario that comes to mind. The risk can’t be overstated.

    9 votes
  2. Comment on What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out? in ~talk

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    When I was 6 I asked my grandma why are some of the shows she watches in black and white. She replied that it’s because they’re old shows. So, of course, I concluded that once a show gets past a...

    When I was 6 I asked my grandma why are some of the shows she watches in black and white. She replied that it’s because they’re old shows. So, of course, I concluded that once a show gets past a certain age it loses its colours. I still was bothered why that is until 1-2 years later when I figured out that I misunderstood what she meant.

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  3. Comment on Should I quit smoking right now, or wait? in ~health

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    I would say quit now. Odds are you’ll be infected with the omicron variant which mainly resides in the throat rather than lungs. The one I had gave me the worst throat pain I’ve ever dealt with...

    I would say quit now. Odds are you’ll be infected with the omicron variant which mainly resides in the throat rather than lungs. The one I had gave me the worst throat pain I’ve ever dealt with that no medication that I was able to find would alleviate the pain (for 2 days). Every swallow felt like I had daggers in the back of my throat and it was so bad it affected my eating habits. if you happen to have this symptom, would it feel nicer as you’re further along in your nicotine detox or right at the very start?

    3 votes
  4. Comment on Autistic people care too much, research says in ~science

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    I’m not diagnosed, but I do relate to some of the descriptions some of the people on this post and others sometimes write about. With regards to lying, I found very stark results in myself. If I...

    I’m not diagnosed, but I do relate to some of the descriptions some of the people on this post and others sometimes write about. With regards to lying, I found very stark results in myself. If I put myself on the spot telling myself that I am going to lie and becoming aware of this act, I fall into the description that you just portrayed. However, I have developed two approaches around it that have helped me a lot.

    My brain doesn’t panic if I convince myself that I’m not lying. It’s hard to describe, but sometimes, in the heat of the moment, out of a sense of desperation, I’m able to force myself to believe the opinion or the point of view that I want to push. After all, it’s more about whether what I believe what I would be saying is right or wrong rather than what is truly right or wrong. In that sense, I push my mind into being this person that holds this opinion, and whenever this happens, it makes my interaction feel a lot more natural.

    Another workaround I found is to lie seldom, in order to establish a relationship of trust. If people believe you’re honest most of the time, then they’re more likely to doubt themselves rather than your lie when you do choose to lie if they happen to be suspicious.

    Neither of these approaches require focusing on reading the other person, and I find this to help a lot.

    In werewolf for example, at one point I was able to win as a werewolf by accusing the other werewolf masquerading as a villager and getting them eliminated, thus establishing a sense of trustworthiness in myself.

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  5. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    An update 4 months later: this was exactly what I needed. I signed up for YNAB and used my student card to get a year off, and now I don’t feel bad spending since I have better visibility on...

    An update 4 months later: this was exactly what I needed. I signed up for YNAB and used my student card to get a year off, and now I don’t feel bad spending since I have better visibility on what’s going in and out of my budgets.

    Next step is to take the same mindset towards time.

    5 votes
  6. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    I'm correcting coding assignments for a "principles of programming" course. One of the students submitted her C code in .txt files. She also was copying and pasting the code into an online...

    I'm correcting coding assignments for a "principles of programming" course.

    One of the students submitted her C code in .txt files.
    She also was copying and pasting the code into an online compiler during her demo.
    One of the fully written C code files was erroring out on an include statement, even though the rest of the logic has been fully written.
    One of the questions including implementing the cdr function. I asked her to scroll to it, she couldn't figure out which assignment question I was referring to, or explain the logic to me.
    One question required printing a linked list in the following format: (a(b,c),d,e)
    Her program printed it out in the much more elaborate way:

    a -> b -> d -> e
        |
        c
    

    And yet she still couldn't explain to me how cdr works.
    Methinks there's a case of very bad cheating.

    5 votes
  7. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    Yes, my life could use a bit more planning since I'm starting a new chapter. It would definitely help me adjust. I would welcome the sense of relaxation from knowing I can afford to take...

    Yes, my life could use a bit more planning since I'm starting a new chapter. It would definitely help me adjust. I would welcome the sense of relaxation from knowing I can afford to take guilt-free activities while still being on schedule. I think I've been reluctant to get into more planning because in my mind it seemed like extra overhead.

    4 votes
  8. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    [redacted], where temperatures are subzero (Celsius) for the moment. Neighbourhood is very urban with some close by parks. I've gone skiing for the first time recently. Waiting to warm up but I...

    [redacted], where temperatures are subzero (Celsius) for the moment. Neighbourhood is very urban with some close by parks. I've gone skiing for the first time recently. Waiting to warm up but I definitely want to take a look into hiking/camping over the warmer seasons.

    4 votes
  9. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    Congrats on the mountain bike :) Definitely love me some outdoor activities. My friend taught me how to ski recently and it's been an absolute blast. Canadian winters limit most of the activities...

    Congrats on the mountain bike :)

    Definitely love me some outdoor activities. My friend taught me how to ski recently and it's been an absolute blast. Canadian winters limit most of the activities you listed here unless you're committing with the gear, however it's something I'm looking forward to do once The Great Thaw comes around.

    As another commenter mentioned, gaming PCs are a bit of a complex issue right now, but I'll definitely get myself a new console once I have the space and tv for it.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on I forgot how to have fun in ~talk

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    I'm definitely planning on pursuing some form of therapy, thanks for reminding me. For the budget, one preliminary question I guess is what should your emergency fund look like? I've started...

    I'm definitely planning on pursuing some form of therapy, thanks for reminding me. For the budget, one preliminary question I guess is what should your emergency fund look like? I've started putting some money in a retirement fund for a short while now but what should a minimum base amount look like that can act as an available buffer, as in "okay, my bank account shouldn't ever fall beyond X$, if I'm at X, it means I should tone down my spending".

    Beyond that thank you for the comment, if you have any resources that you used on budgeting, I'd love to take a read at. Up until now my budgeting has been looking at total monthly spending, and mentally estimating how long I can live off of what I currently have if I suddenly found myself without a reliable source of income.

    3 votes
  11. I forgot how to have fun

    Like the title says, over the past couple of years, I think I slowly forgot how to have fun. I'm looking for any advice anyone might have (whether you've gone through the same process or not) on...

    Like the title says, over the past couple of years, I think I slowly forgot how to have fun. I'm looking for any advice anyone might have (whether you've gone through the same process or not) on how to have a bit more fun.

    The past 4 years have been transformational and formative for me. At 21 I decided to switch majors and move out from my parents' house to a more urban city. I mentally (depression) and financially struggled for the first 3 years, going broke in my second year of my second chance at undergrad at one point, eating bowls of rice. I identified my shortcomings (lack of achievements and disposable income) and worked on them. In the 3rd year I worked part-time while also taking a TA position with a full engineering course load. Last summer I completed an internship while also working as an independent contractor for a startup and kept the contractor position while being a full-time student up until this year. I signed a full-time offer at a big company this January and have one course left to fully graduate. I'm also correcting exams and tests on a part time basis for a professor. All this to say, I suddenly had a significant boost in income the last couple of months, and even more free time, whereas I was living on ~20k/year previously, with no free time.

    This doesn't mean I don't enjoy or appreciate any fun activity I partake in. When I do go out with my friends I'm having a lot of fun and I'm breathing in every moment. I'm not depressed (not anymore), but I find myself having a more neutral mood outside of hangouts. What I'm struggling with is initiative with regards to fun. What can I do to have fun? I live in a cramped-up studio which I plan on moving out of in spring, but for now I don't have space for a TV let's say. I don't have a gaming pc, because up until now I couldn't afford one. I have a ps4 with a couple of old games, though sometimes I struggle to play them because of a lingering feeling of guilt from using it as a medium of procrastination in my teens. People mention lifestyle creep that follows an income boost, but I think my financial situation in the past has some lingering effect on me that's inhibiting even a small healthy dose of that. It's hard for me to justify upgrading some of my stuff, because they still work. Or buying some items I've wanted, because I'm doing fine without them. The isolation in a studio and the now gone uncertainty that was during the pandemic before I signed a full-time offer also played a role here I think.

    So, having read through all that, I welcome any ideas or suggestions on how to spice my weekly life a bit more. I want to shake off the fight-or-flight phase that I was in. What are some things that you do that you think I could adopt to have a bit more fun by myself?

    25 votes
  12. Comment on Prince Andrew loses military titles and use of HRH in ~news

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    I heard in some news that it's due to the upcoming celebration of elizabeth's 70 year reign (platinum jubilee). Since the royal family's source of power has shifted from politicking to public...

    I heard in some news that it's due to the upcoming celebration of elizabeth's 70 year reign (platinum jubilee). Since the royal family's source of power has shifted from politicking to public media, the tacit consent of the British public to hold them in higher regard is more vulnerable to these controversies. I imagine they wouldn't want any news from his case to overshadow the celebration.

    1 vote
  13. Comment on New groups and site mechanics - 2021 edition in ~tildes

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    We modded the same subreddit :D Indeed, there was a lot of daily gunk that needed to be scraped, as well as mod messages that needed to be dealt with. Sometimes my moderating became completely...

    We modded the same subreddit :D

    Indeed, there was a lot of daily gunk that needed to be scraped, as well as mod messages that needed to be dealt with. Sometimes my moderating became completely mechanical just to go through the queue. Everyone says it was chill, but from my perspective it felt like over half the people weren't happy with the moderators at the time because all I would see were the complaints.

    3 votes
  14. Comment on Repeatedly finding myself upset with the conversations on Tildes in ~talk

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    Yes! I saw this solution proposed before too. I think however one drawback is that the "site history" can become too long for users to read. I think we can combine this concept with a way to allow...

    Yes! I saw this solution proposed before too. I think however one drawback is that the "site history" can become too long for users to read. I think we can combine this concept with a way to allow users to disengage from a discussion (I think it was @Whom's comment in a previous post that mentioned disengaging):

    Tildes as a whole will build up a consensus surrounding different topics and opinions. These would be available for all to view somewhere, and each consensus should have a link to a discussion that demonstrate why that particular consensus is held. It should link to one or more comment discussions where these insensitive/naive comments/opinions posited by genuinely caring users are dismantled and discussed and shown why they're not sound (for whatever reason).
    In addition, each group inside Tildes can build its own consensuses as long as they don't go against the general ones, again linking to a past discussion that would have already answered "beginner" recurring questions. When a user wants to disengage from a discussion because a particular argument has already been argued before, there should be a way to generate an automatic response linking to the consensus they're referring to. Further replies to the user would be muted. The opposing user may then read up on the past discussion and become informed without inviting repetition.

    7 votes
  15. Comment on Repeatedly finding myself upset with the conversations on Tildes in ~talk

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    One issue with this approach is that for a comment to receive such a tag, users would need to tag it enough times and thus have enough users be exposed to it, which can defeat the purpose for the...

    One issue with this approach is that for a comment to receive such a tag, users would need to tag it enough times and thus have enough users be exposed to it, which can defeat the purpose for the first users that show up in a comment section. It should also mark further child comments as controversial, given that they stem from the controversial comment. It also won't work in an older post that doesn't have enough eyes on it but still has a couple of users replying to each other (assuming you need more than one controversial report for a comment to be labeled as controversial).

    5 votes
  16. Comment on Repeatedly finding myself upset with the conversations on Tildes in ~talk

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    A couple of years ago I moderated 3 subs: a 2.5k members one that involved a lot of local politics, a 300k members NSFW picture-based one and a 1M+ members one. Eventually I got burned out,...

    A couple of years ago I moderated 3 subs: a 2.5k members one that involved a lot of local politics, a 300k members NSFW picture-based one and a 1M+ members one. Eventually I got burned out, deleted my reddit account and created a new one to start fresh.

    The sub that was the most fun, but also the most draining to moderate was the smallest one for two reasons: political topics brought the worst of people at times, and you had to juggle moderation strictness against subreddit activity. Removing comments and posts of a particularly insensitive but also non-rule-breaking nature would stifle participation immediately. As a compromise, I decided that part of being a reddit moderator of a small subreddit is to participate and encourage others to participate while trying to set up a tacit culture/norms for the forum through my own participation. I debated a lot and argued a lot with different users who seemed well meaning but with insensitive comments, sometimes the same users on different posts. A user's intent becomes easier to identify the more you engage with them and browse their profile and comment history. Toolbox allowed me to quickly see the most frequent URL bases of each users' link submissions, as well as the subreddits they most participate in, and query their comment history by different terms which allowed me to paint a more accurate picture of whether they always acted in such a way across different forums, entering a discussion with a particular axe to grind. It worked well. With enough time, the culture established was more welcoming towards my group, without stifling activity in the subreddit too much or being too heavy-handed with moderation... Until it didn't. Subreddit activity went through an almost yearly cycle of new users coming in, older users lessening their participation or leaving and I found myself in the same place a year later because of this. Debating the same ideas with with different, younger users.

    Based on my experience, the reason we seem to be circling over this is because of the trickling of new, well-intentioned active users that may not be as educated or conscious about some topics, new users wanting to participate that have not gone through or read over past discussions on Tildes where consensus was made, unaware that the idea they are genuinely curious about and want to bring up has already been brought up time and again. Veteran participants such as yourself, Gaywallet, will pick up on the frequency and recurrence as well as the impression of these arguments and ideas made in past threads which can slowly degrade your motivation on the site.

    On the other hand, 2 other relevant issues on Tildes are about the low level of activity/submissions or having the same users drive activity and discussions along many different posts, as well as the standards of discussion becoming a barrier for a lot of users who want to participate but don't think their comments would be up to par with what they see. One remedy to these two is an increase in users, but this will inevitably reset the past consensuses.

    If you agree with my reasoning on the recurrence of comments that are insensitive to some groups, then one way to try and tackle this would be to force new users to go through an interval of time that only allows them to set up a customized feed without the ability to comment with the hope that, in the meantime, they will pick up on the current culture, consensuses and become sensitized to the site's norms before typing their first comment.

    Is this issue only due to newly active users?
    No, I don't think so. Users that have been here for a while but may not be as educated or that want to educate themselves on topics involving minorities through participation in discussions here are also prone to do the same. Nevertheless this can lessen how often minorities on Tildes may feel bombarded with these comments. I do think that once in a while, having an insensitive comment is a nonissue (arguably it could be healthy for the site, but I digress), but it's the impression of the constant bombardment of these comments across different posts, given the small number of new posts per day, that can push people to leave.

    15 votes
  17. Comment on Evangelicals perfected cancel culture. Now it’s coming for them. in ~humanities

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    American evangelicalism is interesting, if not scary at times. The article talks about how evangelicals practiced a form of cancel culture before the coinage of the term. I've been raised close to...

    American evangelicalism is interesting, if not scary at times. The article talks about how evangelicals practiced a form of cancel culture before the coinage of the term. I've been raised close to a lot of non-American Christian communities in the Middle-East, and American evangelicalism still strikes me as something very foreign despite familiarity with the religion. Similar boycotting habits aren't as present. I think cancel culture is more an offspring of American society and culture than just evangelicalism in general. I don't think current political camps one day woke up and became aware of the American far-right's boycotting habits and decided to fight fire with fire. The practice feels like a direct derivative of "voting with your wallet". You decide where to spend your money (or habits that generate profit for others) in a way that furthers societal values that you wish to see flourish at the detriment of values you abhor. I don't have the academic sources to back me up, but doesn't this sound like an idea capitalistically democratic enough to thrive in the U.S?

    My impression is that, in a way, it's more Christianity taking on the ethos of its adoptive community (which in America led to Evangelicalism) rather than an Evangelical innovation on its own.

    6 votes
  18. Comment on If you could give advice to anyone who is ten years younger than you or when they were ten years younger than now, what would you tell them? in ~life

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    To past me: Learning how to talk to people and staying in touch is more important than getting perfect grades. Your grades aren't a guarantee of anything, but high ones will make it easier to...

    To past me:

    • Learning how to talk to people and staying in touch is more important than getting perfect grades.
    • Your grades aren't a guarantee of anything, but high ones will make it easier to learn in the future so still, don't disregard academic achievement.
    • Learn how to say no. Just because a girl is attracted to you doesn't mean you need to automatically capitalize on the opportunity if you're not attracted to her. Your level of satisfaction is also important.
    • Forget about medicine. There are easier ways to get a boat.
    • Take up music lessons, it's not late at all
    • Nobody's looking at you, get over it.
    • You have a procrastination problem, right now it's not affecting you yet, but if you start doing something about it, hopefully it never will. Organizing your tasks makes things so much easier. Think about it, sooner or later, like it or not, you're going to have to do it. So just get on with it.
    • Don't pick a side when your parents decide to divorce no matter what.
    • Learn to pick your battles: you don't have to correct every mistake you see others are committing. Only do it if you care enough about the other person, and if you think the mistake can harm them in the future if you don't intervene, otherwise, don't care.
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  19. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech

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    You can have the comments be manually approved by you or a trusted user before appearing and combine that with a time limit on comment submission. I imagine that would discourage a lot of flaming...

    You can have the comments be manually approved by you or a trusted user before appearing and combine that with a time limit on comment submission. I imagine that would discourage a lot of flaming attempts since the perpetrator can't reach their audience on their own terms.

    4 votes
  20. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    I agree that the software industry (if I guessed your area of studies correctly), and really STEM jobs in general can be more hectic when it comes to work/life balance. My working plan right now...

    I agree that the software industry (if I guessed your area of studies correctly), and really STEM jobs in general can be more hectic when it comes to work/life balance. My working plan right now is to give it my all in my junior years, since I'm still able to, in order to gain the necessary skills and experiences, as well as capital, to find a more balanced position later on—if I want to. I tend to thrive better under a dense workload, unfortunately, so a fulfilling career for me would be one that's occasionally whipping me. Family is an interesting dimension later on when the question of having a child becomes more relevant, in my plan, it's still too early for me to worry about it before I hit my 30s.

    Linux, I'm a big fan. I dual booted Ubuntu and Windows about 2.5 years ago, then triple booted arch alongside, then wiped the windows partition to make more space and never looked back. After the initial 2-3 months of getting used to it, it drastically improved my skills in terms of researching solutions to problems, as well as reading documentation and man pages (for tools and programming). I definitely recommend the switch if you think you have the patience and like to tinker with your OS settings to get everything just right.

    3 votes