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Comment on ADHD and TODO lists in ~health.mental
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Comment on ADHD and TODO lists in ~health.mental
pi-rat (edited )LinkThanks for sharing, I live with ADHD, don't have a partner currently. I also recently (about 90 days ago) medication mgmt, and decent mental health support. I hear that having more tasks on your...Thanks for sharing, I live with ADHD, don't have a partner currently. I also recently (about 90 days ago) medication mgmt, and decent mental health support.
I hear that having more tasks on your to-do list than you can get don't in a day, knowing /seeing they're not complete makes you feel anxious, sad, and ashamed - and this is compounded by your partner judging you for her expectations of you.
This sounds challenging, even when taking the time to work on self-compassion it can be hard to summon when it is needed most.
I have my good days and my bad days; medication mgmt has helped with more good than bad, but life still happens.
Something I've done for myself, even though it is cheesey, is that I've set up a morning ritual, that includes making some nice coffee and 'writing (logging the date, weather, moon phase, tides)' a journal entry, then my 3 tasks for the day. There can be less, but no more than 3 (because I know I'm going to get distracted doing something else at some point) so I don't overwhelm myself.
These can have sub-tasks (groceries stores to go to and the list of items, doing laundry might have sheets and clothes, etc) but I don't try to go too crazy.
Then put these in "dedicated" spots of time during the day more as reminders that "I'm doing x thing at y time for z long." Even if it is nothing more than logging this, often it is a short opportunity for me to stream of conscious out what my priorities are and maybe a slight plan; this doesn't always happen but when it does it's nice.
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gothave a physical planner and a bunch of nice pens in different colors, so I enjoy writing out my priorities for the day and my schedule during my morning ritual; I then transfer these over into my phones calendar, with reminders, and a to-do widget on the home screen (so I see the thing and check it off).This is all well and good if I'm not in a dis-regulated state - then all that goes out the window; honestly that's the whole reason I began seeking medication management support (ADHD + Depression).
Getting back 'on track' is a challenge at these times (but recently I have felt more resilient towards outside stressors), because doing my morning stuff makes me feel more prepared, and general 'better' daily emotional state, and makes it easier to keep doing.
It took me a while to get in the habit of the morning ritual, and really that's the key, trying to get it be 'this is what I do when I wake up' rather than 'I have to do this when I wake up' (which for a bit or if I'm not feeling good is where I'm at mentally )has made it easier to get through day to day.
All that to say - it took me many years of trial and error to find something that works for me; I knew it takes me longer to get stuff done so I wake up earlier and make a small plan (along with other things that help me start my day) that feels manageable to me.
I believe there are many ways to what works for you as there are brains. Maybe some of the things that work for me may for you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ; I just want to say I recognize the struggle, believe there is something that may work.
I know I am very fortunate to have decent mental health support to get me to where I am today. I hope that you're able to get support and if anything I said could be helpful or needs clarifying please do not hesitate to ask.
Edit1: not at a cpu rn, but I'll come back and clean this up because my thumbs can't type for beans.
Edit2: Finally cleaned it up some (sorry, got distracted with other things, shocking I know). -
Comment on Helldivers 2 Tildes squad interest thread in ~games
pi-rat LinkI have interest but haven't played a whole lot because I haven't had many people to play with.I have interest but haven't played a whole lot because I haven't had many people to play with.
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Comment on Seeking an Android podcast app without subscription. Impossible? in ~tech
pi-rat Link ParentNo, I don't think I did need to do anything specific other than use the account I had made the initial purchase with back in the day. I'm sure if you can trwck down the receipt they would honor it.No, I don't think I did need to do anything specific other than use the account I had made the initial purchase with back in the day. I'm sure if you can trwck down the receipt they would honor it.
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Comment on Seeking an Android podcast app without subscription. Impossible? in ~tech
pi-rat Link ParentI feel quite lucky that I had purchased premium before they switch to a subscription model as I was able to keep it as a one time purchase.I feel quite lucky that I had purchased premium before they switch to a subscription model as I was able to keep it as a one time purchase.
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Comment on At least sixty-four dead and millions without power after hurricane Helene devastates south-eastern US states with landslides and flooding, washing away roads and bridges in ~enviro
pi-rat LinkHi there, I'm also living in Asheville, NC. I just got power back today (lost it Friday around 8am). The city of Asheville states that it may be weeks before we get water back. I still don't have...Hi there, I'm also living in Asheville, NC. I just got power back today (lost it Friday around 8am).
The city of Asheville states that it may be weeks before we get water back.
I still don't have internet or reliable cell service yet.
The city of Asheville only started water and food distrubution today, the city is currently looking for people who own box trucks to volunteer to help get pallets of water and MREs to residents who can't make it to the distrubution sites.
I am grateful that the neighborhood that I live in has come together and we are pooling resources (food, water, satellite internet, childcare, etc). This has been the most heartwarming aspect of it, as we've only been able to rely on one another.
I'm grateful for my neighbors and community coming together to support one another through this.
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Comment on Grokking KOReader in ~books
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Comment on Grokking KOReader in ~books
pi-rat Link ParentAny links on this? Also how does the combo version work? Is it Plato ux with some KOreader functions under the hood? I'm new to changing out the OS on my e-reader.Any links on this?
Also how does the combo version work? Is it Plato ux with some KOreader functions under the hood?
I'm new to changing out the OS on my e-reader.
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Comment on Grokking KOReader in ~books
pi-rat LinkDoes this effectively take you out of the Kobo eco-system? I know according to the Mozilla Foundation's privacy rating Kobo products got a "privacy not included rating" as "may sell your online...Does this effectively take you out of the Kobo eco-system?
I know according to the Mozilla Foundation's privacy rating Kobo products got a "privacy not included rating" as "may sell your online identifiers and information about your online activity.
I had been looking at other E-readers that have better privacy. Pocketbook seemed like a good option, though it looks like there is only one seller for these in the USA.
If this helps opt me out of the Kobo eco-system this is a much cheaper and faster option.
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Comment on Android launchers in ~tech
pi-rat Link ParentHow painful was the switch? Are there custom gestures? That's probably what I use the most in Nova. A lot of the other options I looked at had poor gesture support or didn't allow me to set up my...How painful was the switch?
Are there custom gestures?
That's probably what I use the most in Nova. A lot of the other options I looked at had poor gesture support or didn't allow me to set up my home screens the way I like to.
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Comment on What are your favorite Dreamcast games? Any odd or unique ones worth playing? in ~games
pi-rat Linkchu chu rocket was always fun for me, especially if you have 4 people playingchu chu rocket was always fun for me, especially if you have 4 people playing
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Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk
pi-rat Link ParentNot a sore spot at all - I don't know which translation. As I was searching through my messages when he sent me the pdf and it doesn't seem to have been in the backup of our chats. It just didn't...Not a sore spot at all - I don't know which translation. As I was searching through my messages when he sent me the pdf and it doesn't seem to have been in the backup of our chats. It just didn't grab me the was the Tao did from it's first passages.
Thanks - it wasn't so unexpected as he was having some challenges with his health. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk
pi-rat Link ParentI wouldn't go as far to say I'm a practitioner - rather it just is the only 'religious' text that piqued my interest when reading. A dear friend of mine (who passed away last October) sent me a...I wouldn't go as far to say I'm a practitioner - rather it just is the only 'religious' text that piqued my interest when reading.
A dear friend of mine (who passed away last October) sent me a translation of the Gita and it didn't strike a chord with me as much. He actually was a hindu baba (Shri Mahant Managalanand Puri) but wasn't pushy about it when it didn't resonate with me as much.
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Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk
pi-rat LinkI am pretty shocked that there is no mention of Taoism ITT. I first came across it many years ago when I was in a bit of a challenging part of my life (5150'd and ended up in a psychiatric ward)....I am pretty shocked that there is no mention of Taoism ITT.
I first came across it many years ago when I was in a bit of a challenging part of my life (5150'd and ended up in a psychiatric ward).
My roommate at the ward for my short time had a large stack of paper that he had printed out and it was a translation of the Tao te ching - I said I had no interest in religion but he imploded me to read it.
I was fascinated at how much it resonated with me and was disappointed that I did know Chinese so I could grok it in the original meaning.
Eventually when I ended up going to school and studying leadership I tried to incorporate different verses into how I lead expeditions, training groups, or other things going on in my life.
Verse 17 informed a lot of this for me:
When the Master governs, the people
are hardly aware that he exists.
Next best is a leader who is loved.
Next, one who is feared.
The worst is one who is despised.If you don't trust the people,
you make them untrustworthy.The Master doesn't talk, he acts.
When his work is done,
the people say, "Amazing: we did it, all by ourselves!"Stephen Mitchell's translation was the first I came across.
There is a lot about it I enjoy - and I still struggle to exactly state what it is about the text that I enjoy so much. You like what you like I guess.
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Comment on What video games have had you taking real-life notes? in ~games
pi-rat Link ParentMyst was one of the first computer games I ever got to play when it first came out all those years ago. Not only did it make me take notes, I learned how to take notes from playing Myst (I was in...Myst was one of the first computer games I ever got to play when it first came out all those years ago. Not only did it make me take notes, I learned how to take notes from playing Myst (I was in the 1st / 2nd grade when it released initially).
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Comment on Those who journal, how do you do so authentically? (How to stop “self-editing” or “censoring” yourself and your thoughts?) in ~health.mental
pi-rat LinkOne of the things that I notice is that any specific "want" from journaling is listed. For me - my want was to just record a bit of each day, no matter how mundane; I just did this by writing down...One of the things that I notice is that any specific "want" from journaling is listed.
For me - my want was to just record a bit of each day, no matter how mundane; I just did this by writing down the Date, Time I started my entry, moon phase, current weather, forecast for the day, and then anything that comes up and out.
Sometimes all I write is "I don't feel like writing today" or "exceptionally tired this morning" or whatever.
This is for you, and why worry about what future you thinks? That's a future you problem.
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Comment on Want to automate my home with a privacy focus (but I'm a bit slow and need help) in ~life.home_improvement
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Comment on Are Swedish dishcloths more environment-friendly than paper towels? We investigate. in ~enviro
pi-rat Link ParentThey kind of did, but in a round about way: Which I guess means that a 3-pack of swedish towels aprox. 11 gallons of gasoline to produce? Not as clear as it could be and if they really want to do...They kind of did, but in a round about way:
If a three-pack of Swedish dishcloths has the same carbon footprint as a roll of paper towels, Earth911.com estimates, then switching to dishcloths can help families eliminate about 200 pounds of CO2 emissions each year.
Which I guess means that a 3-pack of swedish towels aprox. 11 gallons of gasoline to produce? Not as clear as it could be and if they really want to do an article on the benefits of maybe switching.
I'm surprised they even mentioned Microfibers clothes which I think are made from petrol chemicals.
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
pi-rat Link ParentRe: riced cauliflower - I find that I can get enough spices and fry time with it to get much more flavor than I would with flourettes of cauliflower. I still att straight up cauliflower and...Re: riced cauliflower - I find that I can get enough spices and fry time with it to get much more flavor than I would with flourettes of cauliflower. I still att straight up cauliflower and broccoli to my stir-frys that have riced cauliflower but they don't hold into the spice nearly as much. I get it pre-riced and frozen as it's cheap and eliminates the mess for me. A bit part of it for me is how quickly I can throw it together and have a super flavorful meal.
Re: vegetable spiraler - I got an attachment for my kitchen aid mixer which is super easy to set up and clean. All in all to prep a single zucchini I think it takes me less than 5 minutes to set up, spiral, and then clean/put away. Not advocating to replace or get more gear but I've been very happy with this tool set.
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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
pi-rat LinkI've been doing low carb recently. I've been making a lot of: Parmesan Crisps Zucchini noodles (stir fried with spices and some protein Riced Cauliflower with spices, veggies, and protein A recent...I've been doing low carb recently.
I've been making a lot of:- Parmesan Crisps
- Zucchini noodles (stir fried with spices and some protein
- Riced Cauliflower with spices, veggies, and protein
A recent experiment that I did was trying to make a zucchini, almond flour, and egg white patty that I pan fried. On top of it I served chopped mushroom medley fried with bacon, and holindaise sauce.
I miss making fresh baked bread.
Thanks for sharing (again) @elight; becoming a risk management expert is the best way to turn anxiety into a super power. If I am already thinking about everything that can go wrong, lets just work backwards and mitigate the issues (to the best of my ability)!
I very much hear that (becoming an over-planner/optimizer), my background is in leadership and what you're describing falls under what is sometimes referred to the analyst architect (the link goes through 4 different styles of leadership as a part of a larger lesson plan). In regards to the optimizer aspect, I know for me if I have a hard time focusing, I want the most efficient way to complete a task so it reduces the chances of me getting distracted.
So, just this week I actually received a diagnosis for Autism Spectrum Disorder as well (sans cognitive / verbal impairments) so some of the stuff I mentioned may not be true for you. I know I've got the constant battle of "No routines! only spontaneity (the ADHD manifesting)!" and "I need a solid structure and routine, and I want everything to be absolutely perfect (the ASD manifesting)."
Is there something about living with the huge unknowns that scare you specifically? Is it generally the uncertainty or fear of failure due to a lack of information?
Do you also have a therapist / counselor that you're working with?
What does your goal setting look like?
Also what is the ADHD specific planner you're using (maybe it's in the rest of the thread and I'll check after leaving this post)?