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  1. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    OK! Will investigate state of the art in a week!

    OK! Will investigate state of the art in a week!

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  2. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Cool! I've read a few of these and several of definitely read. I'd probably read Hyperion again. That was the weirdest Canterbury Tales I've ever read...

    Cool! I've read a few of these and several of definitely read.

    I'd probably read Hyperion again. That was the weirdest Canterbury Tales I've ever read...

    3 votes

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    I remember the handle. I asked if you were (also) vegan. The handle has stood out to me since.

    I remember the handle. I asked if you were (also) vegan. The handle has stood out to me since.

    1 vote

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    Oh, I've read Flow.

    Oh, I've read Flow.

    2 votes

  7. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Everything you said about Discord and also what was said by someone else: the app seems as though it was designed to be overwhelming. There are too many different sections and visuals in the UI. I...

    Everything you said about Discord and also what was said by someone else: the app seems as though it was designed to be overwhelming. There are too many different sections and visuals in the UI.

    I didn't think I would be one of those people but: I miss IRC.

    3 votes

  8. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Sounds like IRC that way. I remember having some deeper connections there, back in the day.

    Sounds like IRC that way. I remember having some deeper connections there, back in the day.

    1 vote

  9. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Well why not? Tildes isn't commercialized. It's not competition but enrichment, yeah?

    Well why not? Tildes isn't commercialized. It's not competition but enrichment, yeah?

    3 votes

  10. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Thank you. Link to latest book club post? I seem to recall seeing these occasionally. Book clubs can be a challenge for me. I'm a slow reader. But if the book is engaging enough, I go faster!

    Thank you. Link to latest book club post? I seem to recall seeing these occasionally.

    Book clubs can be a challenge for me. I'm a slow reader. But if the book is engaging enough, I go faster!

    1 vote

  11. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    I used to have poor boundaries, over sharing, until my (second) wife (the first passed away 11 years ago) helped me see it's healthier to be more deliberate and discriminatory in my sharing. It's...

    Open up a little

    I used to have poor boundaries, over sharing, until my (second) wife (the first passed away 11 years ago) helped me see it's healthier to be more deliberate and discriminatory in my sharing.

    It's a tricky balance. Vulnerability is worth it. Over sharing though is often a form of disrespecting oneself.

    1 vote

  12. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Exactly this. I have engaging conversations here. However, I only see a few familiar handles across conversations, e.g, @Akir and @beanburrito. Although, if I'm really honest, I don't look at...

    Exactly this. I have engaging conversations here. However, I only see a few familiar handles across conversations, e.g, @Akir and @beanburrito.

    Although, if I'm really honest, I don't look at handles all that often...

    5 votes

  13. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    Propensity. Yes. Too many of my hobbies are computer-based. There's gaming and... let me think... gaming. Ok, I'm also a bit into 3d printing and self-hosting. And, ok, cycling. Except I haven't...

    Propensity. Yes.

    Too many of my hobbies are computer-based. There's gaming and... let me think... gaming. Ok, I'm also a bit into 3d printing and self-hosting.

    And, ok, cycling. Except I haven't seen a cycling group for people woefully out of shape to cycle together in the DC area.

    5 votes

  14. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    I'm not too much of Minecraft person. Kind of like it. Really into exploring. This is why I love Valheim. I'd be tempted to try to host Valheim on my server. Unsure whether the game has been...

    I'm not too much of Minecraft person. Kind of like it. Really into exploring. This is why I love Valheim.

    I'd be tempted to try to host Valheim on my server. Unsure whether the game has been beefed up to support concurrent player counts better.

    5 votes

  15. Comment on You make friends *HERE*?! in ~tildes

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    More like "keep not playing MMOs because they'll ruin my life... again". See also TrekMUSE in '95-96.

    ... try MMOs for a change.

    More like "keep not playing MMOs because they'll ruin my life... again". See also TrekMUSE in '95-96.

    8 votes

  16. You make friends *HERE*?!

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    No, really. Sincerely putting this out there. Using Tildes sometimes feels like talking into the void. The UI, even in Three Cheers, is minimal. The conversations sometimes clinical, though I...

    No, really. Sincerely putting this out there.

    Using Tildes sometimes feels like talking into the void. The UI, even in Three Cheers, is minimal. The conversations sometimes clinical, though I greatly appreciate the compassion that comes through here versus other places that shall remain nameless.

    Yet I am struck. I've seen people here, more recently, cite meeting other Tildans (Tildaniens? Tilwhoseits?).

    As a somewhat reclusive 51 year-old married dude with only furry children, I don't get it. But I do know that I need more friendships. It gets harder, as you get older. (As for me, not keeping toxic friendships from school and later 2 decades working remotely led to, well, this.)

    So how do you connect with humans as humans here? How do you "make friends"?

    Asking as someone who has a diagnosed potent ADHD and perhaps other as yet medically undetermined NDisms.

    (No idea what tags to use for this. Help?)

    52 votes

  17. Comment on Why I am pursuing a life, professionally and personally, of Christian Virtue in ~humanities

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    I'm not sure that I've ever heard that quote. However, as a lapsed Jew now secular Buddhist, I find that I have the same outlook on my wife's family's Catholicism. Not making myself out to be some...

    I'm not sure that I've ever heard that quote. However, as a lapsed Jew now secular Buddhist, I find that I have the same outlook on my wife's family's Catholicism.

    Not making myself out to be some sort of perfect being yet I find that I live closer to Jesus than her family in some ways. I even challenged my father-in-law that his MAGA politics are at odds with his faith. Interestingly, he agreed and seemed confounded by that.

    Christianity, at least in America, seems to have little to do with Jesus' teachings, sadly.

    "I like your Christ but not your Christianity", indeed.

    9 votes

  18. Comment on Luigi Mangione prosecutors have a jury problem: 'So much sympathy' in ~society

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    That'd be my tin foil hat guess. Not saying that's the wrong guess.

    Possible assassination attempts against him?

    FBI, CIA, or a very well paid high end hitman hired discretely by a group of CEOs. Make it look like an ordinary killing, gang member, etc.

    That'd be my tin foil hat guess. Not saying that's the wrong guess.

    4 votes

  19. Comment on Luigi Mangione prosecutors have a jury problem: 'So much sympathy' in ~society

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    An third party fueled by violence? Could happen. That Overton window keeps moving...

    An third party fueled by violence? Could happen. That Overton window keeps moving...

    4 votes

  20. Comment on Luigi Mangione prosecutors have a jury problem: 'So much sympathy' in ~society

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    If it happened, I'm trying to imagine what a Mangione acquittal would look like for Mangione and the country. Courted by political parties? A run for public office, more likely as GOP? Possible...

    If it happened, I'm trying to imagine what a Mangione acquittal would look like for Mangione and the country.

    Courted by political parties?
    A run for public office, more likely as GOP?
    Possible assassination attempts against him?
    Biopic(s)? This seems almost guaranteed regardless of trial outcome.
    Increased violence against public figures, particularly corporate CEOs? The beginning of an American version of a French Revolution?

    5 votes