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Comment on An insight into looksmaxxxing/blackpill "ideology" in ~life
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Comment on An insight into looksmaxxxing/blackpill "ideology" in ~life
slade (edited )Link ParentAs a short man, i understand that women on dating apps sometimes have a lot of suitors and need a way to quickly filter that list down. I understand that the height filter will be the first one a...As a short man, i understand that women on dating apps sometimes have a lot of suitors and need a way to quickly filter that list down. I understand that the height filter will be the first one a lot of them go for. There were also a significant amount of height requirements in profiles, which can really erode your view of how others in general see you.
Edit: The above is very me-centric, but I see similar restrictions on race or body type. Height is the lense through which I'm most affected, but I can easily see these things applying for any number of filterable attributes.
I definitely spent some time internalizing that: I'm indesirable because I'm short. I spent time unspecifically angry about it. It's hard not to when you're young and lonely.
Over time I found wisdom in the realization that dating apps provide an imbalanced market of people, and simply aren't "fair" (nor is that their goal). For people who are highly attractive on paper, dating apps are a really good way to be choosy. The less attractive you are on paper, the more the app will make it hard for you.
My personal conclusion is that dating apps aren't for everyone, and some people in particular will have a very hard time. Unfortunately, their pretty ubiquitous, and it's hard to imagine them not being a major influence in this *pill problem. As my kids grow up, I hope they will eschew dating apps. If they use them, I hope they will have thick skin and understand that dating apps are not representative of real life; it's a viable but totally different way of finding people to date than meeting people through clubs and so on.
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Comment on 'Avatar Aang' movie footage seems to have leaked months ahead of Paramount+ premiere in ~movies
slade LinkThat Twitter user could've just... Not leaked it.That Twitter user could've just... Not leaked it.
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Comment on Humans are losing the fight against flying fish in ~enviro
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Comment on Half-baked idea for metered inline image allowances in ~tildes
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Comment on Amazon killing purchasing, borrowing and downloading books for older Kindles in ~tech
slade Link ParentI agree with you, but I doubt that has anything to do with their reasoning. They don't have a reason to support old devices other than ethics (lol) or it makes them money. I'm guessing they did...I agree with you, but I doubt that has anything to do with their reasoning. They don't have a reason to support old devices other than ethics (lol) or it makes them money. I'm guessing they did the math on how often users of older devices purchased new stuff and decided it wasn't worth supporting it for them.
I'm fairness, there has to be a point at which there aren't enough users of older devices to bother supporting them. Having said that, I won't give Amazon the benefit of the doubt. They could support it at a loss or if good will, but i suspect they are cutting it much earlier than the cost/benefit analysis requires. Especially if "making people happy" is factored into your benefits.
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Comment on Mamma mia! ‘Super Mario Galaxy Movie’ karts $372M+ in global debut, best for Hollywood pic YTD; ‘Project Hail Mary’ on path to half billion in ~movies
slade LinkI understand that the movie wasn't made for me, and I'm just a stick in the mud. But the preview only made me sad that I couldn't show a more chill Mario movie to my kids. The entire vibe of the...I understand that the movie wasn't made for me, and I'm just a stick in the mud. But the preview only made me sad that I couldn't show a more chill Mario movie to my kids.
The entire vibe of the previous was the same as a Marvel movie. The music, the dramatic action sequences ending with panting and ragged heroes and giant explosions, it just doesn't fit with any Mario game I've played. Admittedly I'm a few years out of the loop, but did play the first two Mario Galaxy games.
I guess this is controversial, but i don't think every movie needs to have emotional rollercoasters baked into the plot. It can just be fun, which is always how I felt the Mario games were.
This is all my reaction to a preview, though. My kids will want to see it, so I will, and maybe it'll be a lot better than I expect. Maybe Chris Pratt will suddenly sound like Mario after long enough.
Off to yell at more clouds...
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Comment on Tildes in JavaScript-free browsers in ~tildes
slade Link ParentI'm only speculating, but MDN states that the summary can contain flow content (generically), and details is flow content. I scanned for any exceptions about nesting but didn't see anything. Based...I'm only speculating, but MDN states that the summary can contain flow content (generically), and
detailsis flow content. I scanned for any exceptions about nesting but didn't see anything. Based on this, I'd be very surprised if accessibility tooling can't handle it.It would be interesting to test and find out, though.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
slade LinkPerdido Street Station, after just finishing Embassytown and seating it as my latest favorite. I was going to read Generation Ship as part of a casual book club with my dad, but my mom spoiled the...Perdido Street Station, after just finishing Embassytown and seating it as my latest favorite. I was going to read Generation Ship as part of a casual book club with my dad, but my mom spoiled the ending to me after we'd been discussing for a bit that I'd only just started it. I wasn't loving the prose, so having the ending spoiled killed my ambition to read it. I might come back later.
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Comment on Getting permission from your significant other in ~life
slade LinkI think it's largely option 3, at least as I see it anecdotally. Once you're in a family unit, you generally have to check with the family (or the family calendar) before booking your time. IMO...I think it's largely option 3, at least as I see it anecdotally. Once you're in a family unit, you generally have to check with the family (or the family calendar) before booking your time.
IMO it's not a gendered or boss/subordinate thing. It's just how you respect each other. I always assume people who frame it that way are joking.
Going deeper, I can say I've never heard the phrase "check with the boss"used by a woman or about a man; only by men about women. I think a lot of times it's because they rely on their partners to manage their schedule, putting their partner in the position to say yes or no.
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Comment on Anticipating a world where LLM use is widespread in ~tech
slade Link ParentI would rephrase this to say that LLMs are capable of being demonstrably less malicious than humans. My expectation is that as we refine and polish the technology, we will also refine and polish...LLMs are demonstrably less likely to be malicious than humans.
I would rephrase this to say that LLMs are capable of being demonstrably less malicious than humans. My expectation is that as we refine and polish the technology, we will also refine and polish how we can weaponize it for purposes of selling things and controlling information.
I think we're in the "build trust" phase of a new industry. I don't think it's long before LLMs are asked to misrepresent undesirable facts or serve as incognito sales consultants.
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Comment on Why Swedish schools are bringing back books in ~books
slade Link ParentI agree. There's a critical mass that, once reached in your neighborhood, not having a phone means not participating in the dominant form of socialization among your peers. I experienced a lesser...I agree. There's a critical mass that, once reached in your neighborhood, not having a phone means not participating in the dominant form of socialization among your peers. I experienced a lesser version of this in my my twenties when I passed on the Facebook bandwagon. It wasn't long before I wasn't invited to things, didn't get pictures. When I did it was extra effort just to share things with me after sharing them with everyone else, which only lasts for a while before people get tired of it. I wasn't cut out, but I effectively cut myself out by not subscribing to feed-based socialization.
I'd like opt out to be a strategy, and it is, but depending on your kid's social circle, the sacrifice may be very real. I definitely think kids are better off without phones, social media, infinite scrolling, and "algorithm"-fed content. But in the same way that I think humans are. As long as people flock to these platforms/behaviors in adulthood, I don't see them seriously protecting their children from them.
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Comment on Introducing EmDash — the spiritual successor to WordPress that solves plugin security in ~tech
slade Link ParentI'll join delphi in my WordPress hate. The early part of my career was pure WordPress (back around 2007 I think), and I remember always being shocked that such popular software was just monolithic...I'll join delphi in my WordPress hate. The early part of my career was pure WordPress (back around 2007 I think), and I remember always being shocked that such popular software was just monolithic plates of spaghetti. It was not good.
I always felt that WordPress didn't become popular for being well-built or well-architected. A lot of platforms did the same thing as WordPress, with some features better and some worse. I mostly think that WordPress just got lucky. Its plug-in/theme packaging was a big draw for users and builders, but it wasn't anything novel.
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Comment on Introducing EmDash — the spiritual successor to WordPress that solves plugin security in ~tech
slade Link ParentThat seems like the best strategy for rolling out any new standard that requires bank interaction. It ensure that banks can be consumers of the standard, like the rest of us.That seems like the best strategy for rolling out any new standard that requires bank interaction. It ensure that banks can be consumers of the standard, like the rest of us.
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Comment on 'Banal and hollow': Why the quaint paintings of Thomas Kinkade divided the US in ~arts
slade Link ParentI can only laugh. I worked for an art vendor in 2000s and remember when we launched our Thomas Kinkade offering. It was a big event for us and led to a ton of orders. I remember being drawn in by...I can only laugh. I worked for an art vendor in 2000s and remember when we launched our Thomas Kinkade offering. It was a big event for us and led to a ton of orders.
I remember being drawn in by the warmth of his paintings. I used to imagine being inside those houses. But I also recognized that they were thematically basic and repetitious. Back then I didn't think to Google people, so I just assumed he was this old grandfatherly type recluse who just liked to paint. I guess I imagined him living in one of those little winter hamlets.
Then I read about him peeing on Winnie the Pooh and heckling other artists and I can only laugh. If I were a fan I'd be disappointed, and I'm certainly surprised, but at the same time not. The disconnect between his product and his persona seems to be consistent with someone who was just marketing and hustling for cash.
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Comment on Pokémon Go players built a thirty-billion-photo map for AI in ~tech
slade LinkIt sounds like they didn't do it for AI. They did it for harmless fun. It was then used to feed AI.It sounds like they didn't do it for AI. They did it for harmless fun. It was then used to feed AI.
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Comment on Backrooms | Official trailer in ~movies
slade Link ParentIf the antagonist is not an inert physical structure, I will be very disappointed. I watched the first half of the trailer and I'm optimistic.If the antagonist is not an inert physical structure, I will be very disappointed.
I watched the first half of the trailer and I'm optimistic.
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Comment on Scientists uncovered the nutrients bees were missing -- colonies surged fifteen-fold in ~science
slade Link ParentThe more I think about the word "livestock", the more dystopian it feels.The more I think about the word "livestock", the more dystopian it feels.
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Comment on Looking for surreal horror/mindbending in ~books
slade Link ParentI just got to and through Embassytown from this recommendation thread, and wanted to share that it's the one I've enjoyed most so far. spoilers I teared up when Spanish Dancer spoke to Avice for...I just got to and through Embassytown from this recommendation thread, and wanted to share that it's the one I've enjoyed most so far.
spoilers
I teared up when Spanish Dancer spoke to Avice for the first time.
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Comment on Olympic committee announces a broad ban on transgender athletes and athletes with differences in sex development in Women’s events (gifted link) in ~lgbt
slade Link ParentI couldn't agree more. This is something I've felt for most of my life: The sheer time and energy and wealth that goes into fighting against people quietly living their lives is upsetting. What...I couldn't agree more. This is something I've felt for most of my life:
why are you spending mental effort coming to a conclusion on this, a topic which barely affects a handful of people
The sheer time and energy and wealth that goes into fighting against people quietly living their lives is upsetting. What would happen if we took every dollar spent on *-phobic lobbying and theater and spent it on, I don't know, healthcare and education? I wonder how things might look different?
I wonder what the stats are on app-initiated relationships versus traditional. I might dig into this later out of curiosity.