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  1. Comment on When is comedy NOT at the consequence of something else's tragedy? in ~talk

  2. Comment on How far do you live from the place you were born? in ~talk

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    2328 Miles, can't wait to mover either closer or further as I'm not too fond of where I'm currently at.

    2328 Miles, can't wait to mover either closer or further as I'm not too fond of where I'm currently at.

    4 votes
  3. Comment on If you've ever wore braces or any similar mouth/teeth focused apparel, what has your experience been like? in ~talk

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    I had top and bottom retainers glued in for two years and braces for four. Yes, the years overlapped so I had retainers and braces cemented in my mouth for two years. It was all through jr high....

    I had top and bottom retainers glued in for two years and braces for four. Yes, the years overlapped so I had retainers and braces cemented in my mouth for two years. It was all through jr high. It was pretty terrible. The retainers left little room for my tongue and screwed up my speech quite a bit. I had terrible headaches from the braces and they would scrape up the inside of my mouth. But when I had them both in the headaches were much worse. They pulled my regular adult cannines that were in place and moved the second four canines, that were up in the gums (I had a full set of fangs), where the old ones were (I have no idea why they didn't just pull the second set.) I hated them and was thrilled when I finally got rid of that shit. They gave me a mouth guard to sleep in. It had three tiny square holes to breath through and the fucking thing didn't fit. I couldn't get it in. I asked for another and was told to just force it. So after a week of migraines I threw it away. My teeth aren't exactly straight and now my jaw doesn't line up, so every time I see a new dentist they recommend I get braces (which is irritating as fuck.) My teeth are somewhat better than before but my orthadonist was pretty much shit, so please shop around for a good one. And if you get braces you'll probably want to avoid shit like taffy.

    1 vote
  4. Comment on California Gubernatorial Election in ~talk

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    I'm an ex Californian and I'm just kind of baffled by the whole ordeal. I'm assuming it's a shady republican power grab but I haven't looked that much into it.

    I'm an ex Californian and I'm just kind of baffled by the whole ordeal. I'm assuming it's a shady republican power grab but I haven't looked that much into it.

    1 vote
  5. Comment on What’s a mistake many people do not know they are making? in ~talk

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    I don't know how much that has to do with tobacoo taxes to be honest. If you've smoked for a while, it's weird not having your hand and mouth doing something. And to that the lack of nicotine...

    I don't know how much that has to do with tobacoo taxes to be honest. If you've smoked for a while, it's weird not having your hand and mouth doing something. And to that the lack of nicotine spikes and lots of things that I used to really enjoy are boring, going for walks, driving, ect. So I understand replacing that with food would make the initial break easier but unfortunately often people wind up changing addictions instead of quitting one.

    4 votes
  6. Comment on What do you like and dislike about your chosen music service(s)? in ~music

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    Spotify, my log in stopped working and I can't seem to reset my password or anything. I didn't use it much anyway. I just need to cancel it at this point.

    Spotify, my log in stopped working and I can't seem to reset my password or anything. I didn't use it much anyway. I just need to cancel it at this point.

    2 votes
  7. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (August 2021) in ~talk

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    Dude, I decided pretty early in life that I hate dating. It involves way too much pretense and expectations. I found, I love to hang out one on one with people. But when framed as a date it was...

    Dude, I decided pretty early in life that I hate dating. It involves way too much pretense and expectations. I found, I love to hang out one on one with people. But when framed as a date it was ackward, stuffy, boring, and well... not for me. My whole thing is I just want to hang out and have fun. I wasn't looking for sex, a commitment or any relationship bullshit, that shit comes on it's own if you're having fun, past tense since I'm married. So when I would hang out with someone the first time we would usually meet up at a coffee shop or a bar and then go to a sporting event, an amusement park, the zoo, miniature golf, ect. Sometimes it was a disaster. But most of the time even if we didn't click, we had fun. And that's the key, just have fun. If you're not having fun you're doing something wrong. From the sound of things, you need to stop trying to date. Sounds like you might want to work on yourself for a while.

    If you hate your volunteer job, fucking quit. You're already doing them a favor, you owe them nothing. If you're not getting anything positive from it quit. Take some time to study and then for yourself. Then if you want, volunteer somewhere else, like a cat rescue center ( sweep and feed cats for twenty minutes once a week. Cute bastards!)

    Lastly, people suck. I am one of them. I like teasing people I like and have gone overboard on many occasions. I've become much more aware of that over time. There will always be shitheads. The internet is full of them. Ignore them or stay offline for a while (you should anyway, hit the books dude.) I have had roomates I didn't know that were great, I've had roomates I didn't know that were awful. But sometimes you just have to roll those dice. If you don't have to awesome. If you do, it sucks but it'll be temporary. I met one of my best friends twenty years ago that way. If you can stay where you're at without any problems, than the nay sayers can fuck off. School is more important, think long term with short term goals.

    7 votes
  8. Comment on Tobacco firm Philip Morris calls for ban on cigarettes within decade in ~news

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    DIY vaping can be really cheap. But using something like Juul's disposable pods are not, depending on where you live they are not cheaper than cigs( one of the southern states, I can't remember...

    DIY vaping can be really cheap. But using something like Juul's disposable pods are not, depending on where you live they are not cheaper than cigs( one of the southern states, I can't remember which one right now, but cigs are $3.50 a pack - so it might be cheaper there than using a Juul . It's why Atria, Phillip Morris' parent company, bought 35% of Juul for 12.8 billion in 2018. So Juul are going to do their thing and Phillip Morris will push heated tobacco, I forgot what it's called, and win on both sides. To me it just looks like a way to skirt current regulations, while gaining PR points. I think they are mostly focused on selling cigs in Asia these days anyway. But if nothing else, they are set to profit off it or they wouldn't bother.

    1 vote
  9. Comment on How to not feel lonely? in ~life

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    You sound like you're having a pretty bad anxiety attack. I assume you know how to handle your own anxious energy (deep breathing, yoga, excersize, whatever.) Start with that. Take a break for a...

    You sound like you're having a pretty bad anxiety attack. I assume you know how to handle your own anxious energy (deep breathing, yoga, excersize, whatever.) Start with that. Take a break for a minute. I've gone through similar, it fucking sucks. But you'll be ok.

    I've had way more godawful therapists, neurologists, and doctors than decent ones, by a long shot. So don't just trust their judgement. If it explains some of the things about you, great! You just got to know yourself better. If not, fuck it, get a new doctor.

    It sounds like you didn't view your quirks as much of a negative before, so really this diagnosis shouldn't change much. The D in OCPD is for Disorder. If it's not regularly impacting your life in a negative way, it's not a disorder. If they are minor inconviences than it's a light disorder. It's a huge sliding scale.

    Dude, we are a sum of our parts. I'm autistic, does that mean that's who I am? I'm just autism, fucking of course not. But it does explain why I do think certain ways or do certain things sometimes. It explains a lot of things I struggled with when I was younger and some I still struggle with. I wound up accepting this shit as part of who I am in my late teens/early twenties, much like how you view your quirks. The diagnosis didn't change that. It doesn't have to change shit for you either. It might help explain some things or it could be bullshit. Either way, the diagnosis is only as important as you make it. You seem to be forgetting that you might not control all your quirks but overall you're behind the wheel.

    You have friends. You have a girlfriend. You have parents you care about. Sounds to me like you're probably not that broken. Maybe damaged or bruised. But we all are to a varying extent and it's always changing. So it's not worth worrying about.

    Of course, you can tell your parents, shit they've watched your quirks for ages. They probably knew them before you did. More than likely they just opted to let you grow into the person you are without telling you or making you feel broken. You know, being good parents.

    Where did you go before the diagnosis? What did you do before the diagnosis? That's what you should be doing, the same shit. You're still the same person. What would you have done without the diagnosis. That diagnosis doesn't change who you are. It might explain a couple things, but that's all. On the flip side if you don't like some of your quirks or they are interfering with your life in a shitty way, you now have a much easier path to changing these things.

    3 votes
  10. Comment on Tips for dealing with bedbugs? in ~life

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    If it's in the building they will just visit your neighbors for a while and come back. But there are things that will help. I would recommend bagging your mattress, keeping your place extremely...

    If it's in the building they will just visit your neighbors for a while and come back. But there are things that will help. I would recommend bagging your mattress, keeping your place extremely clean and clear of clutter, empty the vaccuum after each use and throw the bags contents in a trash outside immediately, wash your clothes on high heat and keep dirty clothes in a sealed plastic bag until you wash it (throw the bag away with each load). It basically amounts to do everything you can to make it is as hard for them as possible. Contact your landlord they should be taking take of this. And if they don't do shit hire an attorney and look to get out of your lease.

    2 votes
  11. Comment on New ad-free search subscription service: Neeva in ~tech

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    Just a heads up, Startpage was bought by the ad company System1 in 2019.

    Just a heads up, Startpage was bought by the ad company System1 in 2019.

    12 votes
  12. Comment on Microsoft announces Windows 11, with a new design, Start menu, and more in ~tech

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    Seeing that Microsoft removed that option If you connect to the internet during install, I wouldn't say that it's 'under-emphasized', I'd call it a dark pattern.

    Seeing that Microsoft removed that option If you connect to the internet during install, I wouldn't say that it's 'under-emphasized', I'd call it a dark pattern.

    6 votes
  13. Comment on Is anyone else here trying to understand or deal with how 'time flies by' with age? in ~talk

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    This dawned on me years ago and as far as I know it's my own bullshit, enjoy... As you age your perception of time shrinks accordingly. You're trying to measure on a constantly sliding scale....

    This dawned on me years ago and as far as I know it's my own bullshit, enjoy...

    As you age your perception of time shrinks accordingly. You're trying to measure on a constantly sliding scale. Think about how long the summer is when your a kid. Say you're eight years old. That summer is roughly (3 months/96 months) 3% of your life. At 40 it's roughly ( 3 months/480 months) 0.6%. It's like percieving distance only your reference point is always moving away. The actual time is still the same, so don't let it get you down.

    I think we should vary experiences and keep learning new things, just like they say in the article. But I'm a little skeptical that it'll change our perception of time. Instead, I think we'll become better people, who have lived more interesting and more fun lives.

    7 votes
  14. Comment on Windows 11 leak reveals new UI, Start menu, and more in ~tech

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    W8 might have been the truly worste Windows experience you've had, but it makes me wonder if you had to deal with the truly awful Windows ME? It made the awful interface of 8 seem wonderful since...

    W8 might have been the truly worste Windows experience you've had, but it makes me wonder if you had to deal with the truly awful Windows ME? It made the awful interface of 8 seem wonderful since it wasn't crashing multiple times a day. I was working tech support when ME came out, it truly was a shitshow.

    5 votes
  15. Comment on If the age-old theory of soulmates is but a theory, why are so many inclined to believe in it? in ~humanities

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    There are over six billion people on the planet. I'm pretty sure you would mesh with more than one of them.

    There are over six billion people on the planet. I'm pretty sure you would mesh with more than one of them.

    5 votes
  16. Comment on Let's talk about attention in ~talk

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    Are you happy with your ability to manage your attention and focus? Nope. Do you feel like you're in control of your attention? Is it something you have to manage? Not really. Yes. Do you feel as...
    • Are you happy with your ability to manage your attention and focus?
      Nope.
    • Do you feel like you're in control of your attention? Is it something you have to manage?
      Not really. Yes.
    • Do you feel as if anything has changed over time?
      It seems to have gotten worse now that I spend more time online. But it's always been pretty bad.
    • How would you describe your attention/focus to someone who experiences theirs in a different way from you?
      I struggle to focus on most things and have to make it race to see how fast I can finish shit, sometimes that doesn't help. But on the other hand, sometimes something will suck me in. And I lose track of everything else, including time, it's kind of like I'm hypnotized. Anywhere from six to eighteen hours can pass and it seems like minutes. It's pretty crazy how much I get done when I'm in that state. I wish I could choose when that would happen and I could focus better without it.
    2 votes
  17. Comment on Florida’s new transgender sports ban permits schools to require "routine sports physical examination" of the students' genitals, genetic makeup, and testosterone levels in ~lgbt

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    Not just transpeople. They can also fuck with and degrade cis girls just by claiming they're trans. It's disgusting.

    Not just transpeople. They can also fuck with and degrade cis girls just by claiming they're trans. It's disgusting.

    14 votes
  18. Comment on What's your proposing/marriage story? in ~talk

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    My wife took me to a bar for an afternoon beer. We were sitting outside on the patio. I was fairly drunk and smoking when she asked if I would marry her. I said, "I probably would but I never...

    My wife took me to a bar for an afternoon beer. We were sitting outside on the patio. I was fairly drunk and smoking when she asked if I would marry her. I said, "I probably would but I never figured I'd get married." She leaned back and turned straight toward me saying, "No, I'm asking you to marry me. Not a hypothetical. Fuuuuuck."

    6 votes
  19. Comment on Song suggestions about: Cars, driving, trucking, racing, police chases, etc in ~music

  20. Comment on I'm moving between apartments soon. Do you have any advice or protips on the logistics of moving? in ~life

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    I've mostly moved long distances but my experiences with in town movers has been pretty good. Your stuff is moved where you want it in a few hours. It's pretty boring though, so grab a book and...

    I've mostly moved long distances but my experiences with in town movers has been pretty good. Your stuff is moved where you want it in a few hours. It's pretty boring though, so grab a book and make sure your laptop is charged. I usually tip the movers cash so if you do that, hit up the bank in advance and get it in denominations that they don't need to split. We often buy our movers pizza as well.

    Go through everything and start throwing shit out. The more you get rid of the easier a move is, unless you have to rebuy.

    Depending on the size of the rooms you probably want to measure things (beds, dressers, desks, etc.) to figure out what rooms to put them in.

    When you start packing things label boxes per room ( I prefer to use colored labels so I can tell the movers 'red goes over here' and 'green goes in that bedroom', that type of thing.) For my work room, I number the boxes and make a list that matches what's in what box. Makes it easier to work on one room at a time.

    You're probably going to be pretty worn out so pack a suitcase with a couple days of clothes, your meds, toothbrush, chargers, etc. and throw it in your vehicle with your financial and tax records( I'm not that trusting). That way no matter what happens you've got your ass covered.

    As stated above, schedule your utility turn ons/ installs in advance.

    Moving is fun and exciting but that day is usually a bit rough so figure out what you're going to do for food in advance.

    4 votes