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  1. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Oh I mean literally yes but like, more like doing other things to or adding things with the rice and making it so I knew what to do with all the rice itself. Something I don't eat super often for...

    Oh I mean literally yes but like, more like doing other things to or adding things with the rice and making it so I knew what to do with all the rice itself. Something I don't eat super often for no particular reason I can think of

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  2. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Popcorn - usually stove or Costco bagged but with Creole seasoning and nutritional yeast - is one of my frequent snacks but I don't really want low calorie so much as "can eat". Veggies and dip...

    Popcorn - usually stove or Costco bagged but with Creole seasoning and nutritional yeast - is one of my frequent snacks but I don't really want low calorie so much as "can eat". Veggies and dip can go ok with cheese or something else but are not great solo since I usually need something filling to go with. (And thinking that through when everything sounds like trash is hard).

    But I do try to keep baby carrots around for that.

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  3. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Yeah I was thinking Indian but Thai curry I could easily get the ingredients for if I get the time and energy (and the willingness to "waste food" if I screw up. It's a weird mental thing) and I...

    Yeah I was thinking Indian but Thai curry I could easily get the ingredients for if I get the time and energy (and the willingness to "waste food" if I screw up. It's a weird mental thing) and I don't think partner has tried it yet.

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  4. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Oh I know they're very popular. We don't eat rice super often but tbh I think we could easily. I just didn't grow up with or around them so I never felt like I knew what I was doing. (We had more...

    Oh I know they're very popular. We don't eat rice super often but tbh I think we could easily. I just didn't grow up with or around them so I never felt like I knew what I was doing. (We had more pasta or potatoes than rice as our starch/grain)

  5. Comment on Oscars shock: YouTube wins TV rights to host Academy Awards from 2029 in ~movies

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    Got it, thanks! I was mostly spitballing but it will be more accessible to the cord-cutters this way I suppose.

    Got it, thanks! I was mostly spitballing but it will be more accessible to the cord-cutters this way I suppose.

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  6. Comment on The populist revolt against cognitive elites in ~society

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    I am not assuming ill intention. The closest I said about your intentions was that you were "trying to redefine..." Which says nothing "ill" about them. The urban food desert is not a "healthy...

    I am not assuming ill intention. The closest I said about your intentions was that you were "trying to redefine..." Which says nothing "ill" about them. The urban food desert is not a "healthy food" desert, all food deserts are. I could have worded it differently but I felt anything else would sound harsher.

    I appreciate the additional context about distance as I didn't pull up maps, just definitions to provide the correct ones. (Staten Island is the exception in NYC though). I'm not sure what standard they're using, or whether there are nuances to NYC not being caught by the USDA 's maps, but regardless, presuming good faith from the incoming mayoral campaign these are underserved areas and the current businesses and subsidizations aren't sufficient.

    Once again, no assuming ill intentions here. Just stating info and my opinion.

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  7. Comment on Advice request: potentially adopting a cat in ~life.pets

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    I'd recommend a litter mat of some sort under/around the box. They catch the litter that's tracked out. Once again every cat is different, so it may depend on how much they kick or track out with...

    I'd recommend a litter mat of some sort under/around the box. They catch the litter that's tracked out. Once again every cat is different, so it may depend on how much they kick or track out with them. Top entry works great as long as the cat will use it.

    I don't use the crystal litter, just the regular clumping scoopable and it keeps the tracked litter down a lot. (I also don't prefer liners because I think they get torn up by my cats who do a lot of "arranging" the litter)

    But litter boxes I just buy at the store and don't really have a favorite. Something somewhat deep is all I can say.

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  8. Comment on Oscars shock: YouTube wins TV rights to host Academy Awards from 2029 in ~movies

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    As in people were mad or people didn't watch?

    As in people were mad or people didn't watch?

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  9. Comment on The populist revolt against cognitive elites in ~society

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    You're trying to redefine "food desert" when lack of access to a supermarket/large grocery store is key to the USDA definition. More broadly access to large grocery stores functions as a stand in...

    You're trying to redefine "food desert" when lack of access to a supermarket/large grocery store is key to the USDA definition. More broadly access to large grocery stores functions as a stand in for access to affordable nutritious/healthy foods including fresh fruit and veg. Income is also a factor so wealthier suburbs who are content to drive to Sprouts don't get included.

    But the definition assumes the presence of bodegas, corner/convenience stores and fast food places and does not count them.

    Fwiw the bodega owners supported Mamdani (their money comes from lottery, alcohol, tobacco, and possibly hot prepared food, not sure the margins on those).

    If the public stores are low quality, expensive, or demonstrate a higher demand than retailers were anticipating, they may get competition. But probably the food deserts will only change when the neighborhood population changes - via gentrification or other income increases - leading to grocery stores being interested in moving in again. But it doesn't make sense to me to not try something because it might interfere with other businesses who are currently not serving those areas nor planning to.

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  10. Comment on Oscars shock: YouTube wins TV rights to host Academy Awards from 2029 in ~movies

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    Ah, I really haven't watched those. I am sure they could do alternative material during that time but also again, I am a very low interest viewer.

    Ah, I really haven't watched those. I am sure they could do alternative material during that time but also again, I am a very low interest viewer.

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  11. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    No it makes sense, especially if I'm not hungry getting enough calories as easily as possible is better than grazing a bit and eating something shitty later because I'm now starving. Everyone is...

    No it makes sense, especially if I'm not hungry getting enough calories as easily as possible is better than grazing a bit and eating something shitty later because I'm now starving.

    Everyone is so good at rice here though!

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  12. Comment on Want to get in the gym? Here are some tips from a beginner.* in ~health

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    You can also find folks like John Noel who show a lot of exercise modifications and "it's not exercise it's just moving around" sorts of things. He also does a "it's not cooking it's just mixing...

    You can also find folks like John Noel who show a lot of exercise modifications and "it's not exercise it's just moving around" sorts of things. He also does a "it's not cooking it's just mixing stuff" series.

    And he often highlights popular videos or recipes by other creators and gives the easier/more accessible alternatives. I've enjoyed him and he's an exception to the sorts of "fitness/food" accounts I follow because he's genuinely focused on access

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  13. Comment on Oscars shock: YouTube wins TV rights to host Academy Awards from 2029 in ~movies

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    So will there be no commercials for people with YouTube subscriptions? I don't hate the pivot, I don't typically watch the Awards anyway but YouTube might give the show more freedom. Idk.

    So will there be no commercials for people with YouTube subscriptions? I don't hate the pivot, I don't typically watch the Awards anyway but YouTube might give the show more freedom. Idk.

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  14. Comment on Experiences with foster system and support for removed relatives in ~life

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    On the therapy side this is something that CPS/DCFS/the state agency should also be facilitating and generally should be covered by them cost-wise as well. Family placement is where some of that...

    On the therapy side this is something that CPS/DCFS/the state agency should also be facilitating and generally should be covered by them cost-wise as well.

    Family placement is where some of that stuff can get wonky and my work was only in DCFS adjacent fields but it is absolutely worth asking for assistance finding a good provider at a minimum.

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  15. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I used to keep small precooked packages of chicken in the fridge for a quesadilla. Maybe if I crack open a can of refried beans and have it already in the fridge in Tupperware it'll feel less like...

    I used to keep small precooked packages of chicken in the fridge for a quesadilla. Maybe if I crack open a can of refried beans and have it already in the fridge in Tupperware it'll feel less like cooking and more like putting stuff together.

    Can you just toss dumplings into a rice cooker with the rice? I do not have one and am being swayed.

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  16. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Salty makes sense. I don't have a rice cooker but I'm starting to feel like I should. Peanut butter and bananas is a good option for me, with or without bread. Fruit is just hard sometimes because...

    Salty makes sense. I don't have a rice cooker but I'm starting to feel like I should.

    Peanut butter and bananas is a good option for me, with or without bread. Fruit is just hard sometimes because it often goes bad before we get to it. I do have some miso soup packets (I haven't seen miso stock or is it a different stock I should look for?)

    Once I get to cooking noodles and adding to broth + veggies though I'm hitting a level of cooking that won't work on the really rough nights. (Complicating things is my partner wants to and plans to cook and then doesn't feel well and isn't hungry and doesn't cook and I am not prepared for the decision making process of finding food and cooking when I thought he was handling it. Especially when my appetite is also shit.). I do like a good oatmeal with frozen berries and some brown sugar and butter. Maybe "brown" Splenda.

    Thanks for the ideas!

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  17. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Thanks! I love a yellow Thai curry in particular. I was thinking of (Punjabi) Indian food when I replied. Maybe I should get some curry paste and try it at home.

    Thanks! I love a yellow Thai curry in particular. I was thinking of (Punjabi) Indian food when I replied. Maybe I should get some curry paste and try it at home.

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  18. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    I want to make curry but garam masala is intimidating and my partner isn't a fan so I end up chickening out and making other things and ordering Indian as a treat instead. ETA: I should have asked...

    I want to make curry but garam masala is intimidating and my partner isn't a fan so I end up chickening out and making other things and ordering Indian as a treat instead.

    ETA: I should have asked what kind of curry? Indian? British? Thai? Japanese? Something else?

  19. Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food

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    Note: this is not about an eating disorder but it is about struggling with hunger/appetite. I'm struggling to both enjoy and cook food recently. It's a mix of Adderall and exhaustion and I would...

    Note: this is not about an eating disorder but it is about struggling with hunger/appetite.

    I'm struggling to both enjoy and cook food recently. It's a mix of Adderall and exhaustion and I would love ideas for "anytime" foods - Foods I feel like I can eat anytime even when it's not appetizing but not just desserts.

    Cheese is almost always a win for example and relatively good for me, and cereal, while less optimal, is usually ok. Sometimes I can put together a "girl dinner" or bread/cheese/meat because that's basically a sandwich, but when my meds are still working at home after work I get things done and don't want food or water and I end up sipping ice water and not eating much.

    Tonight is a pot pie but I'm sort of staring at it because while I'm hungry, I don't want food, ya know?

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  20. Comment on The populist revolt against cognitive elites in ~society

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    That was the pledge. Plus, people buying food in food deserts are typically buying from more expensive convenience stores rather than a traditional grocery store. The costs and margins there are...

    That was the pledge. Plus, people buying food in food deserts are typically buying from more expensive convenience stores rather than a traditional grocery store. The costs and margins there are different and a public entity would have some collective buying power as well ( personally I'm curious if Whole Foods and Walmart have the same margins)

    My kindest read is that the author is the victim of the telephone game of news blurbs and pundits talking about Mamdani's promises, especially not being in NYC or the US. A less kind one would suspect the author of intentional misrepresentation.

    ETA I will add a few things - the five stores have been described as a pilot and the intent is that they would have significantly reduced overhead and collective buying power leading to lower prices. Opinion writers seem to focus on the idea that grocery stores are being perceived as greedy price gougers when I believe Mamdani has been focusing on access to cheaper groceries.

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