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  1. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    No worries, I think many if not most of or all of us here would want to actually do good with that kind of money. I wanted to encourage the playfulness this time. ˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗

    No worries, I think many if not most of or all of us here would want to actually do good with that kind of money. I wanted to encourage the playfulness this time.

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    Sure, in the real world but this is the "wizard cursed you with billions you must waste" world. If you don't play by the rules of the curse, you automatically become the kind of person no one...

    Sure, in the real world but this is the "wizard cursed you with billions you must waste" world.

    If you don't play by the rules of the curse, you automatically become the kind of person no one mourns when orcas capsize your yacht. It's a chance to be silly, on purpose. Take advantage of that and don't make the curse make you the billionaire that pays someone to make them look good at video games and be locked by everyone for it.

  4. Comment on In an extract from their new book, international referee Jonas Eriksson describes how top officials were made to strip down to be weighed and have their body fat checked in ~sports.football

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    Hyperbole, but "a few" other metrics for fitness would have worked just fine. The description of the whole thing sounds like it became a weight loss/body fat focused thing to the exclusion of all...

    Not really... there are maybe a few, not dozens. Evaluating referee performance in terms of their decisions is much more of an art than a science, and it would have been even more so in the era before VAR. So much in football is always undeniably subjective.

    Hyperbole, but "a few" other metrics for fitness would have worked just fine. The description of the whole thing sounds like it became a weight loss/body fat focused thing to the exclusion of all else. If the ref can keep up with the game, avoid being involved in plays, etc then whether they're carrying extra pounds or have more body fat doesn't actually matter unless you care about how they look.

    I did forget the part you quoted about looking like a top-level referee though.

    That's why I'm saying this was unnecessary.

    They undoubtedly were not lol, though things have improved since then. The time referred to in the book excerpt was when the program was first being implemented.

    Sure, there are issues with disordered eating among professional athletes, especially those with high levels of perfectionism, more so in sports with weight classes or where appearance is part of the judging instead of performance. Soccer players may be socially judged or shamed for their bodies but their performance isn't tied to it like gymnastics. Tying the refs performance to their bodies is not a good thing from this lens either.

    Here's where I have an issue. I'm not doubting your insight with the people you encounter, but the referees in question were in a specific context, doing an elite job where physical stamina is a clear prerequisite, not to mention the mental toughness to deal with potentially being berated by tens of thousands of people. Is that really where concern for eating disorders is likely to be best placed? For someone being encouraged to lose weight at 18% body fat? Come on. Yes, top-level sport on the whole nowadays does sacrifice long-term health for short-term performance, but these people are not making decisions blindly.

    In a thread about refs talking about how horrible it was to be body shamed publicly and have their whole lives revolve around weight loss and such? Yeah I think it's where it's incredibly relevant to express concern about disordered eating. My doing so takes zero funding or resources from DE/ED focus elsewhere.

    And yes someone being publicly shamed for having 18% body fat is 100% part of the actions that lead to disordered eating and depression and any number of things. As for "mental toughness" the implication that being bothered by all of this is somehow not being tough like it's a personal failing, is like calling Simone Biles weak for getting the twisties. Physical stamina isn't the same as body fat percentage. Mental toughness is unrelated to body fat percentage. Plenty of outright fat people get yelled at by tens of thousands of people. How was this ref's performance vs his "look" and why did they care about one vs the other?

    From what I can see, with the knowledge and experience I have, they cared more about appearance than performance and chose a method to achieve that that absolutely was harmful to the people there. I'm sure some of them were unbothered and others were conditioned to STFU and not "whine" - men in particular are told that and people in "elite" jobs that are not secure don't complain lest they lose them - but no, I'd never recommend this for any population. It's not more ok because they're adult men than it is for teen girls.

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  5. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    I fear we're losing the "ridiculous" portion of this. Please stop trying to do good!

    I fear we're losing the "ridiculous" portion of this. Please stop trying to do good!

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  6. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Unfortunately due to the terms of the curse, right as you're ready to give your money away you blow it on a trip to the Titanic in your homemade submersible. But at least you go out with a bang

    Unfortunately due to the terms of the curse, right as you're ready to give your money away you blow it on a trip to the Titanic in your homemade submersible. But at least you go out with a bang

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  7. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Very cool, I'll check it out and recommend it back to my coworker.

    Very cool, I'll check it out and recommend it back to my coworker.

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  8. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    They didn't want that level of responsibility and preferred the aesthetic of the Ren Faire on a village level. Who am I to argue!

    They didn't want that level of responsibility and preferred the aesthetic of the Ren Faire on a village level. Who am I to argue!

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    Unnecessarily dangerous yet cool. Perfect!

    Unnecessarily dangerous yet cool. Perfect!

  12. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Will you bury them into the tomb out of necessity afterwards? Sucks for them but it is traditional

    Will you bury them into the tomb out of necessity afterwards? Sucks for them but it is traditional

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  13. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Fair enough, but just know you're the poster child for the enshittified internet. Cory doctorow hates you. (My personal curses are smaller this is all the wizard. )

    Fair enough, but just know you're the poster child for the enshittified internet. Cory doctorow hates you.

    (My personal curses are smaller this is all the wizard. )

  14. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    See this is whimsy while still maintaining the environment. Ish. (We won't talk about the balloons! 🎈 ) I do love a good fancy ass tomb. I know a wizard who can curse it for you!

    See this is whimsy while still maintaining the environment. Ish. (We won't talk about the balloons! 🎈 )

    I do love a good fancy ass tomb. I know a wizard who can curse it for you!

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    If I don't respond to you it's because of the rate limit, I'll get around to everyone I hope, but you all know in your heart if you're just loopholing in which case you lose the game (and you just...

    If I don't respond to you it's because of the rate limit, I'll get around to everyone I hope, but you all know in your heart if you're just loopholing in which case you lose the game (and you just lost the game) no matter how clever you are!

    Some ideas from my coworkers

    A competing restaurant to Olive Garden but where the staff actually act like your Italian family (they're paid well), arguments, guilt and Nonna in the kitchen telling the chefs what to do. Don't like the food? Explain to this 4'10" nonna, who slaved over the stove for hours and has made pasta for over fifty years, by hand, what exactly you think is wrong with it. Don't you dare make her cry.

    Buying the best tickets to every concert she wants to see, flying first class or private around the country to see them all and spending the rest on paying older legends who rarely perform to do private concerts

    A private permanent Renaissance faire just so they can be the Monarch. Guests can come but must all bow to their whim.

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    Nah I meant more like building the John Oliver Koala Chlamydia Ward (especially on someone else's behalf as done there), not doing things you want to do and pretending they're silly. Alas the...

    Nah I meant more like building the John Oliver Koala Chlamydia Ward (especially on someone else's behalf as done there), not doing things you want to do and pretending they're silly.

    Alas the curse will claim you and instead you'll make all the stuff you just bought proprietary, licensed on a subscription model at an exorbitant price and you'll tweet about how stupid people are for wanting free shit.

  19. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    Don't they have a ton of those ordered via Rivian? I've seen pics of them (they're in Central IL) The curse may allow it. Only you know if this is only pettiness in your heart.

    Don't they have a ton of those ordered via Rivian? I've seen pics of them (they're in Central IL)

    The curse may allow it. Only you know if this is only pettiness in your heart.

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  20. Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk

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    (눈‸눈) You cannot trick the curse, even if you trick me. (ಠ_ಠ)━☆ﾟ.*･｡ﾟ

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    You cannot trick the curse, even if you trick me.

    (⁠ಠ⁠_⁠ಠ⁠)⁠━⁠☆ﾟ⁠.⁠*⁠･⁠｡ﾟ

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