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Comment on No bull: This Austrian cow has learned to use tools in ~science
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Comment on What new poems have you come across this year? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI did not intend to read poems and then I did. For Renee Nicole Good Killed by I.C.E. January 7, 2026 by Amanda Gorman They say she is no more, That there her absence roars, Blood-blown like a...I did not intend to read poems and then I did.
For Renee Nicole Good Killed by I.C.E. January 7, 2026
by Amanda Gorman
They say she is no more,
That there her absence roars,
Blood-blown like a rose.
Iced wheels flinched & froze.
Now, bare riot of candles,
Dark fury of flowers,
Pure howling of hymns.If for us she arose,
Somewhere, in the pitched deep of our grief,
Crouches our power,
The howl where we begin,
Straining upon the edge of the crooked crater
Of the worst of what we’ve been.Change is only possible,
& all the greater,
When the labour
& bitter anger of our neighbors
Is moved by the love
& better angels of our nature.What they call death & void,
We know is breath & voice;
In the end, gorgeously,
Endures our enormity.You could believe departed to be the dawn
When the blank night has so long stood.
But our bright-fled angels will never be fully gone,
When they forever are so fiercely Good.And on Instagram (because I cannot do justice by copying the text without her formatting.
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Comment on No bull: This Austrian cow has learned to use tools in ~science
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAlas, it's hard to explain. Shortest version is that a character is complaining about people fixating on the death of cows and is sarcastically recounting being told repeatedly about how rich...Alas, it's hard to explain. Shortest version is that a character is complaining about people fixating on the death of cows and is sarcastically recounting being told repeatedly about how rich cows' interior lives are.
It's quite a good series but if I tried to explain it from this particular point it would sound more insane than one of the MCs
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Comment on No bull: This Austrian cow has learned to use tools in ~science
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentCows watch sunsetsCows watch sunsets
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Comment on You are being misled about renewable energy technology in ~enviro
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBasically me except that we have a heat pump with auxiliary furnace (which has been getting a workout lately)Basically me except that we have a heat pump with auxiliary furnace (which has been getting a workout lately)
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Comment on My relationship feels like it's collapsing and I don't know what to do in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh this absolutely feels like a "who is dating neurodivergent women" thing mostly.Oh this absolutely feels like a "who is dating neurodivergent women" thing mostly.
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Comment on Amazon’s promotion of ‘Melania’ has critics questioning its motives (Amazon has spent 35M on marketing on top of its 40M budget) in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentPeople didn't even care enough about it to review bomb it. So that says something.People didn't even care enough about it to review bomb it. So that says something.
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Comment on Resist and Unsubscribe in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah I similarly don't shop at target since the pulling of the pride merch. But my CVS is right by my work and my small town doesn't have a pharmacy (the next one over does and delivers but not my...Yeah I similarly don't shop at target since the pulling of the pride merch. But my CVS is right by my work and my small town doesn't have a pharmacy (the next one over does and delivers but not my Adderall so that's not helpful) plus the pharmacist actually knows me which is wild.
So yeah. Idk. I'm just doing my best.
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Comment on My relationship feels like it's collapsing and I don't know what to do in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYes No, but I do NoYes
No, but I do
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Comment on Resist and Unsubscribe in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkIt's odd that Hilton isn't present when we know they've actively punished a local hotel for not serving ICE. Like publicly and obviously. I'm not able to get off Microsoft or Google even if I quit...It's odd that Hilton isn't present when we know they've actively punished a local hotel for not serving ICE. Like publicly and obviously.
I'm not able to get off Microsoft or Google even if I quit both for personal use, but the stores and other businesses are helpful
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Comment on Catherine O’Hara - legendary actress dead at 71 in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentWeirdly I don't really think of them sitting around the table, mostly on the Dept store floor. I was laughing at at the jokes about Mrs Slocombe's ...cat... and the coded queer rep in Mr Humphries...Weirdly I don't really think of them sitting around the table, mostly on the Dept store floor. I was laughing at at the jokes about Mrs Slocombe's ...cat... and the coded queer rep in Mr Humphries and all that.
But I was slowly getting into Monty Python and the like and was never into Dragonball.
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Comment on I let my wife have an affair. Do I have to console her now that it’s over? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThat's why my answer to your question is a maybe, sometimes, it depends. I've definitely known someone whose partner cheated on a non-monogamous relationship and for whom the restorative process...That's why my answer to your question is a maybe, sometimes, it depends. I've definitely known someone whose partner cheated on a non-monogamous relationship and for whom the restorative process did not involve breaking up either relationship. But whether it was ethical? Idk.
And I'm not sure it's the sort of thing that has a definitive universal answer vs a personal one.
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Comment on Catherine O’Hara - legendary actress dead at 71 in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentLol I loved Are You Being Served as a tween -teen it was British and felt so scandalous in comparison to what was allowed on American TV. The beginning of my BritCom fixationLol I loved Are You Being Served as a tween -teen it was British and felt so scandalous in comparison to what was allowed on American TV. The beginning of my BritCom fixation
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNot yet, but the author has said he has two sequels outlined!Not yet, but the author has said he has two sequels outlined!
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Comment on Apple says Patreon creators must switch to subscription billing in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou can make in-app Kindle purchase via the regular Play Store app again. Have been for over a year now, just FYI Edit: Double checked, same with Audible.You can make in-app Kindle purchase via the regular Play Store app again. Have been for over a year now, just FYI
Edit: Double checked, same with Audible.
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Comment on ‘ICE Out’ strike and protests: what to know about demonstrations across the US in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentSo we don't let it. We push for another one, and another protest and another. They can try to do a lot, that doesn't mean it magically happens. We get to, and have to, push back.So we don't let it. We push for another one, and another protest and another. They can try to do a lot, that doesn't mean it magically happens. We get to, and have to, push back.
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Comment on Best gas masks in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentMultiple? Heck no. Not even one in my city currently. But I could find one. Internet is just easier.Multiple? Heck no. Not even one in my city currently. But I could find one. Internet is just easier.
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Comment on Best gas masks in ~society
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou can literally buy them on Tiktok shop and they're advertised as both gas masks and respirators. I didn't even have to go look because I have seen people selling them. And like, we had a...You can literally buy them on Tiktok shop and they're advertised as both gas masks and respirators.
I didn't even have to go look because I have seen people selling them. And like, we had a pandemic. I never bought a full respirator but I know some folks did.
But hey, Bondi, If you didn't spend weeks tear gassing people or pepper spraying them, they wouldn't go get masks. We all have the fucking Internet. It's how we know you're teargassing and pepper spraying people, because you all lie about it.
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Comment on Tildes Book Club - January 2026 - Fire on the Mountain by Terry Bisson in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI hope to, directing my focus is hard. I have had 3 library books I want to read and was stuck on RR reading about bees instead. It's just rough in the old headI hope to, directing my focus is hard. I have had 3 library books I want to read and was stuck on RR reading about bees instead. It's just rough in the old head
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Comment on I let my wife have an affair. Do I have to console her now that it’s over? in ~life
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIf it helps... A lot of them aren't great at it. People still cheat and are still human and thus toxic as often as not. I won't pretend to always to have been great or necessarily that I am great...If it helps... A lot of them aren't great at it. People still cheat and are still human and thus toxic as often as not. I won't pretend to always to have been great or necessarily that I am great now - I'm too tired to date and being a caretaker makes non-hierarchal relationships harder to navigate - but what I do have is a counseling degree and a willingness to apply the same principles of a couple to relationships beyond that.
Basically I'm playing on easier mode because I went to school and learned how to navigate relationships instead of microbiology.
Folks who make large polycules work (and aren't secretly a toxic mess) are incredibly impressive to me though.
One explicitly mentions it (and the author has dealt with similar symptoms) but some characters also aren't doing so well after 10k years in my opinion.
It's really hard to explain but I do recommend it if you go in knowing that it really does all make sense together even if it doesn't seem like it