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Comment on Why am I left-handed? in ~science
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Comment on Hunting for a movie in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentGot it, does she remember if there is full boob shown or just chest? Because I have discounted sexploitation films so far but could go back there.Got it, does she remember if there is full boob shown or just chest?
Because I have discounted sexploitation films so far but could go back there.
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Comment on Hunting for a movie in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo, I had read a description that said it was someone else being killed during a sex scene in the film, it's just that it's possible they also got something wrong.No, I had read a description that said it was someone else being killed during a sex scene in the film, it's just that it's possible they also got something wrong.
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Comment on Hunting for a movie in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think someone does die while they're having sex in this film, is there maybe a second sex scene or is she blending two films together in her head? (It's also possible someone else mixed two...I think someone does die while they're having sex in this film, is there maybe a second sex scene or is she blending two films together in her head? (It's also possible someone else mixed two films up in their description)
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Comment on Hunting for a movie in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )LinkOnly based on research, not experience You said not Cinemax but also might be sexploitation but not full porn, so I'm straddling with a Cinemax movie. But like idk. She Phoenix the Warrior aka...Only based on research, not experience
You said not Cinemax but also might be sexploitation but not full porn, so I'm straddling with a Cinemax movie. But like idk.
Phoenix the Warrior aka She-Wolves of the Wasteland (seems like there's maybe only one guy on earth though)
The BarbariansIf she recalls anything, - redhead, body builder guy? Full nudity or blanket covering everything but his chest or something in between?
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Comment on Fired from the White House for being trans (gifted link) in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentHe got booted for being the "old school" style of Republican who could have principles about serving your country even if I'd disagree with him on literally everything else. Else he could have...He got booted for being the "old school" style of Republican who could have principles about serving your country even if I'd disagree with him on literally everything else. Else he could have pushed the stolen election lies and such.
This is what people react to in George W Bush when they consider him "harmless" in comparison to Trump, it's not so much that they're ignoring the wars or the horrible policies or anything, it's that he could still shake your hand or read a book to a kid or whatever.
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Comment on Moderna, Merck say mRNA vaccine prevents melanoma from returning in ~health
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkmRNA vaccines are such a huge scientific breakthrough, and the US is doing its best to tank that research that could help countless people with many different diseases. New report sounds alarm on...mRNA vaccines are such a huge scientific breakthrough, and the US is doing its best to tank that research that could help countless people with many different diseases.
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Comment on US President Donald Trump cannot strip Obamacare protections from trans people’s healthcare, judge rules in ~lgbt
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah it's relief after the stress but always with the "what's next" in the back of mind. Much like birthright citizenship, they don't seem like they want to let it drop.Yeah it's relief after the stress but always with the "what's next" in the back of mind.
Much like birthright citizenship, they don't seem like they want to let it drop.
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Comment on Keto ice cream brand filed for Chapter 11 after a judge found it copied a Brooklyn rival's packaging in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentPlus apparently zero evidence of their own design process! No drafts, mockups, saved files that were works in progress. Just poof final draft.Plus apparently zero evidence of their own design process! No drafts, mockups, saved files that were works in progress. Just poof final draft.
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Comment on Easily discover partner libraries with new Libby update in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentMy IL library does not have any partners, I believe most of IL is part of one of a few systems rather than partnering like this. I know my small town is on the same system as a nearby city but not...My IL library does not have any partners, I believe most of IL is part of one of a few systems rather than partnering like this. I know my small town is on the same system as a nearby city but not the same one as my hometown was about an hour away.
We already share the access basically. (Ymmv with any given library district)
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Comment on The impact of suicide hotlines on health: evidence from 988 implementation in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOoh I don't know that meme, I'll have to look up an explainer. But yeah it's distorted thinking generally, but it's still how someone genuinely feels. And the suicide prevention program I teach to...Ooh I don't know that meme, I'll have to look up an explainer.
But yeah it's distorted thinking generally, but it's still how someone genuinely feels. And the suicide prevention program I teach to our staff and students and sometimes faculty, emphasizes the benefit of hope.
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Comment on The impact of suicide hotlines on health: evidence from 988 implementation in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIt's pain relief but it's also sometimes a "perceived solution" for that reason. I'm not saying it's a good solution, but even in cases of literal chronic, terminal illness, it is a solution to...It's pain relief but it's also sometimes a "perceived solution" for that reason. I'm not saying it's a good solution, but even in cases of literal chronic, terminal illness, it is a solution to not just the (literal and metaphorical) pain but to finances, to the feeling of being a burden, etc. In the type of situation you describe it's more that "I'm such a failure, my kid will be better off without me" is sort of a (bad) solution. But as someone who deals with passive "If I could just rest" sorts of ideation personally, there's some difference in those active vs passive thoughts.
I would love to hear more insights from you if you have the time, for this paper as well as other things about youth/eveyeone suicide. The hopelessness is probably a big part? Like, I think most people are aware that if they have a set time it gets better they will pull through?
Lack of hope, or of reasonable hope is huge. Most folks can get through that peak crisis point to the other side, even if they're fairly persistently suicidal, so they're not at immediate risk. Genuinely all it can take is "hey I'm worried about you, are you ok?" "Damn that's rough. Are you talking to a counselor or anything? When can you see them again?" And you can help folks through a lot. I don't think hotlines are able to be more effective because they can only do so much by phone or text from afar. (Set time helps but most stress is complex and not just 1 short term cause, everyone is unique though)
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Comment on The impact of suicide hotlines on health: evidence from 988 implementation in ~health.mental
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentThis tracks with my education. I requested the full study to read the details (or may be able to access at work later today) but access to deadly means - firearm - is more predictive of death than...This tracks with my education. I requested the full study to read the details (or may be able to access at work later today) but access to deadly means - firearm - is more predictive of death than having ideation. And likely the people calling hotlines are the folks who aren't at that absolute final crisis point where they choose to act. We just don't know which of the folks with ideation will act without a full evaluation (and even then). Alcohol is a known factor because along with altering your mood directly, it lowers your inhibitions and makes you more likely to act on an impulsive thought.
I try to remind people that to someone who is suicidal, death is the solution to all of those unsolvable problems, and the suicidal thoughts aren't "the problem" and shouldn't be treated as "the problem" to someone offering support, especially professionally.
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Comment on Luigi Mangione pleads guilty to federal stalking charges in the killing of UnitedHealthcare CEO in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou replied after the edit so I assume you're fine with less civility. I'll keep it on the right side of the line for Tildes. That is a stupid argument. Amazingly, two people, even if one is...You replied after the edit so I assume you're fine with less civility. I'll keep it on the right side of the line for Tildes.
If a billionaire said this we would rightly shit on them. What alternative is there?
If democracy ever broke down in the states, a lot more people could die than have ever died from being denied insurance coverage, and for potentially a worse outcome.
That is a stupid argument.
Amazingly, two people, even if one is fictional and a billionaire, can say similar things and have entirely different moral stances and life experiences. So shit on me if it makes you feel better but I didn't say "man I wish democracy broke down and people died" I said I'm tired of being at the mercy of the electorate. Treating this like a hypothetical philosophy question ignores the real people being hurt and actually dying now. And at imminent risk of dying in the future.
I lost my rights to control my own body because of "the electorate", my partner may lose the care that keeps him in our home and alive and I have to not write down if my students need healthcare so they can't be targeted by the government for literal persecution.
It feels dehumanizing as fuck to keep hearing "it is what it is" and essentially "could be worse" when it's already bad. I have tried to point out with empathy where people are coming from in this thread because this shit is complicated and morality is rarely simplistic and I was genuinely hoping to improve communication but instead I just get the same stupid what can you do, if you don't like it, you're just like a billionaire and society would collapse!
But instead I'm supposed to not be tired of this? Or not say it? Nah. I'm not coming back to the thread after this, so say whatever you want. But just because you say something dispassionately (nor because I say something emphatically) doesn't make it a better argument. That was not logical, rational or kind.
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Comment on Luigi Mangione pleads guilty to federal stalking charges in the killing of UnitedHealthcare CEO in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae (edited )Link ParentIf these weren't people's lives, maybe. But they are. And irreparable damage will be done in the time it takes to play by the rules of the game. And it's why I cannot get on board with the idea.... And that's okay.
If these weren't people's lives, maybe. But they are. And irreparable damage will be done in the time it takes to play by the rules of the game.
And it's why I cannot get on board with the idea that sacrificing lives for profit is just no big deal, part of the balance. I'm deeply tired of being at the mercy of "the electorate." And I find this sort of language to be far more callous than talking about Thompson's killing.
(And the idea of "rotting in jail" is another way we dehumanize prisoners too. It's all part of the same dehumanizing worldview)
ETA: there's no way i can remain civil so I'll stop here: Absolutely fuck this attitude towards people's lives and health.
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Comment on What lesser-known sci-fi reads do you recommend? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentEven smaller on the day when the trip was a walk to the Bookmobile instead of a drive to the full library!Even smaller on the day when the trip was a walk to the Bookmobile instead of a drive to the full library!
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Comment on Why HPSC is a big deal for space exploration in ~space
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkHigh Performance Spaceflight Computing
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Comment on Luigi Mangione pleads guilty to federal stalking charges in the killing of UnitedHealthcare CEO in ~news
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBut I think the point is that while pulling the switch might be neutral, signing up to pull the switch in an inherently immoral situation - for profit and harming poor people - is still immoral....But I think the point is that while pulling the switch might be neutral, signing up to pull the switch in an inherently immoral situation - for profit and harming poor people - is still immoral.
So yes, someone has to pull the lever* - though there's nothing stopping the insurance company CEO from stopping the trains entirely and paying for everyone's coverage except losing his job - but if you choose to do so in an amoral or profit driven fashion you're perhaps engaging in active harm/evil/etc. (idk what model we're using)
Sometimes all you can do is harm reduction, especially when a system is fucked up. I'm having to do that now in higher education given certain threats made by certain politicians. There's a big difference between an engaging and harm reduction and just pulling the lever on whatever makes me the most money, or is the best for PR, or is in anyone's best interest other than patients.
*In our current system. I'm not so sure we need to pull levers nearly as often as we think if we revamped things entirely
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Comment on What lesser-known sci-fi reads do you recommend? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIf we're talking about Weber I gotta throw my rec in for the War God series even though it's fantasy rather than SF. I got bored with ship combat when I got to HH (well like 5-10 books in) but...If we're talking about Weber I gotta throw my rec in for the War God series even though it's fantasy rather than SF. I got bored with ship combat when I got to HH (well like 5-10 books in) but found War God long before that.
Ah to be a kid with a library card and a tiny SF section
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Comment on What lesser-known sci-fi reads do you recommend? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI think about that one a lot honestly. It's come up more than I would have thoughtI think about that one a lot honestly. It's come up more than I would have thought
In addition to the location of the spiral, many left handers have to twist their arm/hand to write in such a way as to not immediately smear their ink (or smudge their graphite) meaning that the metal coil is often more in the way and digging into the arm instead of the arm going down the length of the paper for right handers
/Right handed but observant and with leftie friends