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Comment on How to pass the time when you have nothing to do at work and just your phone? in ~talk
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Comment on How to make friends as an adult in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentFriendships develop through shared interests and repeated contacts. What things do you like to do? Find local places where those things happen, and go there regularly. It doesn't have to be every...Friendships develop through shared interests and repeated contacts. What things do you like to do? Find local places where those things happen, and go there regularly. It doesn't have to be every day, but maybe a specific time one day a week or every other week. This could be just hanging out at a game store (or playing there), it could be a book club or a bicycling, hiking or kayaking group, it could be an environmental group that clears trash or plants trees, it doesn't take matter. Just sometime that you're interested in, and a time and place that you can go to regularly.
If you can't find that place or a group to do your thing, make one. Tell the people you know, put up notices in places it would be welcome, post it on Meetup and Facebook and your local subreddit. Know that the first few meetings will be sparsely attended, but keep going; people are going to come looking for this thing you've created and you want to be ready for them when they do.
Again, friendships develope through shared interests and repeated contact. Find the spaces where people with today interests meet (or create your own) and go there regularly.
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Comment on A decade without a drink in ~health.mental
Earhart_Light LinkWhat an inspiring story!What an inspiring story!
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Comment on Question for the women in relationships: how would you react if a male friend asked to hang with you alone? in ~life.women
Earhart_Light LinkHonestly? I wouldn't be comfortable being alone with you. I think we're supposed to meet up for coffee with your gf, she isn't there, and it's a misunderstanding? Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but...Honestly? I wouldn't be comfortable being alone with you. I think we're supposed to meet up for coffee with your gf, she isn't there, and it's a misunderstanding? Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but then you hit me with the 'I want to hang out more and become better friends' and I'm wondering how much of this entire one-on-one coffee date you engineered. You then invite me to dinner, I'm bringing company with me and "you're okay" with that. You want me to come alone to your apartment and you're less okay with that.
I'm fucking autistic, I can't read social cues, and you just raised almost every red flag I have. You went a bit past the edge of her comfort zone with the 'oops, my girlfriend wasn't coming' coffee date, and you keep escalating: come have a nice dinner alone with me, come Netflix and chill in my apartment. Either you're not seeing or you're not respecting the boundaries she's trying to set. Which means that she is never going to feel safe being alone with you because she won't be safe alone with you because you're not seeing or respecting her boundaries.
["She's never mentioned this!" you say. Yeah, well, what's that old truism: men are afraid women will laugh at them; women are afraid men will kill them. There's a subset of men who do not take rejection well, so you learn to be careful.]
All of this is especially an issue because she came from a middle eastern country, where women are often very much second class citizens, where men often feel free to take advantage of lone women who don't conform to their norms, and where women will be blamed and shamed for having been taken advantage of. And all of her suspicion / reactiveness will be compounded if she's ever been sexually harassed or sexually assaulted.
Honestly, if I were her, there's no way I'd ever be alone with you again. If we're meeting at your apartment for something, I'm arriving late, and I'm bringing a friend with me. Wherever we meet up, no matter how far away or unfamiliar with the area I am, I'm bringing my own transport because I'm not getting in a car with you. When we do meet up, I'm leaving early because I don't want to accidentally find myself the last person alone with you. If a group of us is meeting up at my place, a friend is going to stay at least an hour after you leave, possibly overnight, and if you "accidentally drink too much", I'm pouring you into an Uber and sending you home because you're not spending the night on the couch/in the spare bedroom.
I understand and appreciate the desire to form a wider and deeper social network, but your approach is not working with this person. Go back to group dates and stop trying to meet up with her alone.
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Comment on Anyone interested in trying out Kagi? in ~tech
Earhart_Light LinkI'd be interested to try it, if you still have invites to spare?I'd be interested to try it, if you still have invites to spare?
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentOh! Yes, if it was the JWST, it'd be really strange for it to fall into the sun! :) Have a great week!Oh! Yes, if it was the JWST, it'd be really strange for it to fall into the sun! :) Have a great week!
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Comment on The history of slipping on banana peels | Pretty Good, episode 14 in ~humanities.history
Earhart_Light LinkMy understanding (which may be wrong) is that the original widely-exported banana, the Gros Michel (aka "Big Mike") had a very slippery peel and this was a real if usually theoretical risk. But...My understanding (which may be wrong) is that the original widely-exported banana, the Gros Michel (aka "Big Mike") had a very slippery peel and this was a real if usually theoretical risk. But the fungus put an end to Big Mike's international reign of terror, and the Cavendish has a much less slippery peel.
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentI got mine from meteorites-for-sale.com . Their domain was registered back in 2006, before the internet got horrible, and archive.org shows that their content has been constantly updated since...I got mine from meteorites-for-sale.com . Their domain was registered back in 2006, before the internet got horrible, and archive.org shows that their content has been constantly updated since 2008. They have a high reputation on reddit, meteorite and space forums. My feeling is that if they were ripping people off, there'd either be a bunch of complaints online about them, or they'd have avoided the complaints by changing their URL/storefront/contact info.
Please note that there are other reputable dealers out there; this is simply the first one that I researched that passed all my tests, and that had bits and slices inexpensive enough for me to buy like 20 pieces at a time. I gave them out to my extended family at dinner the night of the eclipse :)
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentBecause the Sun has a really heavy gravity field that requires fuel to resist, and they're spending most of the fuel onboard actually flying through the outer corona, not trying to escape it....Because the Sun has a really heavy gravity field that requires fuel to resist, and they're spending most of the fuel onboard actually flying through the outer corona, not trying to escape it. iirc, they also have end-stage tests they're going to run as it falls in, kind of like that asteroid probe where they finished the mission by crashing the probe into the asteroid, sending data back until the very end.
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentHere's a pallasite slice for $216. They also have less expensive individual fragments.Here's a pallasite slice for $216. They also have less expensive individual fragments.
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentOur magnetic knife holder is in the gap between the fridge and the counter. I also bought an extendable magnetic flashlight, so it's easy to retrieve them when I fumble and they fall into the gap.Our magnetic knife holder is in the gap between the fridge and the counter. I also bought an extendable magnetic flashlight, so it's easy to retrieve them when I fumble and they fall into the gap.
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light Link ParentInsight Lander was a tiny plaque with all the names micro-engraved on it, which I really liked. The Parker Solar Probe was a flash drive; I was okay with that because it'll eventually run out of...Insight Lander was a tiny plaque with all the names micro-engraved on it, which I really liked. The Parker Solar Probe was a flash drive; I was okay with that because it'll eventually run out of fuel and burn up in the sun's corona. Europa Clipper was another micro-engraved plaque. I forget the other missions I've done it on; they do seem to be leaning more toward the flash drive thing, though.
I like the idea of people I know having a "footprint" outside the Earth; and I'm sure that NASA uses the entries as a way of proving to Congress that their overall mission is very popular with the public and that they deserve more money (or at least not to have their funding cut). And I'm actually okay with being used that way. :)
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light (edited )Link ParentSure! Mind you, these are only slices of meteorites - I can't afford the whole ones :) I think it was like $75 for all three slices, which seemed amazingly cheap to me. [I did do research on the...Sure! Mind you, these are only slices of meteorites - I can't afford the whole ones :) I think it was like $75 for all three slices, which seemed amazingly cheap to me. [I did do research on the company. They've been around since near the dawn of the internet, are recommended on several space- or rock-collecting-focused forums, and their entries are backed up by The Meteoritical Society's database.]
Anyway, here are the pictures.
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Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life
Earhart_Light LinkThe best presents I've given have been: an extendable magnetic flashlight so my mom can easily get the knives that fall into the gap between the fridge and the counter. A hand-carved Celtic-knot...The best presents I've given have been:
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an extendable magnetic flashlight so my mom can easily get the knives that fall into the gap between the fridge and the counter.
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A hand-carved Celtic-knot necklace made of 6,500-year-old Irish bog oak.
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Slices from three different meteorites: one from plain space, one from the moon, and one from Mars.
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NASA has a program where you submit names and they include them on their next space vehicle; they also generate an electronic "boarding pass" with the names on it. I submit names, download the boarding passes and print them on nice heavy cardstock. So far I've included names to Mars, the moon, and the sun. I think of it as a kind of interplanetary immortality. [nb: check whether it's a micro-engraved plaque or just a USB drive listing]
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Their favorite, rather expensive imported tea
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Comment on Is the Cybertruck really that bad? in ~transport
Earhart_Light (edited )Link ParentSome of those "software only" updates are bullshit. There was one recall because (quotes are paraphrased) "the front hood latch was unreliable and your front hood may unexpectedly fly open while...Some of those "software only" updates are bullshit. There was one recall because (quotes are paraphrased) "the front hood latch was unreliable and your front hood may unexpectedly fly open while driving", which to me seems like a pretty big safety issue. Tesla's proposal was to "push a software update, which would monitor the hood latch and display a warning to the driver that their front hood latch was wonky and they needed to pull over and re-shut the hood".
I mean, how is that a solution?! I'm guessing they've never been on a mountain or rural road where there really isn't a good place to pull over and examine your vehicle. But the fact that they'd propose that as a viable permanent solution makes me so angry with them!
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Comment on Trees that traveled to space now live on Earth. Here's where to find them. in ~enviro
Earhart_Light LinkI've been to about five of these!I've been to about five of these!
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Comment on "Americans get screwed because they can’t read" in ~society
Earhart_Light Link ParentThe thing is, in modern law I don't think there's really such a thing as a loophole. The companies involved all donate to their favorite politicians, who then use corporate feedback when crafting...The thing is, in modern law I don't think there's really such a thing as a loophole. The companies involved all donate to their favorite politicians, who then use corporate feedback when crafting applicable laws. Which would be fine if everyone was agreed that the purpose of the laws was to protect people - but the laws wouldn't be needed if that was true. So the corporations deliberately push for seemingly-clear-sounding language that includes "loopholes" that they know they'll exploit later on, and the legislators know this but have been paid enough not to question things too closely. And if the corpos can't get enough of what they want, or there's pushback from the legislators, the corpos will astroturf a "citizen's response" to get what they want.
When they were trying to roll out state-wide broadband in New Jersey a decade or two ago, the state sought feedback from the corporations on what was reasonable to include - after all, the corporations knew the technical requirements and stuff best, had been studying it for years and knew what was feasible. So the [?law ?contract] was written with the intent of requiring the winning company/corporation to be legally required to run FiOS to pretty much every household in the state, and Verizon won a (I think) $10,000,000,000 contract to do just that.
And they got right to work on it, wiring all the easy, high-return, high-density areas and some of the county seats, and the state was pretty satisfied - until the roll-out slowed down noticeably a couple years later. So the state went to Verizon and said, "Hey, what's up, you're supposed to be wiring the rest of the state?", and Verizon turned around and said, "Read the [?law ?contract]. Technically, we're only required to wire the county seats of each county in New Jersey, not anything else. We''ll finish the county seats, but otherwise we're good where we are." And that's pretty much exactly what happened.
Any time there's a chance for money to be made, or expenses to be avoided, there's going to be some corporation there, busily working to insert innocuos-sounding language that really means something entirely different.
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Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental
Earhart_Light Link ParentI'm just thinking of those posts that show up sometimes, where the MAGA person is all "My children no longer talk to me, and they've never told me why" and then there's a bunch of probing and it...no matter how matter-of-factly you lay it out, they will refuse to comprehend it. You can send them a 10+ page document
I'm just thinking of those posts that show up sometimes, where the MAGA person is all "My children no longer talk to me, and they've never told me why" and then there's a bunch of probing and it turns out that, yes, the kids did tell them why, repeatedly, but the MAGA never heard them. :(
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Comment on Why I’ve tracked every single piece of clothing I’ve worn for three years in ~life.style
Earhart_Light Link ParentYes! And I've been trying to figure that out. I did a kind of vague count of the total days worn by all the footwear and came out to 1280. Three years of days is 1095, so he's only wearing two...Yes! And I've been trying to figure that out. I did a kind of vague count of the total days worn by all the footwear and came out to 1280. Three years of days is 1095, so he's only wearing two pairs of shoes in a day like once every other week; most days, when he puts on his shoes for the day, that's what he wears.
They say you should replace your sneakers every six to eight months for best support. The stuff in the "retired" column is between 49 and 102 wears - let's call it between 2 and 4 months - which is low. But -- they also say that you should replace them every 300 to 500 miles.
Of the four pieces that are still in use and have over 100 wears (and assuming the pictures are correct), there's one set of outstanding sneakers, two pairs of leather shoes, and a pair of hiking boots. The hiking boots have been worn like 210 times in 3 years, or once every 5 days; that's a lot of hiking. If we extrapolate the retired sneakers and assume the writer retires their footwear based on miles worn, you get someone who runs 5 - 10 miles a day and who goes hiking on weekends.
I'm still at a loss as to how t-shirts only last 20 wearing, though.
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Comment on IUD insertion is painful. For the first time, the CDC issued guidance for US physicians. in ~life.women
Earhart_Light LinkYeah, this one annoyed me - a lot. For decades, women have been complaining about this, only to be told that we're exaggerating, it's not that bad, we're being emotional, it's all in our heads....Yeah, this one annoyed me - a lot. For decades, women have been complaining about this, only to be told that we're exaggerating, it's not that bad, we're being emotional, it's all in our heads. Then, hey!!
One study found that doctors regularly underestimate the pain that patients report experiencing.
Great! We're going to get more pain options!! Yippee!!
“When considering patient pain, it is important to recognize that the experience of pain is individualized and might be influenced by previous experiences including trauma and mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety,” according to the CDC’s guidance.
Oh, it's all in our fucking heads again, is it?! #^&)(*%#&%_!!!!!!!!
When I was in college, I got me a job just like that. I used it to do all of my homework: I did all the readings (and took notes), did all the math problems at the end of each chapter (not just the recommended ones), did research, wrote papers and essays, etc.
It was great: my job was paying me to do my homework and by bringing just my homework to work, I was too bored not to complete it. I graduated with honors.
If you're not interested in college, are there classes you could take toward whatever career goal you might have? Another field you might be interested in, a certification in your current field that might open up some options?
If not work-related, what about a small-footprint hobby? You could do knitting/needlepoint/crocheting easily enough, or whittling, or origami, or anything small and portable.