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Comment on Resist and Unsubscribe in ~society
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Comment on Resist and Unsubscribe in ~society
F13 Link ParentLast time I did digging (which was admittedly a while ago) between Lowes and Home Depot, Lowes was the better choice from a social standpoint. Even Ace and Menard's were kinda... shrug.Last time I did digging (which was admittedly a while ago) between Lowes and Home Depot, Lowes was the better choice from a social standpoint.
Even Ace and Menard's were kinda... shrug.
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Comment on Apple says Patreon creators must switch to subscription billing in ~tech
F13 Link ParentI agree. I think it's a more-or-less fair take when choices are more-or-less equivalent, but once you start throwing in monopolies and choices that aren't really choices it's time for an authority...I agree. I think it's a more-or-less fair take when choices are more-or-less equivalent, but once you start throwing in monopolies and choices that aren't really choices it's time for an authority to step in and bring protections.
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Comment on Wilson Lin on FastRender: a browser built by thousands of parallel agents in ~tech
F13 Link ParentSo maybe I'm naive here but... Isn't "rendering HTML+CSS" kinda... The easy part? Like that's not actually useful, and it's all the edge cases and extra functionality that makes a browser actually...So maybe I'm naive here but... Isn't "rendering HTML+CSS" kinda... The easy part? Like that's not actually useful, and it's all the edge cases and extra functionality that makes a browser actually a usable piece of software. No?
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Comment on Curl will end its bug bounty program by the end of January due to excessive AI generated reports in ~comp
F13 Link ParentMy point being: now they not only have your work but also your deposit. Still, I don't think this would be a major issue, as all it would require to avoid is bounty hunters (hah) to vet the...My point being: now they not only have your work but also your deposit. Still, I don't think this would be a major issue, as all it would require to avoid is bounty hunters (hah) to vet the organizations they're trying to get bounties from, which I don't think is really a big barrier.
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Comment on So this is 2nd grade subtraction in ~science
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Comment on Curl will end its bug bounty program by the end of January due to excessive AI generated reports in ~comp
F13 Link ParentThis might work in some cases, but there are also tons of bad actors in this space who take genuine reports and ignore, mislabel, or outright steal them and never credit the author.This might work in some cases, but there are also tons of bad actors in this space who take genuine reports and ignore, mislabel, or outright steal them and never credit the author.
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Comment on How have you changed in the last year? What are your goals for this year? in ~life
F13 Link ParentI saw that post when it was made. The "no more zero days" concept was amazingly powerful for me in hindsight. At the time it felt like the most babiest step I could possibly take, but after...I saw that post when it was made. The "no more zero days" concept was amazingly powerful for me in hindsight. At the time it felt like the most babiest step I could possibly take, but after compounding it was a life changer.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentAh, see, and that's very strange to me. From my perspective, someone being disrespectful because of the way they feel is an entirely different thing than them simply feeling that way. The food...when I say ‘turn on’ I was referring to a specific class of behavior that was very outwardly disrespectful.
Ah, see, and that's very strange to me. From my perspective, someone being disrespectful because of the way they feel is an entirely different thing than them simply feeling that way.
The food court at a mall might reasonably make a person feel hungry, due to the sights and sounds. It wouldn't be at all unreasonable or unexpected. But we would still be upset with that person if they jumped over the counter and started shoveling Orange Chicken into their face. It feels the same to me. A breastaurant is a reasonable place that someone might feel turned on, but that's an entirely different matter from being an asshat. Honestly, if they're an asshat there, they're probably as asshat everywhere, and it probably doesn't have a lot to do with whether or not they're "turned on". But I guess the kinds of things a "turned on" asshat might do are significantly worse than the kinds of things a hungry asshat might do, so...
But I dunno, maybe my experience is very different from the average person's. It must be, based on how most people talk about attraction and sexuality.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentYep, 100%! I guess I was trying to clarify what kind of "get" you meant, and I totally understand not "getting" it from a "it doesn't personally appeal to me, but I can comprehend how and why it...Yep, 100%! I guess I was trying to clarify what kind of "get" you meant, and I totally understand not "getting" it from a "it doesn't personally appeal to me, but I can comprehend how and why it exists, and it doesn't necessarily seem like something that ought not to exist". But there's a certain type of glibness that surrounds conversations like this. Things people say they "don't get", but are actually saying, "this is weird and I don't like it but I don't want to antagonize so I'll just say I don't get it and maybe have some thinly veiled superiority over people who do enjoy it".
To be clear, I'm not saying that was you! But it's common enough that that's what I meant when I said it's hard for me not to feel like its disengenuous. I didn't mean to imply anyone was actually being disengenuous, just that because of those kinds of conversations, I have to remind myself that not everyone is coming at it like that.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentI think "turned on" means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Personally I think it makes a ton of sense to be turned on in a place like that, but that doesn't automatically...I think "turned on" means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Personally I think it makes a ton of sense to be turned on in a place like that, but that doesn't automatically mean the objective is to take a server home and have sex with her.
A cute, sexy, fun woman being playful and a bit flirty is definitely a turn on. But that doesn't mean I should be surprised when that's all it is. That's the movie I sat down at. I am happy to engage my suspension of disbelief and let my brain feel the endorphin rush of being chatted with by such a cutie who is definitely into me... And then pay my check and go home and feel a little taller for a day or two.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentI guess my point here is, even if they're not catering to your preference, the concept of a place that specifically markets the concept of "hey wanna look at and chat with people you find...I guess my point here is, even if they're not catering to your preference, the concept of a place that specifically markets the concept of "hey wanna look at and chat with people you find attractive while you X? Do it here!" is a very reasonable pitch.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentI mean some people for sure go just to look, but what's wrong with that? If everybody had a sign that said "you may look at me for X seconds and I'm totally fine with it", wouldn't that just...I mean some people for sure go just to look, but what's wrong with that? If everybody had a sign that said "you may look at me for X seconds and I'm totally fine with it", wouldn't that just be.... So freeing? Not having to guess what amount of looking (which is fun for the looker, obviously, or they wouldn't bother to do it) is appropriate to the lookee (the only other party who's opinion matters in this interaction)?
Breastaurants are, among other things, a pitch of "if you like to look, come here - it's more normal and you won't be labeled a weirdo".
That doesn't mean they are pitching anything else, like that touching or gross comments or whatever else, are automatically okay. And that's part of what I mean about the demonization cycle, because I think people just assume if you're advertising anything sexual, you're basically saying "no rules!!!", which is ridiculous.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 Link ParentYou don't have to be hitting on someone to enjoy their presence. And also, flirting is fun. The hard part is knowing whether the other person is okay with it, or weirded out. In a breastaraunt,...You don't have to be hitting on someone to enjoy their presence. And also, flirting is fun. The hard part is knowing whether the other person is okay with it, or weirded out. In a breastaraunt, the roles are clear as day: you are an attractive person who is paid to be here, I am a patron looking to interact with attractive people and willing to pay to do so. It is a space I can freely flirt, or try my hand at being charming and charismatic or whatever, without risk of being harshly rejected or laughed at or whatever. Or sometimes, yeah, I want a place where it's socially acceptable to do what might be considered "gawking" at another place. Women are attractive, why wouldn't I want to look? As long as everyone is on board. And by specifically catering to that, the restaurant can self select for people that are more okay with being looked at.
Sometimes I just want to throw off the social shackles! It's nice when places exist that let me do that. And then go home to my wife.
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Comment on Hooters | Bankrupt in ~food
F13 (edited )Link ParentOn the one hand, nobody will ever "get" everything that happens in a society, and that's perfectly reasonable. More than just okay, even. I wouldn't want to imagine a world where nobody was ever...On the one hand, nobody will ever "get" everything that happens in a society, and that's perfectly reasonable. More than just okay, even. I wouldn't want to imagine a world where nobody was ever "uhhhhh" about anything.
On the other hand, it's so obvious and plain to me that I can't help it from feeling almost disengenious when people have this take. Sexual attraction is such a universal human experience that I'd place it in the same tier as things like community and creativity. Why in the world would we not have a wide variety places to experience that? If anything, the fact that a place specifically catering to attraction immediately lumps it in to a single other type of establishment (a strip club) is the weird thing here, if you zoom out.
People like to socialize with people they find attractive, and socializing is often easier when there's some kind of activity happening around it. In America, the most accessible option for that is typically a restaurant. Vis a vis, sexy restaurant. To me, the only thing keeping these places from having more cultural acceptance is the overall blanket belief that sexuality is shameful, deviant, weird, dangerous, or whatever. We're so weird about sex. There are tons of human experience that can be negative, but sex/sexuality stands alone in how afraid of it we are.
I think the way we've demonized sexuality in most western cultures, but especially America, is part of a feedback loop of shame and exploitation that leads to more demonization.
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Comment on Integrity Index of US Congress members in ~society
F13 Link ParentIt should not be a political statement to say that the Democratic party scores better on integrity measures, when integrity is something Democratic voters care about and Republican voters do not.It should not be a political statement to say that the Democratic party scores better on integrity measures, when integrity is something Democratic voters care about and Republican voters do not.
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Comment on Looking for goals, mostly fitness but other are cool too in ~health
F13 Link ParentI stand corrected! I generally mentally categorize deadlift as a mostly lower body lift, because for me, that's where I feel it most, but you're definitely right that 2x bodyweight is more of a...I stand corrected! I generally mentally categorize deadlift as a mostly lower body lift, because for me, that's where I feel it most, but you're definitely right that 2x bodyweight is more of a reasonable male target than female.
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Comment on Looking for goals, mostly fitness but other are cool too in ~health
F13 Link ParentAnything can be a goal, so at some point it becomes arbitrary. I just recently hit 200lb bench press (as a calculated 1RM), which is a cool milestone, but there's no reason to choose it over any...Anything can be a goal, so at some point it becomes arbitrary. I just recently hit 200lb bench press (as a calculated 1RM), which is a cool milestone, but there's no reason to choose it over any other number in a vacuum.
For my money, deadlift and maybe pull-ups have the best combination of actual functional value and normie impressiveness quotient. I see 2x bodyweight deadlift as a common suggestion in the 1-3 year goal space, obviously depending heavily on where you're starting from. For me personally, something like 12-15 pull-ups, or maybe like a 45lb weighted pull-up (I've never tried weighted pull-ups so that's a major guess) is about the same level of commitment to achieve, but that could be dramatically different for someone else.
I also think something like a 25 minute 5k is in that realm of "seems really far away for people that don't do it, but if you train somewhat consistently you'll get there in a year or three". Again depending heavily on your starting point and background. I know plenty of people who can just go and run a 30 minute 5k without running for months.
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Comment on Looking for goals, mostly fitness but other are cool too in ~health
F13 (edited )Link ParentWhat do you mean? I'm far from an expert, but categorizing using a function of body weight, while men are still generally stronger, evens out the playing field pretty significantly. Beyond...What do you mean? I'm far from an expert, but categorizing using a function of body weight, while men are still generally stronger, evens out the playing field pretty significantly.
Beyond that...in my experience, women strongly outclass men in lower body lifts as a function of body weight. My wife squats nearly the same actual weight that I do, maybe 85-90%, but only weighs about 65% of me. And I'm not a super beginner, and she's absolutely athletic but not exactly a weight lifting enthusiast, so I feel confident that isn't a massive outlier.
Can you say more about why that feels like an inappropriate suggestion?
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Comment on Looking for goals, mostly fitness but other are cool too in ~health
F13 (edited )LinkFor straight strength I think 2x bodyweight deadlift is a valuable functional goal, and is mostly going to be achievable by anybody actively pursuing it.For straight strength I think 2x bodyweight deadlift is a valuable functional goal, and is mostly going to be achievable by anybody actively pursuing it.
Yes, of the four, Ace is probably the best, but also least like the other three.
I prefer to use Menard's when possible because they're... Somewhat more local than Lowe's and HD, plus I vastly prefer the experience of being in the store (customer service, selection, organization, etc). But also, Menard's isn't a 100% direct comparison to HD or Lowe's, and I do find myself having to choose one of those on occasion.