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Comment on When is comedy NOT at the consequence of something else's tragedy? in ~talk
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Comment on Why do you wanna be a parent? in ~talk
Farox Link ParentNo, as I said, you can't compare it. I couldn't explain it to my younger self from just a year ago. If you don't want to have kids, that's fine. As whole I think that we only have so many years on...No, as I said, you can't compare it. I couldn't explain it to my younger self from just a year ago.
If you don't want to have kids, that's fine. As whole I think that we only have so many years on this planet and it's solely up to you what you make of this. If kids isn't your thing, that's just as good. Don't force it.
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Comment on Why do you wanna be a parent? in ~talk
Farox Link ParentI was the same with diapers. Also not happy with picking dog poop up. But when you're a parent something else kicks in. A lot of choice is also taken from you, which in a sense makes things...I was the same with diapers. Also not happy with picking dog poop up. But when you're a parent something else kicks in. A lot of choice is also taken from you, which in a sense makes things easier. As much as it feels like it, dogs and children are different emotionally. You bound on a whole different level.
You WILL get over it.
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Comment on Why do you wanna be a parent? in ~talk
Farox LinkTo start with, I am a dude. This answer will probably be different for women! I felt the same. In my 20s/30s I knew that eventually I should have children, otherwise I might regret just being all...To start with, I am a dude. This answer will probably be different for women!
I felt the same. In my 20s/30s I knew that eventually I should have children, otherwise I might regret just being all lonesome when I am old and I never not wanted to have children. Sort of meh.
So I lived my life, during my 20s I moved around in Europe, getting things of my checklist: worked at a couple of start ups, at a games company, had my own company and sold it all in different countries, that sort of thing (basically I leveraged my software dev skills for life experience). Eventually my GF at the time and I decided to move together to Canada for a year. This turned into 6 years, a dog and a whole different GF.
By that time I was in my late 30s and we were both pretty much on the same page. Kids are an option, but not a must. Eventually we bought a sailboat in the meds and lived on that, traveling and working for ~3 years. Then the stars malaligned and we had to end this adventure.
So we moved back into the region where I came from, part of my family lives etc. And it's a nice area, lots of vineyards, a calm with small villages and the big city and it's airport within 30 minutes of driving.
She found a great job that pushed her career and gives a ton of security... we settled in and got married. The needle moved more towards trying for a kid and at the same time I had this feeling that I am very much done with my bucket list. At least there wasn't a big pull anymore to be "out there". At the same time I knew that nothing really prepares to have a child. So you can't even base the decision properly. You simply do not know what you're getting yourself into.
So it seemed like a very natural next step. To me this doesn't mean that we'll simply get stuck here, but it's a new chapter in my life opening. That was sort of the mindset, that it's a new adventure happening, a new way to grow as a person.
And then we had our son.
And the people were right, nothing prepares you for it. I've never love like this and at the same time it's also fucking hard. With just the wrong noise the little one can put your heart through a wringer. And then you get that smile, and it doesn't matter if you just walked barefoot through the nine hells, it's all worth it.
I never thought I would be this guy. But here I am, in my office checking getting up on my wife and son every so often during the day. And when I don't I keep looking at pictures of him, because I miss him. He's 2 months old and I already can't picture a life without him.
TLDR: I always kept it as an option, wanted to wait until I was ready and it felt like a natural thing to do. In my mid 40s now, but it totally paid off.
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Comment on IBM exits facial recognition business, calls for US police reform in ~tech
Farox Link ParentIt's been a few companies now that said they stopped supplying police with FR tech. Either way, I take it.It's been a few companies now that said they stopped supplying police with FR tech. Either way, I take it.
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Comment on Daily coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - April 7 in ~health
Farox LinkIf you want to stay ahead... There will soon be releases on studies regarding Remdesivir, an anti-viral medication that could work for SARS2. However because in the current phase of the trial you...If you want to stay ahead... There will soon be releases on studies regarding Remdesivir, an anti-viral medication that could work for SARS2. However because in the current phase of the trial you can only administer it very late in the disease, when you normally get best results when used early on. So this will be a mixed bag.
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Comment on Daily coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - April 7 in ~health
Farox Link Parent30% positive is too much if you want to use testing to contain it. My understanding is that it should be <10%. And yes, knowing that I share your concern.30% positive is too much if you want to use testing to contain it. My understanding is that it should be <10%. And yes, knowing that I share your concern.
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Comment on What are your opinions on how Boris Johnson has handled the COVID-19 crisis? in ~health
Farox Link ParentMost EU countries were slamming the breaks, hard, and then had to watch the UK be all ladi da about this. This might not seem much, but back then days mattered on how this plays out.Most EU countries were slamming the breaks, hard, and then had to watch the UK be all ladi da about this.
This might not seem much, but back then days mattered on how this plays out.
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Comment on What are your opinions on how Boris Johnson has handled the COVID-19 crisis? in ~health
Farox Link ParentSingapore is still doing well. Also here in Germany the government has high approval for it's measures of 90%Singapore is still doing well.
Also here in Germany the government has high approval for it's measures of 90%
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Comment on The case of the 500-mile email in ~comp
Farox Link ParentTime to also spread the love that is The Bastard Operator From Hell: http://bofh.bjash.com/ Hope it brightens someones day :)Time to also spread the love that is The Bastard Operator From Hell: http://bofh.bjash.com/
Hope it brightens someones day :)
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Comment on The flat-Earth conspiracy is spreading around the globe. Does it hide a darker core? in ~humanities
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Comment on The flat-Earth conspiracy is spreading around the globe. Does it hide a darker core? in ~humanities
Farox LinkI sailed across the atlantic, just me and my wife on board, so no government conspiracy either. I can definitely say that if earth wasn't round and looked like it does on globes, we wouldn't have...I sailed across the atlantic, just me and my wife on board, so no government conspiracy either. I can definitely say that if earth wasn't round and looked like it does on globes, we wouldn't have been able to navigate for 3 weeks on an ocean with zero landmarks and come out exactly where we aimed to go.
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Comment on What advice or wisdom would you give to someone 10 years younger than you? in ~life
Farox LinkIn my 40s... never quit sports/start NOW. Getting back into shape is so fucking hard now compared to my 30s (or 20s, lol), and it's more important than ever.In my 40s... never quit sports/start NOW. Getting back into shape is so fucking hard now compared to my 30s (or 20s, lol), and it's more important than ever.
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Comment on US President Donald Trump steps up attacks on progressive congresswomen, says they 'hate our country' and Israel in ~news
Farox Link ParentA good question about things like that is: "How could this be smoke and mirrors? Is there anything else going on that I shouldn't be paying attention to?"A good question about things like that is: "How could this be smoke and mirrors? Is there anything else going on that I shouldn't be paying attention to?"
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Comment on InfoWars agrees to pay Pepe the Frog creator $15,000 in copyright settlement in ~tech
Farox Link ParentI'd think that with it there is also a clause where infowars will have to pay amount X for any other infraction, making it really expensive to do something like that again.I'd think that with it there is also a clause where infowars will have to pay amount X for any other infraction, making it really expensive to do something like that again.
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Comment on In Alaska, climate change is showing increasing signs of disrupting everyday life in ~enviro
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Comment on How do you structure larger projects? in ~comp
Farox Link ParentMy pleasure. The problem is really that it's such a vast subject and if you really master it you're pretty much "there", raking in the big bucks. I personally enjoyed "Patterns of Enterprise...My pleasure. The problem is really that it's such a vast subject and if you really master it you're pretty much "there", raking in the big bucks.
I personally enjoyed "Patterns of Enterprise Application Architecture", I heard good things about "Code Complete: A Practical Handbook of Software Construction" and started my career reading "Object-Oriented Analysis and Design with Applications", this is like the ancient bible.
Other than that I don't read many blogs anymore and things like that on the subject, so I can't help you there.
Good luck!
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Comment on How do you structure larger projects? in ~comp
Farox LinkThere are tons of books on this out there but this is where years of experience with large systems come in. So I doubt anyone can tell you how to do this but there are principles... which again,...There are tons of books on this out there but this is where years of experience with large systems come in. So I doubt anyone can tell you how to do this but there are principles... which again, everyone values differently.
But searching for and learning about how to architect enterprise software should set you up for this, and you should be just in time for those amazon orders to arrive before the weekend. :)
Also have a look at design patterns. These are common architectural solutions to common problems. Even if you don't implement them 1:1 it's just good to have those in the back of your head.
Also, naming things is hard.
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Comment on What's a common misconception or misunderstanding you would love to see corrected? in ~talk
Farox Link ParentAlso people probably don't know the scale of these things. I remember working for a bank in the late 90s where they were discussing the change of a datatype for one column in on of their tables....Also people probably don't know the scale of these things. I remember working for a bank in the late 90s where they were discussing the change of a datatype for one column in on of their tables. They estimated it would take about 100 "man" years.
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Comment on Taking mushrooms for depression cured me of my atheism: Psilocybin not only eased my depression, it showed me a new way to live. in ~life
Farox Link ParentAnd that's the scary part. If it can have that much of an impact, in my mind, there is no guarantee that it ends well. Also the people that do end up with a psychotic break and PTSD probably don't...And that's the scary part. If it can have that much of an impact, in my mind, there is no guarantee that it ends well. Also the people that do end up with a psychotic break and PTSD probably don't post about it as much.
I am still curious about micro dosing however and love to see some proper research being done there.
As they say:
Comedy = Tragedy + Time