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Comment on 'I've never seen it this bad:' Game developers explain the huge layoffs hitting Riot, Epic, and more in ~games
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Comment on Happy Lunar New Year! in ~talk
KneeFingers LinkMaking Baozi tonight using this recipe from The Woks of Life plus a side cucumber salad from the Made in Taiwan in celebration! I remember having a really good Baozi years ago and I haven't quite...Making Baozi tonight using this recipe from The Woks of Life plus a side cucumber salad from the Made in Taiwan in celebration! I remember having a really good Baozi years ago and I haven't quite found a recipe that hits that flavor profile, but the filling for these still tastes really good. We were thinking of having a regular dinner, but I'm so glad my husband encouraged me to make something for another culture's holiday!
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Comment on Joe Biden’s chances of US re-election are better than they appear in ~society
KneeFingers Link ParentMy husband and I have been debating making that move, but we also live in the state we do due to family. We're still on that fence due to some personal circumstances, but if Trump is reelected we...My husband and I have been debating making that move, but we also live in the state we do due to family. We're still on that fence due to some personal circumstances, but if Trump is reelected we are certainly jumping to a blue stronghold. I know I will also need a specialist in the future for another health condition and those folks just don't exist in this state. Nor do I trust our failing hospitals to properly perform that type of surgery. We also have one of the highest cancer mortality rates out of any state, so as I consider our future as we get older, I do realize we won't get the care we need here.
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Comment on Joe Biden’s chances of US re-election are better than they appear in ~society
KneeFingers Link ParentCould you please elaborate on why you think Hillary came off as entitled, but Biden displays restraints? While I do agree that there were some faults in her campaign, she was a highly qualified...Could you please elaborate on why you think Hillary came off as entitled, but Biden displays restraints?
While I do agree that there were some faults in her campaign, she was a highly qualified candidate in comparison to Trump. She wasn't an idle First Lady due to her efforts with healthcare reform and international diplomacy. She was also a New York State Senator for 8 years, was Obama's Secretary of State, and was even a member of the impeachment inquiry staff during Watergate. Sure she didn't have the governorship or military experience of other presidents, but she had incredible foreign policy experience and understood the workings of DC.
I feel like this intensly negative interpretation of her was due to years of the media machine creating such an image. Was this entitlement a misunderstanding of the strengths of her own background due to literally going against an absolute buffoon who made cruel statements? I didn't think she was the best candidate, but I knew she was the best at the moment to keep my rights and other people's rights are not attacked. Not voting for her because you don't like certain aspects about her personality (that are small potatoes in comparison to Trump's) as a protest and allowing someone like Trump to be elected just screams of privilege. It fails to recognize the greater reverberations that can happen due to a tyrant being put in such a position of power.
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Comment on Joe Biden’s chances of US re-election are better than they appear in ~society
KneeFingers LinkWhile these articles do give me some hope, I'm terribly afraid of it being another 2016 incident. Where everything looks to be going for the Democrats and then there's a major upset, but then...While these articles do give me some hope, I'm terribly afraid of it being another 2016 incident. Where everything looks to be going for the Democrats and then there's a major upset, but then again I might just be jaded after that. Apathetic voters not getting their perfect unicorn of a candidate scares me the most.
Personally, I freaked out when Trump won because I knew it would be an immediate attack on women's reproductive issues. At first my reaction felt overblown, I had just finished reading The Handmaid's Tale, but I was distraught that the "grab 'em" remark or mocking a disabled journalist wasn't enough to prevent Trump from being elected. To me those were huge red lines that were crossed, but such violations just made Trump fans all the more excites. Lo and behold my fears become true when Kavanaugh and Barrett were placed as justices and Roe was overturned. Now every backwards state is in a race to the bottom for how cruel they can be to women.
I blame voter apathy for why I can't find a decent OB in my red state. All the good practitioners moved to blue states to avoid the nightmare that unfolded in hyper pro-life states. There are millions of women in the same position as me, but might be pregnant and face even scarier possibilities. Reproductive rights activist were screaming of this reality happening in 2016 and that still wasn't enough to convince voters to vote for Hillary. It was worth it to prove a point versus preventing this destruction. I've lost some faith in the American populace due to that too.
I want to be optimistic that the fervor to restore abortion rights is enough to bring Biden another win, but I am prepared to have a plan if Trump returns. It's not just Reproductive Rights on the line here but minority, Trans, religious, and more. I sincerely believe democracy will die if Trump is reelected and I hope that's enough to convince so called moderate and independent voters.
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Comment on Jury finds Jennifer Crumbley, the Michigan school shooter’s mother, guilty of manslaughter in ~news
KneeFingers Link ParentI get this is a very sensitive topic and even the idea of mandatory parental classes has me squirming (it opens the can for abuse and discrimination), but on the other I feel like there needs to...I get this is a very sensitive topic and even the idea of mandatory parental classes has me squirming (it opens the can for abuse and discrimination), but on the other I feel like there needs to be something. What that is exactly, I'm not the professional or knowledgeable enough to say, but it would be better than nothing.
There's something called Adverse Childhood Experiences - ACEs that forms the basis of my reasoning for this something.
ACEs are common. About 64% of U.S. adults reported they had experienced at least one type of ACE before age 18, and nearly 1 in 6 (17.3%) reported they had experienced four or more types of ACEs.
Those who experience an ACE while growing up end up having health impacts due to the stresses of enduring them. This includes heart problems, substance abuse, and even partaking in risky behaviors. While what can be considered an ACE is broad and includes things out of our control, it paints a pretty stark trend of generational trauma and the scars it leaves. It's a big enough issue where even the CDC thinks it needs to be addressed and there's been several studies showing ACEs are a public health concern.
Preventing ACEs could potentially reduce many health conditions. For example, by preventing ACEs, up to 1.9 million heart disease cases and 21 million depression cases potentially could have been avoided.
I can't help but wonder if I or any other child that dealt with a traumatic childhood, that our situations would be different if our parents had taken some sort of class or had resources to deal with their own failings.
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Comment on Sam Reich on revamping the game show - and Dropout's success as a small streamer in ~tv
KneeFingers LinkI'm a huge fan of Dropout and greatly enjoy their Game Changer and Make Some Noise series! The interview does a great job calling out their great mix of scripted/improv style and I think that's...I'm a huge fan of Dropout and greatly enjoy their Game Changer and Make Some Noise series! The interview does a great job calling out their great mix of scripted/improv style and I think that's why I enjoy their content so much. It hits a certain nostalgia for me due to me enjoying Whose Line Is It Anyway as a kid, but with more wholesomeness. There's a lovely Game Changer episode called Don't Cry that is beautiful blend of comedy and kindness; it really shows the commraderie that the Dropout team has amongst each other.
For those on the fence on subscribing, Dropout has several shorts on YouTube to enjoy. If they have you rolling in laughter as they did for me, you won't regret accessing their full library.
Also shout out for the Noise Boys!
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Comment on Hurt my lower back by bending over, any tips for healing and comfort? in ~health
KneeFingers LinkSpinal fusion patient chiming in! Biofreeze is a godsend for providing some alleviation from the pain. IcyHot is also good, but BioFreeze is like have an ice pack in lotion form. If the pain is...Spinal fusion patient chiming in! Biofreeze is a godsend for providing some alleviation from the pain. IcyHot is also good, but BioFreeze is like have an ice pack in lotion form. If the pain is affecting your ability to sleep, it will wrap you in a cooling affect long enough to fall asleep.
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Comment on Over two percent of the US’s electricity generation now goes to bitcoin in ~enviro
KneeFingers Link ParentI have trouble believing this statement and the research articles that you shared in another post on this thread don't exactly pass the "sniff test." I'm familiar with the Green Software...Most of these things don't use mining, but even mining is mostly done by renewables these days.
I have trouble believing this statement and the research articles that you shared in another post on this thread don't exactly pass the "sniff test." I'm familiar with the Green Software Foundation and even attained Linux Foundation's practitioner certification for it. So I have a bit of a basis of knowledge that supports my skepticism.
While curtailments are a great start and certainly provide an answer to the problem of excess production from renewable resources, there are so many more impactful actions that can be taken especially the idea of Demand Shifting and being aware of Carben Intensity.
I am doubtful that the majority of BitCoin miners shift their workloads to regions with lower carbon intensity on the basis those regions draw the majority of their energy from renewables. Often times the mining machines are on 24/7 and are not turning off their processes during higher carbon intensity moments as well. To take these considerations requires a cut in profitability and higher monitoring that seems counter to the whole "line goes up" mentality of BitCoin.
Unless if these BitCoin operations are directly wired to a renewable resource or purchase guarantees for renewables to be their energy source, they are not operating in a green manner.
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Comment on Everyone’s a sellout now in ~life
KneeFingers Link ParentYour response is spot on and I'm tickled you mentioned Neil deGrasse Tyson because he's one of those influencers who I've grown to not like. Similar to @Notcoffeetable, these highly charismatic...Your response is spot on and I'm tickled you mentioned Neil deGrasse Tyson because he's one of those influencers who I've grown to not like. Similar to @Notcoffeetable, these highly charismatic people put me off. It's almost as if they have an aura of narcissism that can be felt and every interaction with them is calculated. I immediately want to leave the conversation when dealing with these folks; almost like a perceive them as a threat to my own wellbeing.
I've been able to network well amongst those that have been great mentors and colleagues. I honestly don't mind talking to them in that capacity when it's amongst ourselves. But the moment it breaches outside that group such as upper leadership and executives, it feels like such a dog and pony dance to garner their attention.
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Comment on Everyone’s a sellout now in ~life
KneeFingers Link ParentOut of curiosity was this for a company that was dependent on selling some type of service? I'm not quite at the level that demands such, but once I reach a certain tier of management I must...Out of curiosity was this for a company that was dependent on selling some type of service? I'm not quite at the level that demands such, but once I reach a certain tier of management I must contribute to helping sell X amount in deals. If I don't reach that target, I could be passed on being promoted despite doing well in all other categories.
I worked as a waitress prior to getting my degree and upselling was pushed heavily by managers in some of the restaurants I worked in. If a customer wanted a glass of cabernet, I was pressured to sell a whole bottle. My skin would crawl when having to put on that sales spiel to someone who clearly only wanted one glass if wine with their dinner. I think it even hurt my tips sometimes because I came across as less genuine.
Our experiences sounds similar and more and more I see myself wanting to leave my company once I reach that level.
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Comment on Everyone’s a sellout now in ~life
KneeFingers Link ParentI relate to this so much as a fellow introvert; I hate attention because it demands so much perfection. I've been told I'm an excellent interviewee and sell myself well, but everytime I am put in...I relate to this so much as a fellow introvert; I hate attention because it demands so much perfection. I've been told I'm an excellent interviewee and sell myself well, but everytime I am put in that position it feels weird to act gloaty in those ways. My field of work is based off of that premise, but I've seen it idolize lying and supporting it all to make a sell.
I'm more so troubled that these expectations are falling on children given your daughters experience! In fact that feels disturbing and opens the door for creeps to enter her domain all in the name of followers! Straight up yuck! I would also be deeply concerned how curating that type of following while dealing with going through puberty as pre-teen would impact her mentally and effect her self-esteem. There's a trend of pre-teens filling Sephoras and buying up premium beauty products because they feel they need to in order to keep up with their peers.
I had a meme I made go viral within a group I associated with on Twitter and seeing it get 10k+ impressions made me want to become a hermit. My brain could not handle having that many people come across my profile despite it being under an anonymous handle. While some would get a thrill from that type of exposure it filled me with anxiety.
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Comment on How US anti-abortion ruling spurred federal action against the location data industry in ~tech
KneeFingers Link ParentWhenever I hear of another state proposing bounty laws akin to the one they have in Texas, I immediately think back to that exact thing. Those who support such a system now appear just as...Whenever I hear of another state proposing bounty laws akin to the one they have in Texas, I immediately think back to that exact thing. Those who support such a system now appear just as abhorrent as those who supported similar systems then. It's dehumanizing and intentionally cruel.
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Comment on Everyone’s a sellout now in ~life
KneeFingers (edited )LinkWhile the article focuses a lot from the perspective of those in creative fields, it does bring up that those in white-collar office jobs are starting to be expected to self-promote in some way....While the article focuses a lot from the perspective of those in creative fields, it does bring up that those in white-collar office jobs are starting to be expected to self-promote in some way. Think building your own brand on LinkedIn even if you are a run of the mill developer or accountant.
I stumbled across this article after seeing my supervisor post several self-promoting posts on his personal LinkedIn and it filling me with dread that will be an expectation of myself in the near future should I be promoted. To me it comes off as so fake and meaningless. I genuinely don't have a passion for developmental topics nor do I desire to write about them as if I am a romanticist. If my company came to me stating I need to make X amount of promotional posts on LinkedIn about Y tool or else my performance review would be impacted, my stomach would be churning over an additional task that feels influencer like. It just seems like more work beyond my initial list of responsibilities that only bolsters the company I work for, and gives them free advertising without additional compensation for me.
For those who partake in these type of networking activities on job boards such as LinkedIn, what are your thoughts? Is there a practicality to actually self-promoting in this way or is it another form of corporations offloading that task onto its workers? If you have shirked these duties, has it had a negative impact on your career growth?
I absolutely hate influencer culture, but I understand why some feel compelled to do it inorder to make it. It's a case of me not hating the players, but hating the game. I absolutely want to avoid having to do such a thing for myself because it feels like additional work outside my 40 hours. There's also an element that I prefer being anonymous in an online space that has been freeing after scrubbing and dumping other social media platforms. But there's also a fear that this avoidance puts me behind my peers and will eventually catch up to me.
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Everyone’s a sellout now
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Comment on How US anti-abortion ruling spurred federal action against the location data industry in ~tech
KneeFingers (edited )LinkIdaho has gone down the extreme end in their anti-abortion laws, so to see they were the ones that dismissed a case on one of these data sellers is very telling about their intentions. I don't...Last year an Idaho district court dealt a blow to the FTC by dismissing the case at Kochava’s request. The agency has since filed an amended complaint with greater detail about the company’s data collection practices, including specific examples found in a sample Kochava dataset of data collected at a reproductive health clinic and houses of worship. The case is still pending.
Idaho has gone down the extreme end in their anti-abortion laws, so to see they were the ones that dismissed a case on one of these data sellers is very telling about their intentions. I don't care what type of fluffed-up statements the CEOs put out saying they are not using the data in those ways or that it's completely anonymous; I don't trust them at all.
What's more disturbing is that these companies collecting this type of location data obviously see a market for it. That it's OK to sell-out women for seeking reproductive healthcare just so they can sell a product.
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Comment on Why do recipe writers lie about how long it takes to caramelize onions? in ~food
KneeFingers LinkOne of the best interpretations for caramelizing onions was something along the lines of "for as long as you are willing." The author of the recipe provided a time range of about 20 minutes, but...One of the best interpretations for caramelizing onions was something along the lines of "for as long as you are willing." The author of the recipe provided a time range of about 20 minutes, but insisted that the longer you caramelized them the more in depth the flavors of the dish would be.
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Comment on My boss is being accused of sexual misconduct and I don't know what to do in ~life
KneeFingers Link ParentYou're comment comes across as very dismissive of my own experiences of being sexually assaulted MULTIPLE times. Instead of trying to understand why I as a victim would be so hesitant to maintain...You're comment comes across as very dismissive of my own experiences of being sexually assaulted MULTIPLE times. Instead of trying to understand why I as a victim would be so hesitant to maintain a relationship with a known SA or continue to mingle with those who support them, you instead try to invalidate it.
Two of my assaulters where 17 when they committed their acts against me. They're in their 30s now and have continued to go about their lives. I still carry the scars of what they did to me 13+ years later and have had to go through extensive therapy to relearn how to trust others because of what they did to me. I don't know exactly what you did that you identify on being on the scale of sexual assault, but your victim(s) most likely carry a similar scar from that experience. I still have nightmares of what was done to me, do those you affected have them as well?
I see a lot of commentary of "what about me" in your comment and a heavy lack of compassion on how victims heal from sexual assault. Even just unwanted physical contact is frustratingly bad because it is one person ignoring another person's personal space and clearly stating they don't respect it. It comes across as power and control over another, and violates their own free will. When I have flashbacks of these types of encounters, it feels like I'm drowning and screaming for help, but the water is already in my lungs.
By your logic, if the person you love the most in the world sexually assaulted someone, no matter how intimately you know parts of that person to be good, you would be bound to exile them to a life of zero friends, zero love, zero compassion, zero forgiveness.
If I found out my husband ever committed such a thing, I would immediately divorce him and pack-up. After everything I've told him about my own sexual assault experiences, him doing such a thing would be such a slap in the face. His brothers and family would most likely do the same because they have an inkling of my past and would honestly be disgusted their son did such a thing.
Trying to equate my compassion for the homeless or addicts to sexual assaulters is a disgusting comparison. Again a sexual assaulter commits an act that violates the free will of another person's body. A homeless person hasn't done that to me nor has an addict. It's OK to want to find your own journey to redeem yourself, but it's not ok to expect victims of sexual assault to back that journey. Instead of having compassion for that perspective you have instead taken it as an affront to your own character. You're willing to stand on the edge of a cliff for sexual assaulters and not the victims is very telling.
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Comment on “Both-sides” and when is nuance acceptable discourse? in ~talk
KneeFingers LinkThere are some disturbing viewpoints that do not deserve a fair argument validating both ends or attempting to reason them. When such arguments are pushed or continue to assert an equality of...There are some disturbing viewpoints that do not deserve a fair argument validating both ends or attempting to reason them. When such arguments are pushed or continue to assert an equality of opposing views, think good vs evil, it attempts to normalize or diminish the evilness of the other side.
QThe most clear example I can think for this was the Unite Right Rally in Charlotte that resulted in clashes with counter protesters, only from Trump to refuse to denounce the white nationalist and claim "very fine people on both sides." This comment attempted to equate neo-nazis, klansmen, white nationalist, and whole other slew of awful people as the same of those protesting that a racist statue needs to come down. In this incident Trump's words attempted to validate the actions of a racist group and minimize the valid reasoning of those wanting remove a symbol of racism. When reality those racist should have never been given the time and immediately eviscerated.
Just like racists, there are other horrible views movements that should not be given a stage for both-sides arguments. When there is clearly something malicious like anti-trans rhetoric, attacks on LGBTQ movements, misogynistic movements, Nazism, antisemitism, anti-muslim, and more; there is no room to entertain their awful views. When I encounter a discussion where someone is attempting to give concessions to those groups and minimize the effects of their victims, they're both sidesing the issue and only helps to normalize such horrendous things.
The Don't Be a Sucker short film produced by the US Department of Defense in 1947 is a great early depiction that this type of platforming or normalizing such atrocious views can be dangerous to us as a society.
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Comment on Why do you think that there isn't a male-led/focused feminist-style movement? in ~life.men
KneeFingers Link ParentI hate to put it this way, but collective rage sells better in our capatilistic society. In the case of the feminist movement you have a long history of women not settling for the status quo and...I hate to put it this way, but collective rage sells better in our capatilistic society. In the case of the feminist movement you have a long history of women not settling for the status quo and that rage culminating into social movements. There's better hegemony with feminist women as a group that has a long track record of items we have sought change for our collective betterment. To seek that change and actually have it happen requires a lot of anger to act.
I don't see this type of group collaboration in more positive male spaces. They're more fractured and even in my experience seeing women's professional groups attempting to include men in their discussions, the responses are low. But those who follow people like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson, they're more cohesive in their community and thus are a bigger group to market for. Positive male movements just have not been acknowledged as a group to market towards because they lack a large collective to sell too.
More and more companies are turning towards just hiring software consultants versus hiring full-time due to the consultanting companies handling the brunt of healthcare/benefits/HR. A trend that I am starting to catch onto though is that many of these companies are selling their contracts with cheaper developers from Eastern Europe and India. US companies no longer want to pay 65k for a junior US based dev when they can get a senior dev for half the cost from abroad. The landscape feels brutal now if you are early in your career.