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Comment on The ideal candidate will be punched in the stomach in ~health.mental
Nny (edited )Link ParentA marriage should be mutual, one should not make their own life better at the expense of their spouse. I don't disagree that's how marriage is for a lot of people (hence all the divorce), but...A marriage should be mutual, one should not make their own life better at the expense of their spouse. I don't disagree that's how marriage is for a lot of people (hence all the divorce), but that's a different topic.
I keep relationships limited (not just romantic) because my experience is most people want relationships to take use of people. Capitalistic jobs (not work) is one of those. I try to only build relationships with those that are about being mutual beneficiaries
But yes, it's impossible to live life without having to have some kind of relationship like that. That doesn't change the fact you can do whatever you can to limit or leave them, eg divorcing bad marriages
If it’s a mutual benefit party, and the other party comes into a windfall from it that you are ignorant of, would they share it with you or hide it from you? Those that share are the proper people to maintain, those that don’t aren’t.
A capitalistic job isn’t hiding the windfall from you, they’re expressly telling you they will keep it for themselves. So not only are they in the “aren’t” group, they’re telling on themselves that they aren’t
Hence making my own capital
Edit: some expansion
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Comment on The ideal candidate will be punched in the stomach in ~health.mental
Nny (edited )Link ParentJust adding on to your second sentence: be willing to be uncomfortable. Which is implied with the “that kind of job is absolutely not an option”, but I think is worth stating outright At least in...So I guess my (terrible) advice as a whiny impostor is to quit your job without a plan and try to be happy instead of worrying about the future. The kind of thing that's much easier if you have decided that doing that kind of job is absolutely not an option (which is itself easier if you don't have a family depending on you to be fed).
Just adding on to your second sentence: be willing to be uncomfortable. Which is implied with the “that kind of job is absolutely not an option”, but I think is worth stating outright
At least in America, I feel like so many people try to live their lives only in comfort. I believe “not being uncomfortable” is very much a variable in American thinking even though it’s something that holds one back massively
It will not be any kind of smooth transition regardless of planning and all that, so gotta understand the goal is “independency” (or your choice of word) and not “forever comfortable”
Sometimes the only way to take a step forward is two steps back first
(And also yes this is not really a comment towards someone who has dependents)
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Comment on The ideal candidate will be punched in the stomach in ~health.mental
Nny (edited )Link ParentTrust me you aren’t alone; I dropped out of high school in ‘03 because I could see it in all the adults around me and why the fuck would I choose that life (and why would I want to stay here for...Trust me you aren’t alone; I dropped out of high school in ‘03 because I could see it in all the adults around me and why the fuck would I choose that life (and why would I want to stay here for two more years when I don’t even want that life)
(And honestly dropping out and getting my GED is one of the things I’m happiest I’ve done in my life - there really isn’t a difference between a hs diploma (just can’t go into military or a university [gotta get AA at a college first]).)
Now I do have a compsci degree and worked for a few years to pay it off and such. And yeah. It’s fucking horrible. Hell I had actually worked with my boss to go down to a part time employee (not often you get that as a software developer) less than a year I had even started my job because I just couldn’t anymore.
Then COVID happened right after and remote work was better, only reason it lasted years. But it’s still horrendous way to live life in my opinion. Giving up your autonomy to another so that they can make their own life better at your expense. Fuck that. So starting my own business now (which was the whole reason I went back to school in the first place and got a CS degree. Well, that and I love learning and programming)
And I’m praying it works out because reiterating story/thread/all god is the interview gauntlet horrendous
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Comment on Grammar errors that actually matter, or: the thread where we all become prescriptivists in ~humanities.languages
Nny Haha, fair! I will say I never considered a difference between the two.Haha, fair! I will say I never considered a difference between the two.
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny Yeah, there's no real reason to watch a game if it's not actually competitive. I'm here to see the game, not players being good - that's the bonus. Sorry your area got shafted, I really do love...Yeah, there's no real reason to watch a game if it's not actually competitive. I'm here to see the game, not players being good - that's the bonus.
Sorry your area got shafted, I really do love minor league games. Just a nice way to spending a chill evening out. It looks like they're going to try to reduce it even more, which makes me sad. I'm happy to see minor league players get treated better, but the point was to reallocate resources from the owners pockets to players - not flat out delete teams so that there's less players to have to pay
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny Nice! I'm jealous, have always wanted to go. I live pretty close to Savannah now, so I need to look into going to one on their home turf. Let us know how it goes! I really wouldn't be surprised if...Nice! I'm jealous, have always wanted to go. I live pretty close to Savannah now, so I need to look into going to one on their home turf. Let us know how it goes!
I really wouldn't be surprised if in the next 1-2 years, they get a spring training game against a team
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny Yeah the AL East is always a blood bath. I think the Blue Jays get shafted the most too, since they generally try to build teams the "right way" instead of through manipulating the cost/club...Yeah the AL East is always a blood bath. I think the Blue Jays get shafted the most too, since they generally try to build teams the "right way" instead of through manipulating the cost/club controlled system like the Rays (and looks like the Orioles are doing with their lack of spending on their core) - which, then going against the pocket books of the Yankees and Red Soxs make it unfair.
It really is sad they haven't gotten Vlad locked up. I'm kinda hoping as baseball fans we'll start pushing back more after what Mavs fans have done to their organization (given, trading a basketball player makes a LOT more of an impact since the games flows through them)
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny (edited )Link ParentMan I got into baseball in the 90s and it's crazy the fall from grace they've had since the late 2000s. Loved watching Thomas as a kid. Was also fun rooting for Jake Burger recently after getting...Man I got into baseball in the 90s and it's crazy the fall from grace they've had since the late 2000s. Loved watching
ThomeThomas as a kid. Was also fun rooting for Jake Burger recently after getting him from ya'll...but no more lol.Since my favorite team is the Marlins, I'll sell you on a bottle of bourbon and company in the corner while we cry instead
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny Yeah, the Twinkies have been so close to being so good for years now without being able to put it completely together. And still praying for Byron Buxton's body to hold up for a season. Dude will...Yeah, the Twinkies have been so close to being so good for years now without being able to put it completely together. And still praying for Byron Buxton's body to hold up for a season. Dude will win an MVP if he can play a full season.
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny It was a big thing for me as a kid when we got to have a team here. I was finally getting to have a team of my own! That team would be the Florida Marlins. Unfortunately, while I love baseball, it...It was a big thing for me as a kid when we got to have a team here. I was finally getting to have a team of my own!
That team would be the Florida Marlins.
Unfortunately, while I love baseball, it has made me not be a fan of the MLB. I'm praying for the days where cities get to own the teams themselves, where revenue sharing allows for competitive play throughout. I do as little as I can to financially support the product; eg I get MLB.TV for free through someone with T-Mobile, try to go to minor league games over major league games, and have not been to a Marlins game since years before the new stadium opened (so that's coming up on two decades)
And unfortunately, why I do love baseball, I love the Florida Marlins more. Nothing more powerful than that childhood connection with a sports team. So I just don't plain watch that much period, and I guess part of this thread is hoping to be able to enjoy baseball vicariously through other people haha.
I do also vaguely root for the Los Angelos Dodgers - they became my second team when Gary Sheffield was traded there, and needless to say got VERY excited when they poached Andrew Friedman. But it aint the same, it just at least gives me something to root for in the post season. The New York Yankees are my family's team (dad's side spent summers in the bronx), so root for them as a third option.
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
Nny Do you follow any league outside of MLB? Eg NPB, KBO, College Baseball, etcDo you follow any league outside of MLB? Eg NPB, KBO, College Baseball, etc
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
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Comment on A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition in ~sports.baseball
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A baseball discussion thread, 2025 spring training edition
Going to try something a little different, guess we'll see how it goes. Main thinking is just getting baseball discussion going. So, meaning not just talking about spring training and not even...
Going to try something a little different, guess we'll see how it goes. Main thinking is just getting baseball discussion going. So, meaning not just talking about spring training and not even just about MLB - any baseball discussion what so ever.
Don't know baseball? Good place to ask :)
I figure a kind of more casual thread to get to know other fans here would be a good thing to have before the season starts - and people can just set it a single thread to ignore if they have no interest.
I'll leave some top level comments as starting points
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Nny Older Millennial/Florida/Man And I'm from the northern part which means I'm from the southern part. Yeah I've swam with gators, no I'm not high on bath salts. (Currently) Main interests are being...Older Millennial/Florida/Man
And I'm from the northern part which means I'm from the southern part. Yeah I've swam with gators, no I'm not high on bath salts.
(Currently)
Main interests are being out in the water, music (listening/writing/concerts), sports/being active, weird/indie movies(/art as a whole), and thinking I had more things to list than I do when I typed the comma and.
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Comment on a/s/l? Tildes user survey question. in ~tildes
Nny Yeah I got to experience a bit of that with Tulsa - as they say there, they're living on Tulsa time haha. It's why Minneapolis does interest me a bit as somewhere to live, as it basically seems...The vibe is perfect for me, I just like how friendly, smart, and kind hearted we tend to collectively be and we seem generally unbothered by what's going on elsewhere (I mean, we're fully aware of what's going on in the federal government and it will affect us, I just mean that we're pretty self sustaining up here and our quality of life is great).
Yeah I got to experience a bit of that with Tulsa - as they say there, they're living on Tulsa time haha. It's why Minneapolis does interest me a bit as somewhere to live, as it basically seems like "Tulsa Upgraded" in terms of city amenities and progressiveness (especially on the state level...OK is not ok; though part of why I like being there or here in the south, to fight the fight).
We tend to be a safe place for immigrants to move to and a safe place for LGBT people and other minorities to live, so we get a big mix of ethnicities and cultures here which contributes to friendly cities, lots of things to do, and amazing restaurants and food variety, etc.
And also what interests me; I finally got to live in a progressive area in Denver recently, but the city is so homogenized that it can come off incredibly NIMBY.
Michigan is the other place that's been looking on the up to me, and incredibly cheap. I'm kinda hoping if I go north far enough, my cold-blooded ass will just freeze during the winter and I can just have someone thaw me come spring.
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Nny I recently was living in Tulsa and met quite a bit of people from Minnesota. I was surprised just how much praise it got from everybody - I never would have thought it, but yeah everyone says it’s...I recently was living in Tulsa and met quite a bit of people from Minnesota. I was surprised just how much praise it got from everybody - I never would have thought it, but yeah everyone says it’s is a great place to live
There’s no way I can handle it though. Like, they had all moved to Tulsa for the warmth (the cold being the one complaint)…and Tulsa was too cold for me. God I just looked it up and it’s -12 in Minneapolis right now. Meanwhile a cold front is coming so our high is only 72 today…I need my year round water access. And non-clattering teeth
What makes it the best state to you in particular?
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Comment on Grammar errors that actually matter, or: the thread where we all become prescriptivists in ~humanities.languages
Nny (edited )LinkAs a southerner, when I say “ya’ll”, I’m saying a contraction of “ya” and “all” This obsession of spelling it “y’all” is an abomination. Saying it’s because it’s a contraction of you and all is...As a southerner, when I say “ya’ll”, I’m saying a contraction of “ya” and “all”
This obsession of spelling it “y’all” is an abomination. Saying it’s because it’s a contraction of you and all is saying you don’t know the culture. We don’t say you, we say ya.
It’s spelled ya’ll, I don’t care what dictionaries say. The “ya” part of saying it is saying ya, and then we do the tongue roll for the ‘ll to tack on the all to the ya. Meaning the contraction happens in the middle - so that’s where the apostrophe goes
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Comment on New users: Ask your questions about Tildes here! (v4) in ~tildes
Nny (edited )Link ParentIt's definitely a spectrum thing too, so I wouldn't be surprised if yours isn't that bad. But yeah they do blend into one color The main reason I know I'm colorblind is it very much runs in my...It's definitely a spectrum thing too, so I wouldn't be surprised if yours isn't that bad. But yeah they do blend into one color
The main reason I know I'm colorblind is it very much runs in my family (mom's dad and his brothers) and they knew to look for it; I think I have only one male cousin who isn't color blind.
It does cause me some issues. What's horrible for me is I can't tell the difference between red lights and yellow lights at stop lights (America). I can use spatial information to figure it out thankfully.
What does REALLY SUCK is the single bulb flashing red or yellow, because there's a massive difference between a flashing yellow and a flashing red light. Thankfully I can use other traffic going my way to dictate for myself, but if there isn't I have to treat it as a flashing red just in case.
I don’t really have favorites, but Rachel Weisz is the first to pop into my mind.
Two of my all time favorite movies are The Fountain and The Lobster, and she played a big role in how good both those films are