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Comment on "Ai ni, laoji": China's Gen Z is breaking tradition by learning self-love (English) in ~health.mental
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (January 2026) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentI get that, and have often felt the same in situations in the past. Accepting that the Universe is only fair in its unfairness also takes effort. Our brains love to try to make sense out of things...I get that, and have often felt the same in situations in the past. Accepting that the Universe is only fair in its unfairness also takes effort. Our brains love to try to make sense out of things even if you know it 'just is'.
Sometimes I wish I could believe in karma though, given, well... vaguely gestures at the world on fire
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (January 2026) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentI'm really sorry you're still dealing with this amount and intensity of stress-inducing situations for no fault of your own. :\ Rationally you most likely already know this but: it is not selfish...I'm really sorry you're still dealing with this amount and intensity of stress-inducing situations for no fault of your own. :\ Rationally you most likely already know this but: it is not selfish for wanting to go on a trip, your situation is natural to want to have a break from. That doesn't mean you don't desire to help those you loved, it means you also want to take care of yourself.
Take care. 🫂
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Comment on I am kinda curious about the demographics of Tildes in ~talk
Raspcoffee LinkEarly thirties, man, Dutch, software engineer with physics degree.Early thirties, man, Dutch, software engineer with physics degree.
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Comment on What's something you're "in too deep" on? in ~talk
Raspcoffee Link...I was just telling myself, as I wrote a comment in the mental health thread, to not keep yapping about my crush. sigh In the end, I've ended up becoming very invested in a person I know I......I was just telling myself, as I wrote a comment in the mental health thread, to not keep yapping about my crush. sigh
In the end, I've ended up becoming very invested in a person I know I haven't met yet. A little more than month we will. I'm not going to write down all the details(both for privacy and it being goddamn embarrassing to let it out in public), but suffice to say, if we don't click irl there's no way in hell it won't cause a big crash for both of us.
At the same time, it's very anxiety-inducing, yet I know I wouldn't make any different choices at the start if I had to make them again.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (January 2026) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee LinkBack at work after a camp I've been at between Christmas and new years, where I usually turn internet off. This does wonders for my mental health - and now I needed it especially. Not just due to...Back at work after a camp I've been at between Christmas and new years, where I usually turn internet off. This does wonders for my mental health - and now I needed it especially.
Not just due to the state of the world, but also the events last summer - some of you may remember, I basically developed the kind of unconditional self-love one only gets in early childhood. This led to some titanic collisions in my own head. Leading to me processing what would normally take years in a couple of weeks.
Which sounds really nice - and the end result is amazing! - but tiredness catches up with you. When I arrived at camp, rather than doing the usual participating with all sorts of boardgames my body when ploof nearly immediately. That bad. The processing + accepting some things about my family + holding on to a crush for a long time until we'll meet in about a month has been stressful.
I'm thinking of doing something like mindfulness daily now. Because it's clear I spend a long time plowing through, and that was a good thing. But this kind of tiredness can creep up to you more sneakingly than I expected.
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Comment on How do you want to define 2026 for yourself? in ~talk
Raspcoffee LinkI hope to be able to move out before the year ends... more than anything, I need a certain degree of independence due to personal circumstances. One thing that's also consistently on my mind is my...I hope to be able to move out before the year ends... more than anything, I need a certain degree of independence due to personal circumstances.
One thing that's also consistently on my mind is my crush who I'll meet in a bit less than two months. No matter how it will end, I think it's bound to leave a strong mark on my 2026.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
Raspcoffee LinkDrunk raccoon found passed out on liquor store floor after breaking in Trash panda living the dream of a trash panda.Drunk raccoon found passed out on liquor store floor after breaking in
Trash panda living the dream of a trash panda.
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Comment on RAM is so expensive, Samsung won’t even sell it to Samsung in ~tech
Raspcoffee Link ParentI really wonder what will happen to all that infrastructure and parts after all the bubble bursts. Though I'm not looking forward to the fallout, especially if it will interact with the other...I really wonder what will happen to all that infrastructure and parts after all the bubble bursts. Though I'm not looking forward to the fallout, especially if it will interact with the other (economic) issues in the USA in particular. That said, the longer the burst gets delayed, the harder the fallout may be. <_<;
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Comment on Do you feel like you’ve had many lives so far? Why, why not? Which? in ~life
Raspcoffee LinkMan. Given how I've essentially lived a life trying to act someone who I wasn't for the first 3 decades of my life? Yes. It's like I've only recently truly began to live for myself. Of course, not...Man. Given how I've essentially lived a life trying to act someone who I wasn't for the first 3 decades of my life? Yes.
It's like I've only recently truly began to live for myself. Of course, not all experiences I had in the past were shaped like that, but it's only after I truly got self-love last summer that I'm experiencing being me, and enjoying my own presence.
My life has also been very complicated academically and socially so I've moved a lot of classes, majors, universities and lived abroad briefly. Strangely enough, despite most of that not being 100% my own life, I appreciate many of the experiences I've gained. As well as experiencing deep sadness over the many trauma's I've had to endure.
I've recently slowly begun to share my life story to someone new in my life and it has been a good reminder of how far I've come.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (December 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentThank you! You're right and for now, I at least enjoy their presence and will continue to do so. It also very much gives me something to look forward to.Thank you! You're right and for now, I at least enjoy their presence and will continue to do so. It also very much gives me something to look forward to.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (December 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee LinkComplicated. At the same time, I'm getting in a better and better position to move out and live my own life, slowly but surely. But I'm also experiencing an unusual kind of stress over my crush....Complicated. At the same time, I'm getting in a better and better position to move out and live my own life, slowly but surely. But I'm also experiencing an unusual kind of stress over my crush.
We have yet to meet irl. And, by their own admission, they're a bit different irl. So I won't know for sure whether we'll click until then. At the same time, we already talk daily, a lot, and are quite vulnerable with each other. Some days, it almost feels like we're already in relationship. Some days, it feels like it's all in my head. There have also been a few reasons why I first was hesitant to even consider pursuing a relationship, although by now I am rather certain it can be healthy.
Given how this has been going on for quite a bit, it's causing a mental stress I haven't experienced before. We are set to met in a bit more than two months though. So then I'll both learn of whether we click irl, and whether they feel the same.
It is, however, a particular kind of low-key exhausting to be so invested in someone for so long, without being able to confirm how they feel.
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Comment on Collapse of critical Atlantic current is no longer low-likelihood, study finds in ~enviro
Raspcoffee Link ParentAgreed. It's really difficult, and yet so vital, to both let go of the feeling of control while also resisting the might of fossil fuel companies, disinformation campaigns, etc. It's crazy to do...Agreed. It's really difficult, and yet so vital, to both let go of the feeling of control while also resisting the might of fossil fuel companies, disinformation campaigns, etc. It's crazy to do so given the scale, but living your life is as important as fighting for it.
I suppose that sometimes living your life can be a form of resistance as well. Easier said than done, though.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Raspcoffee LinkRecently begun with Clair Obscur: Expedition 33. With English interface but French VA as I've been learning French anyway so that's a plus. I like it so far! It feels like it mixes JRPGs with more...Recently begun with Clair Obscur: Expedition 33. With English interface but French VA as I've been learning French anyway so that's a plus. I like it so far! It feels like it mixes JRPGs with more western-style games somehow, along with a beautiful melancholic, unusual apocalyptic setting - which admittingly I'm a sucker for.
I'm also still addicted to Hades 2 despite, aside from a few Chaos trials, having finished nearly everything to do. It's soooo good.
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Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
Raspcoffee Link Parent...Funny. A few days ago, in the Netherlands, we've had police dogs retrieving a fellow dog from the A10 highway. Google Translate:...Funny. A few days ago, in the Netherlands, we've had police dogs retrieving a fellow dog from the A10 highway.
Google Translate:
A young dog was rescued from the A10 West highway by Amsterdam police on Sunday. The playful labradoodle proved difficult to capture, so two police dogs were deployed. This allowed the police to safely remove the animal from the road.
"This big little friend decided to enjoy the nice weather. Unfortunately, the chosen location, the A10 highway, was somewhat unsuitable for that," the police reported on social media.
The police deployed two dogs to first "befriend" the escaped animal. Then, together with an inspector from Rijkswaterstaat (the Directorate-General for Public Works and Water Management), the police were able to capture the labradoodle and bring it to safety.
The adolescent dog has since been reunited with its owners, the police announced.
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Comment on What are your favorite simple pleasures? in ~talk
Raspcoffee Link ParentOooh walking through forests is so nice. Like bathing in green, or more colours if it's autumn/white if it snowed.Oooh walking through forests is so nice. Like bathing in green, or more colours if it's autumn/white if it snowed.
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Comment on What are your favorite simple pleasures? in ~talk
Raspcoffee LinkCycling to and from work. It's a nice day to start and end my day.Cycling to and from work. It's a nice day to start and end my day.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (November 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee LinkSome memories resurfaced of me doing something... Well, not very good. Which is why I have therapy in less than two hours. I'm pretty sure my brain only decided to let them resurface after gaining...Some memories resurfaced of me doing something... Well, not very good. Which is why I have therapy in less than two hours. I'm pretty sure my brain only decided to let them resurface after gaining the self love I have because I'm not sure I could cope with it otherwise.
Then there is my crush.
I'm pretty smitten by this point. And I'm fairly certain they know I'm at least interested. I suspect, though I won't know for sure any time soon, that they feel the same.
But one thing we both know is that we don't know yet whether we'll click irl, and it'll take awhile until we have the opportunity to meet. So that's something.
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Comment on OpenAI says hundreds of thousands of ChatGPT users may show signs of manic or psychotic crisis every week in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentI've never heard of it before, so I'm actually happy to hear that it does happen sometimes! I've basically had to learn much of it myself in my 20s.I've never heard of it before, so I'm actually happy to hear that it does happen sometimes! I've basically had to learn much of it myself in my 20s.
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Comment on OpenAI says hundreds of thousands of ChatGPT users may show signs of manic or psychotic crisis every week in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee LinkAnd this is with their own benchmarks? I'm not surprised it's really bad, but these numbers are insane. I already developed an opinion that we need to teach emotional regulation in classes for...And this is with their own benchmarks?
I'm not surprised it's really bad, but these numbers are insane. I already developed an opinion that we need to teach emotional regulation in classes for different reasons, and now I wonder if we also need it to make people aware of the emotional feedback loops LLMs can cause.
Also...
While the clinicians did not always agree, overall, OpenAI says they found the newer model reduced undesired answers between 39 percent and 52 percent across all of the categories.
Am I overthinking this, or is there an implicit statement here? It doesn't say anything about how much clinicians agree with the numbers OpenAI give here, but the way it's presented make it appear as such?
I hope it's a rather cynic part of me, as it feels like something that's presented to be more favourable than it actually is. Which, given the numbers in the article, would be horrifying.
At the same time, that is wonderful. On the other hand, I can't help but feel sad(mourning by proxy?) about what may have been lost in the mean time.
All the strength and wishes to them though, of course!