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Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
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Comment on Why do you like your job? in ~life
Raspcoffee LinkSoftware engineer - I like how I'm tackling problems and not just writing code, but also thinking about maintenance of the code in the long run. That said, I do think that eventually I'd prefer to...Software engineer - I like how I'm tackling problems and not just writing code, but also thinking about maintenance of the code in the long run. That said, I do think that eventually I'd prefer to do something like this in a more scientific setting (research software engineer, or even R&D with some coding), but for now I'm more than content.
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Comment on An AI social coach is teaching empathy to people with autism in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentReally, you've nailed it here. That kind of second-hand cringe used to be unbearable for me. As an adult it's a whole lot easier but in the past, man. I feel very uncomfortable with at least the...The closest comparison I can make, and I'm allistic so this isn't my experience please feel free to correct me autistic folks, is to take the "cringe" feeling of watching the UK Office (or Scott's Tots from the US version) or watching someone do a big flash mob proposal and get rejected, or other second hand embarrassment and think of how that feeling is strong enough a lot of people stop watching the inciting media. Maybe it even makes you a little nauseated as you imagine yourself in that position, or you recall a similar situation that happened to you. But copy/paste that onto other emotions and imagine the difficulty of responding empathetically when experiencing whole body emotions, ones that may overwhelm your sensory limits.
Really, you've nailed it here. That kind of second-hand cringe used to be unbearable for me. As an adult it's a whole lot easier but in the past, man.
I feel very uncomfortable with at least the marketing of this research, teaching ND kids on what responses are considered better to NT kids may help them somewhat in a social setting but well, as you said, that's not teaching empathy. And I'm not convinced it won't cause other issues in the long run. I was effectively taught to behave more NT and it has been extremely damaging for me, and that's unfortunately not common. If people will begin using this to make NT kids 'more empathetic' it may actually do the opposite as they learn to just reply in certain circumstances, even if the tool may be useful.
Reading over the paper itself, they fortunately decided to not make it openly accessible and explicitly mention hallucinations caused by other LLMs which I'm very relieved about. We don't need more 'development' without any breaks. They also asked about the comfort in entering/exiting conversations though, I don't think they asked for how much they'd recommend this tool themselves, which I think is more important. (also, the gender imbalance is really high... 13/2)
I don't want to exclude the possibility of teaching ND kids or adults social appropriate responses(because that can help a lot) through bots if it really helps. Though the research for this tool makes me feel like we're continuing the same trend of trying to teach autistic boys to 'behave'. I know that that sounds harsh, but it's what I keep seeing: attempts to change behaviour with a high gender imbalance.
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Comment on Therapists are secretly using ChatGPT in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentI'd also be concerned about culture tbh. LLMs have already shown to have a cultural bias (defining cultures is difficult and I'm aware of flaws of these kind of research, but still). With how LLMs...I'd also be concerned about culture tbh. LLMs have already shown to have a cultural bias (defining cultures is difficult and I'm aware of flaws of these kind of research, but still). With how LLMs are designed to (usually) give an answer that sounds satisfying, I could see it resulting in projecting issues in a culturally incompatible way? Feel free to correct me, but it sounds to me like a recipe for issues with ethnic minorities.
I don't want to rule out LLMs never being useful - but I wouldn't trust one with this anytime soon given the issues around mental health that keep popping up.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (September 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee LinkYesterday I had a very intense therapy session of EMDR. Some old memories resurfaced after my recently acquired self-love and the way it had a titanic collision with some toxic parts of me. It...Yesterday I had a very intense therapy session of EMDR. Some old memories resurfaced after my recently acquired self-love and the way it had a titanic collision with some toxic parts of me. It ended up being a complex web of memories giving my early puberty a really nasty experience in a way I did not expect, although it did explain a lot...
I'll have to do another session or two for sure. But my head feels much lighter already. And I understand my own life better and better as this experience goes on.
In another note... I've been struggling with the state of the world but in an unusual way. I'm not directly at threat of any of it, at least in the near future. But a lot of people I know are, and there are some things that are difficult for me not to take personally, or I understand the consequences of some very specific "policies" a bit better than other people. And it's strangely isolating. Like I'm not the victim in a lot of different cases. Which, I could handle if it was just a few things. But when stacked together it's something else.
Paired with how much my own life improves and, well, it's not exactly survivor guilt. But it's not not that either. It's a strange dichotomic feeling that is difficult to put in words.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (September 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentSometimes it do be like that. Where you can only really express bits and pieces due to being tired, or being unstable, etc. I hope you can have at least some rest soon, despite(or perhaps...Not sure how to post about it, especially the incomplete bits or the ones that are mostly sketches.
Sometimes it do be like that. Where you can only really express bits and pieces due to being tired, or being unstable, etc.
I hope you can have at least some rest soon, despite(or perhaps especially because) of the chronic fatigue.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (September 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentI'm sorry. I can't even pretend to understand what it must be like but still, I'm sorry.I'm sorry. I can't even pretend to understand what it must be like but still, I'm sorry.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
Raspcoffee LinkI've recently started I Was A Teenage Exocolonist and so far I love it. I'm still early in my first run but I really enjoy the atmosphere, storytelling and gameplay. And it's probably going to get...I've recently started I Was A Teenage Exocolonist and so far I love it. I'm still early in my first run but I really enjoy the atmosphere, storytelling and gameplay. And it's probably going to get a whole lot more messed up given what I know so far story wise, which is something I look forward too(well until my favorite characters end up dying of course).
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of August 25 in ~society
Raspcoffee Link ParentI'm oddly glad both that the director is resisting and that others are resigning in a way. It's drawing a lot of attention and creating turmoil what would otherwise have been a 'clean takeover'....I'm oddly glad both that the director is resisting and that others are resigning in a way. It's drawing a lot of attention and creating turmoil what would otherwise have been a 'clean takeover'. I've seen so many instances where the policies will absolutely, 100% kill people and there being enough attention for it. Quality control of foodstuff being an example.
I really hope the next wave of long covid won't be too bad for the people but man, the fact that this is paired with blatant eugenics at times is horrifying.
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Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime
Raspcoffee LinkI finished the manga Houseki no Kuni/Land of the Lustrous yesterday. Man. So many thoughts. The story is well made, and the developments are insane. Personally I think the ending is very...I finished the manga Houseki no Kuni/Land of the Lustrous yesterday.
Man. So many thoughts. The story is well made, and the developments are insane. Personally I think the ending is very beautiful. I assume that many dislike it, but I really appreciate the uniqueness of it all.
I don't want to provide any major spoilers even in text boxs, though in the entire series there's one thing I just can't get over.
Minor spoilerish
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Comment on Actually, slavery was very bad in ~society
Raspcoffee LinkSome years ago, I was searching for something completely unrelated on the Internet. I don't even remember what anymore, but eventually I came across something that looked like a very old...Some years ago, I was searching for something completely unrelated on the Internet. I don't even remember what anymore, but eventually I came across something that looked like a very old restaurant menu. At least, the format resembled it.
I looked a bit closer and saw that it rather was a card of people to be sold. Their characterises, gender, age... and the initial auction price for their lives. Just like food on a menu on a restaurant, that's what it was. Selling objects. Just a business to be performed, I guess. For all I know some of the children, which were on the lower part of the 'menu', were the children of the mother on that same piece of paper higher up.
I don't think I'll ever forget that picture. Despite it not being the most graphic, or emotional 'testimony' of the horrors of slavery, it really showed to me in a deeper way how people were treated as an object.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of August 18 in ~society
Raspcoffee LinkRFK Jr demanded a vaccine study be retracted — the journal said no - Nature. The fact that I'm posting an article from Nature here alone is unusual. And yes, the context is autism of course....RFK Jr demanded a vaccine study be retracted — the journal said no - Nature.
The fact that I'm posting an article from Nature here alone is unusual. And yes, the context is autism of course. Paired with the autism database and the concentration camps I really fear for my fellow people on the spectrum across the Atlantic.
If you're one of them, I'm sorry. Please do your best to stay safe. This is terrifying.
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Comment on What programming/technical projects have you been working on? in ~comp
Raspcoffee LinkAt work I'm basically redoing a lot involving registrations of time(C#/.NET). Having an understanding of measuring time as a physicist is very helpful because I'm used to think in a different way....At work I'm basically redoing a lot involving registrations of time(C#/.NET). Having an understanding of measuring time as a physicist is very helpful because I'm used to think in a different way.
But it's still hell. You have to be so careful about what you do and make sure you don't implicitly add more information about the timezone or when it was measured. Even things like schedules contain more assumptions than you'd think.
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Comment on Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of August 18 in ~society
Raspcoffee Link ParentSo, I open this weekly thread again after not following it the past few weeks. I expected the usual doom and gloom. I did not expect to read an article I had to read twice over to make sure I got...So, I open this weekly thread again after not following it the past few weeks. I expected the usual doom and gloom. I did not expect to read an article I had to read twice over to make sure I got what happened, 'cause it reads like the plot of some satirical movie where they needed to have one of those obviously corrupt politician who gets their shit handed down over their own stupidity.
That was weirdly enjoyable to read.
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Comment on What are some of your favorite Nintendo Switch games? in ~games
Raspcoffee LinkOne I have not seen mentioned yet, though most people will already know: Hades. Rogue-like, Greek mythology setting(surprise). I'm not sure if there's any part of the game that I don't like now...One I have not seen mentioned yet, though most people will already know: Hades. Rogue-like, Greek mythology setting(surprise). I'm not sure if there's any part of the game that I don't like now that I think about it. Gameplay, story, music, atmosphere, pacing, replayability, characters, design, general art style, side games... it's really good.
Edit: Also, lesser well known: OPUS: Echo of Starsong. One of the most beautiful experiences I've ever had.
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Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime
Raspcoffee LinkA good friend of mine recommended Houseki No Kuni/Land of the Lustrous to me, and I'm slowly reading the manga trying desperately not to binge it in one go. As I am really enjoying it, though...A good friend of mine recommended Houseki No Kuni/Land of the Lustrous to me, and I'm slowly reading the manga trying desperately not to binge it in one go. As I am really enjoying it, though barely 20 chapters in my heart has already been ripped once. And I can tell it's going to be a whole lot more in the future. ;_;
It's really good though. It has a very unusual kind of worldbuilding, in a somewhat melancholic and beautiful way. It takes a lot of effort for me to not keep reading it.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (August 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentGood job. No, really, I mean that. Both setting the boundary and still doing what you can is so difficult when someone you care about struggles to that extend. And sometimes, just knowing that...I genuinely have tried... i didn't, for example, offer my home or financial help for a friend struggling and facing homelessness, but I also can't, like, not do anything. So I pulled a bunch of resources for their area.
Good job. No, really, I mean that. Both setting the boundary and still doing what you can is so difficult when someone you care about struggles to that extend. And sometimes, just knowing that someone cares enough to do that can be what they need more than anything in that moment.
But it's right now even just the ask that is wearing on me.
Urgh. Yeah that is really running on the lowest reserve rate possible. When the prep-empathy runs low that's a warning sign and a half. :\ I really hope you can still reserve some of that empathy for yourself.
I slept for some hours this afternoon and at some point there relaxed enough. But the house is a mess and I hate that.
Most likely you already would have done as such, but any chance you can get help from someone else with that? I'm aware your partner is disabled though so I could see that making things more difficult.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (August 2025) in ~health.mental
Raspcoffee Link ParentOh man. I'm sorry, it doesn't quite surprise me given how people can most likely tell you're a safe person to be with. You know this, and it bears repeating: you cannot give what you do not have....Oh man. I'm sorry, it doesn't quite surprise me given how people can most likely tell you're a safe person to be with.
You know this, and it bears repeating: you cannot give what you do not have. If you keep giving the price will be greater than not setting boundaries.
I do hate to say that to be honest. Because when I feel the need to tell that to someone experienced, it's usually not a good sign... If anything, I guess it's deeply intertwined with other things going on that makes it difficult for you to draw boundaries and take care of yourself.
Please, be careful. Both for yourself and the people you care about.
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Comment on Helping trans and queer youth for the next 1253 days (ish) in ~lgbt
Raspcoffee LinkIt is not quite the same, yet when I was being bullied the adults I remember the most are the ones who were just... There. And saw me. Not even having a deeper conversation, but just seeing me....What things helped you continue to feel safe with trusted adults?
It is not quite the same, yet when I was being bullied the adults I remember the most are the ones who were just... There. And saw me. Not even having a deeper conversation, but just seeing me. Talking about small things in a normal way. A biology teacher of mine in particular I just talked to about Biology actually helped me the most.
Because those were the moments I was just... sane? Like I had a place to be. Even if they were nothing more than 5, 10 minutes conversations.
You most likely already know that. And I know it also bears repeating. Because no matter how well you are an active listener, can assess risk, support during grief or being the one to handle crisis's, so often is it the smaller points of light that matter the most.
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Comment on US State Department halts 'medical-humanitarian' visas for people from Gaza in ~society
Raspcoffee Link"Sheer cruelty" indeed. I find it difficult to understand how cruel and devoid of empathy people can be at times. I know that in the long arc of history this is far from unique, yet living through..."This policy makes no sense whatsoever," says Edward Ahmed Mitchell, the national deputy director of the Council on American-Islamic Relations (CAIR), which released a statement condemning the State Department's action. "It is sheer cruelty. It is literally going to put the lives of more children at risk."
"Sheer cruelty" indeed. I find it difficult to understand how cruel and devoid of empathy people can be at times. I know that in the long arc of history this is far from unique, yet living through it is something else. Not just with this conflict either.
I just want empathy to be valued more. And I don't think that that's much to ask for...
Recently made one of my favourite, originals: Mushroom and coconut risotto
Shared this with a good friend who loves both mushrooms and coconut and needless to say they were a bit jealous lol. It has a very nice creamy and deep flavour.