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  1. Comment on Looking for advice on mother's deteriorating mental health in ~health

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    We have a sating in health care along the lines of, you can't force people to do the right/healthy/responsible thing. Unless she is dangerous or breaking the law in some way there isn't much you...

    We have a sating in health care along the lines of, you can't force people to do the right/healthy/responsible thing. Unless she is dangerous or breaking the law in some way there isn't much you can do.

    If you're the one she is okay with, you should probably be the one to tell her you're worried about her health and you think she needs to seek treatment. I mean, has she had any neurologic testing? It could be something physical causing her issues. Maybe approach it from that direction?

    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, and there is a possibility there won't be a solution. I'm over here hoping for the best for all of you.

    4 votes

  2. Comment on Conservative Christian group launches campaign against “Buddhist meditation” in public schools in ~humanities

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    "This is toxic ideology. This goes beyond just bad education. This could be corrupting our children’s eternal souls. I have two small children, and I don’t want them sitting around just thinking...

    "This is toxic ideology. This goes beyond just bad education. This could be corrupting our children’s eternal souls. I have two small children, and I don’t want them sitting around just thinking about creation and goodness and peace."

    Why on earth not??

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  4. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~life

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    Your sisters sound lovey. I can relate (on few levels). Thank you for indulging me. :)

    Your sisters sound lovey. I can relate (on few levels). Thank you for indulging me. :)

  5. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~life

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    Would you be able to expand on this? My interest is piqued.

    all my sisters essentially adept at a kind of life sorcery

    Would you be able to expand on this? My interest is piqued.

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  6. Comment on How do you handle stress, anxiety, and anything else you might deal with during your day? in ~health.mental

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    I have two tricks that can help in the moment when having an anxiety attack: If at home, fill a large (bigger than your face) bowl with ice and water. Once full, take a deep breath and plunge your...

    I have two tricks that can help in the moment when having an anxiety attack:

    If at home, fill a large (bigger than your face) bowl with ice and water. Once full, take a deep breath and plunge your face into the water. Hold your breath for as long as you can then come up for air. This stimulates the mammalian diving reflex. I've never had to do this more than twice even in a full blown attack.

    Anywhere else, try the 4-7-8 breathing technique. This helps me while driving or when trying to go to sleep.

    8 votes

  8. Comment on When is euthanasia acceptable? Where do we draw the line ethically? in ~talk

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    Ahh, I see. Well, if you do get dragged in as the next of kin, without a POA or Living Will, your wishes will be hers. I hope it's as peaceful a process for you as such things can be.

    Ahh, I see. Well, if you do get dragged in as the next of kin, without a POA or Living Will, your wishes will be hers. I hope it's as peaceful a process for you as such things can be.

  9. Comment on What's the Best Horror book you've read in the past year? in ~books

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    YES! I haven't read any of these! Thank you!

    YES! I haven't read any of these! Thank you!

  10. Comment on When is euthanasia acceptable? Where do we draw the line ethically? in ~talk

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    This is absolutely a conversation that you should have with her before she becomes, "non compos mentis". It's not morbid to talk about making sure your wishes are followed as your health declines,...

    I hope she has left a living will.

    This is absolutely a conversation that you should have with her before she becomes, "non compos mentis". It's not morbid to talk about making sure your wishes are followed as your health declines, as it does for everyone, ever.

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  11. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~health

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    I agree that this sounds more like allergies than apnea. Have you tried antihistamines? Benedryl is a great one to try at bedtime (and safe/non-habit-forming). Good luck, (wo)man! Yes I am a...

    I agree that this sounds more like allergies than apnea. Have you tried antihistamines? Benedryl is a great one to try at bedtime (and safe/non-habit-forming). Good luck, (wo)man!

    Yes I am a medical professional. No, not a doctor.

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Why are cities still so segregated? in ~life

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    This is something that bothers me deeply and I wish I could do more about. I work in low income/high crime neighborhoods (home hospice RN) and I see so much going on to keep black and brown people...

    This is something that bothers me deeply and I wish I could do more about. I work in low income/high crime neighborhoods (home hospice RN) and I see so much going on to keep black and brown people down.

    One example: A little over a year ago, I called an ambulance for the daughter of a patient who had passed. The daughter was grieving hard, and had passed out. While I was on the phone with emergency services, because they heard the volume of a large group of black people grieving, they decided to call the police as well. The ambulance came first, but waited a few blocks away (I could see them) for the police to show up. Not one, or two, but THREE police SUV's showed up, blocking off the street and making a huge scene. I literally walked out to the police that they weren't needed, an ambulance was needed. They proceeded to get shitty with me. The last thing any grieving family needs is police harassment. I needed an ambulance.

    Another example: A (black) friend of mine rented an apartment for herself and her aging mother. She's well-versed in the type of games landlords try to play, so she made sure her move in survey was completed and notarized. When she moved out, the landlord charged her for all of the things listed on the original survey. She's going to get her money, because she'll take him to court if she has to. The problem is that lots of people won't - because they don't have the time or resources to pursue it. It's maddening to watch.

    4 votes

  13. Comment on What's the Best Horror book you've read in the past year? in ~books

  14. Comment on What's the Best Horror book you've read in the past year? in ~books

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    Lovecraft Country seems right up my alley! I've heard of the Negro Motorist's Green Book, but that one is non-fiction, yeah?

    Lovecraft Country seems right up my alley! I've heard of the Negro Motorist's Green Book, but that one is non-fiction, yeah?

    1 vote

  15. Comment on What's the Best Horror book you've read in the past year? in ~books

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    I very much enjoyed, Those Across the River, by Christopher Buehlman (super spooky southern ghost story). Let the Right One In (vampires and the horrors of humanity), by John Ajvide Lindqvist was...

    I very much enjoyed, Those Across the River, by Christopher Buehlman (super spooky southern ghost story). Let the Right One In (vampires and the horrors of humanity), by John Ajvide Lindqvist was also pretty terrifying. The Road (post apocalyptic horror/human horror), by Cormack McCarthy made me feel empty for days - that one is pretty cruel, in general. I'm also a fan of Stephan King!

    House of Leaves, by Mark Z. Danielewski is another one that came really highly recommended , and it seemed to be trying way too hard to be a puzzle.

  16. What's the Best Horror book you've read in the past year?

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    I finished The Little Stranger last week. While I found the pacing very compelling, I felt some pretty palpable dissatisfaction in how everything ended. I can't quite put my finger on it...

    I finished The Little Stranger last week. While I found the pacing very compelling, I felt some pretty palpable dissatisfaction in how everything ended. I can't quite put my finger on it...

    9 votes

  17. Comment on Child dead in ICE detention center due to ‘negligent care’: immigration lawyer in ~news

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    Whether or not this particular allegation is true, children are being damaged, possibly beyond repair, by being separated from their parents. It's unconscionable. And who will be held accountable...

    Whether or not this particular allegation is true, children are being damaged, possibly beyond repair, by being separated from their parents. It's unconscionable. And who will be held accountable for this destruction of childhood and literal recipe for later mental health issues? No one.

    3 votes

  18. Comment on What are some Blind Spots of your political compatriots? in ~talk

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    I think both parties have a hard time with poverty. Especially the uber wealthy. The further you are from poverty, the less you "get it". If you have never experienced poverty, that makes it even...

    I think both parties have a hard time with poverty. Especially the uber wealthy. The further you are from poverty, the less you "get it". If you have never experienced poverty, that makes it even harder.

    I continue to notice the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps", mentality when physical hunger, an unsafe environment, poor or no health care are a few of the many things that keep the lower class poor.

    I was born in poverty and am firmly in the middle class now, including all of the debt that comes with student loans and starting with nothing. I've also noticed people like me who come from poverty tend to be even less understanding - in an apparent cognitive effort to distance themselves from whence they come.

    Even though I pay a large chunk of change in taxes, I would gladly pitch in a little more to at least assure healthy food and decent health care for everyone. I don't think being healthy should be a privilege in the USA.

    13 votes

  19. Comment on Yesterday I walked 2 km to the store and today I can feel it in my glutes () in ~talk

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    The real pro-tip re: running form is to not bounce. Try to keep your feet underneath you. Running is really controlled falling when you're doing it properly.

    The real pro-tip re: running form is to not bounce. Try to keep your feet underneath you. Running is really controlled falling when you're doing it properly.

    2 votes

  20. Comment on Miranda Devine claims that trans women are "culturally appropriating" womanhood in ~lgbt

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    When interviewed for an April 2007 article in The Australian about hate mail received by female columnists, Devine commented, "You are contesting ideas and you have to do it in a polarising way....

    When interviewed for an April 2007 article in The Australian about hate mail received by female columnists, Devine commented, "You are contesting ideas and you have to do it in a polarising way. When you write a column, you can't sit on the fence".

    She's a shit-stirrer.

    2 votes