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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
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Comment on What are some stories of progressivism gone wrong in implementation? in ~society
CannibalisticApple Link ParentI don't think the point was that the name change was the bad move here. The leader's intent was to find a more inclusive term so that it would be more obviously open to nonbinary people, and...I don't think the point was that the name change was the bad move here. The leader's intent was to find a more inclusive term so that it would be more obviously open to nonbinary people, and mentioned some transphobes use the term "female" to specify cis women. Side note, this is the first I've heard of this, and I found this reddit discussion that expands on it a bit.
The problem is that the person making the announcement interpreted that reasoning as "the term 'female' excludes trans women, so we're ditching it". Also it sounds like she might have missed the part about how they wanted it to be nonbinary inclusive, based on the "we want to include people who identify as women but aren't biologically female" bit, which would still exclude nonbinary.
The bigger problem is how that one misunderstanding could have ended with dozens of people at the company concluding that "female" is an insult. It assigns a new, negative meaning to a term that should be totally neutral. People who have limited understanding but want to be supportive will likely spread that misunderstanding by "correcting" others or warning them not to use that word. Ideally it won't spread too far, but it can cause some serious relationship damage from fights with friends or family who find the concept of the word "female" being transphobic ridiculous.
Worst case scenario, it devalues genuine arguments against transphobia in those people's minds because they'll remember fighting over the word female. They can point to that specific fight—whether to others, or just in their own mind—as proof that transgender people and other non-cisgender identities are just being silly or stupid.
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Comment on The 2025 Steam Awards in ~games
CannibalisticApple LinkGot a chuckle seeing Silksong won both Game of the Year and "Best Game You Suck At". Feels like a decent representation of the gamer mindset. Aside from that, I was happy to see The Midnight Walk...Got a chuckle seeing Silksong won both Game of the Year and "Best Game You Suck At". Feels like a decent representation of the gamer mindset.
Aside from that, I was happy to see The Midnight Walk won the VR category. I haven't played it or seen much about it (really need to track down some LPs at some point), but it's a game made with claymation! That alone shows a LOT of passion from the developers, and I love seeing devs rewarded for that sort of passion. (Also, I just really like stylized graphics over going for realism. Helps ensure that games can stand the test of time.)
It definitely stands out against the other nominees in that category, which were two officially licensed racing games (which... ew, one is from EA), a VR shooter and a multiplayer horror game. The latter two seem to thrive on players' interaction more than anything, but I want to give kudos to Emissary Zero for getting nominated since it says it's being made by a single person!
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
CannibalisticApple Link ParentIf it helps, some games seem to run better on the Switch 2 than Steam Deck. Namely, I recently found a lot of reviews saying Cyberpunk 2077 performs better on Switch 2. So the Switch 2 may be good...If it helps, some games seem to run better on the Switch 2 than Steam Deck. Namely, I recently found a lot of reviews saying Cyberpunk 2077 performs better on Switch 2. So the Switch 2 may be good for some nonexclusives, too.
That aside, yeah, I can agree on the price tags. I never played a Donkey Kong game, and that price tag makes it hard for me to use this as the jumping in point even if I have a good friend singing its praises. I plan to largely try to get first-party titles on sale (exceptions for Pokémon and Animal Crossing), and even then they just... Never really drop the prices much compared to other publishers. Their games are good and polished, which somehow feels increasingly rare for AAA games these days, but the price tags never dropping is a big turn-off. I remember being stunned after getting my PS4 to see God of War on sale for like $15 about a year after its release.
I do have some franchises I plan to get on the NS2 just because A) I can play it on my TV, B) I've played previous titles on other Nintendo consoles and playing it on Steam just feels weird, and C) sometimes they're physical! I can put cases on my shelf!
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
CannibalisticApple LinkI finally started playing Moonstone Island on Saturday. It was a game I had on my wishlist for a while before buying it last year, but I'd put off starting it since I can get sucked into games...I finally started playing Moonstone Island on Saturday. It was a game I had on my wishlist for a while before buying it last year, but I'd put off starting it since I can get sucked into games pretty easily.
I'm already at summer. Time seems to pass fairly fast compared to a lot of games, never really feels like a slog. I keep getting thrown off by it being sunset. In terms of gameplay it's fairly simplistic (I usually have the TV on playing videos while I collect resources or grind). I remember feeling a bit wary of the fact it uses cards, but it makes for a refreshing spin on turn-based battling. Every turn has a different hand, so there's some strategic thinking beyond just mindlessly spamming attacks. Especially since the monsters have armor, so you need to weaken it first before you can really do damage.
So far the one complaint I'd have is that there isn't really much fast travel outside of a warp whistle to go back to the main island. But... I actually don't mind the travel too much. It doesn't feel like a slog to reach places like it does in some games. My main gripe with it is just how quickly the day passes so I have to plan out expeditions. Actually, I might just need to craft another tent and build myself an outpost!
So I can highly recommend the game to anyone who likes the monster taming genre. It's fun!
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Comment on Share weird crossovers, cameos and in-universe references to help map out ridiculous shared universes! in ~talk
CannibalisticApple Link ParentSadly not (pretty sure it was on Cracked, or some other listicle-style site), but that's the exact kind of wacky crossover I'm looking for! The article I read probably used the same branch...Sadly not (pretty sure it was on Cracked, or some other listicle-style site), but that's the exact kind of wacky crossover I'm looking for! The article I read probably used the same branch starting from Sonic's end before splitting to go to some serious, "grounded" live-action show (I want to say ER, Grey's Anatomy, CSI or some other big mid-2000s drama...?) instead of the MCU.
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Comment on Share weird crossovers, cameos and in-universe references to help map out ridiculous shared universes! in ~talk
CannibalisticApple Link ParentSesame Street cameos open so many weird connections. Mainly thinking that this means Knives Out co-exists with the Wizard of Oz, since the Wicked Witch of the West appeared once.Sesame Street cameos open so many weird connections. Mainly thinking that this means Knives Out co-exists with the Wizard of Oz, since the Wicked Witch of the West appeared once.
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Comment on Share weird crossovers, cameos and in-universe references to help map out ridiculous shared universes! in ~talk
CannibalisticApple LinkA couple of my own contributions: The Gorillaz (yes, the band) live in the same Universe as The Powerpuff Girls, because for a time they had Ace of the Gangreen Gang as a bassist. That connects...A couple of my own contributions:
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The Gorillaz (yes, the band) live in the same Universe as The Powerpuff Girls, because for a time they had Ace of the Gangreen Gang as a bassist. That connects them to the Cartoon Network universe including Dexter's Lab, The Grim Adventures of Billy and Mandy, Codename: Kids Next Door, and the general Hanna-Barbera universe.
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A minor one: The Fatal Frame games share a universe with the manga Kurosagi Corpse Delivery Service thanks to a cameo. One of the Fatal Frame games has an unlockable crossover character named Ayane from the Dead or Alive series, and that series features a character named SPARTAN-458 who has become canon in both. So... There's a lot of fun links there!
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The point-and-click game Agatha Knife has a cameo of Shinji and Gendo from Neon Genesis Evangelion at the start. (It also has merchandise for the show, so... Yeah, connection is a little fuzzy.) Mainly mentioning it because I find it funny that this game is doomed to suffer whatever the heck happens in the ending of Evangelion, and that makes me wonder how many different apocalypses we can cram into one ridiculous shared universe :D
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Share weird crossovers, cameos and in-universe references to help map out ridiculous shared universes!
This is one of those posts that make me wish we could tag multiple tildes. Because this would apply to ~tv, ~movies, ~comics, ~games, ~books, and ~anime, with possibly even more. A long time ago I...
This is one of those posts that make me wish we could tag multiple tildes. Because this would apply to ~tv, ~movies, ~comics, ~games, ~books, and ~anime, with possibly even more.
A long time ago I read an article about weird crossovers, and it made the point that thanks to unrelated crossovers and six degrees of separation, the Archie comics Sonic technically existed in the same universe as... Some popular live action shows, because that show had a crossover with some other show that crossed over with Sonic. Obviously not really, but it was a funny thought.
I failed to find the article I remember, but my brief search did bring up the Tommy Westphall Shared Universe, which comprises 400+ shows thanks to various crossovers, cameos and in-universe references. There is a whole fandom wiki dedicated to it. There's also this site that lets you search for connections between TV shows. The site's description from DuckDuckGo is "Easily search and find the relationship between shows in the Tommy Westphall Universe and beyond." It's silly, but fun!
Thing is, most of my cursory searching into it has people focus on live-action TV and movies. And... Well, like I said at the start: the article I remember reading made a connection between Archie comics Sonic and some live-action show thanks to some crossover.
Since that first article, I've wondered off and on about the weirdest crossovers out there, and just how weird of a shared universe could exist. I don't want to limit it to one or two mediums, I want to find crossovers that can transcend mediums! Comics, TV, games and more!
So: what are the weirdest crossovers, cameos and in-universe connections you know of? What are the wildest connections we can make? And, for bonus fun, what are the ramifications of shoving all these wildly different series into one ridiculous universe??
how many different apocalypses can we shove into it15 votes -
Comment on Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news in ~news
CannibalisticApple Link ParentCurse you paywall! Mainly just wanted to check if they would require paying to enter. The lack of free public bathrooms was one of the main downsides my mom and I encountered in our trip to...Curse you paywall!
Mainly just wanted to check if they would require paying to enter. The lack of free public bathrooms was one of the main downsides my mom and I encountered in our trip to London.
Fun story: we didn't need to use the toilet, we just needed to wash our hands. We got hot dogs by the Tower of London, and they were drenched with ketchup and mustard. I cannot emphasize how much was on them, you couldn't see the meat beneath all the red and yellow. Before even attempting a single bite I used a napkin to scrape some of it off, and it was still near-impossible to see the meat.
The buns did nothing to contain it. Just lifting the cardboard containers holding the hot dog, applying the faintest pressure on the sides from gripping it, caused condiments to ooze over the sides and onto our hands. We probably used 10+ napkins (and legitimately used them, we had to get more while eating and they all ended up soaked through), but it was impossible to clean our hands with just napkins.
So yeah. We urgently needed to wash our hands. We had to ask a worker at some store where to find a bathroom (which turned out to be like two streets away), and we arrive to find that the whole thing required coins to even enter. Which we didn't have, we had paper bills.
Having to get out those bills and then use the machine to convert them into coins was not fun with hands soaked in condiments.
Moral of the story: please at least have public sinks near food stands. Or just... don't bathe food in condiments. If a worker ever drenches a hot dog like that again I'll just ask for it to be remade.
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Comment on Tildes Game Giveaway: Holiday 2025 in ~games
CannibalisticApple Link Parent...Well, turns out I made a mistake. The collection doesn't include Beholder: Conductor. I think I just added it while putting together the link list because A) I added everything with Beholder,......Well, turns out I made a mistake. The collection doesn't include Beholder: Conductor. I think I just added it while putting together the link list because A) I added everything with Beholder, and B) one of the items is the Blissful Sleep DLC for the first game. So I knew there were four items and one wasn't numbered, and then got distracted by the Steam page for Conductor (I might like video game trains more than I thought...).
My bad, sorry! If you want the first game (and its DLC) you're free to take it, I'm cool with splitting them up.
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Comment on What video games would you say have the best stories? Feel free to suggest more than one. in ~games
CannibalisticApple Link ParentI came here to specifically bring up Thomas Was Alone, because that's my go-to example for the power of storytelling. The game itself is fairly standard, and the graphics are literally just a...I came here to specifically bring up Thomas Was Alone, because that's my go-to example for the power of storytelling. The game itself is fairly standard, and the graphics are literally just a bunch of squares and rectangles in a fairly minimalistic world, but the narration and story... How many games can players emotionally attached to a square?
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Comment on Thousands of books and films released in 1930 will enter the Public Domain/lose copyright protection January 1 2026 in ~arts
CannibalisticApple LinkI think the highlights for this year are the first four Nancy Drew books, meaning we can potentially see some new projects using Nancy Drew based on those, and Betty Boop. And of course, there's...I think the highlights for this year are the first four Nancy Drew books, meaning we can potentially see some new projects using Nancy Drew based on those, and Betty Boop.
And of course, there's already a Betty Boop horror movie in the works. Kinda lame that it seems to be another gory slasher. I would've gone for a werewolf or body horror theme since she debuted as a dog.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
CannibalisticApple LinkI got a Switch 2 for Christmas with Mario Kart World! Played it a bit last night. My main thought: wow I really want to be able to just walk around and explore on foot. Funny thought, but the free...I got a Switch 2 for Christmas with Mario Kart World! Played it a bit last night.
My main thought: wow I really want to be able to just walk around and explore on foot. Funny thought, but the free roam mode leaves me yearning to just... walk. I love exploring in games, and the karts' movement hinders the exploration. I want to be able to talk to the NPCs dotting the cities and tracks outside of races, and actually see the world as... Well, a world.
That aside, it's definitely fun and reminds me of why Nintendo remains so popular. I love indie games, but Nintendo's games are pretty much always very well polished in a way that most indie games just can't achieve. The tracks are colorful and well designed, the movement is smooth, the world is genuinely gorgeous—and just overall, it's fun. Even among AAA devs, Nintendo stands out to me since their games are consistently high quality.
I really like the drive-through costumes in particular. Something about them is so fun to me among everything else, and contributes to my desire to interact with the world dang it
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Comment on Major storm sweeps across Nordic countries in ~enviro
CannibalisticApple Link Parent50 degrees over an hour!? I didn't know that was even possible! That's... Yeah, that's got to be hell for your sinuses and skin.50 degrees over an hour!? I didn't know that was even possible! That's... Yeah, that's got to be hell for your sinuses and skin.
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Comment on Major storm sweeps across Nordic countries in ~enviro
CannibalisticApple Link ParentOr maybe he's just taking a well-deserved nap? Standing up for so long has to make his legs sore!Or maybe he's just taking a well-deserved nap? Standing up for so long has to make his legs sore!
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Comment on Are you still using social media? in ~tech
CannibalisticApple Link ParentOh, it's definitely full of fake posts. Some people have even picked up on telltale signs of specific writers. I personally give most posts the benefit of the doubt more than most because it'd...Oh, it's definitely full of fake posts. Some people have even picked up on telltale signs of specific writers. I personally give most posts the benefit of the doubt more than most because it'd suck for someone to be actually dealing with something awful and have to waste time/energy dealing with accusations it's faked, but... Yeah, lots of fake stuff.
The fun part of the "title:update" search is that I can see some actual real-world drama that aren't just karma farming. I have seen so much video game drama from game-breaking updates...
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Comment on Are you still using social media? in ~tech
CannibalisticApple LinkI do browse text-based update posts on reddit (specifically, I bookmarked a search result page for posts with "update" in the title), but don't browse it normally anymore. Haven't been to r/all or...I do browse text-based update posts on reddit (specifically, I bookmarked a search result page for posts with "update" in the title), but don't browse it normally anymore. Haven't been to r/all or the home page for years now.
Beyond that, I mainly use Tildes and Discord. I watch a lot of Youtube, but I honestly forget most(?) people consider it social media. I mainly watch it on TVs, so I guess I subconsciously put it in the same category as cable or streaming. I leave comments now and then, but that's fairly rare since I have to get out my phone.
I also have a Tumblr I barely ever check, and have been thinking about getting more active on it for essentially marketing purposes. It's a good platform for sharing creative writing.
Also have Bluesky and Twitter/X accounts that I never use. I hang onto the Twitter solely to be able to see accounts in chronological order because some people will only update there. Genuinely no clue why I even bothered making it in the first place, I never used it "normally".
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Comment on Jon Stewart is our only hope in ~society
CannibalisticApple Link ParentI think you're underestimating the reach he already has. He hosted The Daily Show from 1999-2015, and only recently got back into it. In between he did a couple cameos on shows, including Stephen...I think you're underestimating the reach he already has. He hosted The Daily Show from 1999-2015, and only recently got back into it. In between he did a couple cameos on shows, including Stephen Colbert's show, and hosted an Apple TV series which I barely heard anything about because I don't have/use Apple TV.
Yet even with that nine-year career gap, he's still very well known and hasn't been forgotten. He became a household name back before media began fragmenting and the monoculture weakened. I knew his name when I was in middle school because my dad would watch him almost every night (and had hilariously bad luck the few times he'd put on The Daily Show during dinner). I'd be shocked to find someone from older generations who doesn't know who he is, or haven't at least heard his name in some capacity. And his general stances are fairly well-known. I can't say the same for a majority of politicians right now. Even when I recognize a name, I often have to double-check why the name is familiar because there's a good chance it's due to something scandalous.
Canceling his show wouldn't really weaken his reach that much because he's already a firmly established figure in the minds of older voters. A lot of people would vote for him just based on familiarity with his time on The Daily Show back before 2015. He also has a lot of media connections since... well, he works in that industry. John Oliver and Stephen Colbert are directly linked to him, and both are still fairly popular and big names. I imagine many others in that vein of programming would also be willing to openly voice support for him given he's unlikely to threaten to take dissenters off the air.
I don't know whether he'd be a good president, and he's stated he doesn't want to run for office anyway, but I've thought for a long time that he'd have a good shot at winning for those reasons. Name recognition is powerful, and he's probably more well-known than a lot of top politicians. Especially when you discount those known for controversial reasons (e.g. pretty much every high-ranking Trump official).
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Comment on Tildes Game Giveaway: Holiday 2025 in ~games
CannibalisticApple Link ParentKey sent! Hope it works! That sounds fun! I'd love to see a picture when you get a chance!Key sent! Hope it works!
That sounds fun! I'd love to see a picture when you get a chance!
So, this isn't a specific example, and this may be (very well will be) controversial. I have a history of essentially playing "devil's advocate" where I try to understand the other side of an issue, and having people taking my words to mean I fully support or defend some cause that I don't. So this post was actually pretty tricky for me to write. I've spent probably four hours on this, no joke. But this has been on my mind recently, and this post and some of the comments just brought it to the forefront again.
So before you read further, take a moment to really, really think on the following question:
Can you name any influential male figures who specifically speak to men with positive messaging about being a man?
Someone being male and encouraging general positivity does not count. I love Markiplier, but he doesn't specifically speak to men, he speaks to everyone. Same goes for if they're specifically addressing, say, Asian boys, or gay boys, or trans boys, or any other qualifying adjective in front of "boy" or "man". Try to think of a significantly popular man speaking directly, specifically, to any person who identifies as male, and offering them support and encouragement and general gender positivity centered around that male identity.
It's been on my mind since this article about a publisher focusing on books oriented to the male experience. It made me realize there isn't much media that directly and specifically addresses the male experience outside of those pushing toxic masculinity. Most media treats cisgender men (especially white men) as the "default" demographic, and thus doesn't address their experiences as men specifically the way they do with female, LGBTQ+, neurodivergent or POC characters. Male characters are typically assumed to be relatable to everyone, and you can often swap their gender and it won't cause a major change to the story. As I noted in that linked discussion, there's even a writing exercise where you swap a male character's gender to female, and then if you determine it changes nothing, just make them female.
There are so many examples of characters who are considered good role models in part because of whatever minority they belong to. Strong female characters who can stand level with or even surpass the male cast, POC characters from races that typically only receive token representation or stereotypes in media, neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ and disabled and all sorts of other characters who normalize the idea that people can be different and still successful... Even if it's not a core part of their character arc or directly addressed in the story, just having those backgrounds as part of their identity can encourage real people to celebrate those aspects of themselves too.
For a lot of male characters though, the fact they're male is incidental and has nothing to do with them being considered a good role model. Well-written female characters can become feminist icons. Well-written male characters are more often role models for everyone, not just men.
And outside of media... I can't really name any significant figures who regularly address teen boys or young men with positive messaging. Pretty sure I've asked this question in the past somewhere, because I vaguely recall looking up names to find Twitch streamers or Youtubers who didn't even hit the one million subscriber mark. Basically, not as prolific as people pushing toxic messaging like Joe Rogan or "alpha influencers". The closest I've got off the top of my head is Dad, How Do I? on Youtube, who started his channel to share the typical dad life lessons to people without fathers after his own father walked out on his family. Even then he seems to generally address everyone, but he does specifically encourage men to break the cycle of generational trauma to be good fathers. (Tip, maybe save that link for the end. I found it towards the end of editing this, and it was a much-needed palate cleanser since he's just a genuinely wholesome dad.)
Overall though? Support and encouragement specifically geared towards men feels pretty barren.
This is on top of a plethora of spaces that specifically celebrate and accept minority demographics. Boys meanwhile have... Actually, I was going to say the Boy Scouts of America, but then I remembered and confirmed that it's now open to all genders. They dropped "boy" from the names and are now "Scouting America". The girl scouts, meanwhile, accept transgender girls, and based on my research (there are many sites for specific or regional girl scout troops) accept nonbinary kids and even transgender boys on a case-by-case... but can still exclude kids who identify as male. Side note, that link specifically mentions it excludes "boys who identify as male, regardless of their assigned gender at birth" so... yeah, there's conflicting information on whether boys can join. It definitely seems situational, unlike Scouting America clearly stating girls are eligible to join the Cub Scouts.
As an important note (and this is why I specifically added that disclaimer at the top): historically, male-exclusive spaces were absolutely bad and deserved to be torn down. The vast majority of them, including groups founded today, were founded with a misogynistic basis. The exclusion was rooted in misogyny and encouraging the mindset that men were superior to women in some way. Those were gender barriers that needed to be broken down and overcome.
But now, there aren't really many spaces specifically open to men that focus on positive aspects of being a man, either. All these groups pushing sexist ideals have been torn down, but instead of replacing them with spaces that focus on support and encouraging the best, men are often left with... nothing. They're just lumped in with literally all of humanity. The fact that it's apparently socially acceptable to have Girl Scouts, but not boy scouts? It can add to a subconscious narrative that boys don't deserve male-exclusive spaces even though girls and other demographics are free to specifically exclude them, and that having something specifically aimed at men is a problem that needs to be overcome.
And that mention of the subconscious narrative brings me to the biggest issue with all this: internalization.
Some of the messaging that is directed at boys boils down to "don't be an asshole" or explicit reminders that they have privilege that others don't just by being a boy. Neither of which helps since they basically reinforce the subconscious idea that being male (especially a white male) makes them automatically bad in some way, unlike the ever-positive messaging they see actively directed at other demographics... Which helps explains why so many boys and men get swayed by toxic right-wing ideology: they're among the few voices directly telling them they're good because they're male.
And I want to note that I've seen this targeted negativity in the wild. I remember a post circulating on Tumblr along the lines of "I'm so depressed, said the white cishet boy" clearly meant to insinuate that a white, cisgender, heterosexual boy has no reason to be depressed due to their privilege. Thankfully every time I saw it, it was accompanied by reblogs calling out how depression doesn't discriminate. However, the fact that sticks with me is that there are people out there who genuinely think that way. And those people can be vocal and downright nasty about it.
So for some boys, they'll likely hear that targeted negativity about their gender with barely any positivity to counterbalance it. They'll hear the generic messages telling everyone to be good, and to love themselves... but still see caveats specifically aimed at boys. They'll regularly see clubs aimed specifically at girls, at black kids, Asian kids, LGBTQ+ kids... It doesn't need to be that overt. I'm sure plenty of you are familiar with how easy it is for people, especially kids and teens, to internalize the smallest bits of negativity.
What I'm getting at is that, somehow, through no malicious intent, the increase in inclusivity ended up somehow unintentionally pushing another huge group to the side. It sounds ridiculous, but somehow, men are now being very specifically and explicitly excluded. There's a "male as default" mindset that means that there's now very few spaces specifically for men while many specific spaces exist for other demographics, and very few people who speak directly to men, as men are lumped in with literally everyone else.
And here's one of the biggest problems with all this: this feels almost impossible to talk about without spurring accusations of sexism or being against inclusivity.
I spent way too much time editing this post because I know it is so easy to interpret this to mean "inclusivity is bad, society is sexist against men now". I felt like I had to constantly defend myself and wrote this with a largely defensive mindset because I could already predict the potential fights and arguments, even cutting out some parts because I felt like people would end up focusing on those more than the overall point about this gap. I feel compelled to note that I am an asexual woman, because I feel like some people will assume I'm a man just for talking about this. And that makes me wonder, how can a MAN talk about this without being accused of misogyny? (Probably very, VERY carefully.)
Again, just to make this clear one last time: I am NOT saying progression is bad. I am NOT saying society is suddenly weighted against men and favoring minorities, like so many men claim.
However, there IS a growing gap in terms of representation and messaging aimed at men. It wasn't made with malice or even intentionally, but just as a side effect of fighting and deconstructing age-old male institutions. Deconstruction and fights that were necessary, mind you, but we didn't replace them. We just left empty voids in their place, and the problem with voids is that they never stay empty.
Right now, the main people who seem to acknowledge and fill that void are the ones pushing the most toxic messaging. People naturally seek out voices that validate their own experiences, so any guy looking for specific reassurance that being a man is good and it's okay to be proud of being a man has very slim pickings. And the people who feel a need to actively seek out that sort of reassurance are the ones most likely to swallow the toxic rhetoric of Andrew Tate and others of his ilk.
I hope this all makes sense. Again, this is something that's been increasingly on my mind since... last April, apparently. So I have a lot of thoughts on it that I hadn't put down into words until now. There's still more, but it's now 3:30 am and I'm about to crash, so I'm going to hit "post comment" now because I just added another two paragraphs on my... what, third, fourth go-over? Yeah. I think I got the biggest point across though, but just in case, I'll say it one more time: we somehow, ridiculously, have developed a gap in representation and voices specifically geared for men, and the only ones trying to fill that gap seem to be the toxic manosphere influencers and right-wing nutjobs pushing sexist (and often racist, and other flavors of bigoted) ideals.
So I ask you, once again: can you name someone who speaks directly to men about the male experience in a positive way?