kollkana's recent activity
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Comment on I am still awake after feeding my newborn in ~talk
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Comment on Meta’s flirty AI chatbot invited a retiree to New York in ~tech
kollkana Link ParentAll of the safeguards are removing functionality that a lot of people want, but powers that be have decided it isn't worth the potential harm and subsequent liability.All of the safeguards are removing functionality that a lot of people want, but powers that be have decided it isn't worth the potential harm and subsequent liability.
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Comment on Meta’s flirty AI chatbot invited a retiree to New York in ~tech
kollkana Link ParentThe simplest solution is to not have chatbots engage in romantic/sensual discussion with anyone - why is it necessary at all?practically, they don't have a lot of choice: how would they ensure that chat bots couldn't engage in romantic/sensual discussion with minors without a hard age verification mechanism
The simplest solution is to not have chatbots engage in romantic/sensual discussion with anyone - why is it necessary at all?
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Comment on What is your personal online "tech stack"? How do you like it? in ~tech
kollkana LinkI like the idea of getting a small-form-factor box to self-host stuff, just to learn how even, but being responsible for all the network security when I know fuck-all about networking seems like a...I like the idea of getting a small-form-factor box to self-host stuff, just to learn how even, but being responsible for all the network security when I know fuck-all about networking seems like a really bad idea.
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Comment on Victories and challenges: An A[u]DHD community and support fortnightly thread #5 in ~health.mental
kollkana Link ParentI completely understand the gripe with using "object permanence" that way, but I think "object persistence" is maybe a bit too similar. It sounds like someone aiming for "object permanence" but...I completely understand the gripe with using "object permanence" that way, but I think "object persistence" is maybe a bit too similar. It sounds like someone aiming for "object permanence" but retrieving the wrong word (which as I understand can also be an ADHD symptom!)
Instead, if we're inventing jargon, I'd put forth "poosoom" or "posom" for "pathologically out [of] sight out [of] mind". It's riffing on a well-known phrase, so very easy to explain, and a primary meaning of "pathologically" is "being such to a degree that is extreme, excessive, or markedly abnormal" which gets at the idea that it's beyond neurotypical absent-mindedness.
Plus, there's potential for cutesy poosoom/posom possum illustrations/doodles/mascot vibes, which feels like an important consideration for online ND discourse.
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Comment on Do dumbphones actually… work? (realistic week in the life) in ~tech
kollkana Link ParentWhen I (briefly) used a Unihertz Jelly as my primary phone I downloaded a T9 keypad because typing was just impossible on such a tiny QWERTY, but without the feedback of physical buttons using the...When I (briefly) used a Unihertz Jelly as my primary phone I downloaded a T9 keypad because typing was just impossible on such a tiny QWERTY, but without the feedback of physical buttons using the T9 was much more difficult.
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Comment on Necessities are expensive, luxuries are cheap in ~finance
kollkana Link ParentAcross all markets, sure, but we're talking about those markets where people generally can't afford to own a home. I'm pointing out that "the market" isn't solely made up of people who need a...Across all markets, sure, but we're talking about those markets where people generally can't afford to own a home. I'm pointing out that "the market" isn't solely made up of people who need a place to live, those people are competing with corporations and career landlords who have far more capital at their disposal.
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Comment on Necessities are expensive, luxuries are cheap in ~finance
kollkana Link Parent"Someone" often being a corporation that then rents out the property."Someone" often being a corporation that then rents out the property.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (June 2025) in ~health.mental
kollkana Link ParentJust got a rejection email for a baby group I was encouraged to join yesterday: Your booking for [baby group] has been rejected this is because it is a course and it started 24th April, it is also...Just got a rejection email for a baby group I was encouraged to join yesterday:
Your booking for [baby group] has been rejected this is because it is a course and it started 24th April, it is also fully booked.
We have a lovely [group I already attend] at [local centre] on Wednesdays 1pm - 2pm the group is for 12 months and under, there is no booking for this group so if you wish to attend, please pop along.I was literally told to join [baby group] yesterday at [group I already attend], where one of the mums mentioned they just started going. And nowhere on the booking page does it mention being a course, it just has a link to book the individual event.
I give up. I fucking give up.
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Comment on DnD 5e - Do’s and don’ts as a player in ~games.tabletop
kollkana Link ParentThis is the thing I like most about the Unknown Armies 2E system - character creation is entirely point-buy and how many points you have to work with, and the character-creation cap, depends on...This is the thing I like most about the Unknown Armies 2E system - character creation is entirely point-buy and how many points you have to work with, and the character-creation cap, depends on the level of the campaign:
- "street level" is the lowest, your characters may not even be adepts or avatars (i.e. the magical/powerful people)
- "global level" you have some mojo, possibly very powerful mojo, but there are limits
- "cosmic level" and you're probably literally changing the world with crazy magic
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Comment on An LFG for the time-strapped and schedule-cursed in ~games
kollkana LinkCould I get an invite to the Discord? And could I extend it to my husband (who is not on Tildes)? Another new parent, but we're starting to be able to do (heavily interrupted thus far) online...Could I get an invite to the Discord? And could I extend it to my husband (who is not on Tildes)?
Another new parent, but we're starting to be able to do (heavily interrupted thus far) online TTRPG sessions, so there's potential. UK-based, so may be able to hook up with some of the CET folk. Though I don't have many recent games. I'm going to get FBC Firebreak, but probably won't overlap much otherwise.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (June 2025) in ~health.mental
kollkana Link ParentI could definitely recover if I could take a couple of weeks off from everything. But that's the one thing I definitely can't do, and demands are only increasing, so I'm kind of stuck.I could definitely recover if I could take a couple of weeks off from everything. But that's the one thing I definitely can't do, and demands are only increasing, so I'm kind of stuck.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (June 2025) in ~health.mental
kollkana LinkThe NHS therapist I waited almost three months to talk to (fasttracked(!)) and the reason I couldn't be referred to the perinatal mental health team has decided that she probably can't help me....The NHS therapist I waited almost three months to talk to (fasttracked(!)) and the reason I couldn't be referred to the perinatal mental health team has decided that she probably can't help me. She's going to refer me to the perinatal mental health team.
I'm scared that now it's too late and I can't come back from this burnout.
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Comment on Games that meaningfully teach you things in ~games
kollkana LinkI've not played it myself, but a while ago I was chatting with a friend about how I don't understand how a computer gets from logic gates and electrical signals to actual computing, they...I've not played it myself, but a while ago I was chatting with a friend about how I don't understand how a computer gets from logic gates and electrical signals to actual computing, they recommended MHRD to demonstrate it.
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Comment on I miss D&D in ~games.tabletop
kollkana Link ParentI've heard people talk about text-based play over discord (for the dice rolling bots) but never done it myself. It's an intriguing concept.I've heard people talk about text-based play over discord (for the dice rolling bots) but never done it myself. It's an intriguing concept.
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Comment on I miss D&D in ~games.tabletop
kollkana Link ParentOur usual GMs are much more fond of grim real-world-plus-magic-elements type systems, and heavily narrative-style rather than dice-rolling-number-crunch. Basically the opposite of what I enjoy...Our usual GMs are much more fond of grim real-world-plus-magic-elements type systems, and heavily narrative-style rather than dice-rolling-number-crunch. Basically the opposite of what I enjoy most as a player, but I take what I can get.
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Comment on I miss D&D in ~games.tabletop
kollkana LinkI miss D&D. We do still have the odd TTRPG session, but in a different system that I like much less, usually online which is much worse than in-person, and very sporadically. Though this year...I miss D&D. We do still have the odd TTRPG session, but in a different system that I like much less, usually online which is much worse than in-person, and very sporadically. Though this year that's largely on me for having a baby.
What I miss most is 7 or 8 years ago when we'd have games every friday night and every sunday afternoon. It was rare that anyone would miss a session, they were the priority. But then people started prioritising other hobbies, relationship statuses changed, it became much harder to get a group together. The pandemic moving us all online was pretty much the death knell.
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Comment on Where are the small phones? in ~tech
kollkana Link ParentThe last time I had a phone's battery replaced it involved replacing some glue that held the back of the phone on. The new glue didn't stick properly and the back broke beyond repair when it fell...The last time I had a phone's battery replaced it involved replacing some glue that held the back of the phone on. The new glue didn't stick properly and the back broke beyond repair when it fell off. It clearly wasn't designed to ever be taken apart, by me or a professional, and there was no indication that that was the case until it needed that maintenance.
Wanting a removeable battery for me is less about wanting to avoid hassle than it is about wanting to know it can be done without breaking the phone.
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Comment on Where are the small phones? in ~tech
kollkana Link ParentI'm a fairly average-sized woman, if that helps give context.I'm a fairly average-sized woman, if that helps give context.
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Comment on E-bikes make your city smaller in ~transport
kollkana Link ParentYou could always take the plunge instead?You could always take the plunge instead?
How does having enough light to read by not also keep you awake?
My go-to after feeding the baby has been "do X with me" style youtube videos. Phone on the lowest brightness setting, "Eye protection mode" and "Extra dim" built-in settings turned on, then a screen-dimmer app on top until it doesn't feel like the phone is emitting light (it still is, but it doesn't feel like it).
If I have to also change the baby and therefore turn on a lamp (with a warm, ~100 lumen bulb) all bets are off and I am Awake.