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Comment on What small thing made a big impact on you? in ~talk
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Comment on Hunger signals messed up in ~health.mental
lelio LinkWhen I got into my 30s I started gaining weight and had to get more mindful about what I ate. I started counting calories and macros (carbs,fat, protein). I eventually decided my stomach was...When I got into my 30s I started gaining weight and had to get more mindful about what I ate.
I started counting calories and macros (carbs,fat, protein).I eventually decided my stomach was pretty useless at telling me when to eat. My stomach sends pangs mostly when it expected food and didn't get it. Like if I changed a routine. But also if I ate something it's not used to or if I'm just feeling stressed, or just randomly, even when I had 3000+ calories that day.
You should still listen to your body, but you can't always trust it. If I'm feeling kind of tired, irritable, and pessimistic that's a stronger signal to me that I should consider if I've eaten enough recently.
Counting calories is a pain, but even if you just keep a journal of what you eat for a few days/weeks. Or just try to remember and plan. It might help.
For me, getting older has meant finding things that my body used to handle automatically are now things I have to consciously manage. It's exhausting, but rewarding.
This is just my weird body. Everyone is different. You might consider bringing it up with your doctor next time you have a physical. In case it's a symptom of something else.
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Comment on Recommendations needed: Favorite “comfort” movies in ~movies
lelio LinkThe only ones I can think of that aren't already here: Joe vs the Volcano Grosse pointe blank Oceans 12 (someone mentioned 11, but 12 is my fav :) Some of my most common comfort movies are just...The only ones I can think of that aren't already here:
Joe vs the Volcano
Grosse pointe blank
Oceans 12 (someone mentioned 11, but 12 is my fav :)Some of my most common comfort movies are just things I've watched so many times that the repetition becomes a comfort regardless of the vibe, like "Heat".
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
lelio LinkI'm on the 7th dungeon crawler carl book. I find the series really fun. I'm disappointed that I'm about to catch up (8th book comes out next summer) right before I go on vacation this weekend. If...I'm on the 7th dungeon crawler carl book. I find the series really fun. I'm disappointed that I'm about to catch up (8th book comes out next summer) right before I go on vacation this weekend. If anyone has similar fun beach reads let me know.
I've also been slowly reading "Journal of a novel" Steinbeck's East of Eden dairy. For when Im feeling more patient and contemplative.
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Comment on Reading my first Stephen King novel - What are your favorites? in ~books
lelio (edited )LinkI want to mention " the talisman". Because I skimmed the thread and didn't see it. Its one of my favorites. I kept thinking of it when I read Fairy Tale. It's a very similar story and vibe. I...I want to mention " the talisman". Because I skimmed the thread and didn't see it. Its one of my favorites. I kept thinking of it when I read Fairy Tale. It's a very similar story and vibe. I liked talisman better but that might just be because I read it when I was young.
Insomnia is another favorite of mine.
The Dark Tower series is the axle upon which the world of Stephen king spins. You should eventually get around to that if you want to explore his books.
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Comment on The goon squad. Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation. in ~life
lelio LinkI like the article, for reporting on a weird subculture and doing a lot of research. But I started feeling like the tone was kind of moral panic. I wouldn't grant that, unless "gooner porn" is...I like the article, for reporting on a weird subculture and doing a lot of research. But I started feeling like the tone was kind of moral panic.
Granted, day-in-the-life TikToks or unboxing videos won’t poison your soul to precisely the same degree as gooner porn.
I wouldn't grant that, unless "gooner porn" is specifically snuff films or something, I took it as just weird porn edited to be more intense. I don't see how that's soul poisoning at all.
If people want to average 2-3 hours a day masturbating to porn, I don't see that as any less healthy than sports, video games, baking, crocheting, or whatever humans choose to do with their lives. We're a bunch of brilliant, abusive, weirdos. It takes all kinds.
A few of the most intense fans of gooning are going down a weird, untrodden path into the wilderness. In the best-case scenario, society at large can respond like WristbandGuy. Offer support and guidance as best we can, so they can travel as safely as possible. It's probably a pointless waste of resources, but maybe they'll find something interesting.
A huge population and communication technology mean way more weird paths to go down, and more interesting things to find. We just have to worry about keeping people safe while they do their weird shit.
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Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
lelio Link ParentNaw, that's like a used city. Gross. I need a fesh one, and to my specifications. Edit: Whoops, I think I missed you were replying about bike cities and not telling me to use an abandoned city....Naw, that's like a used city. Gross.
I need a fesh one, and to my specifications.Edit:
Whoops, I think I missed you were replying about bike cities and not telling me to use an abandoned city. But I'm gonna leave it because the point stands. -
Comment on What ridiculous thing would you spend billions on? in ~talk
lelio LinkId buy a huge swath of land and build a city. Depending on how many billions I have it might be a scaled down city like a GTA map. But it'll have everything: suburbs, skyscrapers, a mall, a train,...Id buy a huge swath of land and build a city. Depending on how many billions I have it might be a scaled down city like a GTA map. But it'll have everything: suburbs, skyscrapers, a mall, a train, water and power, etc. I could invite people in and it would be our playground. We could race cars around the streets, play paintball, just walk around and hang out and camp wherever we want like we were apocalypse survivors.
it would be sealed off to keep the riff raff out and insure all the housing and resources are only for our amusement.
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Comment on Commentary: prepare to say a frond farewell to Los Angeles’ palm trees in ~enviro
lelio LinkI'm in Los Angeles. About 15 years ago I put laundry machines in the garage where there is no drain nearby. I researched a bit and dug out a hole in the yard nearby, put in a trash can with holes...I'm in Los Angeles. About 15 years ago I put laundry machines in the garage where there is no drain nearby.
I researched a bit and dug out a hole in the yard nearby, put in a trash can with holes drilled in it. Put a wood platform over it.Within a few years a palm bush thing started growing right next to the drain. It seemed to reach a full size poofy thing, right on the ground. Then it just levitated straight up over for the last few years. Fueled by our laundry water no doubt.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
lelio Link ParentWhen I was a teenager, decades ago. I read Travels with Charlie, Grapes of Wrath, and To a god unknown. I liked them all and sometimes reread parts of Grapes of Wrath. I somehow just missed East...When I was a teenager, decades ago. I read Travels with Charlie, Grapes of Wrath, and To a god unknown. I liked them all and sometimes reread parts of Grapes of Wrath.
I somehow just missed East of Eden. I never knew it was considered one of his best. Then I heard it mentioned/recommend I think 4 times in the last year. I'm glad I finally got around to it!
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Comment on Why language models hallucinate in ~tech
lelio Link ParentA while ago I told chatGPT to start each answer with it's confidence level. I haven't decided if it's actually helpful or accurate yet. It has never given a confidence rating below 50%. But since...A while ago I told chatGPT to start each answer with it's confidence level.
I haven't decided if it's actually helpful or accurate yet. It has never given a confidence rating below 50%. But since GPT5 I can't remember seeing an obvious hallucination yet either.
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Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books
lelio LinkI just finished East of Eden last night. Holy shit, that was amazing. Timshel y'all. I'd get into more detail about what i thought, but I need to consult with my local chinese scholars, wise men,...I just finished East of Eden last night.
Holy shit, that was amazing. Timshel y'all.I'd get into more detail about what i thought, but I need to consult with my local chinese scholars, wise men, and rabbinic authorities first.
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Comment on Could a space traveler accelerate at 1g forever? in ~space
lelio Link Parenten.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bussard_ramjet In theory you might be able to generate a giant magnetic field that will scoop up anything in your way, and then process it into fuel for a fusion drive. Which...en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bussard_ramjet
In theory you might be able to generate a giant magnetic field that will scoop up anything in your way, and then process it into fuel for a fusion drive. Which provides thrust and powers the magnetic field.
Nothing we would be capable of making anytime soon though. And possibly there isn't enough interstellar medium for it to work. And a bunch of things could prove impossible to implement.
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Comment on So was there no song of the summer this year? in ~music
lelio LinkJust going by my teenage daughters, this was definitely the summer of EPIC: the musical . That was on in the background all summer long. When it wasn't on, they were singing it! Also, thanks for...Just going by my teenage daughters, this was definitely the summer of EPIC: the musical . That was on in the background all summer long. When it wasn't on, they were singing it!
Also, thanks for the fun low-stakes thread! This thread reminds me of this silly video.
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Comment on US government snaps up 10% of Intel for $8.9B in ~tech
lelio Link ParentTo be fair, they said "The United States paid nothing for these Shares". One can't be blamed for thinking they seized it or something.To be fair, they said "The United States paid nothing for these Shares". One can't be blamed for thinking they seized it or something.
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Comment on What happened to your first car? in ~transport
lelio LinkI have a huge amount of nostalgia for my first car. It was a 1996 Eagle Talon TSI AWD. I bought it in 1999 when I was 17. We did many irresponsible and morally indefensible things together in and...I have a huge amount of nostalgia for my first car.
It was a 1996 Eagle Talon TSI AWD.I bought it in 1999 when I was 17. We did many irresponsible and morally indefensible things together in and around Los Angeles until 2003.
Then a good friend bought a brand new WRX. Right away we went to a spot to race. First race, he launched quicker and pulled about half a car length ahead. The cars accelerated almost exactly the same at that point, he held the small lead the whole way. We went back and tried again and I dropped the clutch HARD. I took the lead this time and then we held the same just as before. We laughed and called it even.Driving home I quickly realized the last launch had taken a toll. I had broken a motor mount, the whole transaxle had swung into the frame and cracked a hole in the transmission housing. If I engine braked even slightly I could hear gears grinding against the frame.
I spent a few weeks taking the bus to work and trying to fix it, replacing the motor mount was easy but I couldnt get the transmission housing patched, I tried all kinds of epoxy and stuff but it kept opening up again or leaking fluid. I really didn't want to replace the whole transmission, it would have been super expensive. Not having a car in LA is tough, I was kind of freaking out. Eventually, I patched it and took it to a dealership to trade it in for an SRT-4. While I was signing paperwork, I was hoping they didn't notice the growing puddle of transmission fluid under the Talon. They didn't, and I think I got around $7k for it.
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Comment on Which other sites do you visit? in ~tech
lelio Link ParentI use wikitok on android sometimes, just scrolling wiki articles on random.I use wikitok on android sometimes, just scrolling wiki articles on random.
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Comment on How many remakes have ever actually lived up to or surpassed the original? in ~movies
lelio Link ParentThe Thing is technically a second (more faithful?) adaptation of Who_Goes_There . But I suspect thats going to be the case for a lot of the fun ones. I say we rebel against OP and include those...The Thing is technically a second (more faithful?) adaptation of Who_Goes_There . But I suspect thats going to be the case for a lot of the fun ones. I say we rebel against OP and include those too!
I just recently caught A Star is Born(2018) and really liked it. I was wondering if any of the older ones would be worth watching...
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Comment on What are some great actual comedies made in the last twenty years? in ~movies
lelio LinkRecent comedies that I like and haven't seen listed yet: Bottoms (2023) Book smart(2019) For TV comedies, I like sketch shows: I think you should leave , Aunty Donna, Key and Peele, Whitest kids u...Recent comedies that I like and haven't seen listed yet:
Bottoms (2023)
Book smart(2019)For TV comedies, I like sketch shows: I think you should leave , Aunty Donna, Key and Peele, Whitest kids u know.
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Comment on Studios decry cinemas’ ad-filled preshows as AMC warns of “25-30 extra minutes”: Here are the consequences for movie biz in ~movies
lelio LinkI just got back from taking my kids to see Jurassic World at an AMC. I checked the time, for a 12:00 pm showtime, the Amblin logo popped up at 12:32. I do theatres only once or twice a year....I just got back from taking my kids to see Jurassic World at an AMC. I checked the time, for a 12:00 pm showtime, the Amblin logo popped up at 12:32.
I do theatres only once or twice a year. Honestly, if I hadn't read this headline before, I would have assumed it was normal. It's always seemed long to me, but I didn't really mind, honestly. I had already planned on turning my brain off for this movie, so I was in the right mindset to watch a lot of trailers for similar blockbusters. No straightforward commercials, but they did a long AMC self-promotional video that seemed new to us, different from the old Nicole Kidman one. And then they still played the Nicole Kidman thing after! It's still a crowd pleaser for its ridiculousness. And then another trailer! And then the movie.
I had that same realization.
For me the only thing that worked was counting calories. And eventually I realized I didn't have to restrict my calories just to lose weight and then stop.
I had to find what weight I wanted to be, then figure out how many calories a day to maintain that weight. In theory, if I knew that number, I could just start eating that amount, at any weight. Since heavier people burn more calories. Eventually my weight would automatically adjust to the goal weight.
In reality it took a few years of counting and weighing for me to actually find those numbers. Precision calorie counting doesn't seem possible. But the realization that there is no point at all to a temporary diet was key. Instead I only try to find healthy eating habits that I can maintain forever and start doing them right away as if I'm already at my goal weight.