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Comment on 2024 United States election megathread in ~society
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Comment on Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family? in ~health.mental
screamname I can relate a lot to what you're going through. I come from a somewhat similar background (though more extreme) and went through similar growth that you describe. I didn't want to be a violent,...I can relate a lot to what you're going through. I come from a somewhat similar background (though more extreme) and went through similar growth that you describe. I didn't want to be a violent, racist, sexist, hateful neo-nazi. I was desperate to not become my father. So, after some growth I confronted my father about his extremist views. I knew when I did that at the time that I would never be able to have a peaceful conversation with him again. I had to do it though. I wanted to give him that chance to change. I didn't want to give up on him. He responded poorly - as expected - and I didn't talk to him again for the next 15 years. He died alone a couple years ago. Cutting off contact with my father was one the most painful things I've ever done - even though he was a terrible person. I'm glad I tried to give him that chance to change, but I can't say that you should do what I did. What was right for me may not be right for you.
I think it's great that you have empathy for your family - it speaks to your growth as a person. I would definitely advise talking to a therapist. That was a big part of how I was able to even have the courage to confront my father.
I also recommend asking yourself a few things. Do you feel like your family is a net positive in your life? Does your family respect your wants, needs, and desires? I would think about things like that before making a decision. The family we're born with isn't always the family we end up with. A lot of people build or find their own family.
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Comment on Gladiator II | Official trailer in ~movies
screamname I'm not one to point to youtube comments, but yeesh that trailer deserves it.I'm not one to point to youtube comments, but yeesh that trailer deserves it.
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Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health
screamname Every other day my routine is to jog a mile to a park, do 30 pull ups, 30 dips, and 30sec-1min dead hang. Then I jog back home, do 50 bicycle crunches, 20 v-ups, and some yoga stretches. On the...Every other day my routine is to jog a mile to a park, do 30 pull ups, 30 dips, and 30sec-1min dead hang. Then I jog back home, do 50 bicycle crunches, 20 v-ups, and some yoga stretches. On the intervening days I try to make sure I walk at least 3 miles.
Helps keep me relatively fit, but I'm considering buying some dumbbells to switch things up. Particularly, for when the weather isn't ideal for exercising outdoors.
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Comment on What did you change your mind about this year? in ~talk
screamname I thought of myself as the sort of person that was getting enough Vitamin D since I make a point of being active outside every day. I must be getting enough sunlight, right? Well, I decided to try...I thought of myself as the sort of person that was getting enough Vitamin D since I make a point of being active outside every day. I must be getting enough sunlight, right?
Well, I decided to try taking a Vitamin D supplement for about a month and it made a difference. Not a huge one mind you, but noticeable. Certainly, more than I would expect from a placebo effect. I was surprised by that and I take it regularly now.
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Comment on How do you get "back on track"? Could use advice. in ~health.mental
screamname A lot of good suggestions and advice in here; however, I'd add that I think it's good to ask yourself what your social support system looks like. A partner, friends, a therapist, a psychiatrist, a...A lot of good suggestions and advice in here; however, I'd add that I think it's good to ask yourself what your social support system looks like. A partner, friends, a therapist, a psychiatrist, a mental health peer support group, a hobby group, etc. Having at least a few of those would be a good start to help keep you on track.
It also might be helpful to reconsider your perspective on therapy. While it may not be as necessary as it once was in the past, it might be good to revisit. It can be good just to check in rather than seeking treatment for a specific diagnosis.
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Comment on Introductions | June 2023, part 2 in ~talk
screamname Howdy, former digg user, former reddit user, and present tildes user. I'm one of those people that lurks for 10 years before posting, so check back in a decade. Enjoying the relative simplicity of...Howdy, former digg user, former reddit user, and present tildes user. I'm one of those people that lurks for 10 years before posting, so check back in a decade. Enjoying the relative simplicity of this site and hope it continues to grow. :)
I agree completely. I think one thing to note in comparing the two political campaigns is one campaign was willing to play dirty, cheat, and use any means and rhetoric necessary to win - consequences be damned. If one competitor is willing to do that and the other is not... Well, it's less surprising how badly this election turned out for the Democrats. This might be the last mistake that the Democratic party ever makes.