24 votes

We should have our own introduction thread. What's your story?

Thanks to @deimos for giving this a shot ❤

37 comments

  1. [3]
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    1. [2]
      AlastrionaCatskill
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      Congrats on the gender marker change! I'm only transitioned in non-legal matters, and no HRT because it was a wild goose chase trying to start that.

      Congrats on the gender marker change! I'm only transitioned in non-legal matters, and no HRT because it was a wild goose chase trying to start that.

      2 votes
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        1. AlastrionaCatskill
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          Here's what happened with me (in NY) Endocrinology: You need a note from a therapist Therapist: Sends note Endocrine: They need to specialize in gender therapy (Day later) Endocrine: NVM you're...

          Here's what happened with me (in NY)

          Endocrinology: You need a note from a therapist

          Therapist: Sends note

          Endocrine: They need to specialize in gender therapy

          (Day later)

          Endocrine: NVM you're good

          Therapist: Sends note again

          Endocrine: Nah needs to be a gender specialist.

          Me: Fine fuck off at least i'll still have my libido.

          3 votes
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    eljesT
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    heyo! 18 year old lesbian (mostly) trans chick here! i like guitar and overwatch. live in sweden. feel free to ask anything if you want ^-^

    heyo! 18 year old lesbian (mostly) trans chick here! i like guitar and overwatch. live in sweden. feel free to ask anything if you want ^-^

    6 votes
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      cheese
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      I assume the (mostly) is in reference to lesbian rather than trans? Or do you identify as lesbian but not feel like your gender is entirely female?

      I assume the (mostly) is in reference to lesbian rather than trans? Or do you identify as lesbian but not feel like your gender is entirely female?

  3. thepopcornator
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    Hey! 24 year old lesbian here, currently living in Arkansas. I love playing video games and hiking in my free time. Glad to meet everyone!

    Hey! 24 year old lesbian here, currently living in Arkansas. I love playing video games and hiking in my free time. Glad to meet everyone!

    6 votes
  4. AlastrionaCatskill
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    Wooooo! I knew I was trans* at 13 but I would always hang out with girls in my childhood. Fast forward 6-7 years and everyone at work calls me Alexis and understands how I am.

    Wooooo! I knew I was trans* at 13 but I would always hang out with girls in my childhood. Fast forward 6-7 years and everyone at work calls me Alexis and understands how I am.

    5 votes
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    lesalecop
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    Ayyyyo straight trans girl here. Suffered through a shit puberty not understanding why life sucked so much, started figuring it out around 18. Started HRT at 19 and things have been goin' pretty...

    Ayyyyo straight trans girl here.

    Suffered through a shit puberty not understanding why life sucked so much, started figuring it out around 18. Started HRT at 19 and things have been goin' pretty fucking great ever since.

    I like to be open about it for the most part because the stress of trying to keep it stealth just doesn't seem worth it at all to me, and also the trans-meme potential must be exploited.

    5 votes
    1. TheyThemDawn
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      Trans memes are the real reason I transitioned /s

      Trans memes are the real reason I transitioned
      /s

      4 votes
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      Puppersaregood
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      I hope you don't mind if I ask but since you're trans does straight mean you're attracted to men or women?

      I hope you don't mind if I ask but since you're trans does straight mean you're attracted to men or women?

      1. lesalecop
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        Men. Although I could be attracted to non-binary folks too. Really I find myself able to be attracted to everyone but women. Is that still straight? Pan with exceptions? I don't really know,...

        Men.

        Although I could be attracted to non-binary folks too.

        Really I find myself able to be attracted to everyone but women. Is that still straight? Pan with exceptions? I don't really know, straight just seems to most accurately describe my situation in my opinion.

        4 votes
      2. TheyThemDawn
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        Trans is an adjective, it’s describing girl. Straight girls like guys. Not trying to lecture, I always got mixed up what trans guy/gal meant. Understand it as the adj helped me.

        Trans is an adjective, it’s describing girl. Straight girls like guys.
        Not trying to lecture, I always got mixed up what trans guy/gal meant. Understand it as the adj helped me.

        4 votes
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      crius
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      Sorry I'm always kind of lost with all these variation. Correct me if I'm wrong. You identify as a male even if biologically still a female, and are attracted to male. Is it right? Forgive me if...

      Sorry I'm always kind of lost with all these variation. Correct me if I'm wrong.

      You identify as a male even if biologically still a female, and are attracted to male. Is it right?

      Forgive me if I'm using wrong identifying adjectives here. I generally find this whole labelling quite ridiculous as everyone should just be just free to be itself without "others" telling what you should be.

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        TheyThemDawn
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        Trans is an adjective, it’s describing girl. Trans means you don’t identify with your assigned gender. Therefore, trans women were assigned male at birth (AMAB). Also, straight girls like guys. If...

        Trans is an adjective, it’s describing girl. Trans means you don’t identify with your assigned gender. Therefore, trans women were assigned male at birth (AMAB). Also, straight girls like guys. If you have more questions see this topic: https://tildes.net/~lgbt/1f5/queer_101_ask_your_questions_here

        2 votes
        1. crius
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          Thank you, I must have missed that big topic :)

          Thank you, I must have missed that big topic :)

          1 vote
      2. lesalecop
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        I consider myself a woman, I was assigned male at birth. I'm attracted to men, regardless of what they were assigned at birth. I'm not being coerced by others to identify this way, in fact,...

        I consider myself a woman, I was assigned male at birth.

        I'm attracted to men, regardless of what they were assigned at birth.

        I'm not being coerced by others to identify this way, in fact, there's a lot of pressure put on me to not identity the way I do.

        2 votes
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    Reasonable_Doubt
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    I think I qualify as queer, though not on the surface. Not surface: attracted to both genders, have had relations with both genders and am a queer ally. Surface: Hetero married with kids. I'm...

    I think I qualify as queer, though not on the surface. Not surface: attracted to both genders, have had relations with both genders and am a queer ally. Surface: Hetero married with kids. I'm happy to keep my mouth shut if I don't actually qualify. :)

    5 votes
    1. lesalecop
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      Hey don't worry, anyone can contribute to discussions, it's their ideas that matter not their identity or sexuality.

      Hey don't worry, anyone can contribute to discussions, it's their ideas that matter not their identity or sexuality.

      5 votes
    2. tvfj
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      You've got experience seeing the world from a perspective outside the norms of gender and sexuality. I'd say that makes you queer, but of course you're free to apply, or not apply, whatever labels...

      You've got experience seeing the world from a perspective outside the norms of gender and sexuality. I'd say that makes you queer, but of course you're free to apply, or not apply, whatever labels you want. Either way, being an ally means you definitely fit in here :)

      1 vote
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    tvfj
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    Alright, now that I've spammed everyone's inbox (with permission from @deimos ofc), I figure I should actually participate. Pokemon Crystal came out when I was like 8 and let me pick "girl", but I...

    Alright, now that I've spammed everyone's inbox (with permission from @deimos ofc), I figure I should actually participate.

    Pokemon Crystal came out when I was like 8 and let me pick "girl", but I was a boy that didn't make any sense I'm not allowed to, so I was confused for like 20 years. I still am, but I'm working on it.

    4 votes
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      TheyThemDawn
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      Oh my thats how I ended up choosing my name!

      Oh my thats how I ended up choosing my name!

      2 votes
      1. tvfj
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        Wow, that's neat. I actually thought of that when reading your username, but I brushed it off and assumed Dawn was just your name.

        Wow, that's neat. I actually thought of that when reading your username, but I brushed it off and assumed Dawn was just your name.

        2 votes
  8. seila
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    hi I'm seila and I'm here to say I'm bi and NB in a major way Also I like weird drone music, painting my finger nails in a gradient, and weird internet sketch comedy. Thanks to the OP for letting...

    hi I'm seila and I'm here to say
    I'm bi and NB in a major way

    Also I like weird drone music, painting my finger nails in a gradient, and weird internet sketch comedy. Thanks to the OP for letting me know about this group. Glad to contribute here.

    4 votes
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    tildesatwindmills
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    You know, it can be hard to write about yourself sometimes - but one thing I've learned is that avoiding the hard things just makes it worse in long run. For example, here is my story: Bisexual...

    You know, it can be hard to write about yourself sometimes - but one thing I've learned is that avoiding the hard things just makes it worse in long run. For example, here is my story:

    Bisexual and slightly genderqueer is probably the best way to describe myself, but I typically claim Queer. I grew up in a very conservative area & social structure, so "knew" I would lose my family and friends if I came out. I got married (twice!) and tried to bury my feelings and live a "normal life". Net result is I still had to forgo those family and friends who cannot understand that people are just people and love is just love.

    Now, in my middle years, I get to start over and figure out who I am on my own terms. For those still in the closet, let me share that you will eventually have to go through this hard part no matter what. Don't waste decades of your life, it won't do a damn bit of good in the end.

    For those who have come out, my greatest thanks for leading the way and making a better place for those who follow.

    4 votes
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      SaucedButLeaking
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      Your username is absolute gold. I just want you to know that and this seems like the most appropriate post of yours to say it on

      Your username is absolute gold. I just want you to know that and this seems like the most appropriate post of yours to say it on

      1 vote
  10. Ten
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    I will give a brief history: At age 4 I realized I wanted to be a girl, by age 10 I was praying every single night to wake up as a girl, at age 12 (maybe 13?) I learned the word "transsexual" and...

    I will give a brief history:

    At age 4 I realized I wanted to be a girl, by age 10 I was praying every single night to wake up as a girl, at age 12 (maybe 13?) I learned the word "transsexual" and finally had a clue on what was going on. I came out to my wife and my family in 2011, and due to her pushing me I decided to end my transition at that time and there were a few small attempts between then and 2015, but after my wife left me in 2016 and took the kids (and has completely cut me off since then) I decided to give this another shot. Had a few suicide attempts, my dad said he IS embarrassed of me being trans and once said he'd rather see me dead than trans. And because I rely 100% on my dad for everything due to my disability situation at the moment, I can't even go to Planned Parenthood and start HRT and it sucks ass.

    Here is a picture of me, again, I've never been on hormones..

    Sadly when I go to stores or whatever, I frequently get called "sir, buddy, or guy". I hate it.

    4 votes
  11. Whom
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    Hi I'm @Whom, as you can see by looking at the name attached to this comment or reading this sentence again. I'm 20 years old and I've known I'm a trans girl for long enough that I don't remember...

    Hi I'm @Whom, as you can see by looking at the name attached to this comment or reading this sentence again.

    I'm 20 years old and I've known I'm a trans girl for long enough that I don't remember how old I was...somewhere in the young teen range. Though it feels like I should've known forever. I'm sad and bitter because I've never done anything about it and college just makes it harder. I'm also a lesbian, which is cool. I say I'm bi sometimes but for any practical purposes I'm into women.

    Outside of queer shit, I'm into games (with a retro focus), anime, and spend most of my time being a music nerd. I'm majoring in English Education, gonna teach me some high school engly. I'm a basket of unsurprises.

    4 votes
  12. up2eleven
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    Pan dude here. I identified as bi for most of my life because pan wasn't really a concept yet. I was in the closet for most of my life because I grew up in a time when coming out of a gay bar, you...

    Pan dude here. I identified as bi for most of my life because pan wasn't really a concept yet. I was in the closet for most of my life because I grew up in a time when coming out of a gay bar, you had to be very careful to avoid getting beaten or killed. I only came out fully about maybe five years ago. It feels good to not hide anymore.

    I'm into writing, travel, guitar, videogames, cultures, history, and exploration in general.

    4 votes
  13. selinaxkyle
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    Bi female. I grew up relatively sheltered, so I didn't know bisexuality existed until I was an adult. Needless to say, puberty was a confusing time.

    Bi female. I grew up relatively sheltered, so I didn't know bisexuality existed until I was an adult. Needless to say, puberty was a confusing time.

    4 votes
  14. Icecapman10
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    Hello! I am a heteroromantic asexual male. I've only told a few friends about it. No one in my family knows. I'm a huge Disney fan, play a lot of retro video games, and draw in Microsoft Paint and...

    Hello! I am a heteroromantic asexual male. I've only told a few friends about it. No one in my family knows. I'm a huge Disney fan, play a lot of retro video games, and draw in Microsoft Paint and Mario Paint (link to most of my stuff icecapman10.tumblr.com).

    4 votes
  15. Silbern
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    Hi, my name is /u/Silbern, but you probably already knew that part. I'm just plain homoromantic / homosexual. I've done a lot of traveling in my life and lived in many different places and...

    Hi, my name is /u/Silbern, but you probably already knew that part. I'm just plain homoromantic / homosexual. I've done a lot of traveling in my life and lived in many different places and countries, since my dad works in the navy, and I'm a dual US / German citizen and can speak a little German (but understand it decently well). I currently live in Hawaii and I've soon going to be a computer science student at the University of Hawaii, very excited about that :D in my free time I like to program, debate things, play video games, and hike sometimes. I'm pretty shy and introverted for the most part, but open up around people I know. And yeah, that's me in a nutshell I guess. I look forward to seeing Tilde and ~lgbt grow in size!

    3 votes
  16. Cleb
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    I'm @Cleb, hi. I'm 19, and a trans girl, and it took me so long to figure out (somewhere like age 13 or 14 or something) after being raised in a really bigoted way and slowly coming into my own...

    I'm @Cleb, hi. I'm 19, and a trans girl, and it took me so long to figure out (somewhere like age 13 or 14 or something) after being raised in a really bigoted way and slowly coming into my own views and beliefs. Also gay.

    I like video games, music, manga, anime, books, poetry, just a lot of art in general.

    3 votes
  17. cheese
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    I'm a Scottish trans lass. Late twenties. Life is going well - just got made permanent at work, and I am recently in my first relationship since I started living as female full time. I like girls,...

    I'm a Scottish trans lass. Late twenties. Life is going well - just got made permanent at work, and I am recently in my first relationship since I started living as female full time. I like girls, quite a lot.

    3 votes
  18. TheyThemDawn
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    Hi y’all, I’m a nb trans-women. After learning about LGBT stuff in university with a new queer friend at feminist club (NOW) meetings, I started questioning my identity for the first time and...

    Hi y’all, I’m a nb trans-women. After learning about LGBT stuff in university with a new queer friend at feminist club (NOW) meetings, I started questioning my identity for the first time and realized my feelings weren’t exactly like ‘other boys. ‘

    2 votes
  19. MsZapatista
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    Howdy! I'm a trans lesbian from the west coast of the US. So far I'm out to close friends and family, but despite being at 15 months HRT I'm not really openly out at school. I love games, cars,...

    Howdy! I'm a trans lesbian from the west coast of the US. So far I'm out to close friends and family, but despite being at 15 months HRT I'm not really openly out at school. I love games, cars, aircraft, memes, playing the accordion, and generally being a weirdo.

    2 votes
  20. musicotic
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    Hi, I'm a nonbinary person with I don't even know what sexuality. It's really complicated, but I'm mostly attracted to men/masc people. I'm from the Midwest, and I enjoy math and reading...

    Hi, I'm a nonbinary person with I don't even know what sexuality. It's really complicated, but I'm mostly attracted to men/masc people. I'm from the Midwest, and I enjoy math and reading scientific papers.

    2 votes