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  1. Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day dedicated to remembering trans* people who we have lost to transphobic violence

    HuffPo: At Least 22 Transgender People Were Killed In 2019. Here Are Their Stories. GLAAD is holding on online vigil Daily Beast: The Transgender Day of Remembrance: So Much Loss, So Much to Keep...
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  2. Comment on The new name of this group is ... in ~lgbt

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    I'm the one who asked Deimos to make ~lgbt. I opted for ~lgbt for pretty much the reasons @alyaza outlined in the previous thread. I was going for the general non-exclusive usage "lgbt" gets these...

    I'm the one who asked Deimos to make ~lgbt. I opted for ~lgbt for pretty much the reasons @alyaza outlined in the previous thread. I was going for the general non-exclusive usage "lgbt" gets these days, rather than anything TERFy.

    LGBTQ would have been fine (it has a pretty pervasive use in the media and is also very general), but I'm very happy we didn't go with ~rainbow. 🏳️‍🌈 has a pretty strong correlation with gay men. The trans (and to a lesser degree lesbian) flags are so popular for a reason, and they aren't rainbows. Not to mention rainbow capitalism.

    I'm happy with the outcome 🙂

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  3. Comment on All 230 New Emojis Coming in 2019 in ~tech

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    There's more than the gay hand holding (👭 & 👬) emoji: 👩❤️💋👩 & 👨❤️💋👨 show same-gender kissing, and with their eyes closed and the heart above their heads I think it's clear it's romantic. 👩❤️👩 &...

    There's more than the gay hand holding (👭 & 👬) emoji:

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 & 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨 show same-gender kissing, and with their eyes closed and the heart above their heads I think it's clear it's romantic.

    👩‍❤️‍👩 & 👨‍❤️‍👨 show same-gender couples simply being together, and the heart again makes it seem romantic. They're even defined as couples, but obviously that doesn't mean anything to end-users.

    👩‍👩‍👧 & 👨‍👨‍👧 and other combinations show families that have wlw and mlm relationships in theory, but there's nothing to actually define that so it's definitely ambiguous and works for non-nuclear families.

    I think it would be hard for the first two to be interpreted as platonic, but I'm sure some people will anyway.

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  4. Comment on 69-year-old Dutch man seeks to change his legal age to forty-nine in ~life

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    I mean there's no relevance between transgender people and this concept of changing your age.

    I mean there's no relevance between transgender people and this concept of changing your age.

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  5. Comment on 69-year-old Dutch man seeks to change his legal age to forty-nine in ~life

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    And to be clear it's utterly ridiculous at best. There's decades of research verifying the realities of trans people. Birth certificates aren't a medical document. They're used to prove identity...

    And to be clear it's utterly ridiculous at best. There's decades of research verifying the realities of trans people.

    Birth certificates aren't a medical document. They're used to prove identity and citizenship. A mismatch between the birth certificate and the person's ID and appearance can cause bureaucratic problems, and force trans people to be outed unnecessarily, which is literally a danger.

    Age is just so utterly irrelevant.

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  6. Comment on I think Tildes should remain invite-only in ~tildes

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    Now that Tildes is open source, don't forget MOSS

    Now that Tildes is open source, don't forget MOSS

    5 votes
  7. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~games

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    Oh, lol, I didn't realize

    Oh, lol, I didn't realize

  8. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~games

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    I'm assuming the "Topic deleted by author" line is inaccurate, and that you were the one to delete the thread? If so, is this a known issue?

    I'm assuming the "Topic deleted by author" line is inaccurate, and that you were the one to delete the thread? If so, is this a known issue?

    1 vote
  9. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~games

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    I definitely think this is newsworthy, since based on the tweet she didn't expect her team to be laid off so quickly. Telltale seems to be failing to even keep their skeleton crew employed. Maybe...

    I definitely think this is newsworthy, since based on the tweet she didn't expect her team to be laid off so quickly. Telltale seems to be failing to even keep their skeleton crew employed. Maybe just edit the title to reflect that?

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  11. Comment on Is this place going to become the anti-thesis of Voat? in ~tildes

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    There's this idea in contemporary US politics that every political opinion, and even every fact, has two opposing and equally valid sides that must be considered to have equivalent merit, and...

    There's this idea in contemporary US politics that every political opinion, and even every fact, has two opposing and equally valid sides that must be considered to have equivalent merit, and anything less than that is censorship. It's ridiculous.

    35 votes
  12. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~misc

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    If you didn't read the article, you have no understanding of how the author defines capitalism, and you have no business deciding on your own arbitrary non-standard definition. Doing so anyway, in...

    If you didn't read the article, you have no understanding of how the author defines capitalism, and you have no business deciding on your own arbitrary non-standard definition. Doing so anyway, in order to dismiss the article and personally attack the author, is just a bad-faith intentional misreading and a waste of everyone's time.

    At the very least make it clear that you're just giving your hot take based on the headline. Or refrain from commenting at all if you haven't read the article - you're just bumping a thread you clearly disapprove of.

    2 votes
  13. Comment on 'Last Jedi' hate tweets were "weaponized" by Russia, says study in ~movies

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    Unsurprising, given how much of the hatred revolved around misogyny and racism. I'm reading through the study itself, and I'm glad it's willing to be frank with what it's saying: I just realized...

    Unsurprising, given how much of the hatred revolved around misogyny and racism.

    I'm reading through the study itself, and I'm glad it's willing to be frank with what it's saying:

    They saw its arguments for equality of gender, race and class as a new, leftist takeover
    of Star Wars, even though Star Wars has always been politically left-leaning.

    I just realized that I've been identifying "talking points" for years now. I've often assumed there was some central source of the information, like a YouTube video or a thread on some chan. Recognizing that these could simply be paid trolls is enlightening.

    9 votes
  14. Comment on User flair for personal pronouns in ~tildes

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    Compromise: Display them on the user profile, and in the "replying to" text. I appreciate that you default to "they", but as the website grows we are likely to have more and more people who do...

    Compromise: Display them on the user profile, and in the "replying to" text.

    I appreciate that you default to "they", but as the website grows we are likely to have more and more people who do not, and creating yet another space that believes there aren't women (and so on) on the internet is not good for maintaining healthy discussion.

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  15. Comment on Do you use gender-neutral pronouns? Which one do you prefer? in ~talk

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    Are you saying you'll use feminine and masculine pronouns to refer to the same person?

    Are you saying you'll use feminine and masculine pronouns to refer to the same person?

    1 vote
  16. Comment on Do you use gender-neutral pronouns? Which one do you prefer? in ~talk

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    Language is constantly changing, and people are constantly founding new sociolects without even being aware of it. If it's not accepted as correct by most speakers, it's not a part of most lects,...

    Language is constantly changing, and people are constantly founding new sociolects without even being aware of it. If it's not accepted as correct by most speakers, it's not a part of most lects, but of course it's correct to the people who use it.

    Singular they is in constant contemporary use. If you don't see it, it sounds like it doesn't bother you.

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  17. Comment on Do you use gender-neutral pronouns? Which one do you prefer? in ~talk

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    Pronouns always require context to understand. Just ignore her. (I'm intentionally breaking the rules by using a pronoun without any adequate context to show what I mean. I can already tell it...

    It is only because of the emphasized word preceding your use of "they" that I am able to identify that you are in fact referring to a single user who previously used "they" as a pronoun and not multiple users

    Pronouns always require context to understand. Just ignore her.

    (I'm intentionally breaking the rules by using a pronoun without any adequate context to show what I mean. I can already tell it makes my comment confusing.)

    Back to the point, you understood the sentence with context, and brought up that if it lacked context it would have been confusing, which isn't a surprising concept. When you used singular they to refer to a character who I assume had a binary gender (I'm guessing this wasn't a conscious decision), you presented it with adequate context - did you have to think about it?

    5 votes
  18. Comment on Do you use gender-neutral pronouns? Which one do you prefer? in ~talk

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    My understanding is that the use of "he" for a person of unknown gender is considered gender default (as opposed to gender neutral) due to men historically being the primary actors in our society....

    My understanding is that the use of "he" for a person of unknown gender is considered gender default (as opposed to gender neutral) due to men historically being the primary actors in our society.

    it's the only word that sounds English among the many alternatives

    A native speaker understanding something as correct (or rather, not seeing it as an error or mistake) is in fact the basis for how linguists describe language. So, if it sounds right, it is right. If it sounds wrong to you, but sounds right to someone else, it is right: but might not (yet) be in your particular lect

    Creating new words (that don't describe something new) rarely works. Expanding or shifting the use of existing language often does.

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  19. Comment on The Good Place is one of the funniest, most original shows I've seen in a long time in ~tv

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    To add to @Spel's comment, I felt the exact same way and dropped the show after watching the first two episodes. A friend kept encouraging me to watch it, and eventually I asked him if he could...

    To add to @Spel's comment, I felt the exact same way and dropped the show after watching the first two episodes. A friend kept encouraging me to watch it, and eventually I asked him if he could give me a compelling reason, even if it's a spoiler, to watch the show, and he did. I picked it back up, and enjoyed it a lot, especially the second season.

    To give you a smaller spoiler than he gave me: The show has a few times that they subvert expectations, and they get away with that by foreshadowing things that don't happen, and avoiding so much as hinting at some of the things that do. But even some of the basics of how the show presents itself in the first several episodes end up wrong, and the motivations of the main cast change throughout the show. More to the point, you get the impression that the show is about her becoming a better person to fit in (which comes across as a bad premise as it shouldn't take very long), but that is not, ultimately, the direction of the show.

    3 votes