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15 votes
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What I think the anti-bullying books get wrong
8 votes -
What style of parent are you? It affects how much your children remember.
10 votes -
The age that women have babies: How a gap divides America
10 votes -
Choosing to not have children
I hesitate to even use the term "childfree" for this post, as the reputation the community has gathered on reddit isn't the greatest. For good reason tbh - there's a reason I don't post on that...
I hesitate to even use the term "childfree" for this post, as the reputation the community has gathered on reddit isn't the greatest. For good reason tbh - there's a reason I don't post on that sub.
I knew from a very young age that I wasn't cut out for kids. I didn't want to play "house", hated baby dolls (especially the gross ones that "peed" so you could change the diaper), babysitting was done only under duress, and the noise that came from being around a crowd of kids made me crazy. I grew up with dozens of cousins, of which I was one of the oldest girls, so "taking care of the young ones" was kind of an expectation. But while the other cousins in my age range were happy to do so, I was off in a corner with a book, avoiding the entire thing.
As I got older and started dating, the conversations about weddings and having kids were the last thing on my mind. I went off to university, got a job, moved out on my own, and just didn't really think twice about it to be honest. I guess I always assumed it'd happen one day, and the urge to settle down would kick in, but it never did.
Now as I'm past the ever so major gate of 30 (that crucial age where everyone says you'll change your mind), nothing's changed. I have a large circle of friends who feel the same way (none of us have or want children) and we're enjoying our lives in a way I didn't think was possible. We enjoy our dinners with each other, traveling on weekends to spontaneous destinations, last minute concerts, festivals, and many other events that keep us busy and engaged. The thought of giving it up and settling down just doesn't hold any appeal.
The accusations of selfishness, shallowness, leading an unfulfilled life are all just water off a duck's back. If I'm selfish, it hurts no one but myself. If I'm shallow, well, I'm not shallow so that's not an issue. My life is my own, and it's exactly how I want it - full of friends, spontaneity, and peace and quiet when I want it.
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Motherhood brings the most dramatic brain changes of a woman's life. So why does prenatal care ignore the topic altogether?
17 votes -
What milestone did your children hit that you weren't ready for?
I'm a father of two girls, ages are 6 and 4. Miss 6 has had a wobbly tooth for a few weeks now (the way she has harped on it felt like years) now last week it came out. Being that it was loose for...
I'm a father of two girls, ages are 6 and 4. Miss 6 has had a wobbly tooth for a few weeks now (the way she has harped on it felt like years) now last week it came out. Being that it was loose for so long I thought I had come to terms with that, I hadn't. It's odd but it shook me harder than I would have expected.
What milestone has your little one hit that you weren't ready for? prepare this foolish dad for more things to come!
15 votes -
Two weeks after “ending” US family separation, parents still can’t contact their children
7 votes -
What we can learn from Ghana's obsession with preschool
5 votes -
Listen to children who’ve just been separated from their parents at the border
13 votes -
Dad bias: Why are fathers disproportionately praised for parenting their kids?
12 votes -
Toxic danger to boys when men fail to step up
5 votes -
Why do kindergarteners need a song about school shootings?
6 votes -
A video of a man saving a toddler's life at great risk to his own
@ladyhaja: Holy shit, this guy is amazing. What a hero. https://t.co/XVWbaULkFp https://t.co/hHnF150XL5
14 votes -
Winnipeg girl, three, forbidden from wearing 'inappropriate' sundress to preschool
11 votes -
In 2017 names, Donald, Alexa, and Mary plummet; Malia booms
5 votes