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4 votes
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Games for "the flame"
TL;DR: What do you do with your SO (if anything) to spark some fun? Do you have a go-to move, or game that gets interest going for some fun? A lot of us have been sheltering in place for some time...
TL;DR: What do you do with your SO (if anything) to spark some fun? Do you have a go-to move, or game that gets interest going for some fun?
A lot of us have been sheltering in place for some time now due to covid-19. What do you do to keep things from getting stale- to show effort, appreciation, and attraction for your significant other?
I'm trying to keep things relatively fresh, but we don't have much space where we are. It takes, for example "naked billiards" off the table. I think they have a copy of "Twister" somewhere, so I might try to see if they're into a game night for some physical closeness. If you have a deck of cards, you can always do strip poker, but it might be a little underwhelming.
Of course, it doesn't always have to be a competition either, back/foot rubs are always a well received from both sides in my experience. I'm also aware of a concept called "Chore-Play[*]" and I try to do what I can to make sure my SO never feels like they're pulling the weight for both of us.
I obviously had a couple ideas, but I'm looking for some inspiration too! I'd like so have some things on the back-burner to whip out when the occasion calls for it, or when the time is right.
PS: I'm not really sure what to expect for responses to this, I know it's a rather personal topic and sharing information like that can be uncomfortable for some. You don't have to share what you do in your relationship if you're not comfortable (obviously), but maybe you share a link of some cool ideas you found somewhere instead? IDK, let's get creative with it!
[*]: With that being said, there is another definition of choreplay that I don't think is what we're after (collectively). I'm not talking about using sex as a bargaining chip for chores, which is what some perceive it as. I'm talking about taking the actions to make your partner feel like valued and appreciated half of the relationship. With those feelings of appreciation and care, comes romance and intimacy.
14 votes -
Je regrette tout: Does moral growth demand regret?
7 votes -
Is marriage over?
7 votes -
The woman who founded Mother's Day in the US eventually came to regret it
12 votes -
I think I'm done with Amazon. Recommend me some alternative storefronts.
This story was basically the last straw, but the bigger frustration is that I ordered a NAS on Black Friday that STILL hasn't shipped. I have zero trust in this company to actually deliver me what...
This story was basically the last straw, but the bigger frustration is that I ordered a NAS on Black Friday that STILL hasn't shipped. I have zero trust in this company to actually deliver me what they claim to be anymore, and their listings are crap.
So instead of just spending my time whining (like the Ars comment section seems to be), I'd like to brainstorm alternative places to buy stuff. The main problem is breaking the Amazon habit, especially as it dominates all Google results for whatever you're looking for.
Nothing will ever be as much of a "one stop shop" as the A->Z store, naturally. But I think I'll just set myself up some bookmarks and go to one based on what I'm looking for. Also, while I get that there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, there is definitely a sliding scale of better and worse so that should weigh into things.
So let's go by category. I'm just listing out places where I've started to look for things instead. Please feel free to make suggestions. Whatever people recommend, I'll edit back into this list. If you include any general comments about what you like or what they could do better on any of your recommendations or any of mine let me know.
Groceries (Dry goods and sundries)
- Target.com
- Jet.com
- WalMart.com
- CostCo
- Chewy.com: For dog/pet supplies
Groceries (Fresh/perishable and specialty foods)
- Peapod (is this still a thing? Has anyone used it?)
Electronics
- BestBuy.com
- WalMart.com
- Target.com
- Drop.com: Unfortunately, it's whatever happens to be a deal at the time. So good to check in on and get alerts if there is something you're waiting for but not reliable.
- TechnaBob: Same as Drop
- NewEgg: Obviously
- Monoprice: For cables and other staples.
Clothes (basics like socks, t-shirts, underwear, etc.)
Clothes (designer)
- Gilt.com is basically for overstock and weird fashion items. Sometimes there are good finds there though, particularly good deals on designer versions of basics.
Random stuff (specifically random "flea market" type sites)
- Meh.com
- Etsy (for handicrafts and consignment/antiques, although this is also starting to get lousy with shitty knockoffs)
- eBay (can be pretty dodgy, once again crappy knockoff scammers ruin everything)
- CraigsList (if you're okay with used)
Other (specialty sites for very specific things)
- Drop: For stuff in drop communities. Currently they have a very active one for mechanical keyboards along with audiophile gear, writing/stationary, EDC, and random tech.
- The Clymb: A deal site for camping clothes and outdoor gear
- REI.com: More outdoors gear
36 votes -
The death of the office
8 votes -
The day the pirates came
6 votes -
Why I’m learning more with distance learning than I do in school
8 votes -
Finnish basic income pilot improved wellbeing – first major study of scheme comes as economic toll of coronavirus prompts fresh interest in idea
13 votes -
For these Federal employees, telework means productivity is up, their backlog is down
9 votes -
Private dinners where men discuss feelings and equality have taken off in Sweden – but the concept isn't without controversy
7 votes -
173 years on, Irish donors thank Native Americans
11 votes -
A short history of child protection in the UK, with discussion about the impact of temporary coronavirus law
6 votes -
Prison inmates in Western Australia made 100 school desks in less than two weeks to donate to families for children homeschooling during the coronavirus pandemic
5 votes -
How can I save more money on razors?
EDIT: I probably should've said up-front that I live in the UK. I've started to really dig shaving over the years. It's gone from a chore to an enjoyable regimen. Watching or just listening to...
EDIT: I probably should've said up-front that I live in the UK.
I've started to really dig shaving over the years. It's gone from a chore to an enjoyable regimen. Watching or just listening to shaving ASMR videos provides considerable satisfaction, though it's really always nice to see a professional at work. I only shave every few days, once my stubble has become quite unsightly, and just give it a single pass in order to save on the cost of razor cartridges. At the moment I'm going through my remaining Cornerstone cartridges after canceling my subscription with them due to the cost, and I can get a few uses out of each before having to discard them. My shaving gel is just a cheapo brand, and the aftershave is an old Christmas gift.
I'd like to be be able to save some more money when it comes to shaving. Anyone got any recommendations for a good brand I could switch to, or advice on keeping the handle clean and getting more uses out of the heads?
14 votes -
After six weeks of lockdown, Miamians enjoy first weekend of reopened parks, marinas
5 votes -
We are all niqabis now: Coronavirus masks reveal hypocrisy of face covering bans
12 votes -
The logic of stupid poor people
12 votes -
Lockdown productivity: Spaceship you
16 votes -
Inside the nightmare voyage of the Diamond Princess
6 votes -
Michigan Governor Whitmer announces plan for free college tuition for front-line workers battling coronavirus
13 votes -
It's not every day that the face of a chief epidemiologist is inked as a tattoo – a very Swedish tribute
4 votes -
Man recreates supermarket at home for 87-year-old mother battling dementia
6 votes -
Many schools are already closed until the end of the year. So what happens to all those missed classes?
11 votes -
Alert level 420: New Zealand weed dealers on how they’re operating in lockdown
4 votes -
Sámi herders won back exclusive rights to hunting and fishing in their area of the Arctic – but that has led to heightened tensions between them and local Swedes
4 votes -
Calling me a hero only makes you feel better
17 votes -
Productivity is not working
9 votes -
Chabuduo! Close enough…
10 votes -
Rush for haircuts in Denmark – Danes can now get a haircut at a salon for the first time in a month, as the country takes the next step to gradually relax its coronavirus lockdown
6 votes -
The second phase of unemployment will be harsher: For American workers displaced by recession, widespread public sympathy soon gives way to moralizing anger
11 votes -
Walmart to require all employees wear face masks starting Monday
6 votes -
Has anyone used platforms like Fiverr to make a bit of extra money?
In these lean COVID-19 times I feel like a lot of people are trying to make a bit of extra cash. I've been thinking about trying out some freelancing platform to market a few of my skills...
In these lean COVID-19 times I feel like a lot of people are trying to make a bit of extra cash. I've been thinking about trying out some freelancing platform to market a few of my skills (apparently people pay for at least few things I do for fun?), and I was wondering what people who've used any of the main platforms think of them. I keep seeing conflicting stuff around the web.
13 votes -
Virtual sex parties offer escape from isolation — if organizers can find a home
6 votes -
We’re on the brink of cyberpunk
8 votes -
Iceland's forestry service has come up with a novel way to overcome the sense of isolation many people suffer because of Covid-19 – hug the trees
6 votes -
Making a home that’s affordable, for good
4 votes -
PetSmart pressures dog groomers to come into work as "essential labor"
8 votes -
A very detailed Corona curriculum for your kids
5 votes -
Prepare for the ultimate gaslighting - "...take a deep breath, ignore the deafening noise, and think deeply about what you want to put back into your life"
18 votes -
Furloughed because of the coronavirus pandemic, airline and hotel employees in Sweden are retraining to work as hospital and nursing home assistants
6 votes -
That discomfort you’re feeling is grief
8 votes -
What’s really holding women back?
12 votes -
The century of the self
10 votes -
Why I don’t feel safe wearing a face mask
10 votes -
Sales of sex toys in Denmark have more than doubled after Danes were told to stay at home to limit the spread of the coronavirus
20 votes -
Death to decluttering: Why I’m saying no to isolation to-do lists
9 votes -
The stimulus bill punishes parents behind on child support. Now is not the time
8 votes -
Searching for the small wins is getting me through this pandemic
4 votes