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Comment on Hello fellow women in ~life.women
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Comment on What's the most enjoyable part of your work? in ~talk
LavenderLily LinkI help people find jobs, I help employers find employees, and I help place people into on-the-job training positions which helps them gain skills for more sustainable employment. What I love about...I help people find jobs, I help employers find employees, and I help place people into on-the-job training positions which helps them gain skills for more sustainable employment.
What I love about my job is simple. When I’m able to help someone apply for a job or obtain a job that pays more, it feels great. Job income determines so many things - where we live (or if we have a place to live), the food we eat(or if we have food to eat), and so much more. Income can be life changing, and I do my best to help people into better opportunities to help them out of dire situations.
Working with people through the employment process can get heavy. People are stressed out, some cry because they were fired and they are worried it means no one will hire them ever again. Getting to pull them back into job searching, applying, cheerleading them through interviews and getting hired is what I love.
Sending a resume to an employer who is looking for someone with their skills and the employer hires them, I love that too.
I tell people it’s the only job I’ve had where it’s a good thing when we don’t see our customers again. :)
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Comment on WoW Classic Hardcore is the first time I've had fun with WoW in a long time in ~games
LavenderLily LinkThis would definitely be fun. I’m interested. Villages of murlocs at lower levels is on that same tier of gratification as leaving kobold caves alive. The really old bubble hearth macro might have...This would definitely be fun. I’m interested.
Villages of murlocs at lower levels is on that same tier of gratification as leaving kobold caves alive. The really old bubble hearth macro might have more application than novelty and laughs in hardcore.
I like the fact that Mak’Gora is also being included for duels. Overall, very interested to check this out.
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Comment on Hello fellow women in ~life.women
LavenderLily LinkHappy Birthday! I’m mid 40’s and feeling great about it. I got married and had kids very early on. Now, my kids are both grown and I’ve been divorced for a few years. At first, it was odd. I spent...Happy Birthday!
I’m mid 40’s and feeling great about it.
I got married and had kids very early on. Now, my kids are both grown and I’ve been divorced for a few years. At first, it was odd. I spent over 20 years being mom and wife. Getting divorced and my kids growing up left me with a lost sense of self. The things I had done for so long suddenly weren’t what I was doing anymore. And I felt like Who in the world am I?
So I started putting time into things I like. I did more gardening and reading. Played video games that I bought with every intention to play but never got around to it. I switched jobs to a job that was more in sync with my talents and I have thrived in this role. I grew new friendships with women that I have connected with in my job and my hobbies and they’ve been amazing.
I started dating a friend I had known for 15 years and thought that our friendship has always been wonderful, this relationship will be great. It wasn’t terrible, but it wasn’t the relationship I envisioned either. The relationship was just ok.
Then I started interacting with someone through work related events. We would talk, and I would enjoy these conversations greatly. We agreed to get lunch together one day, and I sat there thinking, this is what I wanted from my relationship! Wonderful, meaningful conversations. Connection. Those conversations and that level of connection made me realize my relationship wasn’t what I wanted, and I broke it off.
After a few months of these occasional lunches, conversations, and interactions we decided to see each other. Almost a year later we are still excited to talk to each other every day and do things together. Our talks have shifted into a future together, and I couldn’t be more excited.
My 40’s brought about a lot of scary changes by upending my identity that I had known for so long. But they’ve all turned out to be solid, positive changes and I couldn’t be happier.
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Comment on What is your most important game? in ~games
LavenderLily Link ParentChrono Cross was big for me too. I picked it up because I thought it looked interesting, and I got an amazing game that remains one of my all-time favorites. I still pull the soundtrack up here...Chrono Cross was big for me too. I picked it up because I thought it looked interesting, and I got an amazing game that remains one of my all-time favorites. I still pull the soundtrack up here and there for a few tracks that stuck with me.
When older games started getting remasters, this and Legend of Dragoon were the two older PlayStation titles I immediately thought of. The talk around Chrono Trigger made me think we’d get that instead. I gave up hope after no news for a long time, but it looks like they finally released the Chrono Cross remaster on the Switch last year.
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Comment on Do you have any favourite WoW Classic meme/weird builds? in ~games
LavenderLily LinkIn OG BC we ran into an interesting problem as my MT prot paladin got geared up with uncrushable stats and would go back to do lower content. I wasn’t taking enough damage on trash to warrant...In OG BC we ran into an interesting problem as my MT prot paladin got geared up with uncrushable stats and would go back to do lower content. I wasn’t taking enough damage on trash to warrant heals and as a result, I’d run out of mana.
I fixed the problem by using some pieces of spell power gear and tanking with a fish in my hand. I took damage, received heals, didn’t run out of mana.
Before we got to a boss encounter, I’d swap the pieces back out for tank gear and put on my sword and board. It was a great fix for mana dependent threat generation challenges on trash mobs and probably the oddest set I ever utilized playing wow.
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Comment on What is something that had far more variety than you expected once you looked into it? in ~talk
LavenderLily LinkMushrooms! I encountered a recipe that called for mushrooms I hadn’t heard of and went down a rabbit hole of information and varieties. Until that point, I thought white mushrooms and baby bellas...Mushrooms!
I encountered a recipe that called for mushrooms I hadn’t heard of and went down a rabbit hole of information and varieties. Until that point, I thought white mushrooms and baby bellas were it - that the rest were the poisonous kind. So many mushrooms out there I had never heard of that are so amazing - different tastes, textures. I was hooked.
Then I started doing grow kits. And now I’m looking at a grow chamber and growing many more. Foraging for my own that aren’t able to be grown that way, like morels, is also on my “do it someday” list.
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Comment on On being a "doomer" about climate change in ~enviro
LavenderLily LinkI have to say that in my lifetime alone, I have went from Reduce, Reuse, Recycle!, to upcycling, to reducing my carbon footprint….and all that time I felt good. I’m making a difference. Then, the...I have to say that in my lifetime alone, I have went from Reduce, Reuse, Recycle!, to upcycling, to reducing my carbon footprint….and all that time I felt good. I’m making a difference.
Then, the more I read over the years, and realized the problem is so much bigger, and requires more effort than my choice to go reusable bags when I shop, it felt a bit defeating.
I’m still doing my part, still believing my drop in the bucket counts. But my thinking has shifted focus from ways we can do our part to where do we move so our children and children’s children feel this impact less and have a better life in areas where change won’t be felt as drastically so soon?
That thought felt “doomer” in and of itself. I agree - we need to take the reins out of the hands of people who have no vested interest beyond lobbying and regurgitating false information to continue to draw that line in the sand and demand that anyone who believes in climate change is of a certain persuasion.
We need to hand them back to the people who are vested in mitigating and reversing any damage we possibly can. Thinking bigger than ourselves and realizing what we are dooming future generations to live in is important. I can only hope that the tide turns before it’s too late.
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Comment on Where did you get your engagement ring? in ~life
LavenderLily (edited )LinkI am loving all these stories about the thought and care everyone has put into these rings! When the topic of marriage came up between me and my boyfriend 20 years ago, all I could think about was...I am loving all these stories about the thought and care everyone has put into these rings!
When the topic of marriage came up between me and my boyfriend 20 years ago, all I could think about was all my friends buying rings they had to get loans for, or the stress of losing or damaging very expensive rings. I told him, buy something you can pay cash for. I didn’t want to start out in debt like our friends.
So, he did. $350 later, he had a ring and we got married. As much as I was grateful it wasn’t super expensive, here’s what I didn’t think about: I’ve got to wear this everyday for the rest of my life. I felt pretty neutral about the ring; didn’t love it, didn't hate it…it just was.
If I had it to do over, I would have definitely given more input for him to pick something I adored and didn’t break the bank for that first ring.
Edit: went off on a tangent thinking about that ring and didn’t even say where we got it. Got it at the only jeweler in town, a local place. It was a set that was mismatched by half a size and that’s why it was marked down to $350. Almost lost the bigger ring a few times as it was the front one.
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Comment on What's your favourite ice cream flavour? in ~food
LavenderLily Link ParentBaskin Robbins is also sentimental for me! I got the bubblegum ice cream all through my childhood into young adulthood. At some point I stopped seeing it in the rotation and would try other...Baskin Robbins is also sentimental for me! I got the bubblegum ice cream all through my childhood into young adulthood. At some point I stopped seeing it in the rotation and would try other things, and I’m glad I did. Honestly, I don’t think I’d ever eat bubblegum ice cream ever again.
I like vanilla bean across brands but especially love a toasted coconut ice cream from a little local mom and pop place that makes everything in house. I haven’t met many ice cream flavors I don’t like, but I definitely check to make sure it’s actual ice cream and not “frozen dairy dessert” in some seasonal flavor. We bought one of those without realizing it was a thing and found out no one much cares for that.
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Comment on What are two things that are your favourite colour? in ~talk
LavenderLily LinkRoses and lavender. I’ve never been much of a favorite color person. I have always favored neutrals like black and grey for everything. I started gardening, and I found my favorite flowers were...Roses and lavender.
I’ve never been much of a favorite color person. I have always favored neutrals like black and grey for everything. I started gardening, and I found my favorite flowers were anything light purple in color.
I was pleasantly surprised to realize my color preferences had stepped off the dark colors and neutrals wheel. Never thought of myself as a purple person either. But here we are. :)
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Comment on How did you learn to cook? in ~food
LavenderLily LinkI learned to cook through a lot of trial and error. These days, it’s going pretty good, and I cook well, but it didn’t start out that way. Growing up, we weren’t allowed to cook. I tried a couple...I learned to cook through a lot of trial and error. These days, it’s going pretty good, and I cook well, but it didn’t start out that way.
Growing up, we weren’t allowed to cook. I tried a couple of times because I was hungry for something specific like pancakes, and my parents weren’t early risers. I got in trouble for cooking while my parents were asleep, and I understand why that could have gone so bad, but as a result I knew how to cook nothing when I moved out in the late ‘90’s.
I picked up a couple of cookbooks from the library, and tried to cook things I liked. Cakes and food were a little on the ugly side, but they tasted good. I kept trying to cook meals, and got much better at it. I was burning less food, things were more consistent and I started enjoying it too. There were still oopsies like the first Thanksgiving Turkey I cooked that I didn’t thaw long enough, and some burned hamburgers, but I could make dinner and feed everyone.
Fast forward a couple of years, I’m switching channels and I come across a show called Good Eats. The show made me laugh but it also tackled the science of why we were doing these things to the food, and it fascinated me. I learned so much from that show. It ignited a passion for cooking in me. No more boxed meals, cool whip, or inferior ingredients. I learned how to handle ingredients properly and make them into the meal.
Now, I garden and grow a lot of what makes it into our meals. Learning about good food inspired me to take it to the next level and garden, seek out local meat, and cook great things. So while cookbooks from the library started me on my journey, I think Good Eats took me down the path I ended up on. Eternally grateful for that show, and I still cook Alton Brown’s turkey every year at Thanksgiving.
The short answer is no, it didn’t. There was no fight or harsh words exchanged. I ended the relationship and with it, the friendship disappeared too.
The way we ended up dating was he confessed he had feelings for most of our friendship. It was a complete surprise to me. I never considered if it would ruin the friendship; in fact I felt lucky to date someone I thought I knew very well, and vice versa.
The thought I was left with after dating not working out made me question if the friendship only existed and grew to the deep level it did because of those feelings. Seeing the friendship disappear after the relationship only deepened that feeling. It made the friendship feel less significant overall and helped me feel ok that it no longer exists.