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Comment on AI art challenge - how mental is your mind? in ~creative
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tech
MajorHoulihan Link ParentPixel 5a has been underwhelming. Apps quit while I'm using them, camera okay, keyboard is frustrating (even though it's G-board I can't stand it.) For the 500.00 I paid I should have gotten top of...Pixel 5a has been underwhelming. Apps quit while I'm using them, camera okay, keyboard is frustrating (even though it's G-board I can't stand it.) For the 500.00 I paid I should have gotten top of the line Motorola. My kid had great luck with Pixel 3 so I was pumped to switch from the Samsung galaxy bloat ware to a phone that uses all the apps I already use any way. Lackluster. Just meh and too small.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~life.women
MajorHoulihan Link ParentRight. I forgot to address this in my response but I found this particular question, asked by an alleged male, did make me uncomfortable. Another more neutral topic would've been fine.Right. I forgot to address this in my response but I found this particular question, asked by an alleged male, did make me uncomfortable. Another more neutral topic would've been fine.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~life.women
MajorHoulihan LinkWomen instinctually know that most men have the size and strength to maim or kill them. That's old news. Best thing you can do for women's safety is be an ally. Speak up when other males objectify...Women instinctually know that most men have the size and strength to maim or kill them. That's old news. Best thing you can do for women's safety is be an ally. Speak up when other males objectify us or use violent, derogatory language about us. Be aware of your own size and proximity and respect boundaries. Don't be afraid to have open conversations about our boundaries if you aren't clear what our "no" or "yes" entails.
Every now and then my husband and I spar (I am a yogi and consider myself strong and fit. I have a lot of experience in hand-to-hand sibling combat and did boxing on and off for a couple years). He is a former body builder and plays pickup basketball three times a week. He is taller though, and has no testosterone issues. Every time we spar I think: "I got him this time!" but I always lose. It is simple biology.
In short, I know I'm fucked if it came down to it. I stay aware of my surroundings, only go places that are necessary for me, and know my exits.
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Comment on Book writing self-hosted solutions? in ~tech
MajorHoulihan Link ParentI have some published books under my belt and this is quite close to how I work. I've never seen the need for a writing specific program. I know that I would get hyper focused on learning the...I have some published books under my belt and this is quite close to how I work. I've never seen the need for a writing specific program. I know that I would get hyper focused on learning the options and specifics if I branched out from Google docs, therefore losing momentum on the piece du jour. If I need to write on my phone (yuck) I still can. Also Google docs is easily converted to Word and most others in the post-completion phase of the manuscript still are using Word. (in my sphere anyhow.)
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Comment on Hello fellow women in ~life.women
MajorHoulihan Link ParentI had no confidence in myself to be a parent. My own mom was complicated and difficult to love. My bio kid was a surprise so there were many times I understood why some women just abandoned their...I had no confidence in myself to be a parent. My own mom was complicated and difficult to love. My bio kid was a surprise so there were many times I understood why some women just abandoned their families and it used to scare the shit out of me-- and turn me around right in hard moments. One pregnancy and C-section was enough. If I wasn't in a committed relationship when I got pregnant I never would have attempted going it alone. Their dad was a blessing.
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Comment on Hello fellow women in ~life.women
MajorHoulihan LinkAw yesss thanks for starting the thread! Hey Ladieees! I am loving how old school-forum-message-board Tildes is. Pushing 50 in a couple months. I'm super lucky with my health. I quit drugs,...Aw yesss thanks for starting the thread! Hey Ladieees! I am loving how old school-forum-message-board Tildes is.
Pushing 50 in a couple months. I'm super lucky with my health. I quit drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol at 38 and I look and feel better than both my sisters, one older, one younger. I do yoga regularly so when I do get stiff and sore it doesn't last. My back is the only thing that betrays me at times but I'm a nurse and it comes with the territory. I strap on the tens unit and soldier through. I have an adult child and 3 step kids, two of them are at college.
To contribute to the childbearing topic: one bio kid was enough. My pregnancy and C-section were traumatizing and the PPD was wild. I love my step kids in a different way, maybe better than my own because my expectations are nil. The middle girl (woman really) and I are good buddies. My own kid has mental health struggles and is trans and I worry a lot about them. Just this week they got a great job offer so I am hoping with all my might that this will help liberate them from their entrenchment.
Overall, though, life is great. Yeah I would love to travel more, and sure I would love to retire early. My literary career comes last in my busy life but when I am inspired I make room for it and am lucky to know myself and the business well enough to keep at it. I'm dying to start a podcast but a niche is difficult to settle on.
At my age I've come to accept that I will never be a kung-fu master, a rock star, or even a millionaire. I just try to be better when I can and be gentle with everyone.
Solidarity 🤟
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Comment on I would really appreciate some help. Looking for moving, thoughtful or observant or interesting songs that aren't metal or rap/hiphop in ~music
MajorHoulihan LinkOooooh try Neko Case. Maybe start with the Fox Confessor album and then Blacklisted. Really, anything but her first album which I've never cared for. Her more recent stuff is amazing too. Clearest...Oooooh try Neko Case. Maybe start with the Fox Confessor album and then Blacklisted. Really, anything but her first album which I've never cared for. Her more recent stuff is amazing too.
Clearest voice in all of christendom and clever, poignant, observant lyrics. She's just so badass. I can't get enough of Neko.
More mainstream she did a song for one of the Hunger Games movies, and one of her songs is in the soundtrack for The Gift (starring Cate Blanchett).
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~movies
MajorHoulihan Link ParentNo doubt. A high quality one-off would've filled the bill, even with another actor.No doubt. A high quality one-off would've filled the bill, even with another actor.
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Comment on I have no mouth, and I must suck farts through a straw in ~talk
MajorHoulihan LinkI can't believe I read it all. Not bad!! It is strange though, that it does not sound to my reader's ear quite real-- that is it lacks style that might give it some warmth or texture. Chat GPT...I can't believe I read it all. Not bad!! It is strange though, that it does not sound to my reader's ear quite real-- that is it lacks style that might give it some warmth or texture. Chat GPT sounds kinda smarmy. I've gotten some clever things from GPT. I asked it to write me some dialogue and it put cute jokes in that were appropriate to the character names. It's not something I would use in my own writing but I could see it being helpful if I needed inspiration or had to get a plot energized.
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Comment on Where did all the Sriracha go? US sauce shortage hiking prices to $70 in online markets in ~food
MajorHoulihan LinkGo to an Asian grocery. Shark brand is delicious and won't break the bank.Go to an Asian grocery. Shark brand is delicious and won't break the bank.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~health
MajorHoulihan Link ParentI'm sorry you're going through this. I am currently trying to help my adult child who is in an identical situation. About a month ago they admitted to not taking their meds and it explained a lot...I'm sorry you're going through this. I am currently trying to help my adult child who is in an identical situation. About a month ago they admitted to not taking their meds and it explained a lot of the negativity that I was hearing. While I waited for therapeutic levels to come back, I texted memes and links hourly and hope that they would respond to the content so I'd know they were alive. I tried to be helpful. Then the doom and negativity neutralized after a couple weeks. They're continuing their job search process and getting interviews but not being called back and I'm sensing the spiral starting again and if I could take away their pain I would. I feel like if they had a little more insight as to how bad off they are with depression and OCD they might ramp up their counseling schedule or find a more appropriate one. But I feel like their willingness is flagging and I don't know what to do.
It feels like everything I do/say is wrong and/or critical. They're my baby still and I will never not care about them even though their disease makes me angry. We haven't had a real relationship in years. I'm tired, too, and I manage my own diseases. I have other kids that need me too, my dog, relationships I want to nurture, and personal goals.
I'm so tired from the worry. I work in psych and I know what getting better looks like and unfortunately they are not it. I am a font of help and care. I wish they could avail themselves of that help and care.
Someone somewhere cares about you deeply. If not for your own sake, for them-- bring them a cup of coffee and ask them how they've been. Have a conversation. It will at least get you to tomorrow, and tomorrow might be better than today. I wish you good things and a sweet hug. You're worth it.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~movies
MajorHoulihan Link ParentThey had the right one-- Ke Huy Quan and the adventures of Short Round. What a world that would've been, and it's a missed opportunity.They had the right one-- Ke Huy Quan and the adventures of Short Round. What a world that would've been, and it's a missed opportunity.
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Comment on GenX, what is a music video that you feel best represents us? in ~music
MajorHoulihan LinkForgive me for not linking, it's late, I'm on mobile. Here's a quick and dirty of some personal musical moments: Blister in the Sun, Violent Femmes -fun punk, which our gang of friends was/were....Forgive me for not linking, it's late, I'm on mobile. Here's a quick and dirty of some personal musical moments:
Blister in the Sun, Violent Femmes -fun punk, which our gang of friends was/were. Independent and unique, quintessential Gen X.
Don't Answer Me, Alan Parsons Project. Great, amusing, original video with callbacks to noir. I believe this song captures a sadness that many of us knew.
Owner of a Lonely Heart, Yes. It wasn't just pop. The video shows the man in the suit eventually flinging himself off a highrise office building. We knew it: we were barreling toward that pinched emptiness of a 9-5 that might make us lose our minds to paranoid hallucinations. It was frightening. But could there be liberation, maybe?
Video and music were interlinked. In my mind, they became more powerful together.
Finally, I might say Smells Like Teen Spirit is the anthem of our generation. We didn't care much for the establishment, and we were already jaded. We stood for depth and meaning. This song spoke to superficiality while jamming the fuck out. It was a perfect moment made more serious by Kurt Cobain's eventual death. It is not, by far, one of my favorite songs, but I believe it fits the OPs question.
Thank you for posting it. I enjoyed the train of thought.
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Comment on How do/did your pets save you? in ~life.pets
MajorHoulihan LinkThis is Reuben. He just turned 1 year, last week. See here He is a pomsky/cattle dog cross. I got him last year after Maymay went for her long sleep. Maymay (cute for Maggie, which was her shelter...This is Reuben. He just turned 1 year, last week. See here He is a pomsky/cattle dog cross. I got him last year after Maymay went for her long sleep.
Maymay (cute for Maggie, which was her shelter given name) was a warrior. She was husky crossed with collie and Australian shepherd. She gave no fucks. She did everything on her own terms. She was high energy and needed running every day which was great until she dogberg'd me and broke my leg. She stole distance running from me forever. I found other ways to keep her active-- after six or so years I could tolerate hiking again. She did the Fulton Chain Trifecta and the Saranac Six with me. She could swim beside a kayak for miles, and did. She was silly and had a prancing step she did when she wanted to ingratiate herself. She understood I was her person and didn't waste any love on me unless food was involved. I miss her so much. Everyone would say "Wow what a beautiful dog. Looks like a wolf." She was my first dog and I got her when she was six months old or so and she lived just shy of 14 years. She helped me through many hard years just by being there.
I got Reuben right away because I could not stand the grief. He was a baby, just 8 weeks when I got him. I didn't know what it was like to have a dog adulate on me all the time. Once he got used to the house and we made a routine he became like Velcro. We're doing great. I love him so hard!! I'll be 65 if he lives as long as Maymay. I take the grief in little sips, like now. It's my secret. Nobody knows how deep it goes, and that's just fine.
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Comment on What is your favorite TV show that you rewatch often? in ~tv
MajorHoulihan LinkDeadwood! The dialogue is almost Shakespearean. I've lost count on the rewatching tally. Also The Good Place, MASH, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Game of Thrones (I stop after the Battle of...Deadwood! The dialogue is almost Shakespearean. I've lost count on the rewatching tally.
Also The Good Place, MASH, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Game of Thrones (I stop after the Battle of Winterfell), True Detective season 1, and just finished Succession a second time through.
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Comment on What is your favorite TV show that you rewatch often? in ~tv
MajorHoulihan Link ParentBoth great choices. TD season 1 is special. I'm about to start my 5th time through. I am yet to watch Chernobyl a second time but I intend to.Both great choices. TD season 1 is special. I'm about to start my 5th time through.
I am yet to watch Chernobyl a second time but I intend to.
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Comment on How do you feel about eBooks and eBook readers? in ~books
MajorHoulihan LinkI like my Kindle Paperwhite too. It's just that on Amazon books are expensive, on average. The e-reader makes it so convenient for me to keep reading as a habit though. At the moment I am living...I like my Kindle Paperwhite too. It's just that on Amazon books are expensive, on average. The e-reader makes it so convenient for me to keep reading as a habit though. At the moment I am living small and don't have any room for traditional paper books. I don't really have a preference for fiction but for non fiction I like to be able to find a page in a hurry and paper books are better for that.
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Comment on Introductions | June 2023, part 2 in ~talk
MajorHoulihan Link ParentSorry for the late reply. I don't mean to burst your bubble of enthusiasm-- my suggestion at this stage you're reporting from is to let people read it, find a couple of beta readers, or swap beta...Sorry for the late reply. I don't mean to burst your bubble of enthusiasm-- my suggestion at this stage you're reporting from is to let people read it, find a couple of beta readers, or swap beta reading with other writers. Take the suggestions to heart. One of the most difficult lessons I learned was that writing in a vacuum won't get you published. Selling books is only 50% creativity and writing . Best of luck.
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Comment on Not entirely sure how to fill the void Reddit has left in ~talk
MajorHoulihan Link ParentExactly! It's still slapstick pratfalls but not the kind I can actually feel.Exactly! It's still slapstick pratfalls but not the kind I can actually feel.
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